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Rain6637
Team Evil
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Posted - 2014.03.03 18:48:00 -
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i don't know if the site still works this way, but i had some success with hot or not. lol this was like, 8 years ago. it was pretty simple: post a picture that gets rated, and you can message people. no need for a r+¬sum+¬. a guy i knew from work had something lined up every weekend (sometimes he would ask me to join him after finding someone with a friend), and his picture was just him smiling, shirtless, wearing a cowboy hat in the sunlight. Rainfleet on Twitch |
XNCReman
Soviet Directorate of Eve
24
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Posted - 2014.03.04 06:46:00 -
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Hot or not is still around,.... I don't do the brothel thing, paying for sex is not my style. And like I said, I am looking for someone who has some kind of common interest and decent personalty, thatGÇÖs not ugly or obese. Oh and from my experiences, 35 year old women and the same maturity as a 18 year old when it come to relationships, so it does not really matter how old she is.
Just have a few brick walls when it comes to my views on marriage and monogamy, I don't think women want to hear "I don't believe in marriage, and I don't really believe in monogamy but I believe in being committed to someone, and open to having children," not to mention the whole pile of other stuff about me that can fill a book.
Yes for clothing, IGÇÖm going to have to wear what works and "act" what works, ill just use a differnt wardrobe I've talked to my ex-girlfriend about this(we are still friends) she said, with the way a lot of women are, you have to dress and act mainstream, and I have to hide my true self from them and slowly reveal it to them in stages as they get more attached to me. I could make this work, if I approach it like a social experiential, plus I see how it gives me a lot more power over the women, if I don't like her, all I have to do is start dressing and acting like my normal self. How do I act mainstream? |
NightCrawler 85
Phoibe Enterprises
1481
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Posted - 2014.03.04 08:24:00 -
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Writing this on a phone so reply will be short.
No offense to your x gfs but that advice is really bad. Sure, some girls will fall in love with you because of nice clothes and a fancy car, in most cases if they are either teenagers or your a millionaire that is likely to have a heart attack shortly after your wedding. For some reason I doubt that's the kind of relationship you really want.
However, it's possible to dress proper on your first few dates (a t- shirt that has holes big enough for your arm pit hair to stick out can stay in the closet for a while ). That does not Mann you should change your style. If you normally dress like a goth, do so. If you dress like your going to church do that! If your thing is a cowboy hat and red boots wear that.
You would want the girl to fall in love with you, who you are and what you are, not an idea you created to get her attention. Of course she will eventually want to make some changes (like getting rid of that awful t- shirt) but this tends to go both ways. . No one is perfect.
If I understood you correctly. You will have a harder time if you are looking for someone who is ok with having an open relationship tho. . The not getting married thing is getting more and more common, but I can see how "having to share"your better half would be difficult for many both because of jealousy and that person's morals. Phoibe Enterprises official recruitment thread The Eve Reader - -áAudio Recordings of Eve Chronicles
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Astenion
Nephilim Coalition
356
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Posted - 2014.03.04 10:47:00 -
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The not believing in marriage thing I can understand, but are you REALLY surprised that you can't find a committed relationship when you say, "I don't believe in monogamy"? That's the entire point of a relationship. If you don't believe in monogamy, why are you trying to find a committed relationship? Are you saying that you would rather just sleep with a bunch of different beautiful women for the rest of your life instead of one? Welcome to every male fantasy ever. Why don't you start complaining that you don't own a Lamborghini while you're at it?
Look, the world doesn't revolve around you and no one cares about what you want. You have to make choices and sacrifices, and if you're just not built that way, then you have to accept that you will be alone for a large part of your life unless you get lucky and find a woman who is willing to have children, settle down, and still let you screw other women. By the way, when you do find her, also go buy a lottery ticket immediately because you're the luckiest sonofabitch that ever lived. |
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
5792
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Posted - 2014.03.04 13:59:00 -
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this thread should be a television show. there's several episodes worth of awkward helpless romantic comedy material here. a clever producer could fill in the blanks for continuity. |
Commissar Kate
Team Evil
51166
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Posted - 2014.03.04 14:02:00 -
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Eurydia Vespasian wrote:this thread should be a television show. there's several episodes worth of awkward helpless romantic comedy material here. a clever producer could fill in the blanks for continuity.
Haha, lets crowdfund it and start it. People, who talk, don't know. People, who know, don't talk.
Unlocking all racial clothing |
XNCReman
Soviet Directorate of Eve
24
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Posted - 2014.03.04 18:21:00 -
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Its a very complex subject for people to understand, I could write a very long essay about it. Because of societal values that are ingrained into your head as a child. Most people are brought up to view things in black and white. So when they hear about someone who does not believe in marriage and questions monogamy, they automatically think the person is a sex addict who can't make commitments, and most of the time they don't know how to respond. I don't grudge people for it, as its just a evolutionary trait that all social animals have. And the fact its stills around, means its useful.
I think there is a show called that, Seinfeld or curb your enthusiasm
I called her out about it being a bad idea when she said it., a friend of mine said one of his female friends gave similar advice as well, I largely believe its just an attempt for women to troll other women in a oh so passive aggressive way. I did date a girl who was integrating me to spill my guts about everything on a first date, I literary said "WTF kind of question is that to ask on a first date?, Like who does it"
Like I said, IGÇÖll change my clothing around a little bit, avoid cretin things of personalty expression and personality, and see what happens. I'll try to what looks goods.
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Rain6637
Team Evil
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Posted - 2014.03.04 18:50:00 -
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btw, spring is mating season in parts of the world with fairer weather. all of canada is missing out Rainfleet on Twitch |
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
5814
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Posted - 2014.03.04 20:04:00 -
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It's mating season in Minnesota all year long. We can't afford to wait for it to be warm. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11390
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Posted - 2014.03.05 01:44:00 -
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or go outside. does that explain keeping it in the family Rainfleet on Twitch |
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Astenion
Nephilim Coalition
356
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Posted - 2014.03.05 10:44:00 -
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OP, I only hope that you can love yourself and realize that you don't NEED anyone. Good luck and don't settle...this is YOUR life and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Don't ever let anyone tell you you aren't good enough for them. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
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Posted - 2014.03.05 15:06:00 -
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is that what your mum tells you? wait, what else did my parents tell me... OH yeah sex is something sacred two people share when they're in love. Thought you might find that useful, Astenion and also
G T F O Rainfleet on Twitch |
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
5833
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Posted - 2014.03.05 16:17:00 -
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Rain6637 wrote:sex is something best shared between two people when they're in love.
there.
in the absence of the variable of love it's just...good. some better than others. but it's best when there is love in the equation imo. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11399
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Posted - 2014.03.05 19:02:00 -
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just two people? whatever eevee, suckit/borrr-ringgg Rainfleet on Twitch |
Sibyyl
122
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Posted - 2014.03.05 20:23:00 -
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This thread is funny! Now that you are *campers* you will have more *parties* and no more *sad* *lonely* *bubbles*. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11413
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Posted - 2014.03.06 03:09:00 -
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I'm going to say most people (not just women) don't know what they want, but instead they will be enthusiastic about someone other people want. sort of like keeping up with the joneses, with arm candy or someone to flaunt, they have a pretty good feeling about the types of people who would cause envy among their friends.
it's a social thing. at a basic level it means you'd allow yourself to be objectified, but I doubt you would take much issue with that, or have a serious need to be liked for who you are..
I know I don't. Rainfleet on Twitch |
NightCrawler 85
Phoibe Enterprises
1484
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Posted - 2014.03.06 09:03:00 -
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Rain6637 wrote:I'm going to say most people (not just women) don't know what they want, but instead they will be enthusiastic about someone other people want. sort of like keeping up with the joneses, with arm candy or someone to flaunt, they have a pretty good feeling about the types of people who would cause envy among their friends.
it's a social thing. at a basic level it means you'd allow yourself to be objectified, but I doubt you would take much issue with that, or have a serious need to be liked for who you are..
I know I don't.
Been reading over this one a few times, and i want to comment but tiredness makes it hard to put my thoughts into words so be patient with me.
First off i do agree that most people dont really know what they want. Heck even those who do know and have a nice handy list with a list of "requirements" often find them self's in a position where they fall in love with a person who does not meet any of them. It simply cant be controlled.
I also agree that people often will feel attracted to someone because other people are and they dont want to seem "weird", but i think this is more prominent with younger people (teenagers, young adults). People who are still struggling figuring out who and what they are, and want to be accepted by the community they are a part off.
However, i think a lot of it is also fear that people wont respect, or accept your choice in a partner. Religious beliefs, sexual preference, race, age, personality and so on... There are so many ways a person can look at someones partner and say "Thats so wrong!", and while most don't care enough to let these comments affect them it does not mean that it does not bother the person, or even both of them.
So, to avoid this people will often try to find a life partner the people in their close community will like and accept, even if this might mean that they them self are not as happy as they could be. In simple words, they settle because in the long run thats easier then putting up with years or resentment for your choices.
Personally i have been on both sides of this. Was in a relationship with someone everyone in my family loved and adored, but the relationship ruined me both mentally and physically. Still to this day, 10 years later, im getting grief because i broke up with "the perfect guy".
Then 5 years ago i met the person i ended up getting married to, and in my families and friends opinion i was making the biggest mistake of my life! First off because he lived in America, while i was in Norway. Second because he dident speak Norwegian. Third because of our age difference (about 10 years). Forth because he already has a daughter from a previous relationship, and neither wants more.
When i told my mother he had proposed and i had said yes she yelled at me then left the room, then came back and snarled "Well guess i should say gratulations" followed by friends telling me how i was going to regret and have no way out, and my sister being furious at me because..well im still not sure what she was actually angry about
So, i care what people think about me , but unless it comes from my better half i try to shrug it off because in the long run no one can tell me what will make me happy, and if i had refused to be with someone who isent considered "appropriate" by everyone in my family and my friends.. well i would be single for a long long time and eventually find my self in a miserable relationship, watching Titanic and cry my eyes out because i would want to feel like that about someone (ok i admit it, i still cry my eyes out but come on! Its a sad movie ).
And i should not be allowed on the forums after midnight. Phoibe Enterprises official recruitment thread The Eve Reader - -áAudio Recordings of Eve Chronicles
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Sibyyl
125
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Posted - 2014.03.06 17:58:00 -
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People (women *and* men) make superficial choices based on looks, social acceptance, how rich someone might be or appear to be, race, the list goes on.. you can spend a lot of time trying to understand why did he talk to me? or why did she just turn away before I could talk to her?
If someone is interested in the size of your wallet, and let's say that your interest in that someone is only superficial too then it's fine and you should play that game. But I think a lot of people aren't cut out for that game, and if you want to actually like someone who likes you for superficial reasons, you're setting yourself up.
I like being liked for superficial reasons. Very few people can enjoy a pure romance of the mind (I'm not one of them). But if superficial reasons are that's all that exists then I start looking for the eject button. There's a podkill analogy in there somewhere.. hmm.
/Fÿ¡
Now that you are *campers* you will have more *parties* and no more *sad* *lonely* *bubbles*. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11467
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Posted - 2014.03.06 20:18:00 -
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Moms don't know **** about what's best for you.
parents are haters. Rainfleet on Twitch |
Eli Green
The Arrow Project
1098
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Posted - 2014.03.06 22:44:00 -
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Commissar Kate wrote:Eurydia Vespasian wrote:this thread should be a television show. there's several episodes worth of awkward helpless romantic comedy material here. a clever producer could fill in the blanks for continuity. Haha, lets crowdfund it and start it.
Where do I give my money? wumbo |
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XNCReman
Soviet Directorate of Eve
25
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Posted - 2014.03.08 00:36:00 -
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I was looking at some new cloths today... I don't know if I'm going to feel right wearing them, i'm going to feel like a D-bag wearing them, lol |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11565
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Posted - 2014.03.08 08:08:00 -
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it's just an outfit. as an example, wearing a suit doesn't make you a different person, it's just appropriate attire for a social setting Rainfleet on Twitch |
Astenion
Nephilim Coalition
358
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Posted - 2014.03.08 11:14:00 -
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Rain6637 wrote:Moms don't know **** about what's best for you.
parents are haters and out of touch at best.
mine will always have something to say, when they should just be happy that i'm happy. so, i decided a long time ago that my love interests are none of their business.
The fact that you actually brought parents into this shows that you still need to pop that ***** out of your mouth. Go be all teen angst-y somewhere else. |
Astenion
Nephilim Coalition
358
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Posted - 2014.03.08 11:17:00 -
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Rain6637 wrote:it's just an outfit. as an example, wearing a suit doesn't make you a different person, it's just appropriate attire for a social setting
That's ********. There is being well-dressed and then there is dressing like a complete d-bag. I bet you wear skinny jeans. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
11600
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Posted - 2014.03.08 14:49:00 -
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lol anyway Rainfleet on Twitch |
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
5928
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Posted - 2014.03.08 15:39:00 -
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Astenion wrote:I bet you wear skinny jeans.
he soooo does. I SEEN IT!
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Rain6637
Team Evil
11693
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Posted - 2014.03.08 20:09:00 -
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eevee you're thinking of some other hottie. I do not wear skinny jeans Rainfleet on Twitch |
Rain6637
Team Evil
12050
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Posted - 2014.03.12 10:14:00 -
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Quote:another person that knows what makes you tick and you what makes them tick. thats an amazing feeling. wake up beside a person and feel truly happy. i wouldn't trade that for the world n++
Quote:that's what i have me for Rainfleet on Twitch |
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters Disturbed Acquaintance
6060
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Posted - 2014.03.12 13:28:00 -
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Rain6637 wrote:Quote:another person that knows what makes you tick and you what makes them tick. thats an amazing feeling. wake up beside a person and feel truly happy. i wouldn't trade that for the world n++ Quote:that's what i have me for
awww, that's sweet. |
Rain6637
Team Evil
12071
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Posted - 2014.03.12 13:58:00 -
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of course it is, i'm prince charming Rainfleet on Twitch |
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