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Estephania
Independent Political Analysts
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:36:00 -
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May be it's off topic, but here my 2 cent:
girls life and guys life have different time frames. A guy in his early 30-s, single with a good promising career is someone many ppl look at with envy If the girl is in her early 30-s and she's not burdened with a relationship and kids, ppl are starting to think what a poor creature she is. So men and women are different and are treated differently even in our modern society.
Just my ramblings.
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari The Delta Source Dread Sovereign
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:39:00 -
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Originally by: Rialtor Nothing wrong with being single, I say enjoy it :).
Damn right. Consider it a me time. Go out and do what you want and enjoy it.
I've had 5 years of me time and I'm loving it. Just me and my gang.
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Kerpow
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:44:00 -
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To the guy who lost his GF to a dude in WoW, do you miss her or are you glad that she is history?
Has she tried to make contact with you, or have you tried to contact her?
IMHO, I reckon you're better off without her. Also, I would suggest you put some real life socialising time and effort to mix with people. Playing computer games for most of your spare time might not be the best thing.
There are over 3 billion women in the world, go and meet some of them! ;-)
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Genevive Gallente
Dark Nexxus
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:46:00 -
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Originally by: Estephania May be it's off topic, but here my 2 cent:
girls life and guys life have different time frames. A guy in his early 30-s, single with a good promising career is someone many ppl look at with envy If the girl is in her early 30-s and she's not burdened with a relationship and kids, ppl are starting to think what a poor creature she is. So men and women are different and are treated differently even in our modern society.
Just my ramblings.
This is true. I am past all that. My daughter is grown. I am 41 and enjoying being single and doing what I want to do.
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Rialtor
Amarr Yarrrateers Knights Of Syndicate
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:46:00 -
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Originally by: Estephania May be it's off topic, but here my 2 cent:
girls life and guys life have different time frames. A guy in his early 30-s, single with a good promising career is someone many ppl look at with envy If the girl is in her early 30-s and she's not burdened with a relationship and kids, ppl are starting to think what a poor creature she is. So men and women are different and are treated differently even in our modern society.
Just my ramblings.
Yes, but men and women are different, there's biological reasons for that age gap. The female's proverbal clock is ticking. While men aren't on that same timeframe.So I don't think it's really sexist per say, if that's what your rabbling was induced by.
A man in his 30s with a promising career is an earner, he can provide for his family, while we aren't animals are driven by similiar instincts.
For a woman having children in her late 30s, early 40s can be dangerous. So I think this is a major factor when thinking about timeframes between men and women. So I think society sees these factors and creates a "proper" timeframe.
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Genevive Gallente
Dark Nexxus
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:47:00 -
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Originally by: Bish Ounen
Originally by: Genevive Gallente
Hmm, cumdumpster. I like it. Two guys in 22 years and I have become a cumdumpster. Perhaps that is why I am single and not dating. To avoid jerks that think because a gal ends up in 2 abusive relationships she is therefore a *****. Very nice.
Sorry, the cumdumpster part wasn't aimed at you. I actually agree with most of what you have said, just wanted to add some "other side" perspective to the discussion.
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Malcanis
Deep Core Mining Inc.
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:48:00 -
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Originally by: Max Nero Edited by: Max Nero on 09/01/2008 22:11:50 Off topic but how the hell "cumdumpsters" gets past the filter and "safe9uarded" doesn't?
I guess we're getting a reading on what CCP want to see on their forums.
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Estephania
Independent Political Analysts
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Posted - 2008.01.09 22:55:00 -
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Originally by: Rialtor
Originally by: Estephania May be it's off topic, but here my 2 cent:
girls life and guys life have different time frames. A guy in his early 30-s, single with a good promising career is someone many ppl look at with envy If the girl is in her early 30-s and she's not burdened with a relationship and kids, ppl are starting to think what a poor creature she is. So men and women are different and are treated differently even in our modern society.
Just my ramblings.
Yes, but men and women are different, there's biological reasons for that age gap. The female's proverbal clock is ticking. While men aren't on that same timeframe.So I don't think it's really sexist per say, if that's what your rabbling was induced by.
A man in his 30s with a promising career is an earner, he can provide for his family, while we aren't animals are driven by similiar instincts.
For a woman having children in her late 30s, early 40s can be dangerous. So I think this is a major factor when thinking about timeframes between men and women. So I think society sees these factors and creates a "proper" timeframe.
Not sexist, just observation, seeing how this thread evolved from being about a case of GF dumping a guy for WoW player to a thread about relationships and stuff. I actually agree with you. I'm approaching 30, and most of the girls my age are married, some with kids. While I'm enjoying life, having fun, traveling and such. While if I were a girl, I would have probably been gently pushed by the "environment" to settle down, create a family and so on.
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Rialtor
Amarr Yarrrateers Knights Of Syndicate
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:09:00 -
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Edited by: Rialtor on 09/01/2008 23:11:24 Edited by: Rialtor on 09/01/2008 23:09:57
Originally by: Estephania
Not sexist, just observation, seeing how this thread evolved from being about a case of GF dumping a guy for WoW player to a thread about relationships and stuff. I actually agree with you. I'm approaching 30, and most of the girls my age are married, some with kids. While I'm enjoying life, having fun, traveling and such. While if I were a girl, I would have probably been gently pushed by the "environment" to settle down, create a family and so on.
Couples that get married from 20-26 are highly likely to end up divorced. It's over 50% in the States currently I believe.
You still want to have the whole family thing in your early 30s. Even 26-29 is high if I remember correctly. I guess there's something that just turns on at the big Three O that flips some kind of switch.
So you should probably get serious around 28, get married at like 30-31...start the family after a year or 2. From a statiscal point of view.
I wouldn't marry anyone that I didn't live with fro quite some time. Oh, and a prenup, those are important .
But I'm just talking hypothetically anyway, I've recently turned 26 and I'm single.
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TerrorBaBy
Caldari Caldari Provisions
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:10:00 -
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That sucks .
I'd say however, that it is quite fortunate you are intimate with an interesting, multi-dimensional girl called Eve.
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Kerpow
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:12:00 -
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Guys, your sperm quality drops off quite a lot once you're past 35. So do not think it's only women who have biological clocks. But siring offspring is not the only thing in life, even if it's one of the great things.
EVE is only a computer game. Some graphics on a screen, some names in a window and some buttons to press. Like any game it's a not a substitute for life, but then again we all need time to do nothing!
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Rialtor
Amarr Yarrrateers Knights Of Syndicate
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:15:00 -
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Edited by: Rialtor on 09/01/2008 23:14:58
Originally by: Kerpow Guys, your sperm quality drops off quite a lot once you're past 35. So do not think it's only women who have biological clocks. But siring offspring is not the only thing in life, even if it's one of the great things.
EVE is only a computer game. Some graphics on a screen, some names in a window and some buttons to press. Like any game it's a not a substitute for life, but then again we all need time to do nothing!
It's probably still enough to do the deed well into your 50-60s. unless you were low to begin with, and it's not dangerous for the man.
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Kerpow
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:16:00 -
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And don't get married just because you're at that age. If it's not right then it's not right, and dump her now for both your sakes!
As for good advice, ask your inner Hugh Hefner "What would Hef do in this situation?". Do what Hugh would do.
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Genevive Gallente
Dark Nexxus
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:17:00 -
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Originally by: Kerpow EVE is only a computer game. Some graphics on a screen, some names in a window and some buttons to press. Like any game it's a not a substitute for life, but then again we all need time to do nothing!
Anybody like to join me for an outing in the fresh air with a camera and some nature? (holds up cameras to see who she can entice away from the computer for a time)
(btw, I'm at work still so have that as my excuse for being on this board all day lol)
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Vincenzo Delloro
Amarr Lux et Veritas
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:18:00 -
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I'm very sorry for your loss. That CNR seemed like a beautiful ship.
P.S. As for the GF, what will happen when her e-lover realises she's a fatty? (There's only so much Myspace angles can hide in real life.)
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Kerpow
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:21:00 -
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Originally by: Rialtor It's probably still enough to do the deed well into your 50-60s. unless you were low to begin with, and it's not dangerous for the man.
It's not that, it's that the DNA in the sperm is not as good as it was. So you're kid's DNA is not as good as it could be. There is an increased risk of congenital defects, for example.
Just like the eggs going off, so does the sperm. Take a look at a 40 year old, is their skin etc as good as that of a 20 year old? So why would you expect them to produce as healthy children as a 20 year old.
But still, that doesn't mean you should rush to have kids!
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Estephania
Independent Political Analysts
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:29:00 -
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Edited by: Estephania on 09/01/2008 23:29:32 It's just a matter of priorities in life. My friend got married in 22 and has 3 kids now. For me there are other goals in life, it's all very personal. No one should do anything just because "it's time".
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari The Delta Source Dread Sovereign
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:33:00 -
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Originally by: Genevive Gallente
Originally by: Kerpow EVE is only a computer game. Some graphics on a screen, some names in a window and some buttons to press. Like any game it's a not a substitute for life, but then again we all need time to do nothing!
Anybody like to join me for an outing in the fresh air with a camera and some nature? (holds up cameras to see who she can entice away from the computer for a time)
(btw, I'm at work still so have that as my excuse for being on this board all day lol)
I've already got a good chunk of my state photographed. In the summer time I'm hardly ever near a pc.
And yes I'm a forum ***** during the day also.
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari The Delta Source Dread Sovereign
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:51:00 -
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Originally by: Genevive Gallente
Originally by: Rialtor
Originally by: Genevive Gallente
Originally by: Micheal Dietrich I've already got a good chunk of my state photographed. In the summer time I'm hardly ever near a pc.
And yes I'm a forum ***** during the day also.
This is actually my first day in the forum. And I must say it has been quite enlightening.
I take photographs in my spare time on weekends. Quite an enjoyable hobby. I have most of the Bay Area photographed but am afraid I lost quite a bit when my operating system became corrupted (I deserve flaming here as I did not back up my photos so please feel free. I will take it in good grace.)
So make with the photobucket, imageshack, etc. linking :P.
I have the photos on my myspace. There are several albums. Check out the 4th of July, and flowers albums for some nice pics. =)
Linkage made easy by Dietrich and co.
No need to comment on my pic. I'm 41. I already know I'm old.
Sorry, it's a hobby of mine.
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Genevive Gallente
Dark Nexxus
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Posted - 2008.01.09 23:58:00 -
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Originally by: Micheal Dietrich
Linkage made easy by Dietrich and co.
Sorry, it's a hobby of mine.
I think I am going to have to watch you and your hobbies Micheal. =)
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Rialtor
Amarr Yarrrateers Knights Of Syndicate
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Posted - 2008.01.10 00:00:00 -
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Originally by: Genevive Gallente
I have the photos on my myspace. There are several albums. Check out the 4th of July, and flowers albums for some nice pics. =)
http://www.myspace.com/sfsweet
No need to comment on my pic. I'm 41. I already know I'm old.
Very nice, have you posted them anywhere before? I swear I've seen that purple flower one before, but maybe it's just me. And what kind of camera do you use?
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Genevive Gallente
Dark Nexxus
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Posted - 2008.01.10 00:01:00 -
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Edited by: Genevive Gallente on 10/01/2008 00:02:00
Originally by: Rialtor
Very nice, have you posted them anywhere before? I swear I've seen that purple flower one before, but maybe it's just me. And what kind of camera do you use?
Yes they are also on Facebook and artistrising.com. Not all of them. Just a few of my best.
I have 2 different cameras. One is just a pocket Olympus D-595 as I hate being without a camera. The other is a Canon Rebel XT DSLR.
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Draconius Krynar
Gallente Center for Advanced Studies
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Posted - 2008.01.11 08:25:00 -
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Originally by: Kerpow To the guy who lost his GF to a dude in WoW, do you miss her or are you glad that she is history?
Has she tried to make contact with you, or have you tried to contact her?
IMHO, I reckon you're better off without her. Also, I would suggest you put some real life socialising time and effort to mix with people. Playing computer games for most of your spare time might not be the best thing.
There are over 3 billion women in the world, go and meet some of them! ;-)
Hi ya, felt compelled to answer this one..
Yes I miss her, I miss her mostly at night when there's no one around and we used to chat. It's like i've lost my best friend, but worse because that person stabbed me in the back and it all happened so fast (to me anyway).
Yes, I have attempted to speak to her since. She's put up this barrier where she deflects, denies or outright lies to avoid saying her true feelings. I guess that's how she wants to deal with this. Makes it easier for her to think that I'm the big bad and she's absolved of any blame.. it'll really start to bite into her when looser-WOW dumps her. (Incidentally, she doesn't think it will last long either)
To make it even worse, she's also is a self harmer. I noticed fresh cuts on her arms and asked her why, she blamed me for them. It's then that I realised that I could be the world's most dedicated, attentive, loving, caring and patient lover and it wouldn't matter, I'd still get the blame if anything went wrong.
Having thought about this carefully, I executed my next trick up my sleeve. I went around there to see if she cared about what she's done. She claimed she didn't, thinking that she has all the power in this. I didn't believe her. So I removed everything of value that I had there. When I tried to take her PC which I paid for, have receipts for and can prove everything is mine, she stood in the way and her mother called the police on me. I left her house as requested without the PC, but got a police officer escorted me later to enter again and collect more items. I'm in the process of getting a court order to get that PC and her mobile phone back. Then she will be left with nothing to show from this relationship, which is about what she admitted to me that she put in for the last 3 years.
Now some of you might say that's vindictive, spiteful, that I was better off walking away and forgetting about her. But I know her. I want her to hate me because it makes it easier for me. There's no chance that when WOW-Loser dumps her in a couple of weeks that she'll come crawling back and beg for forgiveness. When it comes to her, I'm weak. I need to be strong.
Thanks for the messages of support. I have read all of them and appreciated others valuable insights into this.
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Fink Angel
Caldari The Merry Men
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Posted - 2008.01.11 08:39:00 -
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Walk away, don't look back, don't stay in contact. (From Eve too if you want my opinion on that!)
Your feelings for her (and Eve) will decline over time. Whoever said "time is a great healer" wasn't wrong.
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Tivookz
Caldari The Singularity Amalgamation Pure.
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Posted - 2008.01.11 09:20:00 -
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Lol if you got dumped by her because she choose some unemployed dude who plays wow I just gotta say that she must be one ugly stupid fat hoe tbh and while it can be hard now being alone being afraid to be left alone I'd say it's better that way than being with a girl that belongs to the lowest part of the gene ladder.
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Tivookz
Caldari The Singularity Amalgamation Pure.
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Posted - 2008.01.11 09:22:00 -
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Oh and by the way, Pictures or it never happened.
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Fink Angel
Caldari The Merry Men
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Posted - 2008.01.11 09:33:00 -
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Before you even consider going back to your girlfriend when when she dumps / is dumped by WoW loser (because frankly it sounds to me that you will go back to her given the chance), read ladder theory (go straight to Foundations page first). Trust me.
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Tivookz
Caldari The Singularity Amalgamation Pure.
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Posted - 2008.01.11 09:36:00 -
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Originally by: Fink Angel Before you even consider going back to your girlfriend when when she dumps / is dumped by WoW loser (because frankly it sounds to me that you will go back to her given the chance), read ladder theory (go straight to Foundations page first). Trust me.
Link doesnt work but http://www.intellectual*****s.com/masterladder.html replace the ****'s with the english street word for prostitute.
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Max Nero
Endless Fury
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Posted - 2008.01.11 10:50:00 -
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Originally by: Fink Angel Edited by: Fink Angel on 11/01/2008 09:44:16 Edited by: Fink Angel on 11/01/2008 09:43:09 Before you even consider going back to your girlfriend when when she dumps / is dumped by WoW loser (because frankly it sounds to me that you will go back to her given the chance), read ladder theory (go straight to Foundations page first). Trust me.
Edi: Thank you poster below. Link changed to a "Tiny URL". The contents aren't offensive, even though the forums don't like the name!
DUDE, THAT IS GOLD!
Originally by: Niklo Game to become is more and more similar to prison for not aggressive people.
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Gner Dechast
Flashman Services
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Posted - 2008.01.11 10:56:00 -
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Originally by: Draconius Krynar Edited by: Draconius Krynar on 09/01/2008 09:27:22 I don't particularly care about the flames on this one.
Yesterday, my girlfriend of 4 years decided to dump me because of (amongst other tiny insignificant things), my obsession with this game. She seems to think that playing this game while i'm at my house (and not hers) is detrimental to our relationship. Regardless of the fact that I also work full time for very little money so the world of Eve is a welcome release..
I feel I must point out at this point that she's a WOW obssessed freak and she has no qualms about playing her game when we're supposed to be spending 'quality' time together.
So yeah, she dumped me. Everything was fine a week ago. We were looking at flats together. She asked me to move back in with her (and her parents) again. Then she met this guy in WOW, hit it off with him, invited him to stay with her and the rest is history... all within the space of 5 days
My condolances...
However inappropriate it may be for me to say this... in general, you are better off her leaving. I know from a personal experience, that it sure the hell doesn't feel like it after it happens (thank's a million, mother nature and retarted brain chemistry!), but if she finds herself (as the more sensitive gender to feelings) capable of doing that just like that, imagine she doing that much later, say when you have common house or even kids. (odds are you think I'm an ass and aren't reading at this point anymore)
I can attest to the fact, as well as ALL my friends, that it's an universal female trait to consider all your personal time something that's "away from common quality time" but all her activities are her personal time and heaven forbid you ever questioning that. It's not even funny how large of a percentage act like that
I chose myself not to accept that after the 5th "me or the game" ultimatum was given to me, and I told my ex to pack up and go. I haven't regretted a second.
There are alternative solutions, ofcourse. Some of my still coupled friends have opted to sneer their girl into online gaming as well, but in experience, it will have to be the same game, I warn you... (two instances of them finding something more exciting from another game, where they supposedly can fool around "unseen", have happened. Both of them tried to get back thou, first after just 4 months and the second after little over a year)
Then there's giving in, and cutting back dramatically the playing (or usually quitting completely). Some guys adapt and seem to live on, while few have become bitter and resentful over the unjust conditions they feel have placed on them.
Most recent "event" on this matter was from this Christmas. A friend of mine, Mike, was told by his wife, that she'd get a divorce unless he would stop playing. So Mike shut his game early December and when we saw him again he told that while his wife was first happy (victorious), she was less than satisfied when Mike ended up spending his Christmas mostly in various states of drunkenness.
I can relate to Mike, there is absolutely nothing to do over Christmas, althou alcoholics might not be my first alternative...
I don't know who or what to blame in today's society... But for some reason, women in general are utterly incapable of understanding that men are not commodities or pets. We equally have and need some of our own time, and just like we don't nag and whine about their comings and goings or hobbies, why do they feel they have the right to do so?
Why is my 2 hours at the PC a "threat" to the relationship, and how on earth would it be better if I am forced to sit idle with her beside the TV that is putting forth filth that is also known as soap operas. She maybe marginally more happy, getting her way, but I will be annoyed, frustrated and grumpy, giving her no positive attention in the process...
Anyway, I wish you speedy recovery from your adversities.
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