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Gassto
CEED.
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Posted - 2011.09.23 09:14:00 -
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This is fairly ambiguous question as everyones different I suppose, but I would LOVE to hear how people got their other halfs interested in playing eve?
I simply cannot play this game unless my girlfirend enjoys it as well as we met when I took a break playing another fantasy based MMO and now I desperately want to come back.. so far I haven't found anything which has raised any interest and I don't want to keep asking in case she completely goes off the idea.
The main issue is the lack of character I think, so it could naturally change when they finish the WiS patch.. anyway thanks in advance to any replys. |
Riggs Droput
Mad Bombers Guns and Alcohol
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Posted - 2011.09.23 09:18:00 -
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If you cannot play EVE with this current GF get a new GF...
If she is not reasonable enough to allow you to play another game then find another women. Because this will just be the start of a painful and wasted relationship.
Riggs
I would rather die on my feet, than live on my knees |
Rico Minali
Sons Of 0din Fatal Ascension
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Posted - 2011.09.23 09:35:00 -
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My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect. |
Smoking Blunts
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Posted - 2011.09.23 09:39:00 -
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about 3 years ago i got my gf in to eve. it was awesom running missions and pvp'ing together. then i noticed something bad....... nothing was getting done round the house, washing was piling up, the dish washer wasnt getting loaded and my dinner wasnt arriving at my desk like it used too.
at that point we decided it was better if she didnt waste as much of her time in eve and went back to the things she did better than pvp. CCP-áare full of words and no action. We watch what they do and its nothing but false statements and lies.
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Shawnm339
Behind Enemy Lines Corporation The Grundle Kings
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Posted - 2011.09.23 11:41:00 -
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Rico Minali wrote:My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect.
Same here we still talk when ads are on im not listening to alliance mates on TS.....as I've said my hobby allows to still be in the home communicate with her and the kids.....she gets to watch 'how do i look' and other programmes which I don't mind but would rather have in the background while I kill stuff win win....I have no interest in getting her to play EVE she'd end up causing massive arguments
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Shawnm339
Behind Enemy Lines Corporation The Grundle Kings
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Posted - 2011.09.23 11:42:00 -
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Smoking Blunts wrote:about 3 years ago i got my gf in to eve. it was awesom running missions and pvp'ing together. then i noticed something bad....... nothing was getting done round the house, washing was piling up, the dish washer wasnt getting loaded and my dinner wasnt arriving at my desk like it used too.
at that point we decided it was better if she didnt waste as much of her time in eve and went back to the things she did better than pvp.
PVP with you partner should be in the bed room and it should remain there....saying that it'd be great for sorting out who does the household chores and picks the kids up from school....well until she learnt what she was doing |
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CCP Xhagen
C C P
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Posted - 2011.09.23 11:47:00 -
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Gassto wrote:This is fairly ambiguous question as everyones different I suppose, but I would LOVE to hear how people got their other halfs interested in playing eve?
I simply cannot play this game unless my girlfirend enjoys it as well as we met when I took a break playing another fantasy based MMO and now I desperately want to come back.. so far I haven't found anything which has raised any interest and I don't want to keep asking in case she completely goes off the idea.
The main issue is the lack of character I think, so it could naturally change when they finish the WiS patch.. anyway thanks in advance to any replys. I would introduce her to piracy and smacktalking. Ladies love it. CCP Xhagen | CSM Project Manager |
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seany1212
The Scowling Men The Laughing Men
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Posted - 2011.09.23 11:48:00 -
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Agreeing with all the others in here who-¦re responding with -¦WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO DO THIS-¦
To me EVE is my sanctuary in the world, some tranquility popping ships away from the rest of life, it would cause more arguements than good getting her to play EVE than letting her remain with the thought that EVE is rubbish because she doesnt know any better . Anyway, what happens if you break up? Is she going to get half your hangar lol and then she still remains in the game |
Slade Trillgon
Endless Possibilities Inc.
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Posted - 2011.09.23 12:16:00 -
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seany1212 wrote: Anyway, what happens if you break up? Is she going to get half your hangar lol and then she still remains in the game
Now that would be an interesting situation
Luckily I have found a women that is like those mentioned above. She wants her space and I get to play my game. Now I just need to get time to play instead of working all the time
Slade
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SilentSkills
Tax Evaders Inc.
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Posted - 2011.09.23 12:40:00 -
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Forums ate my really long post.
CCP fix your forums dammit
Much condensed version is: Instead of showing them how cool eve is, and showing the best endgame and shinier ****. Show them the simpler, easier (but still hard) to understand content, Aka a frigate orbiting a rat doing some CQC, explosions, and maybe some failure.
Some people like to feel challenged so one way of enticing them is making said people feel like they are questionably smart enough to play a game like this, but as if it was up for debate. Most self respecting gamers will take you up on that, at least briefly. If you are a new player, that just started to play the game, those first initial moments when you take control of your ship and tell it to warp/shoot at something and you get that feeling of "Damn this is cool, i want more".
So let em play/try the game for themselves. That's the best way |
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Zagam
Incompertus INC Fatal Ascension
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Posted - 2011.09.23 12:55:00 -
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Rico Minali wrote:My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect.
This. EVE is my "escape" from stress and everyday BS. My wife doesn't like sci-fi stuff (and especially sci-fi with as much math/physics as EVE). She is a bit of a gamer (she likes RPGs such as the Fable series, and also plays GTA4), and when she isn't playing one of those games, she is watching shows such as American Idol or America's Next Top Model. During those times, I'm playing EVE or doing schoolwork. It works out well, and as long as neither of us lets our activities take over our lives, its a great arrangement.
To the OP: Why can't you play if she doesn't enjoy it as well? Is it because you feel guilty, or because she pressures you / withholds sex if you do something she doesn't like? If its the former, why are you feeling guilty? If its the latter, please check your pants and make sure you still have something between your legs. A relationship in which either of you dictate everything the other can or cannot do is bound for failure and strife. (aka: its not worth it, go find another girl that lets you be yourself - not who she wants you to be)
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Amsterdam Conversations
Cheesecake Starshine
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Posted - 2011.09.23 13:27:00 -
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If she doesn't want to play EVE, let her not play EVE.
If she doesn't want you to play EVE, dump her. |
Valouria Shastasheen
Sartre's Shipping and Mining
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Posted - 2011.09.23 13:33:00 -
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I am highly suspicious of anyone who hates science fiction. It shows an insane lack of imagination.
Coming from a woman... if she doesn't "let" you play, I say dump her. How *****-whipped do you really need to be to let someone dictate to you what you do with your free time? |
Ciar Meara
Virtus Vindice
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Posted - 2011.09.23 13:54:00 -
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Gassto wrote:I simply cannot play this game unless my girlfirend enjoys it as well as we met when I took a break playing another fantasy based MMO and now I desperately want to come back.
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Froz3nEcho Sarain
Imperial Shipment Amarr Empire
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Posted - 2011.09.23 13:59:00 -
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Lol I already have enough competition between my gf and myself with real life stuff like who is making more money, who can cook better or who can run faster. So if we are going to play a competitive game together we would kill each-other.
And maybe this is because I am younger... but I tend to do other things then playing EvE when my gf is around.
You should try to explain and show her the game. When not interested... no harm done right? ~ When everything fades away, an echo is the only sound that will remain ~ -á-á~ Chaos is a name for any order that produces confusion in our minds ~ |
Iosue
Black Sky Hipsters
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:04:00 -
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gonna agree with most other posters here, why would you do this? my wife spends a lot of time playing in the kitchen; she loves to cook. i don't see any benefit in distracting her from favorite past-time with a silly game, hehe... |
Cearain
The IMPERIUM of LaZy NATION
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:07:00 -
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Rico Minali wrote:My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect.
This is typical. There are of course some girls who like eve and science fiction but its best to accept that they are rare creatures. I'm not going to pretend I'm interested in some of the crap my wife watches on television and I don't expect her to pretend she is interested in science fiction.
Make faction war occupancy pvp instead of pve https://forums.eveonline.com/default.aspx?g=posts&m=53815&#post53815
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Merovee
Gorthaur Legion Of Mordor
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:23:00 -
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I think I know now why we have WIS and the NEX , well played CCP. |
Rico Minali
Sons Of 0din Fatal Ascension
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:27:00 -
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Cearain wrote:Rico Minali wrote:My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect. This is typical. There are of course some girls who like eve and science fiction but its best to accept that they are rare creatures. I'm not going to pretend I'm interested in some of the crap my wife watches on television and I don't expect her to pretend she is interested in science fiction.
They are a rare creature true. We once had two beautiful japanese lesbian scientists who absolutely loved internet spaceship games, they didnt have voice comms though which was a shame but imagine our dismay when we found out it was really one fat guy who lived in his mums basement...
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Dr Offensive
Republic University Minmatar Republic
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:29:00 -
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Wife: Did you pick up the ammo and drones we needed at Rens?
Man: Er, I forgot
Wife: FOR GODS SAKE, I ask you to do ONE thing just ONE, and you can't even do that. My mother was right all along you ARE a waste of space. The only reason i'm still with you is that we can't get the carrier sold and split the ISK or else I would have left you a long time ago and started my own corp.....RANT....RAGE...COMPLAIN...MOAN etc.
Hmm yeah sounds like fun
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Verone
Veto Corp
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:41:00 -
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Gassto wrote:I simply cannot play this game unless my girlfirend enjoys it as well...
Get a new Girlfriend. Seriously.
If she can't accept the fact that you'll have differences of interest, and differences of opinion now and again, and doesn't want to give you some time to do your own thing, then she's not worth your time in the first place.
It's pointless trying to get her to play the game if she's not interested in it in the first place, and if she's to the point where she doesn't want you playing if she can't play with you then that's a pretty bad sign.
Verone CEO & Executor Veto Corp WWW.VETO-CORP.COM |
senjaya
Viziam Amarr Empire
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Posted - 2011.09.23 14:53:00 -
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Ummm I'd like to intervain/comment. I started playing EVE with my boyfriend so I would actually get to interact with him and get into something that he enjoyed doing. Otherwise I would literally be ignored from the time he would get home from work until he'd go to sleep. He would help me learn a lot at the beginning but then it would get to a point to where he would start playing with everyone else but me and help other female characters and totally shine me on. He would tell me these characters were actually dudes with female alts which I believed because I know that a lot of them are. But it started getting to the point eventually where he was going into low sec corps that he would not allow me in because he knew that I knew no one in game at the time, except players he knew that could scout me through. He would be meeting up with real females in game and chatting it up all night in private rooms. He just left me to play alone and I had been paying the fees every month just to be interacting with him. He started avoiding me in the game and helping these other noobs and long time players, that were actual females. So I'd bite my tongue and started doing my own missions, roamed without a corp. I would contract him my isk per his request, and he would promise to buy me anything I needed in market, which lasted for a very short time. A few times, out of the blue he would ask me if I wanted to help him in his higher lvl missions and I would. Then away he would go again playing with others and buying ships and mods for other players and kicking me to the curb. I finally got bored playing because of course I figured it was disrespectful of him to not help me to learn the skills I needed and how to play better, And my schooling that takes a lot of my RL time. So I quit, for a few months. It consumes his life and he has lost reality, and also I got tired of his disrespecting me in the game in front of other players because I'd ask for some help in game etc. Well, besides him living with me to clear up his massive debts, he got lazy and all he wanted to do was play Eve and chat with the players instead of talking to me at all in RL. Trying to use my generosity to pull him out of debt, he was paying for 3 accounts on his CC every month. I'm sure you might recognize his 3 characters. iNfeck7ed-Bollarus-Pollarus. Well, I decided that now I have a break from my schooling atm I would start playing again because now we have just recently moved apart, but still seeing each other sometimes, because I felt he was abusing his privileges when I caught him up all night long chatting away with a real female player all night while I was trying to sleep next to him in bed and having to get up early in the morning to work. It got to the point I just gave up trying to sleep and turned to look at the screen to see why he was not shutting down the game and he got very angry with me because I caught him chatting with this girl that he had been chasing around in game for days, trying to convince me it was a guy but I seen enough of the chat to find out that it wasn't. so now he has blocked me from the private chat room that we have always used together and has been chatting with someone in that room that obviously he don't want me to know about or vice versa. Although most the females he is chasing around and catching knows he has/had a gf and that I play sometimes. But they do not care. That just makes them want to play with him and his games against me even more. Anyway, The point to all this is, unless you can totally respect her in game and demand that other female players as well as all players respect your space with her and if you can totally devote a lot of time teaching her as well as playing with her in game and helping her learn and remain patient towards her if she does not catch on as quickly, then I don't think you should push her into playing because it would just create a vice between you 2. Personal experiences in Eve have taught me that you have to allow time for RL as well as your playing time and she will need a lot of your time in game as well, to get her to that point of knowing what to do without asking for your guidance. But if you really want to have fun playing with her in Eve? Just remember that she is your # 1 buddy in game as well. Sorry for the massive blog comment, but I had to tell you the experience I am going through with and without EVE, but because of Eve, right now.
@~;~~~Senjaya~~~;~@ @~;~~~Senj~~~;~@ |
Bloodpetal
Mimidae Risk Solutions
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Posted - 2011.09.23 15:00:00 -
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This is an epic story.
Don't cheat on your GF in space - or alternately - don't introduce your jealous paranoid GF to games with female avatars.
This is like a double morality story all wrapped into one.
NOSTRO AURUM NON EST AURUM VULGI |
Zagam
Incompertus INC Fatal Ascension
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Posted - 2011.09.23 15:02:00 -
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senjaya wrote:Lots of words, but many relevant ones
@~;~~~Senjaya~~~;~@
After reading through your post, Not only did the guy treat you like crap, but he used you. Nobody should have to go through that. Thats the thing with online games. They are great in moderation, but when you become hopelessly addicted, the fun's over, and RL suffers. In his case, he lost you - all for a game.
Gaming isn't worth sacrificing your RL responsibilities. On the flip side, denial of any gaming shows issues in the relationship too. Your ex- sacrificed his RL responsibilities to play EVE, and kicked you to the curb. The OP is holding up their responsibilities, but seems to be conflicted in regards to his EVE-time. Its a fine line to walk, and a line that is also easily crossed.
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NeoShocker
Interstellar eXodus BricK sQuAD.
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Posted - 2011.09.23 15:25:00 -
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Wow, quite terrible senjaya. I seen couples and married ones play eve and together very well in my alliance and fro RK days. Strangely almost all of them do industry ones.
Which brings me back on topic.
If you really want your partner to be interested in eve. Do the following: Get a new GF Unless you are really commited to this person... Tell her why exactly you like eve, and why you would like her to play eve. Stuff like sharing interest, do things together on free time, etc. Showing vids and stuff is not a real appropriate way to bring your partner in eve. Read senjaya' post, dont make those mistakes Be in a flexible corp. Don't be dual solo in eve. Decide on a plan on what you can do together, help you and your mate to be richer in eve. In addition about being rich, make sure its something you and your partner can have FUN, F.U.N. Can't stress this enough.
There are more, but can't think of more atm. |
Gassto
CEED.
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Posted - 2011.09.23 15:53:00 -
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Dr Offensive wrote:Wife: Did you pick up the ammo and drones we needed at Rens?
Man: Er, I forgot
Wife: FOR GODS SAKE, I ask you to do ONE thing just ONE, and you can't even do that. My mother was right all along you ARE a waste of space. The only reason i'm still with you is that we can't get the carrier sold and split the ISK or else I would have left you a long time ago and started my own corp.....RANT....RAGE...COMPLAIN...MOAN etc.
Hmm yeah sounds like fun
lol this one probably amused her the most.. althought the smack talking sounded the most fun. Also its not that she won't let me play, but seeing as we met in another game I would feel horrible leaving here there to play something else.
we've agreed to have another look at things once WiS arrives properly, thanks for the replys. |
Christine Peeveepeeski
Rodents of Unusual Size
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Posted - 2011.09.23 16:00:00 -
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Ok so was I the only person that read thread title as a whine about blobs and gate camps and got a surprise when I read it? |
Digital Messiah
N7 Corporation
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Posted - 2011.09.23 16:12:00 -
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senjaya wrote:
@~;~~~Senjaya~~~;~@[/i][/i]
It is times like these I think, what would my sisters do. And honestly... I am very happy they do not play video games. Though I imagine you would have killed him. Or that is what I expect to happen. Or maybe that is just because I had a lot of women in my life growing up. Either way, revenge from a woman is possibly worse than revenge from anyone else.
Of course I know that you are just waiting for the day to sneak back into his life and completely throw a wrench in it. Heads up to the guys that don't know. Women can wait years to get pay back. Years.... "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn" |
Barrak
Blue Republic RvB - BLUE Republic
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Posted - 2011.09.23 18:12:00 -
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Rico Minali wrote:My wife hates science fiction, computer games generally, pretty much all the things I love. She watches coronation street, eastenders, emerdale and horrible crap that I hate.
Works out great, I play Eve, she watches rubbish, tehn we go to bed. Perfect.
Can't you browse the internet in CQ?
I've only been in mine once, to turn it off...... |
Ladie Scarlet
GoonWaffe Goonswarm Federation
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Posted - 2011.09.23 18:18:00 -
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senjaya wrote:[i][i]Ummm I'd like to intervain/comment. wtf...don't ever do this again.
The artist formerly known as Ladie Scarlet. |
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