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Senghir
Amarr Deep Space Security
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:14:00 -
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I got my gf an account. Took me ages to persuade her. She likes to collect drones (as in picking up the stranded ones in space) because they are 'cute'.
*shrugs* :)
Carebear ûnoun 1. An EVE pilot who has evolved further than a dog chasing its tail. |
Haas Tabris
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:15:00 -
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it all depends on the woman...
i had one gf a while back who DESPISED computer games of all sorts. i could only play on "nights off" and couldn't talk about it at all. i had to make up all sorts of stories for what i did for 4 hours here and there... it felt like i was living in the closet, so to speak. but she was hot, so i put up with it. lol, silly me.
a while later i met a woman who was into sci-fi and all sorts of cool stuff. one night after dinner at my place i literally said "excuse me for a minute, but i need to go park a spaceship." she looked at me like "what the f are u talking about??" and i said "come here, i'll show you..." the game wasn't for her at all (she said it looked waaaay too complicated) but she thought the graphics were amazing and was totally cool with me playing a few nights a week while she was out with her friends.
so, like most everything in life, it depends...
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Beletar
The Nightshift
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:16:00 -
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Quote: I told her that i was a kind of social experiment, which she could understand was pretty exciting. But she still frowns when i sit and shout at my spaceships...
Friday PvP ops conversation on Ventrilo...
Beletar: F**k'n primaried again. There goes another ship.
Mrs. Beletar: Shhh! Be quiet, you dont want your children to say things like that. (from other room)
Beletar: (Not listening to wife) F**k lost the pod too.
The wife does not understand. Oh wait... maybe I dont understand. |
Grr
Amarr Epitoth Fleetyards Vigilia Valeria
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:18:00 -
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Just tell her you found a new girlfriend who costs less per month to enjoy and guarantees to go down on you once a day.
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Able Maldonado
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:32:00 -
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I can see it now:
Her: Are you coming to bed soon? It's one in the morning.
Me: I'm camped in with an aggression timer atm and I'd like to log in station tonight. I think it might be another hour or so.
Her: WTF!?!?!?
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Neermark
JotunHeim Hird Aurora Borealis Foundation
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:32:00 -
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Originally by: Grr Just tell her you found a new girlfriend who costs less per month to enjoy and guarantees to go down on you once a day.
Be sure to pack you things, before you say something like that. Make sure also to tell that her name is Eve.... And she just got a big makeover... *insert sig* |
Casaja DTir
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:32:00 -
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I took my wife to a strip joint, got each of us a dance and a couple drinks. Then compaired the costs. She never says anything about Eve again.
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Haradgrim
Tyrell Corp INTERDICTION
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:33:00 -
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Originally by: Casaja DTir I took my wife to a strip joint, got each of us a dance and a couple drinks. Then compaired the costs. She never says anything about Eve again.
your my hero --
Originally by: CCP Oveur ...every forum whine feels like a baby pony is getting killed
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Franco Caruso
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:35:00 -
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Originally by: Casaja DTir I took my wife to a strip joint, got each of us a dance and a couple drinks. Then compaired the costs. She never says anything about Eve again.
Mine too ! You absolutely win this thread.
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Jorah Vulture
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:39:00 -
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Edited by: Jorah Vulture on 06/05/2008 17:39:29 Well I don't like what I do in these situations.
Even though I don't play that much (2 hours a day) I don't like telling girls I play online games. They don't understand it at all, specially in my age range (Been playing them since I was 12, I'm 18).
When they talk about how much are her friends addicted to games I just pretend not to hear it and quickly change the topic :P With real people I prefer to talk about my other hobbies (juggling, card magic...) |
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Res Tance
Caldari British Legion The Core Collective
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:39:00 -
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I was in exactly the Op's position a year ago. I had lived on my own for a large number of years (blissfully) and played EVE pretty much every spare hour I had. When we decided to move in together I was up front and said that I played EVE a lot, but it was only when we moved in that "a lot" actually had some meaning to her.
Instead of trying to get her to like it by explaining it in detail I should have used Xennith's line:
Originally by: Xennith
"Its a game where everyone flies spaceships and shoots each other. you cant pause it, and yes i do need this headset on. Yes i know i look silly. Ill do it in a minute, just let me dock up..."
She is not into anything computer related and couldn't grasp my attempt to rationalise what EVE meant to me, and how much enjoyment I got from it. I think my approach was wrong from the beginning though. If I could go back a year I would be very unpfront and explain exactly how much I play, to the hour. Also, I'd explain that this probably wouldn't change a massive amount when we did live together. After all, how many hours does she spend in front of the TV?
12 months later and things are much better. I have certain nights scheduled in when I will be online and she's not allowed to distract me, and there are other times when I'll be playing but if she needs me I'll log off.
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Shaded PolarBear
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:40:00 -
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Edited by: Shaded PolarBear on 06/05/2008 17:40:33 Edited by: Shaded PolarBear on 06/05/2008 17:39:51
Originally by: Morrow Disca I talk to my missus about Eve all the time. She even makes a valient attempt to follow what i'm saying. I guess the passion i have for the game comes through in the way i talk about it. If your missus cares about you she'll at the very least understand and if you're lucky she might even fake an interest like mine does.
It appears Im another one of the lucky ones like this guy. My gf is very good at appearing interested and even trys to use the slang in normal conversation. She even wanted to create her own character, and every now and again she goes out mining in a Navitas I bought her. She keeps telling me that she wants to save up for a 'mining cannon', whatever that is.
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mr id
Caldari Perkone
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:41:00 -
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Originally by: Beletar Great Topic! I had a great chuckle just reading the topic.
You are so hosed for moving in with the gf. Guarantee she will "try" to change you.
I wore my wife down.... it gets to be around 9pm (US time) nowadays and she asks "Are you going to play your game?" It used to be different which included alot of eye rolling and dirty looks with the occasional snide comment.
Yup same. Now my wife brings me ribeye steak, home made potato fries, and beer on friday nights while I sit there yelling in the headset. No more "issues" with me playing the game. Live is good. |
elohllird
Destructive Influence Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:42:00 -
[44]
Had a chuckle at this thread and the mrs says to me "im glad you find it hilarious that you find the game more important than me"
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Amastat
Caldari Omegatech
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:45:00 -
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Originally by: Able Maldonado I can see it now:
Her: Are you coming to bed soon? It's one in the morning.
Me: I'm camped in with an aggression timer atm and I'd like to log in station tonight. I think it might be another hour or so.
Her: WTF!?!?!?
Her: Nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag 5 AM
Me (eyes wide open and blood-shoot): Hold on! I'm in the middle of a huggggeee blob fight O.O
Her: Nag nag nag?!
Me: Hold on! O.O
*ship and pod explodes*
-house goes silent-
*throws GF out the window* |
Harleydavid
Hells Angels Inc.
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Posted - 2008.05.06 17:52:00 -
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I've been with my wife for 10 years and have been playing online games for almost that amount of time.
It all started off with a little counter strike.. she couldn't believe I would "practice a video game with people?" until I started winning money at LAN tournaments.
Once we had our first child I stopped playing online games for a while until a friend of mine introduced me to WoW. Seeing as my son was already 2yrs old I had no issues with the wife as long as I played during the night.
Now I've been playing EvE for almost 2 yrs and my god, the fights are numerous, funny, and completely useless. Add in another child (now 1 month old) and the whole "Wait, I need to dock" just causes the biggest problems.
In short, my wife does not, will not and does not want to understand my obsession with EvE no matter how much I try to explain. It's come down to my wife being completely against me playing but has basicallly come to the realization that the more she complains the less I'll listen.
Best of luck to you all!
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:01:00 -
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Originally by: Harleydavid It's come down to my wife being completely against me playing but has basicallly come to the realization that the more she complains the less I'll listen.
QUICK ! Make her realize that goes for everything else too
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Smantha Dering
Caldari Sam's Space Guys
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:02:00 -
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Yeah the no pause is a major issue, when she wants my attention it's alway NOW not once I dock up. She hates when I say just let me dock up. I learned a few things though.
1. Play as much as you can when the wife isn't around. 2. Pleasure the wife first, then play 3. Cook dinner 4. Take the laptop to a buds to play there cause then you're just out with the buds 5. Tell her you're off to kill the husband (who plays eve and you know who he is but he doesn't know you know) of her cousin whom she hates. 6. Spend at least twice as much on flowers every months as you do on eve |
Tommy TenKreds
Animal Mercantile Executive
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:04:00 -
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Originally by: Jorah Vulture With real people I prefer to talk about my other hobbies (juggling, card magic...)
These are somehow less nerdy hobbies, huh? |
Istvaan Shogaatsu
Caldari Guiding Hand Social Club
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:13:00 -
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Originally by: Able Maldonado tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other?
"Honey, meet my new wife. Oh yeah, and pack your bags." |
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Valan
The Fated Odyssey.
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:22:00 -
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She said 'not a problem' because putting an obstacle in the way now may mean she doesn't get what she wants.
When you move and she thinks your settled she knows full well you're gonna do as your told.
If you explain it now or when you first move in and she'll be all attentive and seem interested. Try later down the line 'it'll be that silly little spaceship game'. She may even let you play and use it against you to get things done 'oh well you played EVE all Friday night'.
You can kid yourself that its going to be different. But unless it features in the female plan you've got no chance. If you think you're going to come in and say hello and not listen to her entire day in every little detail forget it. Oh and women who say they're not like that, it's all an act trust me.
The only way I would go would be low profile (same as EVE don't get noticed) don't even mention it. Sneak on when everything else is squared away and you may be able to carry on playing.
/start sig I love old characters that post 'I've beeen playing the game four years' when I know their account has been sold on. /end sig |
Revonanist
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:22:00 -
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I played Eve, the missus played various flash games, the odd bit of Settlers. She saw the graphics and declared "I want to play that!"
Now I get podded if I don't do my household chores, and my wallet gets raided with alarming regularity.
As for explaining to a non-player, it's difficult. You can't pause the game. It's a game with 30k of other real people playing at once. Voice comms is mandatory (and sometimes amusing). It's real-time.
maybe this will help.
Rev
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Turin
Caldari Eternity INC. Mercenary Coalition
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:25:00 -
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I am going through this same thing right now, having just moved in with my GF. Quite honestly, I see big problems for her on the horizon. She is another one who will make absolutley no attempt at understanding it what so ever. She also refuses the term "hobby" and will only refer to it as "the game"
She basically hates not just internet space ships, but my computer in general.
The bad side of it is, we work pretty different hours. Shes like 8-4, I do 11-7. So she has like 3 hours to herself everyday without me being home, to do what ever she wants. So by the time I get home, and want to relax, she is ready for "together" time the second I walk in the door.
To drill it down even further. She goes to be a lot earlier than I do, so, instead of me getting that time that she goes to bed to myself... NOOOOOO... I have to go lay down with her while she falls asleep ( weather or not we have sex is irrevelent, I still have to go lay down for a while )
So, as long as I go through all that, she is willing to tolerate it on weekends. :)
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Reieth Oocoria
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:34:00 -
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I only just started playing Eve a week or so ago, but already by boyfriend of two months is getting ratty about it. He calls it names like "waiting online" and repeatedly asks when I am going to "Go out to the battlefield and shoot something." He routinely complains that I am wasting my time doing it and I should play games/watch TV/"Go out". I fear there is nothing to be done - his mind is too small.
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:35:00 -
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Originally by: Random Elite I'll be honest, my girl thinks it's pretty weird. Then I get made fun of when my roommates see me with my headset on. I tell them it's no different than them being on their Xbox with a headset.
It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back!
LMAO with tears in my eyes. I just read 2 indentical things that have happened to me.
Ti the OP, let the card fall where they may fall. Answer/Explain if she asks. Ofer for to play if she seems interested. And definately do not force it down her throat if she does not seems interested.
Slade
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Kyanzes
Amarr Utopian Research I.E.L. The ENTITY.
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:43:00 -
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That's it, slowly now..., yup.. cool. Now deactivate the mining lasers, and head to the station. Unload the minerals and start over. Believe it or not, you do this for five hours a day and it'll make your skin more soft and cause all hair from neck downwards to fall out.
--------------------------------------------- GET TO THE CHOPPA!!! The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese. |
Spectre3353
Gallente Joint Strike Squad
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:53:00 -
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I find that the best way to justify playing is to take care of anything I could be asked to do BEFORE it comes up. Do the dishes, make the bed, take out the trash, walk the dog and cook some dinner without being asked and there isn't really much justification to complain when I sit down afterwards to play some Eve (or whatever game).
P.S. I sent my wife this thread to read. I hope she doesn't get far enough down to read that I posted this. ----- http://evenewb.blogspot.com/ |
OverKill
Caldari Hadean Drive Yards Archaean Cooperative
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Posted - 2008.05.06 18:55:00 -
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Originally by: Kyanzes
That's it, slowly now..., yup.. cool. Now deactivate the mining lasers, and head to the station. Unload the minerals and start over. Believe it or not, you do this for five hours a day and it'll make your skin more soft and cause all hair from neck downwards to fall out.
THE BEST ONE EVER!!!
Hahahahahah
I actually tried to explain to my wife about EVE since she and I have been together since day 1 of EVE and here I am 5+ years later and she still doesn't get it.
She's heard everything from "Not now woman, there is a war going on" to "I'll be there in a minute, I need to get out of lowsec and dock first".
She has even complained that I bark orders like a Drill Instructor and that if I was "nicer during combat I would get better results".
Building With Tomorrow's Technology, Today! Hadean Drive Yards |
Haradgrim
Tyrell Corp INTERDICTION
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Posted - 2008.05.06 19:00:00 -
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In truth there are truly 4 things that can happen:
1) Your wife / GF can be happy about your EVE obsession, either because she plays or is just good person and cares about your happiness (yeah right)
2) Your wife / GF can be neutral towards it as she realizes that while it may be frustrating that you spend so much doing something that she has no part in, individuals need time in which to satisfy their own needs and as such allowes you to continue in order to strengthen your relationship.
3) Your wife / GF can hate EVE but accept that it is an issue of contention, this usually will result in a slow build up of anger that usually results in you fighting, etc.
4) She leaves you because you play with internet spaceships
I've experienced 1, 3, and 4
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Originally by: CCP Oveur ...every forum whine feels like a baby pony is getting killed
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Tobin Shalim
Vulcan Foundry
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Posted - 2008.05.06 19:20:00 -
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I've explained it in a way that's not all that bad:
"Baby, why do you continue to play that stupid game?"
"Well it's either I choose to spend my free time playing this game, or else out screwing other girls. Your call."
It's worked out pretty well so far. |
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