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Straight Chillen
Gallente The Collective Against ALL Authorities
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Posted - 2009.02.03 17:38:00 -
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Speaking from personal experience, its probably not a great idea, but then again its life, you live and you learn.
So go make a mistake, youll enjoy it Please resize image to a maximum of 400 x 120, not exceeding 24000 bytes. If you would like further details please mail [email protected] ~Saint |
kor anon
Amarr The Tuskers
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Posted - 2009.02.03 19:23:00 -
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Theres nothing wrong with being attacted to someone.
Ask her out, theres three possible outcomes:
1. She says yes. Congratulations. 2. She declines, but you stay freinds. 3. She declines and refuses to remain freinds. If thats the case she wasn't that good of a freind in the first place. Find better freinds.
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ReaperOfSly
Gallente Zetsubou Corp
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Posted - 2009.02.03 19:32:00 -
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Edited by: ReaperOfSly on 03/02/2009 19:32:44 On second thought, I don't want o get banned |
Rob Z0mbie
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Posted - 2009.02.03 22:44:00 -
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Edited by: Rob Z0mbie on 03/02/2009 22:45:10
Originally by: Brigadier Kwozi
she's cool with me since all I really want is friendship too.
This is what's wrong with you. You've let her (and yourself) believe that all you want is friendship, Sorry matey, but that's a sign of shyness and\or weak character.
She's a girl, you're a boy, attraction is normal, ask her out on a date properly. And don't act all metro and pretend its ok to stay as it is.
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Rob Z0mbie
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Posted - 2009.02.03 22:54:00 -
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oh and spend some time meditating on it, don't let it show as if you're insecure. Insecurity is the source of "friend zone".
No one likes to feel incompetent.
The way to do it? make sure you're dressed nice and shaven, not all hobo style. Have a great time with her, then tell her how you feel as calmly as as securely as you can (yes, i know, its not easy to pull off, but do try still)
Personally i have a "friend", and we're only friends because both of us are scared****less of relationships, and im leaving the country in 6-7 months so she doesn't want her heart breaking.
That said, we meet once or twice a week, watch movies together, drink, play the guitar AND fool around.
the thing is in my case though, i've let her know since day one that I'm attracted, and didn't **** about telling her i want to be platonic. Having something beyond the physical only makes a relationship better, tbh.
You and her already got a friendship, it wouldn't be too difficult to turn things around, you just need to behave in a secure manner, and not look like a whimp :)
If she says no, she's keeping you as a pet while ****ing some other guy who let her know first he's in into her for the sex :P in that case, well,
how good of a \friend\ is she :) if its a young friendship tbh i'd opt for terminating, if its a 1-2 year one, go on with your life, and get a girlfriend. |
Master Gotama
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Posted - 2009.02.03 23:20:00 -
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Originally by: Toshiro GreyHawk
Originally by: Brigadier Kwozi
I'm single. My best friend is a woman my age. I have romantic feelings for her and we have talked about it, she's cool with me since all I really want is friendship too.
But here's the kicker: She's really really hot, and I she tends to end up in my *wink* *wink* fantasies. Even though I would never do anything to jeopardize my friendship with her in real life.
Am I doing a wrong here?
I know it's a silly question... but I don't know the answer
OK. This is what you do.
First, stop bull ****ting your self that you aren't in love with her. If you have Romantic feelings for her - you're freaking in love with her. THAT is the problem.
Now - if you weren't in love with her and you were just friends and she was hot - then of course you'd be thinking about boinking her. All guys do that with any hot chick they know. That's not a problem. The freaking problem is if you fall in love with them.
Now as to boinking your hot friend ... that you have to really play by ear. If she's counting on you to be her friend - that is going to mean - not trying to boink her - to her. If you try it and she's not receptive you can lose the friendship. The thing is - you're going to lose the friendship anyway when she finds a boy friend and no longer has time for you.
Now - what you really need to do - is to find someone else who is also hot and wants to boink you.
1) Get in shape. Go to the gym, work out, get the flab off. Make exercise a routine part of your life. Do like your mom said and - stand up straight. Good posture counts for a lot. Make holding your stomach in a natural part of your life.
2) Effect a clean cut appearance. Long or short doesn't matter but keep your hair and/or beard neatly trimmed.
3) Wear clean, new clothes. They don't need to be anything fancy - but they must be clean and new.
4) Make money. Chicks just freaking love money. Don't flash it - just have it.
5) Get a hot car. Chicks just freaking love hot cars.
Have a definite goal in life and be actively working towards it.
Nothing attracts chicks more than a man with confidence in himself and a purpose in life.
Don't let your "friend" waste your life. The years you have now - are not freaking coming back. Chicks just freaking love to have a bunch of little "friends" hanging on. It makes them feel more secure and enhances their ego - which they need to deal with the real bastards they have to deal with. A real bastard will play upon a chick's sense of inferiority to make himself seem better than she is - BSing her into looking up to him - so that she'll put out. You don't have to be a real bastard to get a cute chick - but - you do have to have the same amount of confidence in yourself that he does (or pretends he does). The difference between the bastard and a good guy is - when things go wrong for the bastard he gets furious as it's blowing his cover that he's always right. The good guy has confidence in who he is and where he's going in life and accepts that things aren't always going to work out perfectly. That's just one more thing he has to - confidently - deal with.
Be strong and healthy. Be good at your job. Know who you are and what you want out of life.
Do those things and you'll find a hot chick who wants to come along for the ride.
Don't do them and you can spend your youth being some hot chicks security blanket.
You are only going to be young - once - and once it's gone it's gone for good. Don't waste yourself. Go out and find some other hot chick to ball. If you have any chance with your "friend" that will make her jealous and give you that "other girl stamp of approval". If it doesn't - then you'll have that other hot chick to ball.
tried and true, this man speaketh the truth. success is very attractive, as is confidence. tell her how you feel, if she isn't interested, focus on yourself. |
Cierejai
Caldari BlackSite Prophecy
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Posted - 2009.02.03 23:53:00 -
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If you want to get with her you will have to get with her friends first. That will bring on jealously.
And you have to be REALLY GOOD in the sack. When her friends brag about how many orgasms they have she will start to warm up to you if you are keeping the relationship with her friends casual. |
Ralf Smith
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Posted - 2009.02.04 00:01:00 -
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Tell her that you really like her and you want to know how she feels. If she is worried about that friendship bullcrap, then make a 'pact' to be friends forever, or something along the lines of a 'pinky swear' seeing as you are probably around 14 years old.
It a far to common situation. Females should realise that its alot easier to listen to them talk about their cat while they are naked. |
Aricaan
Gallente Playboy Enterprises Dark Taboo
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Posted - 2009.02.04 00:16:00 -
[69]
Hit it and quit it. |
David Kang
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Posted - 2009.02.04 00:18:00 -
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I wouldn't bother
Female wingmen are a far more practical social tool.
Find another girl.
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Crayon Fusillade
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Posted - 2009.02.04 00:24:00 -
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Something to think about.
I've been there and in a much worse situation than you. It was the best and worst time of my entire life.
My advice, if you feel strongly for her, and particularly if she's single, make a proper move on her early on. If she says yes, you win. If she says no, don't give up straight away...
You could try, as I was advised, to get another girlfriend and then cut down on the time you spend with the girl. The obvious results are that if it makes her jealous enough, you've got her, and if it doesn't, you've still got a girlfriend.
If you do like her a lot, when you see her in other relationships, it will hurt, a lot. The precise moment you have that first inkling of a feeling, however fleeting, that just maybe, this isn't worth the heartache, I would strongly suggest, stop meeting her, break off contact for the foreseeable future and don't look back. It will seem like a ridiculous step to take considering how great your friendship is, but seriously, the odds are it's not going to happen.
At that point it's just a case of whether you're a gambling man and are willing to put your money on a horse that probably won't come in, but on occasion, as some posters here I'm sure will attest to, actually does.
I lost. |
Tractus Vesica
Caldari Atrum Flamma Order of the Black Dragons
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Posted - 2009.02.04 02:02:00 -
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Originally by: Super Whopper
Originally by: Tractus Vesica Love is a lie.
After eight years of marriage I can confirm your post is a lie.
Eight years, what an accomplishment. Only the rest of your life, chained to some other human. Tell me.
What more is love than the dressed up urge to reproduce, and a desire to feel cared about? |
Rondo Gunn
Caldari Perkone
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Posted - 2009.02.04 02:18:00 -
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Originally by: Tractus Vesica What more is love than the dressed up urge to reproduce, and a desire to feel cared about?
A cooperative relationship founded on trust, friendship and mutual physical attraction?
Then again, it could just be gas. ----------------------------------------------- shin ku myo u
Please note: Everything I say is flavored with irony, cynicism and, of course, minty freshness. |
Atomos Darksun
Damage Incorporated.
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Posted - 2009.02.04 02:30:00 -
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Originally by: Rondo Gunn Then again, it could just be gas.
Or a tumor. |
Ralf Smith
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Posted - 2009.02.04 02:30:00 -
[75]
Originally by: Crayon Fusillade Something to think about.
I've been there and in a much worse situation than you. It was the best and worst time of my entire life.
My advice, if you feel strongly for her, and particularly if she's single, make a proper move on her early on. If she says yes, you win. If she says no, don't give up straight away...
You could try, as I was advised, to get another girlfriend and then cut down on the time you spend with the girl. The obvious results are that if it makes her jealous enough, you've got her, and if it doesn't, you've still got a girlfriend.
If you do like her a lot, when you see her in other relationships, it will hurt, a lot. The precise moment you have that first inkling of a feeling, however fleeting, that just maybe, this isn't worth the heartache, I would strongly suggest, stop meeting her, break off contact for the foreseeable future and don't look back. It will seem like a ridiculous step to take considering how great your friendship is, but seriously, the odds are it's not going to happen.
At that point it's just a case of whether you're a gambling man and are willing to put your money on a horse that probably won't come in, but on occasion, as some posters here I'm sure will attest to, actually does.
I lost.
It would be morally wrong to get a gf just to make another girl jealous.
However, I just had this idea... Wait till you are sure she is single, and has been single for a few weeks/monthsThen do something really romantic like, but not along the lines of "I love you" just yet.If she starts reacting pretty well and stuff, ask her out, in a gentlemen, poetic sort of way.
Or there always is alchohol. |
Lochmar Fiendhiem
Caldari Quicksilver Industries and Painful Effects Inc.
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Posted - 2009.02.04 02:45:00 -
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step 1: get her drunk step 2: ??? step 3: profit. |
Surfin's PlunderBunny
Minmatar MasterBlasters Inc. CORPVS DELICTI
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Posted - 2009.02.04 03:04:00 -
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Originally by: Lochmar Fiendhiem step 1: get her drunk step 2: ??? step 3: profit.
If she's on her period make sure you use a condom... learned that the hard way
---------------------- Putting the sensual in nonconsensual
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MotherMoon
Huang Yinglong
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Posted - 2009.02.04 03:08:00 -
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Originally by: Sokratesz
I also highlighted the parts that were totally hilarious. What the **** kind of image are you forcing yourself into?
whats wrong with
Have a definite goal in life and be actively working towards it.
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MotherMoon
Huang Yinglong
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Posted - 2009.02.04 03:25:00 -
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Originally by: Surfin's PlunderBunny
Originally by: Lochmar Fiendhiem step 1: get her drunk step 2: ??? step 3: profit.
If she's on her period make sure you use a condom... learned that the hard way
I'm so sorry :(
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Digital Solaris
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Posted - 2009.02.04 04:29:00 -
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Originally by: Surfin's PlunderBunny
If she's on her period make sure you use a condom... learned that the hard way
Grats.. dad! |
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Chainsaw Plankton
IDLE GUNS IDLE EMPIRE
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Posted - 2009.02.04 04:32:00 -
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Originally by: Surfin's PlunderBunny
Originally by: Lochmar Fiendhiem step 1: get her drunk step 2: ??? step 3: profit.
If she's on her period make sure you use a condom... learned that the hard way
sounds messy |
HankMurphy
Minmatar Pelennor Enterprises
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Posted - 2009.02.04 05:19:00 -
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Originally by: Lochmar Fiendhiem step 1: get her drunk step 2: ??? step 3: profit.
this
put the spurs to 'er doc! ---------- "This is Chopper Dave's made for TV movie, Blades Of Vengeance. See, he's a chopper pilot by day, but by night he fights crime as a werewolf... YEAH!" |
Atama Cardel
Perkone
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Posted - 2009.02.04 05:31:00 -
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Asking for dating advice on an MMORPG is like asking Michael Jackson for advice on how to be more black.
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Spaztick
Canadian Imperial Armaments Veritas Immortalis
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Posted - 2009.02.04 05:47:00 -
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Originally by: Atama Cardel Asking for dating advice on an MMORPG is like asking Michael Jackson for advice on how to be more black.
All the black people I know are pretty white, so I guess it's not too bad advice as long as you take it with a grain of salt. Or several. After all, everyone needs some type of spacer in their sigs to show it's not part of the post.
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Reven Cordelle
Caldari School of Applied Knowledge
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Posted - 2009.02.04 09:53:00 -
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You're a man. She's a woman.
Failing to see how you'd be doing wrong.
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Slade Trillgon
Masuat'aa Matari Ushra'Khan
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Posted - 2009.02.04 10:30:00 -
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Edited by: Slade Trillgon on 04/02/2009 10:33:52 If it is just physical attraction then nothing is wrong with it. If it is the begginings of love then problems could be on the rise or you could be headed to fruitfull relationship. It just depends on how you play it.
An addendum would be it is possible to have a physical relationship, without a societal bond, if both parties are mature about it.
Originally by: Digital Solaris
Originally by: Surfin's PlunderBunny
If she's on her period make sure you use a condom... learned that the hard way
Grats.. dad!
Biologically impossible
I retract the above statement. I may have proven myself wrong
Slade
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Kur'Dekaija
Atomic Heroes Chain of Chaos
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Posted - 2009.02.04 12:54:00 -
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Edited by: Kur''Dekaija on 04/02/2009 12:54:01 You're doing nothing wrong dude, your fap material is your own business
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Tractus Vesica
Caldari Atrum Flamma Order of the Black Dragons
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Posted - 2009.02.04 18:03:00 -
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Originally by: Spaztick
Originally by: Atama Cardel Asking for dating advice on an MMORPG is like asking Michael Jackson for advice on how to be more black.
All the black people I know are pretty white, so I guess it's not too bad advice as long as you take it with a grain of salt. Or several.
EVE is the mmorpg for smart people. If you want idiots. Go play WoW. EVE pilots tend to be somewhat more logical than other games. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------
If you aren't prepared to fight for your freedom, you do not deserve it.
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kor anon
Amarr The Tuskers
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Posted - 2009.02.04 18:04:00 -
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Originally by: Tractus Vesica
Originally by: Spaztick
Originally by: Atama Cardel Asking for dating advice on an MMORPG is like asking Michael Jackson for advice on how to be more black.
All the black people I know are pretty white, so I guess it's not too bad advice as long as you take it with a grain of salt. Or several.
EVE is the mmorpg for smart people. If you want idiots. Go play WoW. EVE pilots tend to be somewhat more logical than other games.
That cant be true I play EVE rather than wow
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Tractus Vesica
Caldari Atrum Flamma Order of the Black Dragons
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Posted - 2009.02.04 18:07:00 -
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Edited by: Tractus Vesica on 04/02/2009 18:07:37
Originally by: kor anon
Originally by: Tractus Vesica
Originally by: Spaztick
Originally by: Atama Cardel Asking for dating advice on an MMORPG is like asking Michael Jackson for advice on how to be more black.
All the black people I know are pretty white, so I guess it's not too bad advice as long as you take it with a grain of salt. Or several.
EVE is the mmorpg for smart people. If you want idiots. Go play WoW. EVE pilots tend to be somewhat more logical than other games.
That cant be true I play EVE rather than wow
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If you aren't prepared to fight for your freedom, you do not deserve it.
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