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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:53:00 -
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Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
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Lord Draco
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:57:00 -
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Edited by: Lord Draco on 14/04/2005 07:57:33 Depends on the specifics. I feel your pain though. SOmetimes you just need to say, hey this is me, I like this you can adjust. Also mention that you could have worse habbits.
Granted, that may not work well in every case.
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ErrorS
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Posted - 2005.04.14 07:59:00 -
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tell her something she does is stupid and she should stop.. like uh, putting on makeup or something.
see how she reacts, take your queue on what you should do from her. ________
I'm strict Caldari
"The grass is always greener on the other side" - Maybe they're not as uber as you think?
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Linkage
I vame accross this advice released by the department of homeland security. Be aware, your girlfreind may be towards the top of the scale at the moment.
San. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Colthor
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model
That sounds like the problem. What did you do that for?
You could always point out to her that, and why, watching soaps/reality programmes/whatever she likes on the telly is a much worse use of the time than playing Eve. -- OTO are selling Impel and Bustard transport ships. Contact Tsavong Lah or Lacero Callrisian for details. Like mining, hauling or building? Join OTO! |
Face Lifter
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Why don't you post her picture here and we'll judge whether she's worth quitting EVE over?
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:02:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex (by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
Getting rid of her is the only option.. and not for playing Eve. Someone who tries to tell you you cannot do something you enjoy completely deserves to be kicked to the curb. Next she'll be telling you what you can eat, what you can wear, when you can hang out with your friends (if at all), etc.
Lose her! But have some fun first
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Delc
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:06:00 -
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Originally by: mahhy
Originally by: CEO Pyrex (by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
Getting rid of her is the only option.. and not for playing Eve. Someone who tries to tell you you cannot do something you enjoy completely deserves to be kicked to the curb. Next she'll be telling you what you can eat, what you can wear, when you can hang out with your friends (if at all), etc.
Lose her! But have some fun first
/me agrees
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V2GBR
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:07:00 -
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If she is NEW and is already slapping down demands i suggest you get rid. ----------
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Isayo Arkindra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:09:00 -
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Had a similar problem actually. Beeing a CEO of a corporation takes out a lot of time, so it came down to one thing - girl (for four years, house and everything that comes along with that) or EVE.
Well, add some other external factors and I'm still here. The corp will have it's third birthday in October
My current, new girlfriend is a bit more understanding - even though I don't play as much as I used to (we've just reacently moved in togeather). But she actually WANT me to play more, and not change because of her. EVE's a part of my life, simple as that. Maybe a bit too big of a part, but it's still there.
What seems to be the 'normal' method for other people in my coporation is, as you mentioned, a form of schedule of when it'd be ok to sit by the computer - but that doesn't seem to be adaptable in your situation since you're not there for the rest of the week. But if I where you, I'd still try to implement a 'schedule' for EVE - something that would fit you both. __________
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:09:00 -
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How old is she / you?
Honestly? Start to train a BS skill to L5 and take a break for a couple weeks. Now is as good a time as any. Let your corp mates do all the experimenting with the new patch while you make Ms. Hotness happy for a bit. Eventually, you can get a DNA sample and have a new version of her cloned that is more pliable to your lifestyle and.. wait a minute... I've gotten the game and RL confused again haven't I??
I hate it when I do that!! -
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Sun Ra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:11:00 -
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Seeing shes new your gonan have to give up/drastically cut down your eve time till she gets over 'we have to spend every spare minute in the day period' either that or you become single
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:13:00 -
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The problem is that when i was with the ex we had got over the honeymoon period.
With my new lady, were still in that honeymoon area and she has a REAL problem with eve. She was shocked when she saw me log on sunday afternoon and start talking to people i never met....
I tried to explain the wonders of such an immersive universe and that i was speaking to people form around the world: americans, australians, new zealanders, spanish, russian and so on.
She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:13:00 -
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Originally by: Seleene Eventually, you can get a DNA sample and have a new version of her cloned that is more pliable to your lifestyle and.. wait a minute... I've gotten the game and RL confused again haven't I?
If only...
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Isayo Arkindra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:19:00 -
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Hrm .. Games is a part of what you do in your spare time. And especially EVE (I assume). She just has to handle it, or you have nothing but the two evident paths to walk down.
One contains EVE. The other contains your girlfriend. __________
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:19:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Hah, turn around and tell her to fsck off.
Get rid of her. Shes bad news mate.
Friend of mine dated a girl for while, that right after she moved in (to his house) she disallowed cheese in the house. Cheese. That one ended quick enough.
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Ka'ira
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:20:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Sounds like she is jealous and wants your complete attention, I think personally that it's her that should grow up.
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Kerosene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:22:00 -
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She's either a 'Curse Nation' spy or one of the 'Controlling Bint' types. Either way, bail before it's too late. You can't be that ugly if you've had at least 2 gf's already so you can find another.
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:22:00 -
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Edited by: Seleene on 14/04/2005 08:22:32
Originally by: CEO Pyrex She was not impressed and told me to grow up
No offense, but it sounds like she needs a social implant if she can't grasp what you are telling her. My wife doesn't "get it" either, but she's grown to accept and understand that the voices on TeamSpeak are as close to me as some of my RL friends (who also happen to be voices on TS a lot of nights!)
Quote: The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
BYE-BYE! Seriously, that's crap. You let her win this one and next week it will be something else. It WILL be something else. Maybe saying, "Hell no." will let her understand that this isn't some childish video game obsession you have. If she's too selfish to see otherwise, you'll be happier without her.
Save the money on bribes to her and go buy one of these like I did. -
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Hella May
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:26:00 -
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For a certain amount of isk i can have her kidknapped and beaten until she accepts you playing eve.
Failing this, i would simply say.... even if she is fit, imho if she is a little dictator already imagine what she will be like once the honey moon is over. 'Your not sleeping in - its stupid', 'you cant drink with your mates - i dont like them'.
My lady has been with me for over 5 and a half years. I thank god every day that she loves soaps and reality TV!
Let's get this straight, if a girl has to be "rescued" 10 times a week from a brothel shes not a damsel but a prostitute.
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Scorpyn
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:26:00 -
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Doesn't sound like a relationship that will last tbh...
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H Zub
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:30:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
Sorry to break the news mate, but no matter how hot she is it's not gonna last for long. If she have no understanding for your hobby, she's not a good catch. Trust me on this one.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:33:00 -
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Guys i love you all.
Needed to hear this
Shes a very beutiful girl and when we hit the bars and clubs i feel great cos she looks amazing. she also seems to have a real thing about me so there is mutual love there.
In our lives i would say im the bossey one also the decision maker but its just this one thing...eve she cannot stomach it, nothing else bothers her accept..eve.
We were in covent garden having a few drinks last weekend and i was telling a mate all about eve, she didnt speak to me all night cos of that. She thinks its the equivalent of an adult man dressed as a baby - its just wrong - quote
Man this is a hard situation for me
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:36:00 -
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Well ill just go with the others on this 1
if she cant accept what u like to do then shes not worth it.. youll ned up miserable and there are many more girls in the pond
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Lianhaun
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:37:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex The problem is that when i was with the ex we had got over the honeymoon period.
With my new lady, were still in that honeymoon area and she has a REAL problem with eve. She was shocked when she saw me log on sunday afternoon and start talking to people i never met....
I tried to explain the wonders of such an immersive universe and that i was speaking to people form around the world: americans, australians, new zealanders, spanish, russian and so on.
She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Now its eve, tomorrow your not allowed to look at other girls and you need to have your head down at all times( in case a nice girl walks on the street).
I'd ask her why she has such a problem with you playing eve, its a game, its not real, its there for fun. If she cant give you a good reason ( if you play 20 hours a day then she has a point) tell her the answer is no.
or, play it dirty and mention that your ex never had a problem with eve
This is not a hijack
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:39:00 -
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wouldnt speak with you? heh i she is the bigger baby...
ask her what is wrong with EVE.. is it just that she sees it as something childish? or is it htat she had past relationship that went wrong and the guy pherhaps spent alot fo time at the comp?
u never know
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:39:00 -
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YES! To Lianhaun, you listen! -
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:43:00 -
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Her problem is that whole "computer games are for kids thing" which is utter Rubbish in my eye.
She can barely use a mouse let alone play a game and doesnt understand.
Dont wanna loose her cos she generally isnt that funny about anything else, shes not got crazy demands, its this one thing.
Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
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Raem Civrie
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:43:00 -
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She is seeing this like many women look on P&P gaming and miniature army games. My father was exactly like this, and complained loudly to me regarding my use of my computer as a TOY. He couldn't fathom how I, a burgeoning young man, could sink so low as to play games like a child.
Then dad changed jobs, and there was a whole table of 40-ish family men in the cafeteria that had lengthy discussions about Counterstrike and EVE.
The thing is that alot of people are still in the "games are for kids" mindset, whereas the whole industry is geared towards 18+ gamers. Actually, the decline of long games is solely because of the core gamer growing older; when you have a wife and family, chances are you won't have the 120 hours to spend on the newest RPG to finish it. I don't know how to remedy it, but it's clear that you have to sit down with her and get to the root of the problem (maybe a video game console came alive and molested her as a kid).
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Frozen Light
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:44:00 -
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Edited by: Frozen Light on 14/04/2005 08:44:51 Had a same kind of problem with my fiancee (now ex-fiancee) back when I played Neocron & Anarchy Online.
Personally I've always disliked people who tell me that I'm not allowed to do what I enjoy (ie: Playing EvE) because I don't do such demands myself.
So you basically got three solutions: 1) Dump her and find a new one (preferable one who plays EvE herself ;)) 2) Quit eve or take a loooong break or 3) Teach her to play EvE as well.
It's a good thing I'm single nowadays and my ingame 'girlfriend' (Yes, I'm male! *shock*) playes EvE too (and is actually female ;))
It's up to you.. -- Currents ships lost in Exodus: 3x Moa, 1x Kestrel, 1x Merlin
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anter
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:46:00 -
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Asked why she hate eve? Just because its game? Try reason with her, but seem like you already did since you said you have adjusted time you play eve.
Reason she probably hate eve is because she dont understand what it is and think its just another game. Trying to explain eve might be bad idea. Like 'you build stuff, war with others and explore with 50k other maniacs' and she see it as twice as crazy that you war/build/explore virtual stuff and would probably try get you to some institution (where probably most eve players belong).
Take break from eve, but never put eve before her ever. Quit if you have to, but then it seem like she is bit too dominant in your relationship (unless you are really putting eve a lot before her).
Getting into 'blazing argument over it' is not worth of it. I could never start heated argument about eve with my gf and would probably give up it very easilly, if that ever happen, because while I like eve a lot its not worth that much.
I am sorry, but there is really no one 'solution' for this and you need to figure it out yourself what do you want and what works for both of you.
Good luck
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Lianhaun
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:47:00 -
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Edited by: Lianhaun on 14/04/2005 08:49:13
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Her problem is that whole "computer games are for kids thing" which is utter Rubbish in my eye.
She can barely use a mouse let alone play a game and doesnt understand.
Dont wanna loose her cos she generally isnt that funny about anything else, shes not got crazy demands, its this one thing.
Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
No no, babysteps
Introduce her to online shopping
*looks for makeup brands, clothing brands, sites about fasion, ebay ( no girl can resist a bargain on something) sites that sell replica clothing of the stars etc etc.
This is not a hijack
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:49:00 -
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Yea get her to play Sims that should make her understand
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:50:00 -
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Originally by: Lianhaun
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
No no, babysteps
Introduce her to online shopping
Or Ebay! My wife now has like a 340 rating or something! -
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Lianhaun
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:51:00 -
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Originally by: Seleene
Originally by: Lianhaun
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
No no, babysteps
Introduce her to online shopping
Or Ebay! My wife now has like a 340 rating or something!
I'm at less then a 100
damn hello kitty!
This is not a hijack
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:53:00 -
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EBAY!!!!!!
YESSSSS that might just work!!!!
Shes a nutter for shopping, spent ú500 on a Karen Millen Handbag at the weekend....
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Maggot
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:53:00 -
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Anyone who wants to restrict you should be binned. However compromise and moderation are acceptable, if she is jealous, maybe you can make it up to her.
I am currently on a 6 week break from Eve to help my gf give up smoking. She gives up what she loves, so do I, then she feels guilty if she starts again - thats the theory, although I have sneaked on twice for a few mionutes :\
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Seleene
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:57:00 -
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Originally by: Lianhaun
Originally by: Seleene Or Ebay! My wife now has like a 340 rating or something!
I'm at less then a 100
damn hello kitty!
Mine discovered it about five years ago. At that time, it was leather boots for club hopping, giant bottles of designer shampoo and all that stuff. It's now evolved into the baby stroller / extra plasma TV for the bedroom phase. She sits at her own computer with her own email account and over the past year or so now understands what it means when I say stuff like,
"We just took down a Raven with four Frigs!"
"That's the small ships, right?"
"Yeah."
"Okay, can you go AFK for a sec and come look at this?" *pointing at something on Ebay*
"Hon, I'm leading a gang of twenty people. Go ahead and buy it."
"OK!"
See? Everyone is happy! -
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Persia
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:59:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex
Shes a nutter for shopping, spent ú500 on a Karen Millen Handbag at the weekend....
Her priorities are all stuffed up. That 500 could buy an awful lot of Eve accounts and Eve time.
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Rovol
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Posted - 2005.04.14 08:59:00 -
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Sorry to tell you man that I don't see that relationship lasting (no matter how hot she is ).
One of the reasons my wife and I have stayed together is that she would never try to stop me doing something I really like such as Eve (and this works both ways - I would never stop her doing something similar).
Her comment on Eve is that while she doesn't 'get it' herself, she can see it is important to me and as such would never try to stop me playing.
Ultimately in a good relationship you have to accept and understand the things that are important to your partner if its going to last long term - doesn't sound like she's willing to do that.
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Jakk Graiseach
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:03:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
You're a fool - it doesn't matter how 'hot' the bint is, if she won't accept you the way you are she has to go.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life trying to live up to her 'ideal man is like this' expectations.
Dump her and get on with YOUR life... -- ** All accounts cancelled - have fun guys ** |
Nieldo
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:06:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex EBAY!!!!!!
YESSSSS that might just work!!!!
Shes a nutter for shopping, spent ú500 on a Karen Millen Handbag at the weekend....
I wasnt going to reply to this but after seeing that I thought I would.
Dump her. Eve is your one and only girlfriend :P. more worth ú500 then a damn handbag.
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Dutchpowercow
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:09:00 -
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Originally by: Seleene
Originally by: Lianhaun
Originally by: Seleene Or Ebay! My wife now has like a 340 rating or something!
I'm at less then a 100
damn hello kitty!
Mine discovered it about five years ago. At that time, it was leather boots for club hopping, giant bottles of designer shampoo and all that stuff. It's now evolved into the baby stroller / extra plasma TV for the bedroom phase. She sits at her own computer with her own email account and over the past year or so now understands what it means when I say stuff like,
"We just took down a Raven with four Frigs!"
"That's the small ships, right?"
"Yeah."
"Okay, can you go AFK for a sec and come look at this?" *pointing at something on Ebay*
"Hon, I'm leading a gang of twenty people. Go ahead and buy it."
"OK!"
See? Everyone is happy!
lol, ultimate coolness hehe.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:10:00 -
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The EBay thing is a fantastic idea as shes very image concious. i think her problem is that she thinks its a little embarresing to her and her friends if they found out her fella did this game thing. Her priorities are *****ed i would say.
Thanks for the ebay idea im sure that will work, Might cost me a fortune but it would be worth it as i love eve.
Women, sheesh talk about 'jump thru the hoop'
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Fendor Atar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:10:00 -
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herh i wish my Ex GF would have understood that
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Edania
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:13:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Her problem is that whole "computer games are for kids thing" which is utter Rubbish in my eye.
She can barely use a mouse let alone play a game and doesnt understand.
Dont wanna loose her cos she generally isnt that funny about anything else, shes not got crazy demands, its this one thing.
Was thinking of introducing her to The Sims or something to maybe get her into games?
i have a similar problem, my partner is a complete technophobe Where as i could modestly be described as a technophile. it took me 2 years to convince her of the value of the Mobile phone even in emergency situations. she cannot grasp that computer skills in the modern age are more important than the ability to drive was in getting jobs 10 years ago. these people are those that will be left behind by the rest of us in the near future. In terms of employability and understanding of how the world works. because, how are they ever going to be able to understand what will be out there in ten more years if they are already 10 years behind us?
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Thyro
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:18:00 -
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Edited by: Thyro on 14/04/2005 09:39:05
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
I would have to say that is no problem!
Just ask CCP Devs the lend you the BATNerf
Then Nerf your new GF for a new model
BTW Amarrians will be pleased to get new slave models
Anyway, if you don't have the guts like EVE Devs have (to nerf things! ).
Then ask her to mine for you (even if afk)!... and in few months time you will see the consequences...
She will replace you playing EVE (like mine did to me)
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:23:00 -
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nerf bat
i try to give her the 'nerf bat' on a regular basis, sometime i find she has a tech 2 BPO drop and some times its a civ gatling loot drop.
if you get my meaning
this thread has been so useful to see others in this situation and how the mighty power of eBay has helped out. i thank you all my fellow eve pilots and i hope to be logging on in 6 hours when i get home without fear of the frying pan.
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Harakiri
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:24:00 -
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I have to agree with most of the people here , If she cannot respect your hobby dump her. But , if you really love each other its possible to mold her into a computer geek just like yourself I have done that with two of my Ex girlfriends and my mother Just do the baby step thing , show something they are interested in , let them explore internet shopping , The sims & other management games (usually the ones that suck them in) , webpages with their hobbies , webforums with their interests , web-communities and wow you better save up for another computer for her to use
Good luck!
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Thyro
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:28:00 -
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Edited by: Thyro on 14/04/2005 09:29:03
Originally by: CEO Pyrex nerf bat
i try to give her the 'nerf bat' on a regular basis, sometime i find she has a tech 2 BPO drop and some times its a civ gatling loot drop.
if you get my meaning
this thread has been so useful to see others in this situation and how the mighty power of eBay has helped out. i thank you all my fellow eve pilots and i hope to be logging on in 6 hours when i get home without fear of the frying pan.
The only issue to have her playing EVE is...
You end-up using the pan more times then her!
Specially when she doesn't get of the keyboard because she's in the middle of a damm mission!
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Gilad Pellaeon
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:34:00 -
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My missus can get quite grumpy over Eve at times. I think she see's it as competition.
I tried to to explain it to her like Eve was just like Judo (which I used to compete at) and that I would have to spend time training/fighting.
...anyways, my missus understands that I enjoy playing this game. I enjoy hanging out with my Corp mates. And to force me to stop doing something that I love doing, would just leave her with even less time with me. I love her, but no one tells me what to do! :P
Ditch the *****. _
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Elise Masutra
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:37:00 -
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hope the ebay thing works out 4 u two :-) and to add something funny too: http://omgrawr.net/quote/891 (\_/) (O.o) (> <) This is Bunny. Copy Bunny into your signature to help him on his way to world domination. |
Thyro
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:41:00 -
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Originally by: Elise Masutra hope the ebay thing works out 4 u two :-) and to add something funny too: http://omgrawr.net/quote/891
I'd need to try that with mine to see if she releases my account!
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Dust Puppy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:43:00 -
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Just tell her it¦s an excel program, chances are she won¦t know the difference __________ Capacitor research |
Karn Mithralia
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:49:00 -
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Edited by: Karn Mithralia on 14/04/2005 09:50:18 My missus has serious issues with me playing games. In fact thats what lead me to eve, I was looking for a game I could mostly sneakily idle along at and only play heavily for a few hours or so when she was out or asleep.:P
I had to give up clan fps, and then being part of a serious intensive Dev team for a NWN mod, but I saw it as a necessity. We have kids, we have a life together, and at end of ther day - these are only games. Other guys get hassled for going to the pub or football ...
I guess my point is - over time I have adapted. And so has she. We have had hell fights over games, as bad as I had with ex's over other women , but we have persevered cos we're into each other and I'm still here playing games. I've adjusted my habits, got devious (love windowed mode ) and continously argued my right to play. In fact I should probably thank her for getting me to eve!
If ya really into her then my advice is - persevere. Don't give in, but do be willing to compromise. Adjust ya habits so you can at least get on with her most of the time. Nothing is ever perfect in relationships, every couple has stuff they loathe about the other person.
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Kuolematon
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:51:00 -
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3 things came up to my mind while reading this:
A. Games are for kids. - This one is so common still on many people. Its same with B. problem.
B. Cartoons are for kids. - Yeah, if you say to someone you like to play games and watch anime you can see in their eyes that your human value has just gone thru floor.
C. MMORPG - Many Men Online Role Playing Girls
Oh and this one I picked up from someones signature .. "Marrying someone for the sex is like buying 747 for the peanuts" .. dump her! _______________________________________________ My opinions aren't my corporations opinions.
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reggaefool
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:57:00 -
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Edited by: reggaefool on 14/04/2005 09:59:34 EVE and girlfriends dont work, you should get married, and send your wive to the BINGO night, give her extra channels onyour TV. (shopping channels) , it also help recording soaps in your video that are on television during daytime, so she can watch it wens she comes home, so we have eve-time :) we dont watch soaps .... good excuse
and take her to dinner every sunday, there you must talk about everything for the whole week,
Reggaeman
it worked for me
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Aboe Ibn'Sinna
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Posted - 2005.04.14 09:59:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
Looks like you created yourself a major problem. Reading your first mail, I understood you decided to replace friendship with hot sex. No wonder that you now have a person who does not want to respect you as you are.
I can only advice to get rid of her, buy sex if necessary , and try to get back that old good friend of yours. She seems to be more worth then 100 of those steaming mega pulses.
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Vegeta
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:01:00 -
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Show her this post.
2005.04.25 16:40:42 combat Your 1400mm Howitzer Artillery II perfectly strikes LawrenceNewton [WARAG], wrecking for 2706.9 damage.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:06:00 -
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My old partner was cool, she wanted to sit and watch tv all night. the problem with her was complex and we had to split. (a long story involving baby oil, a mop and an oven ready chicken)
The new hotness is worth it, shes just got this mental block, ebay will be a great start as she loves shopping so hopefully i will tonight be online in eve (on the laptop tho )
Thanks for all the possitive posts, my faith in the forums has been restored.
p.s convo me in game if you want to hear the gruesome details of mine and my exs split
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Gunstar Zero
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:06:00 -
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bury her under the patio.
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Killde
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:10:00 -
[62]
If she still got going for it, you might wanna drop the fact that the average age of video game players is around 30, not 10. Just cause from what I'm hearing she seems to think it's a childs hobby.
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Theseuss
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:19:00 -
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Get good sex while you can, then switch models again :) It won't work if you have to keep altering yourself to something you're not, been there and done that. |
Moadyb
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:20:00 -
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This is turning into an AA meeting of eve-aholics
I pretty much in the same boat as some of you, wife + kids = not much 'me' time these days. I usually spend an hour or two online while my wife persues one of her hobbys (most of them I got her into muwahaha )
So basically if you can get your GF interested in something that would take an hour or two of her time, you maybe able to squeeze in Eve. Otherwise, dump eve for awhile, RL>eve. You can always come back to eve, but finding someone in RL is a little bit trickier imho.
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Tar om
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:29:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex EBAY!!!!!!
YESSSSS that might just work!!!!
Shes a nutter for shopping, spent ú500 on a Karen Millen Handbag at the weekend....
DINGDINGDINGDINGDINGDING
alarm bells are sounding... YOU spend ú15 a month (or whatever) on a game and she spends ú500 on a removed HANDBAG?
Time to point out who is living in a fantasy world, mate... Noone ever fell in love with a handbag who didn't have one already.
Don't use abbreviations of swear words, thanks -zhuge -- We are the Octavian Vanguard www.octavianvanguard.net http://www.serenitymovie.com |
Harry Voyager
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:32:00 -
[66]
Thinking with one's gonads is not thinking at all.
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Frozen Light
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:34:00 -
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Originally by: Moadyb This is turning into an AA meeting of eve-aholics
I'm not addicted... Nope.. Not me... *puts on his Concord T-shirt* ;) -- Currents ships lost in Exodus: 3x Moa, 1x Kestrel, 1x Merlin
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IamBen
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:38:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex The problem is that when i was with the ex we had got over the honeymoon period.
With my new lady, were still in that honeymoon area and she has a REAL problem with eve. She was shocked when she saw me log on sunday afternoon and start talking to people i never met....
I tried to explain the wonders of such an immersive universe and that i was speaking to people form around the world: americans, australians, new zealanders, spanish, russian and so on.
She was not impressed and told me to grow up
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
Girlfriend telling someone to cancel eve-account = four torpedoes in the face! errr I mean perhaps giving her the boot would be good
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Lo3d3R
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:38:00 -
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Originally by: Seleene Or Ebay! My wife now has like a 340 rating or something!
omg omg so your not a woman.. you were my hotty.... so i slapped mr. happy over a man
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Avon
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:43:00 -
[70]
At the end of the day you have to remember. Women can bring you the one thing that money can't buy...
...debt. ______________________________________________
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Omatje
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:48:00 -
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It's time for you to look for a new Girlfriend T2 version. This one will be ever embarrased if you would play ANY game. She wants to show off things and a boyfriend 'playing games' will not fit in her 'utter coolness'.
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Kassena
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Posted - 2005.04.14 10:50:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex
The reason i post is that its come to a head this morning as she told me when i get home 2nite i should uninstall and cancel account. she really has a problem with it
She has blonde hair does'nt she !
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Mitawyn
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Posted - 2005.04.14 11:00:00 -
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Originally by: Scorpyn Doesn't sound like a relationship that will last tbh...
It can't last. It doesn't have a chance if it is getting started like this, I wouldn't want to be there for the end. What you are calling the Honeymoon period, is really the physical attraction period. By your own words on how hot she is. Once you get past the "hot", what will you find? A controlling, must be in charge, make him tow the line female, will be doomed to spending a single life. I personally would never have a man in my life that I can push around and dictate too. Chances are I would lose interest before he did.
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jamesw
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Posted - 2005.04.14 11:50:00 -
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My Girlfriend hates EVE, I hate watching sitcoms.
Sitcoms = on 24/7
therefore...
EVE = on 24/7 -- jamesw Rubra Libertas Militia
Originally by: RollinDutchMasters I fly a dominix, its like a portable blob in a can
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Sybylle
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Posted - 2005.04.14 11:52:00 -
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Edited by: Sybylle on 14/04/2005 11:52:48
Originally by: Lianhaun
Now its eve, tomorrow your not allowed to look at other girls and you need to have your head down at all times( in case a nice girl walks on the street).
I'd ask her why she has such a problem with you playing eve, its a game, its not real, its there for fun. If she cant give you a good reason ( if you play 20 hours a day then she has a point) tell her the answer is no.
or, play it dirty and mention that your ex never had a problem with eve
The problem is simple...
While you play, you don't take care of her... My GF is totally blocked with Eve and videogames in general...But she plays Diablo II and heroes IV . She plays when she has nothing to do, so she assumes it's the same for me...That's why I play when she isn't at home... Also, regularly each month, approaching the computer is strangely similar to a war declaration...I still can't explain that... (\_/) (O.o) (> <)=Oveur (proof) "Jumping 50 systems I can like, have sex 150 times during that period" |
0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 11:54:00 -
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Make sure the next Girlfreind comes with a CPU bonus.
San. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Psymon R
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:04:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Her problem is that whole "computer games are for kids thing" which is utter Rubbish in my eye.
One thing I say to that sort of comment is that if games are for kids... why are there many titles out there (GTA, Doom 3 etc) that have 18 certificates on them... I'd wouldn't say that you could call them games for kids!
I'd agree with other posters that if she can't accept you playing games at all then she probably isn't worth it long term!
Must say my personal eve playing time has decreased recently since getting together with my girlfriend, but thankfully that isn't due to her having an attitude over eve, just less time available to play! Has been useful for getting some level 5 skills done though!
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KanKan
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:27:00 -
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My wife said it was Eve or her.
I will miss her :(
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Taaser
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:33:00 -
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Being a female myself, I can understand her logic. She is frightened that you will spend more time with EVE than her, which by all accounts is correct. So you must show her that she is more important than a game and that you are more than willing to set it aside for the time being. Hence setup a 14 day skill and chill with her. You'll have EVE back in no time flat.
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:35:00 -
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Originally by: Taaser Being a female myself,
Damn! you UGLEEE girl.
San. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Vogon
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:35:00 -
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Edited by: Vogon on 14/04/2005 12:35:49 You have to be a bit carefull with the looks thing. She might look great now, but in 25 years she will have lost the looks, be 5 stone heavier, own half your house, half your money, half your pension and you will be OMGWTFPWNED like never before...
A bit cynical?.....yea
www.vogon.homestead.com
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Lady Hells
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:36:00 -
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Mate, you need to get yourself a decent woman. One who doesn't try to change anything about you - I mean, it's not like you've just started to play after meeting her.
She needs to accept that this is you and this is what you do.
At the moment, you're blinded by the 'hotness' but when it comes down to the basics of a relationship, your partner needs to be your friend above all.
My hubby started playing Eve after RL friends recommended it. I watched him now and then and vowed never to play it because of the time it took up.
So I carried on playing The Sims...
For a while. One day I caved and got my own account. I couldn't be happier.
It's not for her to tell YOU what you can and can't do. Telling you to uninstall it is just a tantrum tactic. Be strong dude, don't give in to her just because she's 'hot'.
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Stribog
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:36:00 -
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Edited by: Stribog on 14/04/2005 12:38:05 First off, this discussion is pretty one-sided, but intresting non then less. As many others, i got this problem to. Currently, im un-employed (bliss!) wich gives me time to play while she's at work. BUT, as soon as i logon while she's at home.. hooo boy.
"You'd rather spend time in front of the computer then with me! "Your so boring!" "It's just a game!" "I'm not worth anything to you, am i?" etc..
Sometimes i whish i where single again, the nagging is tiresome to say the least, but the upsides is quite a few to (yes, more then sex). I guess girls don't handle cometition that well, in any form, since they are shop-o-holics and like to OWN EVERYTHING, including people so they can brag infront of their friends (i'm quite the catch ). We'll see where this relationship leads me.. but it's not away form EVE, that's for certain.
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Edenmain
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Posted - 2005.04.14 12:48:00 -
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There are 3 things you could do which would probably work.
1) Take a week off EVE and badger her so persistantly and annoyingly that she will be glad of the break and force you to play EVE again.
2) Declare that "Your not playing EVE tonight you have a new hobby" . Then Vanish for 2 hours at night when its dark and make sure you take some binoculars and come back covered in soil and grass. (ie just go to mates for a bit). Hopefully she will become concerned and demand you stay in and when coupled with Option 1 this will work to devestating effect.
3) Send her away to Uni and pay for her, this is probably a last resort as you risk losing her but at least you can blame her and your in the clear with everyone! Result !!
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V Type
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:07:00 -
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This really depends on what happens when you have time together - if you spend say 90% of it playing eve you can kind of see her point. If on the other hand you devote some quality time to her on a regular basis and play eve as an aside I personally can't see the problem.
The main issue with eve is that you can play for 2-3 hours and feel that you are only just beginning to actually get anything accomplished - it's great at swallowing up all of your time.
The main issue with co-habiting women is their need to feel that they have a suitable amount of your FULL attention.
How about agreeing to having a full evening devoted to her (take her out for a meal, a drink, watch a film together whatever) every weekend and in return schedule an afternoon of eve (or some similar regular arrangement).
Balance is the key and talking from personal experience this can be tough - especially if like many men you have an insular hobby like eve while many women have more sociable hobbies like (stereotypically) shopping.
As for the "it's only for kids" stuff I would recommend going down the line of it's your own way to escape from the pressures of every day life - some shop some play games each to their own in moderation.
Of course she may just be playing an insecure/immature power game of "will he give this up for me" which happens to have focused on eve. In which case you need to reassure her that she is the most important thing to you - suggest that you give the games a complete rest for a fortnight to prove this. Chances are she'll be happy to let you go back when you have made this clear. If after this time she is still being totally unreasonable about it you can probably take it as a warning sign of more demands to come.
Ramble over - good luck.
p.s. You can always try not sleeping one day every week - periodically works for me!
p.p.s. Don't let the looks thing get you for too long! - if any relationship becomes too unbalanced (i.e. one person bending over backwards for the other for an extended period of time) then invariably the dominant person ends up losing all respect for the other = dead relationship.
p.p.p.s. This is turning into a Dear Deidre column from the Sun!!!
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Sirilonwe
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:27:00 -
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Jettison your current girlfriend in deep space and take back your old girlfriend.
Sincerely if she don't like you to play EVE, she doesn't love you. Because when we love someone, we love all the person, and no game nor other thing can break the love.
My 0.02 Isk: My old girlfriend didn't like that i played computer games (i'm a computer game addict... i can play 6h per day - with a job -). She was always bugging me: you're again on that f***ng computer, go out with me (at the opera, berk).
One day, i told her: I never mind if you go shopping, so let me play, or leave. And she left .
Now i found another girlfriend, she really loves me and don't mind if I play EVE (and I really love her for that ) _______________________ DSU Recrute! Corporation PVP FR, nous formons les nouveaux joueurs. Travail salariÚ. Contactez moi ingame. Forums DSU |
Gan Ning
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:36:00 -
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Well lets hope she doesn't get stropy and pull the cord out when you're about to escape a ganking...seriously just talk about things you like and things she likes and also try not to be selfish with the time you have with her - eve is time consuming.
But remember some women are just like that, like the ones that say "it's just a game" when your football team is about to get kicked out the cup....girls, don't do it, those words at that specific time hurt more than getting kicked somewhere painful with steel capped boots.
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dreddish
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:45:00 -
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get rid......
millions of pretty girls in london
she sounds psycho - sorry
ú500 on a bag?
get rid...
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Gericault m0id
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:45:00 -
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Same problem, although I would call it 'the ultimate log ON problem'
If you give 100% when you're with your girlfriend it should be a problem, right? Wrong! I just wish my girlfriend had something that she was as interested as I am in EVE, bar me of course.
If she puts an ultimatum, she's not worth it, simple as that. Stay strong
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Front
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:46:00 -
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I had a girlfriend like this. She was pretty damn "hot" in my eyes too, right up till she threw a pot of water on my computer while it was on, while I was working on it and then stole my 69 mustang.
Ditch the chick, don't look back, don't think about it, just do it, before it gets crazy, and it will get crazy if you let it go on.
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GinoShin
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Posted - 2005.04.14 13:51:00 -
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Dr. Gino says to give her some lunchables, they make great replacements for cookies and whine. if she says no just tell her shes missing out on the "great shapey fun of the *****ers, Ham&cheese. z0rs...
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Monty Burns
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:15:00 -
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Hey man, if she don't like the "whole bundle" of you, Eve (occasional of course ) included, then get a new one.
I recently replaced mine with one 10 years younger than me .... Someone said in this thread that there are millions of chicks in London, I agree! So don't be afraid to dump her into space
Yarrr! We should all join "Relate". Wonderfull work guys!
/me claps and shouts Bravo! Darwin 4tw
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ElDiablo
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:22:00 -
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You sound like you found a new girlfriend and shes hot and your in the early stages of the relationship.
Stong emotions are flowing through your body and the sex is better then ever and all you can think about is her and your life that is going to be.
Your hobby is Eve and she doesnt like it.....she gives you **** about it and makes you feel bad for something that you love to do.
Take a step back and analyze your life:
Is this relationship going to last? Are you in it with this one for just the pussae? Is this the one you want to marry?
If you answered yes to any of these three questions, then you need to take a serious look at your EVE habit or any gaming habit and think about chilling on it for a while.
Maybe even taking a small break from EVE (keep the skills going) and just seeing if it works for you.
My prior experiences with games arent the best with women (I lost a good one to EQ), but now its totally fine and I have a girlfriend that loves to watch me play EVE.
Ive even got her playing WOW now and she loves it. Its cool to see her eyes light up when she plays, and when she watches me play EVE.
If the girl doesnt like you gaming, its going to be hard to change her. Either quit gaming and join her world, or find another one that likes games as I did.
my 2isk
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ZeeWolf
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:27:00 -
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Edited by: ZeeWolf on 14/04/2005 14:29:19
Originally by: ErrorS tell her something she does is stupid and she should stop..
Like wearing underwear...
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Val Amon
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:35:00 -
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If she is that hot just say, "You know I understand your argument however I feel a compromise is in order rather than just an ultimatum, so if I quit playing games you have to quit wearing clothes around the house when I'm here." _ _ How many pilots does it take to wire a Flux Capacitor? 3, 1 to wire it and 2 to talk about how the old one was better. |
R Dan
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:39:00 -
[96]
Edited by: R Dan on 14/04/2005 14:40:15 OMG! I wouldnt have let her last as long as you have! OK, fair enough I've been called "harsh" before for the things I've dumped women for, but lets face it if they are the right person for you you'l know it and change accordingly, if she was the right girl you wouldnt need to post about it, you'd do it. This bird, although hot is a dead loss in my opinion, ditch her, play some EVE, go out and find another hottie, tis easy :) (and yes I -am- single at the moment, and loving every minute of it ....well OK not every minute, sometimes the stray thought pops in "wouldnt it be nice if *insert some ex's name here* was here to keep you company..." I just tell myself I'm going nuts, pop some bad guys (or girls) and go out on the Thursday and/or Friday and/or Saturday night for some fun)
Bite me....for i taste good :)
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Ombey
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:51:00 -
[97]
Here was my problem- used to play Planetside (another time sink of a game), on the upstairs computer, as I couldn't play it well enough on my laptop.
My wife would moan, in some cases fairly, that I'd spent all weekend on the game, and hadn't seen her hardly at all.
Eventually, got bored of PS, discovered Eve, and to my joy, found it ran very nicely on my laptop. So now I sit downstairs with my wife, she watches telly, I play Eve and chat (well, respond!), and everyone's happy. Voila I am spending more time with her.... --------------------------- |
Krapz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 14:57:00 -
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everyone's different on this type of thing. ppl have different needs in life. my last g/f didn't get it either. she was a party-type of girl, needed the face-to-face contact all the time w/ ppl. i'm more of a homebody. she had the same type of issues, but mostly she felt like she was being ignored. anyways.
my new girl, she rocks. not because she lets me play Eve, but because she understands me. she doesn't get jealous over time i spend w/ the guys/gals on TS. This is my hobby, as is golf, as is softball. when i don't do the other 2, i play Eve. Every other minute i have is spent with her, and it's time well spent too.
just ask yourself if this is the girl you want to live with forever. if there is any doubt at all, then it's pretty simple.
1) you're not ready for this relationship w/ her. 2) you haven't been around enough to know. see #1
Either way, if she means more to you than your other hobbies, you'd be happy to give them up, and she wouldn't have to ask you to. That's obviously not the case here, is it?
Don't complicate this issue, keep it simple, you'll find the rest takes care of itself.
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CaldariCitizen 9735
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Posted - 2005.04.14 15:33:00 -
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Understanding Girlfriend + Eve = Bliss ... NON - Understanding Girlfriend + Eve = Purgatory. UberHottie NonUnderstanding Girlfriend + Eve = B'Bye Eve if you want to keep on "buffin the Muffin" .. tis sad M8 but hotties generally get their way, cause they KNOW they are hot and can get another Studley Hungwell in short order. life Sux at times Cloune d'Que!! zhey iss all ze Cloune d'que!! |
Jim Steele
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Posted - 2005.04.14 15:34:00 -
[100]
poor soul, sounds like you need a T2 version
Death to the Galante |
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Haratu
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Posted - 2005.04.14 15:36:00 -
[101]
Your old girlfriend was better, she understood you.
It is sad when compatible people break up.
I roleplay... there is this computer game called "Earth - The First Genesis" where i play a character in the early 21st century. |
bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 15:38:00 -
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I know the feeling sometimes. My fience (was my GF when I started) didn't totally understand why I played. But since we where apart during the time and still is I can enjoy my evenings playing it without issues.
Now on weekends I had no problem going out and doing other things so its not like she was seeing less of me when she was around. Now shes spending more time at my place due to having a job in the area. I still love spending time with her but she does her own thing sometimes and she knows that I have a much different hobby then what she has.
Truely if shes telling you to give up somethign that you've been doing way before you started going out theres an issue. She doesn't understand why, and thats where its conflicting, and from the sounds of it she doesn't want to know why you do it.
I do it for fun and relaxation. I meet alot of nice people out there and have lots of good laughs. Thats what its all about, and to get away from real world stuff at times. I know someone said this before, theres much worse things that you could be doing with your time then this, let alone much more expensive.
If she doesn't take time to understand what you do, how do you even think a relationship will work with her? It sounds like she wants the pants in the relationship.
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Famine Aligher'ri
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Posted - 2005.04.14 15:48:00 -
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Getting Laid or Playing Eve, Getting Laid or Playing Eve hrrmm.. Getting Laid or PLAYING EVE!
*cancles eve*
Seek help
Famine Aligher'ri, of The Aligher'ri -The Frig- |
Threat
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:00:00 -
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Relationships are all about copmpromise. She is making unreasonable demands. Gaming is part of your (and frankly everyone who posted here's) lifestyle and difficult to stop cold turkey.
First she says no computer games, then she will go after all of your RL friends, then your money, when that's gone so will she be. 500 for a purse screams high maintenance.
Call her bluff, if she leaves you are better off, if not get rid of her anyways as shes a pushy bully.
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Harisdrop
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:01:00 -
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Do you have R&D agents? If yes you should delete you char now. Get that girl and never look back. Eve vs Girl go for the girl.
I would not ever leave eve so dont listen to me. I am 40 and I will never grow up screw that!!! --------------------------
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Devestator
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:05:00 -
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Edited by: Devestator on 14/04/2005 16:12:14 I completely understand your problem. And a solution might be for you to do some stealth eve playing for a while and enjoy your girlfriend.
I have been waiting for thread like this to see what some of you guys think of my situation.
I think have one of the Best Relationships with my gf in my eyes. This might not help you but it might be a situation many MMORPG players would like to find themselves in. You guys can tell me it sucks but I enjoy it. Mind you IÆm only 23 and IÆm not looking to get married anytime soon. I just enjoy having fun on the weekends.
Here's the story:
I met her in college and fell in love. Smokin hot girl. We graduated and she went for her masters one and half hours away from me at another school. I thought the relationship would end. But we kept it going with a long distance relationship. Now, for the last two years, we have been seeing each other only on the weekends. (Friday night to Sunday night)
I get Monday to Thursday to play eve after work. Then I have to call her when I log. The weekends I go to her place I set a long skill and enjoy a nice weekend.
In the beginning I used to play eve when she came down to my place. But that ended quickly as I realized I should be giving her more attention than my video game because I only get to spend a small amount of time with her each week.
Now I have a perfect balance of eve-time and gf-time. I don't get burnt out on either. We drink and party and have a great weekend then she leaves!!!! We have our own lives during the week and don't get caught up in the mundane weekdays.
But I sense doom in my future. She graduates in May and is moving home with her parents that live 2 and half hours away!!!!
Who knows what going to happen but if itÆs meant to be then its meant to be.
IMO SEX beats eve 100% of the time. But i'm still young.
Good luck Pyrex!
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Taniquetil
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:10:00 -
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She's gotta like you for who you are and if shes causing rows over a game -think what else she'll do
She sounds scary Midshipman Taniquetil - HDY Logistics Division
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DraizeTraiN
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:11:00 -
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Personally I think your relationship with this bird is doomed. Try to make sure she doesnt give you a right kicking before the inevitable happens. She's got a seam of `control freak' about her if you ask me. She isnt content with simply not understanding your interest in something new to her but excepting its part of who you are...she demands that it stops. Big difference. Let me guess...she'll happily sit through crap like Sex in the City or Footballers Wives. Imagine if you said `Bin those or i'm off!!'....she'd probably ring the cab for you. I've been on the recieving end of this kind of thing before. Its a test. Shes calling a tune and seeing if you'll dance.
`I build myself a brave asylum and ask of a madman to play host' |
sdfhsduh foidshoigfd
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:11:00 -
[109]
Originally by: 0seeker0 Make sure the next Girlfreind comes with a CPU bonus.
San.
Or an intelligence implant
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Iluvy
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:12:00 -
[110]
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Guys i love you all.
Needed to hear this
Shes a very beutiful girl and when we hit the bars and clubs i feel great cos she looks amazing. she also seems to have a real thing about me so there is mutual love there.
In our lives i would say im the bossey one also the decision maker but its just this one thing...eve she cannot stomach it, nothing else bothers her accept..eve.
We were in covent garden having a few drinks last weekend and i was telling a mate all about eve, she didnt speak to me all night cos of that. She thinks its the equivalent of an adult man dressed as a baby - its just wrong - quote
Man this is a hard situation for me
An industry worth ú2,000,000,000+ is wrong? An industry bigger than movies is wrong? Just ask her if there's any difference between playing EVE and watching her fave movies/TV shows. And then ask if she has any concept of how many people are 'wrong' with an industry this size.
Man, things like this make me realize how lucky I am... my girl's not into EVE, but she doesn't mind me playing it, and she's certainly itno plenty of other games.
=/ Sorry mate, looks like you're outta luck. I haev to assume you had a good reason for you and the prior woman not being together anymore, but looks aren't everything...
Devestator; don't give up man. You've got something great there. I'm an eight hour flight + another hour and half flight + a total of three hours in a car away from my girlfriend, but we're still trying as hard as we can. Believe me, a strong relationship can overcome distance. (Frankly, a much bigger issue is my hairstyle, and it's a non-issue. xD) Bleh... xD |
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Scythmar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:13:00 -
[111]
Give her one good ****...then dump the *****...
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Salvatore
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:14:00 -
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An ex-girlfriend pulled this same kind of thing on me a couple years ago, but it was for my other hobby. About two months into our relationship she told me I had to get rid of all my firearms or she would break up with me. I said, "No frackin' way!" and stood my ground. Well, she didn't leave and in the end I think she respected me more for standing up for myself and what I liked to do. We broke up later for other reasons, but in the end I continued with my hobby and actually got her interested in it a little.
IMO, people who pull this kind of stuff are insecure and feel they need attention 24/7 in order to feel fully loved. When they see something intfering with that, they try to take control of the other persons life. What they don't realize is that a little communication and striking a balance between personal hobbies and relationship time will make the relationship better.
Stand your ground. If she leaves, then you've gotten rid of a bad apple. If she stays, then you may have a keeper.
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Aktar
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:25:00 -
[113]
Seriously Dude,
This is just a game...
Love vs Pixels on a screen? No comparison...This game does suck up alot of time and really what do you accomplish? So you have like 100 Million Isk...so what? Can this buy you a car or take you out for a good time?
Time to quit Eve and enjoy your RL!
You can still participate in the forums and keep in contact with your EVE friends via messenger/email/phone/in-person.
I know you will make the right choice!
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YuuKnow
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:29:00 -
[114]
My advice is to not ask girlfriend advice from strangers on the internet.
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Qalten
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:39:00 -
[115]
Throwing in my 2 ISK here.
To alot of EVE players, it's more than a game, it's an actual hobby. Something we spend time and thought on. We enjoy what it has to offer us and enjoy the environment that's been created.
Your new girlfriend sounds shallow as a puddle on the street, mate. Spending ú500 on a handbag? Demanding you cancel your account? I'm sorry, but the reality here is that it sounds like you two are doomed. It doesn't matter what your hobby is, someone that immediately tries to change you this severely does not deserve any more of your time (or money). Pointing her to eBay will only cost you money and eventually things will get much worse. If she's so outraged over a hobby of yours, think of what the future holds .
I think you will realize this once the "honeymoon" period is over, and you realize that what you enjoy to do with your time is > some shallow twit, regardless of how "smokin hot" she is. There are many intelligent beautiful reasonable women out there.. I should know I managed to secure one, myself. And once you've found a better match for yourself, it's all about balance and compromise.
Keep us updated!
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Lianhaun
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:44:00 -
[116]
TBH i never told my bf to stop playing eve, we dont have much time together either but that doesn't mean I forbid him to play eve at all times. If you love someone you will let the person enjoy small things even if you laugh at them and think its pathetic ( an absolute terrific girlfriend will also fake enthusiams or interest).
Even now today I have no idea what his AD&d campagne is about , what they do, what they play but each time I ask how it was and whether he died. I dont like it to see him go off for a entire day to play a boardgame but actually demanding him to stop is just silly and a bit egocentric.
This is not a hijack
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ElDiablo
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:47:00 -
[117]
Quote: Understanding Girlfriend + Eve = Bliss ... NON - Understanding Girlfriend + Eve = Purgatory. UberHottie NonUnderstanding Girlfriend + Eve = B'Bye Eve if you want to keep on "buffin the Muffin" .. tis sad M8 but hotties generally get their way, cause they KNOW they are hot and can get another Studley Hungwell in short order. life Sux at times
Could'nt of said it better myself
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Kordesh
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:53:00 -
[118]
Can girls run Eve?......I don't see the appeal.
*Hugs computerbox*
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Helveticus
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Posted - 2005.04.14 16:55:00 -
[119]
once you give in and start to comply to all of her demands, you will not be your self anymore. She will ultimativly leave you for another man for the reason "your are not interesting any more"... And her cycle will start all over again..
The 500ú handbag is just insane unless you are a rich guy and can afford such maintainance. My wife occasionally buys very expensive shoes (all women are shoeaholics) but she would never buy a hand bag for that price.
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Stepping Razor
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:00:00 -
[120]
Dude, you're reaping what you've sown. You dump a great woman based on how hot the next one is, and now you're paying the price. It's Karma.
Razor
Originally by: Bonaventure Phaidon CCP is the best at at least three things: 1. Really, really fun gameplay 2. Good forum presence 3. Inventing new and exciting ways to bring about in-game catacly |
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Shamis Orzoz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:08:00 -
[121]
Its very simple, but it does require a little work on your part.
1. Invite Girly over 2. removed 3. Wait till she falls asleep 4. Grab some cofee 5. Fire up eve.
If she wakes up, repeat steps 2 through 5.
Shamis
keep it tasteful and dont bypass the swear filter please -zhuge
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Slaveabuser
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:08:00 -
[122]
This is the worst "I have a life/girlfriend" post evar!
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SBO Braveloco
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:14:00 -
[123]
The best advice I can give is something I learned from my marriage and family class at the U here. This has helped me out with my wife a TON with this game.
In any relationship BOTH parties are owed a certain amount of free-time to themselves each day TO DO WHAT THEY ENJOY! The amount of time is set apart by the couple...1 hour a day 2 hrs, etc. And that is YOUR time. This is a non-negotiable time frame where the individual is left to be who they want to be (within reason of course).
Your a gamer...for that hour or so be a gamer and your amiga has nothing to say about out. But she knows that she will have her time and attention payed in full to her later. Relationships are not just about love and doing things together. They are about growing and learning who each other is. She needs to make concesions just as much as you. This is a small way to make sure she can understand that.
Hope the advice helps.
D-
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Hakera
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:49:00 -
[124]
Sounds very high maintainance to me this GF which is a big no no (ú500 handbag!!!). But yeah - looks like she has the stigma that computer games are for kids and you will be looked upon as a nerd.
Personally I would dump her, I dont like high maintainance at all and I like my space as well. Clingy women are equally bad but not on a par with the 'Legally Blonde' types.
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:02:00 -
[125]
What are "legally blonde" types?
san. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Hakera
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:08:00 -
[126]
Originally by: 0seeker0 What are "legally blonde" types?
watch the movie 'legally blonde' to find out
Dumbledore - Eve-I.com |
Rasta Rocketman
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:11:00 -
[127]
Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
If u love gaming, then she has to adjust....thats it. Compromises can be made such as dividing your time, but she has to accept what you like to do. It's that simple.
Now if its a full fledged addiction on your part and you're not willing to give up any time for her,...then maybe the prob is on your end.
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:17:00 -
[128]
Originally by: Hakera
Originally by: 0seeker0 What are "legally blonde" types?
watch the movie 'legally blonde' to find out
It sounds like a bad idea to me. What, go on, a breif synopsis if your bored and have time, would be nice.
San. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Banisher
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:19:00 -
[129]
I wouldn't say all is lost, it's more of a case of putting your point across in a way she'll understand..unless of course she's that narrow minded.
If you get on most of the time, have mutual feelings for each other and all, it seems odd to have to sacrifice eve or your girlfriend for each other.
Surely there's something online about modern gamming and the social nature of online gamming, maybe nice cold logic will do the trick.
Fortunately my gf is quite accepting of eve as we chat whilst I play, which is kinda cool. As long as she gets attention all is well and it's kinda nice having her around whilst playing tbh.
Whatever happens, I hope you don't have to ditch anything and all turns out well. Good luck with it all :)
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:13:00 -
[130]
Pyrex, can her. Get rid of her as soon as possible. There's a million fishes in the see, and most of them are pretty hot in one way or the other. Just make sure to get a picture of you two together so your buddies don't think your lying. The Only thing better than old [fish taco] is new [fish taco]!!!
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Verone
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:19:00 -
[131]
Originally by: Shamis Orzoz Its very simple, but it does require a little work on your part.
1. Invite Girly over 2. Bang the sh1t out of her 3. Wait till she falls asleep 4. Grab some cofee 5. Fire up eve.
If she wakes up, repeat steps 2 through 5.
Shamis
and to think this guy's my CEO...
Still... good plan... methink i'll try that one on my other half
COME AND SOCIALISE WITH US NASTY SNIGG BASTARDS AT : WWW.SNIGG.CJB.NET |
Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:23:00 -
[132]
Let me get this straight. You are debating as to whether you should spend time with a very attractive woman (in multiple ways I'm sure) in real life, which could mean going out on dates, movies, dinner, social life, and sexual expressions..... or to play an online game?
Pfft. Come on man, seriously. Choose real life. ------------
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:25:00 -
[133]
Originally by: Guardian Alpha Let me get this straight. You are debating as to whether you should spend time with a very attractive woman (in multiple ways I'm sure) in real life, which could mean going out on dates, movies, dinner, social life, and sexual expressions..... or to play an online game?
Pfft. Come on man, seriously. Choose real life.
Thats not the point. Shes making him change from playing the game at times to not playing at all anymore just because she doesn't like it or understand why he plays.
You can have a RL and play games you know its not just a 1 way street.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:29:00 -
[134]
Edited by: Guardian Alpha on 14/04/2005 19:30:11
Quote: Thats not the point. Shes making him change from playing the game at times to not playing at all anymore just because she doesn't like it or understand why he plays.
And? So she is upset that he is spending time with the game (most likely a LOT) and less with her. That's typical and expected. This is also dating, not marriage. If you end up plugging games infront of a relationship then you are going to lose the girl and remain isolated. Get back in touch with the real world, enjoy the company, and play it during the times when you two can't be together (ie. nighttime, she's at work/college).
Quote: You can have a RL and play games you know its not just a 1 way street.
I understand that. But when a woman who's company you greatly enjoy and find very attractive asks you to stop playing and come be with her, what mature guy is going to give her the finger and keep clicking on the mouse? Enjoy your game on your own time, but when you are dating someone the field of play drastically changes. ------------
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:35:00 -
[135]
Bah. Cutupz 4tw.
There'll be more.
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Elita
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:39:00 -
[136]
Let's see now...
You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Don't get trapped in this psychologically abusive relationship. Follow the steps below as soon as you possibly can:
Step 1: Open front door. Step 2: Place boot firmly on arse. Step 3: Push.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:43:00 -
[137]
Quote: You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Don't get trapped in this psychologically abusive relationship. Follow the steps below as soon as you possibly can:
Not the brightest bulb in the box, eh? If you had read the entire thread, you would have seen that he replied and said that he was the bossy one in the relationship, they both really love one another, and she is hot as a side-coolness. He's also said that she requests and demands very little of him, but this was one of the things she asked for.
Is that so bad? Honestly? Is loving small compromises in a relationship abusive, or did you just not read the entire thread? Single people shouldn't give advice. ------------
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:59:00 -
[138]
Edited by: deviantC on 14/04/2005 19:59:27
Quote: It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Dude, you can't throw away the crusts, that's not right, but the rest was pretty much dead on.
Don't listen to Guardian Angel, he's obviously been brainwashed by a harpy, peacefully living on some remote isle, waiting to be devoured.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:07:00 -
[139]
Quote: Don't listen to Guardian Angel, he's obviously been brainwashed by a harpy, peacefully living on some remote isle, waiting to be devoured.
I've been dating someone for three years straight now, and she started out similar to this situation. Not a demanding person or bossy by any means, but wanted me to spend less time on Morrowind and more time with her. Meh, it was simple. Spending time with her so she could be happy (because making the other person happy and not just yourself is important in a relationship) and so I could be happy in her company was important to the long run.
Now, she is a hard-core gamer. Loves EVE, loves Morrowind and Tenchu. Know how she turned around? I had patience with her. Those three years taught me that it's okay for me to grow up and put down the controller, because in the long-run of life, she's MUCH more important than a 500k NPC. So it isn't about a "rainbow romantic" lifestyle, it's about growing up and acting mature when in a relationship that involves the emotions and heart of someone else. ------------
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:23:00 -
[140]
Update.....
Had dinner, wine, soft songs, nice food........
Told her if she wants me to stfu and not try to change me.......
its 9:20pm shes now sat watching tv (foot ballers wives i believe), and im about to log on........VICTORY!!!
Im moved by the fantastic comments on this post, i really believe with people with this much heart out in community land, eve is safe for a very long time. Beers on me at Impass refining station!
Be Agressive 4TW
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VonKaplanek III
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:32:00 -
[141]
Great topic..
The mindset "games are for kids" is the real problem here. As soon as my GF realized that i was a leader of 40 guys(and gals), making decisions, interacting in a medium with gamers older than myself(32-- it was fine. If eve and MMORPG are a big part of your life and something you truly love to do then she should support you if she loves you. If she cant see the fact that it makes you happy and its something you love to do, dump her ass as fast as you can. Even if its the hottest piece of *BLEEP* you ever gotten-- DUMP it... As for my particular situation, i stop at Comp USA and pick up games that she loves and shes addicted too. She watches CSI all the time, so i got her the CSI games, The new Sims is another great one. Help her understand why you love to play :) MMORPG takes alot of time, you MUST make time for your girl. When my GF asks me "can you go do something" and i say sorry babe, im at a gate about to gang warp our fleet to combat, that ****es her off, other than that shes cool with it. The big key here is to help her understand why youy love it and that it makes you happy. If she still balks, kick her to the curb. There are many other fish in da sea.. Have you seen how hot those amarr chicks are!! Good Luck!
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:36:00 -
[142]
Congrats, but that was just 1 battle won, the war still rages I bet
Wait and see what tomorrow brings hehe.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:40:00 -
[143]
bloody tv better spawn some decent crap or im in trouble.
i am using the patented head nod every 30 seconds and "hmmmm" every 45 seconds
Working so far
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Red Six
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:40:00 -
[144]
Standing up for yourself 4 teh w1n!!!!!!!
Seriously though if she counters in some manner someone posted three simple steps involving boot and door you should follow. I could care less if she is Angelina Jolie, I change the things I like for no one. I am who I am, take or leave it.
Also, I did the smart thing and found a girl geek and married her 11 years ago so this is a non-issue at our place. The bigger issue is whose turn it is to get the new computer with all the bells and whistles.
Her turn this time.
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:45:00 -
[145]
Originally by: Red Six Also, I did the smart thing and found a girl geek and married her 11 years ago so this is a non-issue at our place. The bigger issue is whose turn it is to get the new computer with all the bells and whistles.
Her turn this time.
Doh hate when that happens. Sounds like what happened to my dad, he got a computer and well my mom gets the kick ass one. He does have a decent one but her's is faster now.
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Bellicose
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:46:00 -
[146]
real life is highly overrated Who needs a shovel when you have a nice big cannon?
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:47:00 -
[147]
Yeah buddy, just wait a couple weeks until you hear the blood curtling; "I let you play that game all last week."
It's amazing how well the ol' nod & "uh huh/yep" method works.
In my experience, change is wonderful, especially for a new lover, but only if it's voluntary.
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John Blackthorn
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:53:00 -
[148]
You should do what I did. Find a good looking, smart, woman who likes to play eve.. and then marry her :P
-BT
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 21:22:00 -
[149]
Originally by: Elita Let's see now...
You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
Maybe other people that she cant vet? you know, it struck me, that maybe she is the nicest girl in the world :) we really are being horrendously judgmental. Still sounds a rolling pin short of a marriage though.
San. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Hikaru Okuda
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Posted - 2005.04.14 21:25:00 -
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I generally look for a nymphomaniac who likes science fiction and computer games... :)
Seriously, when dating someone new that immediately starts making demands--they get the boot fast.
I would expect to get the boot if I became really bossy.
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Skelator
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Posted - 2005.04.14 21:32:00 -
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The Words "Self Centered I want all his attention" chick come to mind.
you oughtas be podded 100X a day for trading models what were you thinking??? You had Eutopia a GF who let you play Computer games without getting upset!
There is only one of this mold for every 1000 females made my friend. If I were you I would dump the new "Me me me me what about me" Gf and get the old dependable model back.
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KSUDruid
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Posted - 2005.04.14 22:50:00 -
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I actually pioneered a method to deal with situations like this, and I've always been hesitant to share it with the community. But it seems like my close friend CEO Pyrex needs the ultimate weapon to deal with this crazy phenomenon. Are ya ready? All you have to do is..
L I E
yup, that's right. LIE. Tell her stories, misdirect her, do whatever necassary to throw her off the trail. I think it's obvious that's she's gonna be a problem, everyone can see that. So it's the classic case of get you want even though you know it'll eventually have to end.
So here's what ya do.
Step 1. Don't let her anywhere near you expect for just a few hours to get the "job" done. For example, she calls you at your place.
"Hello"
"Hey babe, what ya doing"
"Oh damn darlin, just working on the biochemical assembly formula for the antiboties to combat the AIDS retrovirus. The Lab thinks we're really really close to having a breakthrough, but I'm going to have to stay up all night long to get it finished. I really wish you could come over tonight, but you how important this is, you understand don't ya?"
"Uhhh.. ya, I guess so"
"Hey thats great, you know thats why I wub you so much, and I promise I'll try and get a few free hours saturday night for you to come over and spend some quality time together, ok pumpkin? kisses for my girl.. muhwa muhwa muhwa muhwa"
"click"
Resume playing EVE.
Step 2. Always be ready for her surprise. They will try and sneak up on you and have mastered the art of the cloaking device. ALWAYS have a backup plan. This backup plan may involve unfortunately leaving the computer for a few hours to throw her off the trial. For Example:
You're sitting at home zoning out with the gang. She comes into the house and walks into the office. Always make sure you have some excel spreadsheet with a whole bunch of random numbers that look exceedingly important up on the screen in the background. ALT F4 IS YOUR FRIEND. That's one of the reasons I don't get so ****ed about the loggers, they're just trying to hide EVE from their girlfriends. EVE gets closed and you can immediately begin punching in numbers on your spreadsheet making it look like you're finishing your taxes, or writing a thesis or anything like that.
I highly suggest you add winamp for an extra effect bonus, it really helps cover up the Teamspeak noise emminating from headset, and for god sakes, ALWAYS use a headset so she can't actually here all your friends on TS asking if you dropped all in unison.
Make small talk with her for a few minutes then look at the clock and exclaim,
"Oh you have a great sense of timing, I was so engrossed in those stock option numbers that I almost forgot my 3:49PM Appointment at the Homeless shelter! If you hadn't have stopped by when you did all those poor people down on 32nd Avenue would have only had 5 lines to stand in instead of 6! You are the greatest thing ever to happen to me sweetie pie, gotta go do my part for civilization" Proceed to head to the bar, grab a beer, watch the game for a few hours, then come back home and resume playing EVE. It might cost your corp a few battles, and every now and then you'll lose a clone, but at least you're still playing EVE.
Step 3. Get her to feel sorry for you. Playing EVE is stressful, all the politics and shooting things, really takes a toll on a guy. Chicks can not figure out whether your tired because you just ran the Boston Marathon, or you stared for 9 hours at your screen blowing up a POS. When during your few hours a week nookie time frame, you act all beat and spent and just want to spend some quality lovin' time, she'll ask you what you've been up to. Refer to above examples for great starting places in how you've saved the world selflessly yet again this week, and how glad you are that she's there. After you get the job done, immediately pass out or claim there is sometihng you have to do afterwards to get her off the scent again, then return to EVE.
Step 4. Maintain the Masquerade. You know what to do, now it's just a matter of doing it. Through careful planning you can continue to get sweet lovin' for at least a few good months, while still keeping your character trainin' skill points. The only downside to my tried and true method is that eventually it will end. You can keep it up for as long as you want too, or are as skilled to do, but she WILL find out. If you're expecting it, then it'll make it a whole lot easier too.
The Best part about it though, is with the Lie MethodÖ is you have the ultimate get out of jail free card too, and it's called the truth. If at any time with my method, you're not completely satisfied you can just tell her the truth, and you will INSTANTLY be rid of her. Kind of like the ultimate smart bomb that goes in the 9th high slot, You will always have that secret weapon, and it's a guarenteed win.
(PS, use at your own risk)
-Druid "Civis Ascendant"
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Syrec
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Posted - 2005.04.14 23:02:00 -
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If she is trying to make you quit a game now, it will only get worse. Get out before it's too late
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Manda
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Posted - 2005.04.14 23:08:00 -
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Speaking from experience: I was the same way with my husband about playing online games and not spending time with the kids and myself then one day he looked at me and told to start playing the game and I would see what it was like so I did and here I am still playing almost a year later. If she wont play and keeps running her mouth to you best thing you can do is get rid of her no matter how hot she is. If she is going to nag about that just think of all the other things she will find to nag about later on!! Food for thought!!
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Capt Hindgrinder
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Posted - 2005.04.14 23:21:00 -
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Edited by: Capt Hindgrinder on 14/04/2005 23:21:08 Pick up your next GF from behind the counter of an Electronic Boutique or Wal-Mart. This way, when the expansion pack that we have to pay for comes out, you've got an "in" for an employee discount. Other options:
A) Find a gal who works 12hr/days and doesn't need you to "buy things for her so that you can do the things you love doing.(besides her)"
B) If you really love her, knock her up before you REALLY quit, at least then you have 18 years of child support and aggrovation to look forward to.
C) Rent-a-hole.
C.H.
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Vex Seraphim
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Posted - 2005.04.14 23:28:00 -
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Man, tough situation
From a personal expirience, i'd suggest the same things that were already suggested: Ebay, The Sims2, if she masters these two give her more games.
Hell, my girl's replaying diablo2 for the 20'th time and is just waiting for me to stop training my 2'nd account so she could start training her own eve character ------------------- :: finite horizon :: killboard ::
:: bio :: blog ::
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Angelus X
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Posted - 2005.04.14 23:52:00 -
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lol!
Some very entertaining responses on this thread, and the topic itself is a class one keep us updated CEO pyrex, and tell us how it all works out
(first thread over 7-8 pages that I've read fully in awhile!)
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Gan Howorth
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Posted - 2005.04.15 00:01:00 -
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If you dump eve like a wuss she will lose respect for you and dump you. Girls like to try and squeeze out any competitor, but they don't like you more for it when they succeed. Remember she went out with you when you were playing eve, that's who she found attractive, not some "nice guy" who'll drop his life for her.
Could be worse, could be "that best friend" or "any other girl" or <insert illegal pastime>. She goes out with you for who you are, don't throw away who you are bud.
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Deepeh
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Posted - 2005.04.15 00:02:00 -
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Taser.
Clawhammer.
Bath tub full of sulphuric acid.
6 feet deep hole.
Concrete mixer.
It's so simple :p
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Chade Malloy
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Posted - 2005.04.15 01:12:00 -
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The first threat in a long time that had over 8 pages i really wanted to read all through and i enjoyed it very well ;)
I even have learned a few things that can me help with my gf too ;)
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Mr M
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Posted - 2005.04.15 02:02:00 -
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What we need is a online game dating service.
Quote:
Mr M is a 31 year old single male from sweden who plays Eve Online as a minmatar about 15 hours per week. He also enjoys cooking, reading and going to the movies. Personal message: I have 20m skill points.
http://orecalc.evegeek.com | http://www.evegeek.com |
Neon Genesis
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Posted - 2005.04.15 02:25:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
Roll her up in a carpet and throw her off a bridge. __
There, i just contributed nothing to your thread
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Nikolai Nuvolari
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Posted - 2005.04.15 02:54:00 -
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I'm wondering why the hell you gave up the old girlfriend, but you MIGHT have a legitimate reason, so I won't talk about that. So here's my idea.
[IDEA type="weird" practicality="pain_in_the_ass"] Give her exactly what she wants (sort of). Buy the slowest skill you can and set it training (If it runs out, log on when she's asleep or out of the house and buy/start a new one) and then leave EVE alone. At this point, you start devoting all your time to her. I'm talking ALL your time. Insist on being with her as much as is physically possible. I don't know if she has her own "interests", but if she does, don't let them get in the way of being with her. If she doesn't, don't worry about it. The important thing is BE WITH HER ALL THE TIME. I don't know if it's the "honeymoon period effect" or just clinginess/possessiveness or WHAT, but either way you'll burn her out pretty quick and SHE will make YOU go back to a reasonable amount of together-time. If she doesn't burn out and she continues to enjoy it (or wants you to spend even MORE time with her) then you're definitely not trying hard enough. Don't be obnoxious about it, just be super insistent and very loving/fawning/clinging and try to act sincere about it. In the end, she'll MAKE you do what you want [/IDEA] ___________________________________________ ^^^***---All things serve the Beam---***^^^ |
Alphawolf
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Posted - 2005.04.15 03:35:00 -
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i had the same problem. wut i did was find out wut she liked and then found a game that goes with her likings. so after some stealthy spy work i figured she was in to wizards and monsters an all that stuff so i bought Everquest and played if for an hour well she was here and she liked it! then bugged me to get her an account with all their damn expansion packs (that you gotta pay for) but it was worth it now when she is at my house she plays everquest and i get to play eve in peace
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GBBUTT
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Posted - 2005.04.15 03:49:00 -
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Heh, congrats on your win. Hope you like your hand. because its all your going to get for awhile
Nah well done, dont cave on ultimatuims. Unless their about drugs or alcohol. i mean **** that money should be spent on eve!
Personally though speaking from no experience, if i was dating a girl and she told me to quit playing games, id tell her to quit playing games with my head.
Its a part of who you are, and if people cant accept that then you need to move away from them.
Anyway, hope the bliss continues for a long time.
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jamesw
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Posted - 2005.04.15 04:40:00 -
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treat em mean, keep em keen -- jamesw Rubra Libertas Militia
Originally by: RollinDutchMasters I fly a dominix, its like a portable blob in a can
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Uchak Taal
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Posted - 2005.04.15 05:05:00 -
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Get married ASAP!
Then she will be tired/have a headache/not in the mood most of the time thus allowing you to spend time with mistress EvE.
And if that doesnt work add a few kids to keep her busy and join the late night EvE crew.
Otherwise set some long training and take care of the hottie. Seriously, there will always be an Eve (in some way shape or form) but you may not be so lucky in love down the line.
Smoke 'em if ya got 'em!
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.15 08:08:00 -
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She relented last night about it cos she was tierd but i have a dinner date 2nite with friends and im gonna start talking about titans and jump drives to my mate while the ladies talk about shoes. Lets see how she takes that.
The old girlfriend = April was a star but she went completly bonkers and was dangerous for me to be around her. She once tried to run me down in my own car........shock eh?
That happened a long time ago but acted as a catalyst for her actually going slowly mad....shes now on triple strength anti depresants and the police have warned her to stay away from me.
so the moral of the story is "eve slowly drives us all mad, but what a ride!"
no joke
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jamesw
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Posted - 2005.04.15 08:11:00 -
[169]
Originally by: CEO Pyrex She relented last night about it cos she was tierd but i have a dinner date 2nite with friends and im gonna start talking about titans and jump drives to my mate while the ladies talk about shoes. Lets see how she takes that.
The old girlfriend = April was a star but she went completly bonkers and was dangerous for me to be around her. She once tried to run me down in my own car........shock eh?
That happened a long time ago but acted as a catalyst for her actually going slowly mad....shes now on triple strength anti depresants and the police have warned her to stay away from me.
so the moral of the story is "eve slowly drives us all mad, but what a ride!"
no joke
wow... I had a mate once with a similar problem, his GF used to chuck frying pans and stuff at him - didn't last long. One day he didn't bother to come home to her -- jamesw Rubra Libertas Militia
Originally by: RollinDutchMasters I fly a dominix, its like a portable blob in a can
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.15 08:28:00 -
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One of my mates exes tried to run him down from behind with hers and his kids in the car with her. She was a real looker too, and an alcoholic.
Ugh.
san. Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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DeathSpawn66
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Posted - 2005.04.15 08:36:00 -
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I told my gf about this post earlier today and she laughed and said she want's to post on it and create a group of gf's who hate the game.
I just don't understand how someone who cares about you can hate something that makes you happy? I mean she hates the game with a passion...I have to sneak on to the game and turn my volume off to try and switch a skill.
When I want to leave her house cause I have something important to do I have to try and create a good lie but she see's right through it. She doesn't understand that missing 5 hours of skill training time isn't an option.
My favorite is when ur cuddling or with them and you say you have to go and they say...'what's more important...the game or me'? After about 10 seconds of diliberation you have to go with the gf but keep in mind it's not lol.
So hear's my idea: Let's form a club or an online site or something for all the gf's/bf's(do bf's hate eve) who hate this game, that way we can play the game while they ***** and moan about how much they hate it and they won't bother us! Just a suggestion...If my gf said it's either eve or me...I wouldn't know what to do...so sad
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d'hofren
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Posted - 2005.04.15 09:38:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex bloody tv better spawn some decent crap or im in trouble.
i am using the patented head nod every 30 seconds and "hmmmm" every 45 seconds
Working so far
Without being smug - I am a few years ahead of you.
You need to get cable tv with all the junk channels.
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Karol Kei
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Posted - 2005.04.15 09:48:00 -
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Well, mate, long time no chat.
She likes shopping. You like Eve. Neither of which are very "mature" or "constructive" things to do in life. Things work both ways and what you might want to do is level with her. You tolerate, she must do so too.
Personally, I wouldn't go down the "teach her to play" -route myself. It is unrealistic, I think, even if it would be ideal. I tried to teach my wife at one point, and she did give it a go. No success, but instead we found a better way. I mean heck - I have not taken on shopping till this day, either, so it's only fair.
What we did was have a long talk about stuff to do in life some ten years ago. For example she likes aerobics, dancing, shopping, TV and her school (now work) etc. I like to to work for a website I have been involved with for many years, to play Eve and other games occasionally. I don't like my work, but I do it for the money. I like my school. Etc.
So we did the math: We like different things as well as some things that are common for us. Like food and wine and heated conversations about stuff that either matters or totally not. :P We also luckily enough really like each other - enough to have kept us together for 12 years, now.
And we agree that we are better off for liking different things, too. And we tolerate each other's "stupid" things. For her it is shopping, and for me it is games. We accept that we don't understand it, but the other guy likes it so - hey..
BTW: It's just too bad the wife doesn't like games. I could use a hauler..
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Trey Azagthoth
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Posted - 2005.04.15 10:07:00 -
[174]
Ganks before skanks.
That it all. Vin Diesel claims he has never hailed a taxi. He just runs up to them at stop lights, opens the door, shoves the current passenger over, and tells the cab driver what his new destination is. |
Kel Kracken
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Posted - 2005.04.15 10:16:00 -
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Can be fun. The gf has no problems with me playing eve at all and even brings up the occasional beer or bacon snarnie. There are only a few things that we don't do together and eve is one of them although I to would have dearly loved a hauler :P
She said she couldn't honestly see why I spent so much time logged on. Checking/changing skills in the morning and same last thing at night :) So introduced her to eve but nope not really her thing. Mind you found out that was the science thing since I came home late from Darts last night and there she was in bed with another MMORPG. Cow! heh.
So expect me to start a bf's against WoW website sometime soon.
Seriously though she always says I don't want to try and change you or stop you from doing the things that you want to do. That's the way to make it work since I then have to think how good is she and then make time for her. It should work both ways I just need reminding every so often that the first thing I should do is feed the cats and make her a coffee before playing 4 hours of eve.
Good luck with it though, it should be a two-way street, it doesn't have to be war but sometimes can be fun when it is.
Kel
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Pehova Mindtriq
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Posted - 2005.04.15 10:45:00 -
[176]
Get a second computer and install The Sims 2 on it. Introduce the game to her and she will never bother you again. Sideeffects may be that she becomes like you and the game comes before anything
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Sergeant Spot
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Posted - 2005.04.15 12:43:00 -
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In response to the original Post.
In a few days I'll be 40 years old.
I am a gamer. It is me. People have their hobbies, and gaming is mine.
My father has a much more respectable hobby. He and his friends go out to a rolling grassy field and beat the heck out of small white balls using steel alloy clubs. There is often beer involved.
In the end, both hobbies involve having some fun with friends. Anyone who can't understand that is an idiot, NOT simply someone with a different opinion.
(On a seperate note, the TIME some folks invest in games can be legit complaint for a significant other to make, but NOT the games themselves.)
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Sergeant Spot
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Posted - 2005.04.15 12:54:00 -
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Edited by: Sergeant Spot on 15/04/2005 13:55:22 This has been posted on this forum before, but if you have not listened to it yet, do so now.
It is fits this thread PERFECTLY:)
Listen to the whole thing, it is not just the love song it sounds like at the start
http://wolf.members.winisp.net/tripod-lovesong.mp3
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Ray Beebe
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Posted - 2005.04.15 13:07:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
Take it from a fellow bastard, dump her! huuusjh, I'm hunting Wabbits!
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Stephra Parle
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Posted - 2005.04.15 13:48:00 -
[180]
Well, I'm glad to hear the situation has improved, although I may be a little sceptical as to how long it will last.
I can't really say anything constructive that hasn't already been brought up, except for a little bit of advice. If you have any (extremely trustworthy) RL friends who you play Eve with, you can give them your log in details, so if you ever need to change skills over, it only takes a phone call. I have this set up with one of my closest friends and it certainly saves a lot of headaches when work or travel gets in the way of valuable Eve time.
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feiht'd'ero
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Posted - 2005.04.15 14:04:00 -
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I didnt read the 9 pages of replies so forgive if its been said but hey why dont you tell here you have "girlfrien day" and spoil her rotten 1 buy her flowers 20 assorted colour roses 2 A slap up meal in a s****y cafe 3 a night at the movies where you explain to here that when you get home you have a sexy suprise 4 show her the sexeh Galantean mining alt you have created for her to use. if it dont work dump her and look for your older model
ps dont supose you could mail me the older models number by any chance ?
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Roshan longshot
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Posted - 2005.04.15 14:41:00 -
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Here is how you do this mate: Set long training skill, Dont cancel account but remove icon from desktop.
Now here is the way around her demands. Tell her you need a new hobby, rebuilding motorcycles.... Buy a basket case bike, some 2nd hand tools, lots of part books, and as many spare junk parts you can get your hands on.
over the next couple of weeks, always have some grease, oil, tools, book, and parts around the house.
When she complains about this, say "Hey you made me leave eve already, now you want me to give up my only other hobby?"
Worked for me. Anyone want to buy some "Used" bike parts?
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Driven
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Posted - 2005.04.15 15:18:00 -
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In any relationship, anyone who issues ultimatims about anything that the partner values is displaying a clearly narcissistic nature. They love themselves more than they care about you, and either you can take it or leave it.
It clearly sounds like you are being asked to be a little planet revolving around her as the center of your universe.
It isn't about EVE. Its much bigger than that.
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Carinae
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Posted - 2005.04.15 15:55:00 -
[184]
This post makes me love my wife more and more !
She gave me an ultimatum a month or so ago, either more time with the kids and less Eve or no "Bed Lovin" for a month, I took more then 10 secs to reply so for a few weeks I was playing Eve more
We chatted for half an hour and came to a compromise, I be responsible for the two kids all day Saturday, (Meals, bath, story, bed etc.) I go on the computer after 9pm each evening after playing with kids and giving her more of my time. (I now play 9pm to 3am sometimes though!)
Has been working for more then a month now, I play Eve 6 evenings a week, she gets a days rest from sorting the kids out.
Not directly helpful, but haveing the 30 min chat sorted our differences and we accept the others wishes.
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Ticondrius
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Posted - 2005.04.15 16:09:00 -
[185]
Going to approach this from 2 angles...
1. CEO Pyrex Ditch the bi**h. I don't give a damn how pretty she might be, not worth losing your own freedoms for. If you want to play EVE, well by dammit, play EVE! She doesn't like it, she can go suck on a lemon on the front step after you boot her out.
2. Dealing with wife/sig other Fairly simple. Play EVE. However, work with the game to adjust it to fit your level of attention you can spare it. Anything from training a BS skill and not logging in for a month, to making a new corp in Empire and playing the game without a horde of empire wars on your back. Nothing like 20 min streches of AFK travelling in high sec space to let you pay attention to her or the kids. PvP...save it for late night, or when she and the kids are out. It's just too demanding, and she might try to talk to you while playing and get ****ed because you're not paying attention, pull the power on your PC, and your ship goes boom.
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Kadarin
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Posted - 2005.04.15 16:17:00 -
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Originally by: Driven In any relationship, anyone who issues ultimatims about anything that the partner values is displaying a clearly narcissistic nature. They love themselves more than they care about you, and either you can take it or leave it.
It clearly sounds like you are being asked to be a little planet revolving around her as the center of your universe.
It isn't about EVE. Its much bigger than that.
I agree. While I haven't read this whole thread, what I have read indicates that this is not a complaint about the amount of time he spends playing nor that she feels that she is neglected. It seems more an issue of control, that she wants everything in his life to revolve around her. If he were to do anything, have any interests, pursue any hobbies, that didn't go along with her little idea of what "the perfect boyfriend" should be, she'd come down just as hard on him.
She strikes me as not being particularly mature.
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Kayoss
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Posted - 2005.04.15 16:52:00 -
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Put your foot down !! TELL her that you are still going to play EVE. I had a smoking hot girlfriend for the last 7 years and I finally woke up and got rid of her a couple weeks ago. She started out the same as yours seems to be, then she would get mad at me if I went out with my friends, slept in, you name it. So I put my foot down and told her how it was going to work. Worked fairly well for a couple years until I started doing anual trips to Thailand with a couple of my friends.
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PearI
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Posted - 2005.04.15 16:58:00 -
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Quote: a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
[sarcasm] wow, you are one hell of a guy there. [/sarcasm]
you buy your girlfriend chocolates and wine in hopes it will make her leave you alone? are you sure she isnt the one who broke up with you?
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Death Merchant
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Posted - 2005.04.15 17:36:00 -
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Ok.. 1.A good woman is better than EVE. I love eve as a game, but if my wife told me her or eve, well its been nice playing. I dont think tomB will come to your home to keep you warm at nights.
2.If you live together you will learn that if your unhappy your home still functions, If your woman is unhappy...god help you.
3.If she is really hot. Im talking super model drop dead gorgeous, then quit playing eve and ride the wave out. You can always come back to eve, but drop dead gorgeous super model chicks aren't everywhere. No matter what is said on forums.
4.If she has lots of really fine girlfriends.. dont do anything drastic till you at least find out if you can do a trade.
5.If shes really hot and really rich then your stupid for even risking her. Cancel you ISP immediately.
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mahhy
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Posted - 2005.04.15 18:58:00 -
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Originally by: Death Merchant I dont think tomB will come to your home to keep you warm at nights.
I dunno.. how much ISK you got? I bet he would
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Taaser
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Posted - 2005.04.15 19:26:00 -
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Edited by: Taaser on 15/04/2005 19:27:37
Originally by: 0seeker0 Damn! you UGLEEE girl
You would probably think so, judging by that ugly mug of a character portrait I have, lol.
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Cinnander
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Posted - 2005.04.15 21:11:00 -
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Edited by: Cinnander on 15/04/2005 21:13:14 AS it has been said, if she can't respect one small facet of "you" (although one to which you dedicate a lot of your time), then you have several options, I guess. I have never had much luck with the ladies tbh, but that's just to lacking social capabilities more than "OMG YOU PLAY EVE???", but a lot of what has been said here made sense to a complete social n00b like me;
- Either you turn it back on her and become intolerant to something SHE likes to make your point... [ú500 handbag? Helloooo romantic weekend in France (for one)]. An example could be "Well, I think fashion is stupid, you buy all these clothes and wear them for all of 4 weeks. It's stupid, I never want you to buy anything you aren't going to wear until it needs replacing again. Ever."
- Or you go via the "value me as a person" talking method.... ie "Well that's just part of my personality, the only bad that's come from it so far is what you've made of it yourself [truth]. If you have a good reason I'm listening. If you just don't think it's cool to be seen with your freinds with someone who plays 'childish computer games' in tow, then basically I'm just a peice in a game of social chess? Or maybe you can't stand that I'm talking to someone else but you." Show here that we are like.. real people, not all like stereotypical geeks who sit around discussing if Picard > Kirk, or if the new "Algebra and You" magazine has any interesting articles in it.
Would help if you knew what exactly it is she has a problem with I think.
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Kashre
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Posted - 2005.04.15 22:16:00 -
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Originally by: Death Merchant Ok.. 1.A good woman is better than EVE. I love eve as a game, but if my wife told me her or eve, well its been nice playing. I dont think tomB will come to your home to keep you warm at nights.
2.If you live together you will learn that if your unhappy your home still functions, If your woman is unhappy...god help you.
3.If she is really hot. Im talking super model drop dead gorgeous, then quit playing eve and ride the wave out. You can always come back to eve, but drop dead gorgeous super model chicks aren't everywhere. No matter what is said on forums.
4.If she has lots of really fine girlfriends.. dont do anything drastic till you at least find out if you can do a trade.
5.If shes really hot and really rich then your stupid for even risking her. Cancel you ISP immediately.
DM
Thats the worst advice Ive ever heard. I'll take an ugly chick (preferably good in bed) who lets me do the things I enjoy over a model hot chick (who wont be hot forever) any day.
If she's not willing to compromise about your hobies, she wont compromise about anything else either. Trust me Ive been there. I was with a girl once who picked everything out one at a time. First I couldnt play my wargames, then I couldnt play my computer games, then I couldnt spend time with freinds that happened to be girls (wether we were alone or not), then some freinds who WERENT girls... she was hot, but she was not worth it. +++
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