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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:53:00 -
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Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
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Lord Draco
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:57:00 -
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Edited by: Lord Draco on 14/04/2005 07:57:33 Depends on the specifics. I feel your pain though. SOmetimes you just need to say, hey this is me, I like this you can adjust. Also mention that you could have worse habbits.
Granted, that may not work well in every case.
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ErrorS
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:59:00 -
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tell her something she does is stupid and she should stop.. like uh, putting on makeup or something.
see how she reacts, take your queue on what you should do from her. ________
I'm strict Caldari
"The grass is always greener on the other side" - Maybe they're not as uber as you think?
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Linkage
I vame accross this advice released by the department of homeland security. Be aware, your girlfreind may be towards the top of the scale at the moment.
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Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Colthor
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model
That sounds like the problem. What did you do that for?
You could always point out to her that, and why, watching soaps/reality programmes/whatever she likes on the telly is a much worse use of the time than playing Eve. -- OTO are selling Impel and Bustard transport ships. Contact Tsavong Lah or Lacero Callrisian for details. Like mining, hauling or building? Join OTO! |
Face Lifter
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Why don't you post her picture here and we'll judge whether she's worth quitting EVE over?
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex (by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
Getting rid of her is the only option.. and not for playing Eve. Someone who tries to tell you you cannot do something you enjoy completely deserves to be kicked to the curb. Next she'll be telling you what you can eat, what you can wear, when you can hang out with your friends (if at all), etc.
Lose her! But have some fun first
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Delc
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:06:00 -
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Originally by: mahhy
Originally by: CEO Pyrex (by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
Getting rid of her is the only option.. and not for playing Eve. Someone who tries to tell you you cannot do something you enjoy completely deserves to be kicked to the curb. Next she'll be telling you what you can eat, what you can wear, when you can hang out with your friends (if at all), etc.
Lose her! But have some fun first
/me agrees
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V2GBR
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:07:00 -
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If she is NEW and is already slapping down demands i suggest you get rid. ----------
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Isayo Arkindra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:09:00 -
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Had a similar problem actually. Beeing a CEO of a corporation takes out a lot of time, so it came down to one thing - girl (for four years, house and everything that comes along with that) or EVE.
Well, add some other external factors and I'm still here. The corp will have it's third birthday in October
My current, new girlfriend is a bit more understanding - even though I don't play as much as I used to (we've just reacently moved in togeather). But she actually WANT me to play more, and not change because of her. EVE's a part of my life, simple as that. Maybe a bit too big of a part, but it's still there.
What seems to be the 'normal' method for other people in my coporation is, as you mentioned, a form of schedule of when it'd be ok to sit by the computer - but that doesn't seem to be adaptable in your situation since you're not there for the rest of the week. But if I where you, I'd still try to implement a 'schedule' for EVE - something that would fit you both. __________
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:09:00 -
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How old is she / you?
Honestly? Start to train a BS skill to L5 and take a break for a couple weeks. Now is as good a time as any. Let your corp mates do all the experimenting with the new patch while you make Ms. Hotness happy for a bit. Eventually, you can get a DNA sample and have a new version of her cloned that is more pliable to your lifestyle and.. wait a minute... I've gotten the game and RL confused again haven't I??
I hate it when I do that!! -
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Sun Ra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:11:00 -
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Seeing shes new your gonan have to give up/drastically cut down your eve time till she gets over 'we have to spend every spare minute in the day period' either that or you become single
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:13:00 -
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The problem is that when i was with the ex we had got over the honeymoon period.
With my new lady, were still in that honeymoon area and she has a REAL problem with eve. She was shocked when she saw me log on sunday afternoon and start talking to people i never met....
I tried to explain the wonders of such an immersive universe and that i was speaking to people form around the world: americans, australians, new zealanders, spanish, russian and so on.
She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:13:00 -
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Originally by: Seleene Eventually, you can get a DNA sample and have a new version of her cloned that is more pliable to your lifestyle and.. wait a minute... I've gotten the game and RL confused again haven't I?
If only...
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Isayo Arkindra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:19:00 -
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Hrm .. Games is a part of what you do in your spare time. And especially EVE (I assume). She just has to handle it, or you have nothing but the two evident paths to walk down.
One contains EVE. The other contains your girlfriend. __________
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:19:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Hah, turn around and tell her to fsck off.
Get rid of her. Shes bad news mate.
Friend of mine dated a girl for while, that right after she moved in (to his house) she disallowed cheese in the house. Cheese. That one ended quick enough.
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Ka'ira
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:20:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Sounds like she is jealous and wants your complete attention, I think personally that it's her that should grow up.
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Kerosene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:22:00 -
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She's either a 'Curse Nation' spy or one of the 'Controlling Bint' types. Either way, bail before it's too late. You can't be that ugly if you've had at least 2 gf's already so you can find another.
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:22:00 -
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Edited by: Seleene on 14/04/2005 08:22:32
Originally by: CEO Pyrex She was not impressed and told me to grow up
No offense, but it sounds like she needs a social implant if she can't grasp what you are telling her. My wife doesn't "get it" either, but she's grown to accept and understand that the voices on TeamSpeak are as close to me as some of my RL friends (who also happen to be voices on TS a lot of nights!)
Quote: The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
BYE-BYE! Seriously, that's crap. You let her win this one and next week it will be something else. It WILL be something else. Maybe saying, "Hell no." will let her understand that this isn't some childish video game obsession you have. If she's too selfish to see otherwise, you'll be happier without her.
Save the money on bribes to her and go buy one of these like I did. -
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Hella May
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:26:00 -
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For a certain amount of isk i can have her kidknapped and beaten until she accepts you playing eve.
Failing this, i would simply say.... even if she is fit, imho if she is a little dictator already imagine what she will be like once the honey moon is over. 'Your not sleeping in - its stupid', 'you cant drink with your mates - i dont like them'.
My lady has been with me for over 5 and a half years. I thank god every day that she loves soaps and reality TV!
Let's get this straight, if a girl has to be "rescued" 10 times a week from a brothel shes not a damsel but a prostitute.
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Scorpyn
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:26:00 -
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Doesn't sound like a relationship that will last tbh...
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H Zub
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:30:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
Sorry to break the news mate, but no matter how hot she is it's not gonna last for long. If she have no understanding for your hobby, she's not a good catch. Trust me on this one.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:33:00 -
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Guys i love you all.
Needed to hear this
Shes a very beutiful girl and when we hit the bars and clubs i feel great cos she looks amazing. she also seems to have a real thing about me so there is mutual love there.
In our lives i would say im the bossey one also the decision maker but its just this one thing...eve she cannot stomach it, nothing else bothers her accept..eve.
We were in covent garden having a few drinks last weekend and i was telling a mate all about eve, she didnt speak to me all night cos of that. She thinks its the equivalent of an adult man dressed as a baby - its just wrong - quote
Man this is a hard situation for me
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:36:00 -
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Well ill just go with the others on this 1
if she cant accept what u like to do then shes not worth it.. youll ned up miserable and there are many more girls in the pond
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Lianhaun
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:37:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex The problem is that when i was with the ex we had got over the honeymoon period.
With my new lady, were still in that honeymoon area and she has a REAL problem with eve. She was shocked when she saw me log on sunday afternoon and start talking to people i never met....
I tried to explain the wonders of such an immersive universe and that i was speaking to people form around the world: americans, australians, new zealanders, spanish, russian and so on.
She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Now its eve, tomorrow your not allowed to look at other girls and you need to have your head down at all times( in case a nice girl walks on the street).
I'd ask her why she has such a problem with you playing eve, its a game, its not real, its there for fun. If she cant give you a good reason ( if you play 20 hours a day then she has a point) tell her the answer is no.
or, play it dirty and mention that your ex never had a problem with eve
This is not a hijack
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:39:00 -
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wouldnt speak with you? heh i she is the bigger baby...
ask her what is wrong with EVE.. is it just that she sees it as something childish? or is it htat she had past relationship that went wrong and the guy pherhaps spent alot fo time at the comp?
u never know
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:39:00 -
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YES! To Lianhaun, you listen! -
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:43:00 -
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Her problem is that whole "computer games are for kids thing" which is utter Rubbish in my eye.
She can barely use a mouse let alone play a game and doesnt understand.
Dont wanna loose her cos she generally isnt that funny about anything else, shes not got crazy demands, its this one thing.
Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
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Raem Civrie
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:43:00 -
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She is seeing this like many women look on P&P gaming and miniature army games. My father was exactly like this, and complained loudly to me regarding my use of my computer as a TOY. He couldn't fathom how I, a burgeoning young man, could sink so low as to play games like a child.
Then dad changed jobs, and there was a whole table of 40-ish family men in the cafeteria that had lengthy discussions about Counterstrike and EVE.
The thing is that alot of people are still in the "games are for kids" mindset, whereas the whole industry is geared towards 18+ gamers. Actually, the decline of long games is solely because of the core gamer growing older; when you have a wife and family, chances are you won't have the 120 hours to spend on the newest RPG to finish it. I don't know how to remedy it, but it's clear that you have to sit down with her and get to the root of the problem (maybe a video game console came alive and molested her as a kid).
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Frozen Light
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:44:00 -
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Edited by: Frozen Light on 14/04/2005 08:44:51 Had a same kind of problem with my fiancee (now ex-fiancee) back when I played Neocron & Anarchy Online.
Personally I've always disliked people who tell me that I'm not allowed to do what I enjoy (ie: Playing EvE) because I don't do such demands myself.
So you basically got three solutions: 1) Dump her and find a new one (preferable one who plays EvE herself ;)) 2) Quit eve or take a loooong break or 3) Teach her to play EvE as well.
It's a good thing I'm single nowadays and my ingame 'girlfriend' (Yes, I'm male! *shock*) playes EvE too (and is actually female ;))
It's up to you.. -- Currents ships lost in Exodus: 3x Moa, 1x Kestrel, 1x Merlin
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