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Hamoycal Karyst
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Posted - 2008.10.30 17:50:00 -
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Yesterday i just realized that i'm too much a nerd and play too much eve. A friend invited me to a blind date with 2 girls; i realized that i don't date a girl since a very long time, yeah, that's very sad. I told him "hmm.. i don't know, i have to think about that", and he was like "WTF?! Are you serious?!!"
I have to admit that he is right: what's wrong with dating a girl, even if you don't know anything about her? Well, nothing. But here is the problem: i don't know what we could talk about, i don't know if she will like me, i don't know how i should wear... everything, i don't know how i should behave. The most important thing is that i don't know what to talk about with her. I'm scared, i think "what will she think about me?!, what if i will run out of words and we will be there sitting in front of each other silently".
How sad is this? A lot i think, but this is my situation. What do you think about this? Please don't say that i'm pathetic, i already know that. Maybe i should refuse the date? (it is tomorrow).
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Meiyang Lee
Gallente Azteca Transportation Unlimited Gunboat Diplomacy
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Posted - 2008.10.30 18:04:00 -
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Probably the best thing is to be yourself, dress in something that looks nice on you, but is also comfortable. As you said, it's a blind date, neither side knows anything about the other, if anything you'll have spent an evening talking and getting to know new people, and if it works out you may have a lot more.
Just go for it, i'd say, certainly can't hurt.
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Khandara Seraphim
StarHunt Fallout Project
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Posted - 2008.10.30 18:22:00 -
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mistake number one is being in that situation.
mistake number two is asking the internet nerd spaceship forum about it.
Just go out, have fun, make an ass of yourself... the worst that'll happen is she doesn't like you and then you know what? You're in the SAME PLACE YOU WERE BEFORE!
And who knows, maybe she'll be super turned on by spaceships and you'll make a baby.
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Slade Trillgon
Masuat'aa Matari Ushra'Khan
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Posted - 2008.10.30 18:41:00 -
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Nothing wrong with being shy, but do not down yourself so much bro. Find the things that you like about yourself and focus on those. Go out on a double date you have backup for the times when you run out of words. Your friend or one of the girls will pick up the convo when you drop off and you wait till another bit comes up that you can roll with.
Other then that act yourself. Girls are real sensitive to personalities and can pick up real quick if you are putting on an act. If you goof up, jest about it, if you get to serious apologize, and over time it will just become easier to talk with women.
Take the offer and roll with it. The worst that can happen will only make you stronger and you will have one more experiance to draw from the next time you go out.
P.S. I used to be in the same boat when I was younger. It gets easier, trust me, but you need to get out and practice.
Slade
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Dmian
Gallente Gallenterrorisme
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:09:00 -
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If you want to have something to talk about, just ask. Star by her name. Try to know her, what she likes, etc. Dig. Avoid talking explicitly about sex, unless you know how to do it in a very funny way. And relax. Have fun. ----
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari Terradyne Networks
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:11:00 -
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I like it when they are blind, you don't have to worry so much about personal maintenance.
Oh wait....
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Pwett
Minmatar QUANT Corp. QUANT Hegemony
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:31:00 -
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Only one rule, don't talk about work. _______________ Pwett CEO, Founder, & Executor <Q> QUANT Hegemony
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Straight Chillen
Gallente Solar Wind
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:38:00 -
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Hamoycal Karyst
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:47:00 -
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Thank you so much to everyone of you :*
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:48:00 -
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Stop thinking of it as a "blind date", as in "must get something out of this meeting". If you start thinking of it as "hanging out with a friend and some girls you accidentally met", it starts getting better. What's the worst case scenario ? She doesn't like you ? So what ? If you don't go, it's even worse, she doesn't even get a chance to not like you. Or what, do you fear she might like you but you end up hating her ?
Get out there, be yourself (unless you are normally obnoxious, then try to tone it down a bit). There's plenty of things to talk about other than games, worst case scenario you could talk about the current world-wide economic crisis (and I really do mean it as "worst case" of talk-worthy material, keep it as a last resort if anything else draws a blank).
If all else fails, with the risk of being ridiculed (or feeling ridiculous), you could mention in passing JUST how much of a nerd you are, the fact you haven't been socially active much, and that you play a game that eats up most of your time. But do it so in a "meh, the was nothing better to do anyway" style, jokingly. I seriously doubt they're so far removed from the world of today as to STILL consider nerds, well... freaks. They might actually think of it as mildly cute.
I mean, seriously, unless YOU hate THEIR company (or crave it so much you freeze up), you have nothing to worry about. There's nothing that can beat extremely low (or even no) expectations Hey, you might actually end up having fun, or discovering these girls are also gamers or whatnot.
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Dmian
Gallente Gallenterrorisme
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Posted - 2008.10.30 19:58:00 -
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To quote Cesar "Dog Whisperer" Millan: try to project a calm-assertive energy. ----
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mamolian
Madhatters Inc.
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Posted - 2008.10.30 20:21:00 -
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Even if you hit it off.. its obviously going to affect your ingame performace.. Just ring up your buddy and tell him you can't make the date.. Tell him your pewpewing your pixels.
It's for the best.. Seriously. -----------
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ReaperOfSly
Gallente Zetsubou Corp
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Posted - 2008.10.30 20:28:00 -
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Bring the rohypnol. You know, just in case.
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Pwett
Minmatar QUANT Corp. QUANT Hegemony
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Posted - 2008.10.30 20:42:00 -
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Originally by: Akita T What's the worst case scenario ?
Marriage and / or Babies _______________ Pwett CEO, Founder, & Executor <Q> QUANT Hegemony
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.10.30 22:02:00 -
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Originally by: Pwett
Originally by: Akita T What's the worst case scenario ?
Marriage and / or Babies
I would have said waking up without a kidney, but that's pretty close too
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari Terradyne Networks
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Posted - 2008.10.30 22:20:00 -
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Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Pwett
Originally by: Akita T What's the worst case scenario ?
Marriage and / or Babies
I would have said waking up without a kidney, but that's pretty close too
I would have said (/looking down) 'That can't be healthy'
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Neo Rainhart
Caldari Leela's Lamas
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Posted - 2008.10.30 22:29:00 -
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zomg you're le doomed..
DOOMED I tell ya
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ReaperOfSly
Gallente Zetsubou Corp
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Posted - 2008.10.30 22:33:00 -
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Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Pwett
Originally by: Akita T What's the worst case scenario ?
Marriage and / or Babies
I would have said waking up without a kidney, but that's pretty close too
We're going to Candy Mountain, Charlie. Chaaaaarlieeeee.... ____________________
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Khandara Seraphim
StarHunt Fallout Project
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Posted - 2008.10.31 01:30:00 -
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also, in exchange for advice you are now obligated to provide a battle report of what happens.
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Fungus Amongus
Caldari Globo Gym
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Posted - 2008.10.31 01:41:00 -
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Beer is the solution
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goodby4u
Valor Inc.
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Posted - 2008.10.31 01:46:00 -
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Well in addition to akita make it about her, ask some questions about herself, women like to talk about themselves.... A simple question or two could lead to a night of talking and a second date.
And if its not right, its just not right and you wouldnt convince her to go on a second date even if you tried.
Lastly, people DO actually get shot down in dates, its not always like tv.... Sometimes people fail badly, but the best thing to do in such a case is walk it off and go blow some crap up.
PS:Since your shy you need this info, speak your mind, because in this case its better to regret something you did then something you didnt do.
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Maria Sanzen'in
Gallente Superior Mining Initiative
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Posted - 2008.10.31 03:55:00 -
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I know im to late maby to tell u any tips or so but I can say some stuff that I learned and maby you can take something with you next time.
First of you are not pathetic no one are pathetic. Just becus they donŠt date often or maby becus they donŠt now how to act on a date. No one knows everything and peeps who think they do haha they are pathetic.
Im a gammer geek a anime geek and still get girls when im intressred but thats not often becus all girls I tend to run on are not good girls.
but anyway only be your self thats the best and I have learnd it works best when you are on a date to talk abute stuffs like maby school work just regular stuff. I was on a date last freday and the girl and I talked abute how hard it is to get a your own apartment and we talked abute school and work and just regular stuff. Then I asked her intressts and she asked mine I told her that I liked anime and my favorite game I play was eve and she asked me abute eve what is was and what I did in the game and so on. As I also told her sure im a gammer I like anime and so but if a girl can not like me for who I am then she can leave. so I say be your self never be afird to talk a little abute what u like as longe as u ask what she like and let her tell something abute it. If a girl can not like u for who u are then thats not a girl to date.
That is what I think and have to say.
and Yes I will have a second date with the girl we are going to the Cinema next freeday becus this weekend she is visiting her parents.
I hope it went or goes well.
Take care okey ^^
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P'uck
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Posted - 2008.10.31 04:01:00 -
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Getting shot down is no biggie... coming across a really hate- and hurtful pms'ing *****, that is intelligent and observative, THAT can be problematic, if you're not all that stable and didn't get laid in a while
I'd just generously apply liquid panty remover to all parties involved to reduce the probability for awkwardness, and see where it goes.
And always remember: it's no party 'til the cops show up.
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Micia
Minmatar Thrace Inc
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Posted - 2008.10.31 06:13:00 -
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Go out & have fun for a few hours.
Don't even think of it as a date; how can it be? You don't even know the girl. It's just a good chance to socialise a bit. Maybe you'll like who you meet; maybe not so much.
Btw, your post reads like your buddy is also going in blind himself. If that's the case, you're being brought along as the wingman.
Quote: i don't know how i should wear... everything
Ask your buddy where you're going... and dress appropriately.
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.10.31 09:37:00 -
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Originally by: Khandara Seraphim in exchange for advice you are now obligated to provide a battle report of what happens.
Seconded
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Reven Cordelle
Caldari School of Applied Knowledge
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Posted - 2008.10.31 09:44:00 -
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Pff, what will she think of you?
Just be honest man, if you end up fabricating a fake personality then you ain't going to get anywhere.
Just say that you fly internet spaceships and all that. If she reels away in horror then.. well.. Shes not the girl for you! Unless you honestly want to give up internet spaceships for some tail.
Just don't call it "EVE", cuz she'll assume you're talking about another girl.
Aint the end of the world though, man. Blind Dates are sketchy at best, so strap on your armor reppers and go for broke, if you get webbed, then your mate will be there to bail you out.
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Rob Z0mbie
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Posted - 2008.10.31 11:10:00 -
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Originally by: P'uck Getting shot down is no biggie... coming across a really hate- and hurtful pms'ing *****, that is intelligent and observative, THAT can be problematic, if you're not all that stable and didn't get laid in a while
So true, so ****ing true.
i had 3 of those. I think I attract them.
Haven't met any in a while, and all is going well. Targeting a new population of younger females that didn't get a chance to become like that really helps!
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.10.31 11:24:00 -
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Originally by: P'uck coming across a really hate- and hurtful pms'ing *****, that is intelligent and observative, THAT can be problematic
Are you kidding me ? Those are like, the BEST dates. I'd take "smart but agressive" any day over "dumb as a brick but bubbly".
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Crumplecorn
Gallente Eve Cluster Explorations
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Posted - 2008.10.31 11:42:00 -
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Originally by: Hamoycal Karyst I have to admit that he is right: what's wrong with dating a girl, even if you don't know anything about her? Well, nothing. But here is the problem: i don't know what we could talk about, i don't know if she will like me, i don't know how i should wear... everything, i don't know how i should behave.
This part makes more sense with some middle bit removed. -
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Kaeten
Hybrid Syndicate
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Posted - 2008.10.31 12:30:00 -
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lol don't know what to talk about? don't imagine your on a date, just imagine shes like a buddy you wanna be friends with. talk about anything really, joke around BE friends. if you do that you'll know if she likes you cause then she'll know who you are, then after that you can like flirt a little bit and if alchahol is included you'll def get to makeout and possibly... something else.
JUST DON'T pressure yourself with the thought that its a date. JUST IMAGINE your friend wants you to hangout with 2 of his friends.
always works for me
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