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TheBird
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:18:00 -
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Being the oldest sucks sometimes. When I was younger and the family would get together I was held accountable for anything that went wrong. If something got broken the person that broke it got in trouble and I got in trouble for not stopping them. My cousins were pretty rowdy, I didn't get to enjoy playing games with them because I had to make sure nothing bad happened while they were only responsible for what they did.
Last weekend three (all girls) of them were going to the beach by themselves, I was told to "get myself invited" and make sure they were ok. We end up taking my car to the beach (90 miles one way), it is foggy there and cold, they are all waring tank tops and miniskirts. We go get these "old time" pictures they wanted and they all dress like *****s from the 19th century, I felt so proud of them, gave me one of the pictures too, I sooo wanted a picture of my cousins in low-cut dresses and thigh-high stockings. :( It takes two hours for the pictures, after that we head back to our grandmother's and show her the pictures, she looks past them at me like "I can't believe you let them do this".
Being held responsible for all of them for so many years has done something to my mind, if I even think about doing something irresponsible I start to feel sick, I can hardly stand to go 60mph in a 55mph zone. That might not be a bad thing but I would like to be able to do those things if I wanted, instead I almost vomit if I do too much. I don't feel very free, kinda like my actions are predetermined.
Anyone else feel this way?
This made me feel better, even if no one else cares. (that sounds all whiny, and girly but whatever)
tl;dr I am complaining about being responsible for my cousins. |
Awesome Possum
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:29:00 -
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Slap your grandmother.
Then slap your aunts/uncles and tell them to be responsible for their own ****ing children. ♥
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:35:00 -
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I am a middle child with my older brother being the responsible one and my little brother being behind us by a decade (he was still in either grade school or jr high when we flew the coop). When I was 11 and my little bro was like 2 my parents got a divorce and my dad got remarried which gave us 2 very spoiled stepsisters, their ages being between me and my brothers on both ends. This led to issues as their mother, my stepmother, was real lenient on discipline while we grew up with a militaristic atmosphere (both parents were AF). In the end though I was usually the trouble maker having issues in school (failing grades, being a loner type stuff) along with a few trips to the psychiatric ward (thanks for screwing me out of the military mom).
Now days my brothers and I are doing well (for what we've got going for us) with little bro in his 3rd year of architecture, one stepsister is a raging alcoholic with a mile long rap sheet and the other turned vegetarian lesbian who protests stupid things and get thrown in jail for it.
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Krystal Vernet
Minmatar Gradient Electus Matari
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:38:00 -
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I fixed that issue by being stubborn, lazy, and easily distracted.
\o/
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Evthron Macyntire
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:40:00 -
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I am the middle child and I have to be responsible because I respect my father and everything he has done for me. Something that the other two take for granted. Would be interesting to see what would happen if he decided he was tired of their **** and gave them the boot. He already kicked one out but let him come back. ------------------------------ Sigs like this. |
TheBird
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Posted - 2009.07.22 04:50:00 -
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Originally by: Evthron Macyntire ...I respect my father and everything he has done for me. Something that the other two take for granted...
My cousins seem to take everything that their parents do for them for granted too. My dad gave up a lot of his dreams so that my brother, mom, and I could have a good home, good medical etc... My mother on the other hand did not give up much, my dad was the responsible one of them. Divorce worked good for them, I see my dad more and my mom is dating a guy who is better at keeping her on track (I think he is pretty cool too, BONUS!). I just turned 21 recently and am almost done with school, soon I will be on my own and only responsible for me.
I realize that I am not entitled to many of the things my parents have given me, my cousins on the other hand... |
Epegi Givo
Amarr Ministry of War
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Posted - 2009.07.22 06:08:00 -
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luckily, my parents figured out that it's not my fault when my little brother bangs his head against the wall. ------------------------------------- My other alt is a Ferrari
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Dario Wall
Caldari Corvus Industries
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Posted - 2009.07.22 06:58:00 -
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Originally by: TheBird ...a picture of my cousins in low-cut dresses and thigh-high stockings...
Pics or GTFO.
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Toshiro GreyHawk
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Posted - 2009.07.22 08:44:00 -
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Edited by: Toshiro GreyHawk on 22/07/2009 08:48:42
Yeah. I'm the oldest. Same crap.
I get left in charge when I'm 13 and my siblings do a bunch of crap (nothing big just minor stuff they weren't supposed to do) - and I catch hell for letting them.
So - the next time - I whip their asses to keep them in line - and I catch hell for THAT.
All the responsibility and no authority.
Yep.
That is the lot of the oldest child.
My next youngest sibling, a brother, got this book on Birth Order - that explains a lot.
The oldest tend to become leaders as they are used to accepting responsibility and leadership positions. The down side to that - is that they already frakking hate the job ... even if they're good at it. After telling stupid people what to do and listening to their crap while in the military - I have no desire to be in a leadership position ever again. I take to it naturally but just frakking hate doing it.
The Middle kids are stuck in the middle. Partly responsible partly not.
The Baby - grows up in a world of complete security. Loves to party and is very sociable. But whines and makes stupid decisions based on their emotions - rather than accurately evaluating the situation and doing what needs to be done.
Being the oldest teaches you to anticipate things. You learn to see the things that can happen because you are always thinking about consequences. Your fun loving friends think you are dull - but gradually gain respect for you after they've screwed themselves over a few times when you warned them not to do something ... that or they just resent the fact that you were right about it and they were wrong ...
You come to have a deep appreciation for competence and intelligence in others as you realize just how frakking rare it really is.
As you get older, you come to understand the vast difference between knowing what is wrong and being able to do anything about it. With that understanding, you gain some peace as you learn to just do what you can about the things you can do something about - and not waste your time and thought on things which you can't change.
There's an old prayer - that got turned into a bumper sticker or something ... that went:
God, please give me the Courage to change the things I can, The Patience to accept the things I can't And the Wisdom to know the difference.
With age - you should be granted that (unless you're a dumb ****) but life will be painful until then.
If you are getting so stressed out about things you're ready to vomit - then you have a problem. You need to tell yourself - "OK - this is bull **** - just calm down. Getting all upset about things is counter productive."
*shrug*
Anyway - good luck with it (life that is ...).
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Tallaran Kouros
Caldari Sc0rched Earth
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Posted - 2009.07.22 10:19:00 -
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Originally by: TheBird
Last weekend three (all girls) of them were going to the beach by themselves, I was told to "get myself invited" and make sure they were ok. We end up taking my car to the beach (90 miles one way)
They did give you petrol money right?
Quote: I sooo wanted a picture of my cousins in low-cut dresses and thigh-high stockings.
Me too, although I missed the part where you said how old they were ;)
Quote: It takes two hours for the pictures, after that we head back to our grandmother's and show her the pictures, she looks past them at me like "I can't believe you let them do this".
On a more serious note, how old ARE they?
Surely if they are grown adults then it's neither your nor your grandmother's place to be telling them what they should or shouldn't do?
Quote: I am complaining about being responsible for my cousins.
Are they not old enough to be responsible for themselves or if not, do you not have aunts and uncles that are responsible for them?
Unfortunately the only real answer is to grow a pair and tell your family that you are not putting up with the **** any more, and be firm about it.
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Abrazzar
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Posted - 2009.07.22 10:24:00 -
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Meh, oldest or youngest, there's always reason to complain. If they pour all the responsibility on you, tell them that it's their job as parents to supervise their children and you are not their father.
As the younger brother, my older one just puked all the frustration he got from our idiot father on me, so that's not a great position to be born either. -------- Ideas for: Mining
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Kurfin
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Posted - 2009.07.22 11:17:00 -
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I found as the oldest you're going to get in trouble what ever happens, so you might as well have some fun . Of course I've never been very keen on responsibility and avoid it where ever possible.
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Irida Mershkov
Gallente War is Bliss
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Posted - 2009.07.22 11:31:00 -
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As the oldest, it automatically gives you rights to beat them.
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Wendat Huron
Stellar Solutions
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Posted - 2009.07.22 12:24:00 -
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My older brother turned criminal, nothing responsible or leader about that. He's since made a full recovery and now is somewhat bourgeois. I the middle child remains the brains of the family.
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Opan santel
Gallente Fatal Error. DEFI4NT
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Posted - 2009.07.22 13:49:00 -
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Malcanis
Vanishing Point. The Initiative.
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Posted - 2009.07.22 14:22:00 -
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Originally by: TheBird
tl;dr I am complaining about being responsible for my cousins.
A man goes to see his doctor and says "Doctor, it hurts when I do this"
The doctor replies "Stop doing it then"
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Butt Sexington
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Posted - 2009.07.22 14:35:00 -
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Originally by: Irida Mershkov As the oldest, it automatically gives you rights to beat them.
im the youngest in my family, and both my brothers used to try that on me....but then ive always been twice their size so ive always won ====================== Arvalds temporary forum posting alt |
Jacob Mei
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Posted - 2009.07.22 14:39:00 -
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Yep been there, done that. Solved it by slugging my cousin in full view of a family party when I was 14. After being screamed at I told his parents I was tired of doing their job. On an unrelated note, Kneel before Zod! |
TraininVain
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Posted - 2009.07.22 14:46:00 -
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I think I need to see those photos to really have an opinion.
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Wei Lea
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Posted - 2009.07.22 14:51:00 -
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Originally by: TheBird We go get these "old time" pictures they wanted and they all dress like *****s from the 19th century, I felt so proud of them, gave me one of the pictures too, I sooo wanted a picture of my cousins in low-cut dresses and thigh-high stockings.
pics or it didn't happen
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TheBird
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Posted - 2009.07.22 17:36:00 -
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Originally by: Malcanis A man goes to see his doctor and says "Doctor, it hurts when I do this"
The doctor replies "Stop doing it then"
I know I could just stop but I hate disappointing people. I didn't post this to ask for help or anything (I do appreciate people trying to give me some advice, nice of you), it just made me feel better to post it. I just feel the need to complain to someone every once in a while and I happened to be all by myself at the time, therefore I post on the internet to a bunch of strangers.
One of them gave me gas money, I don't really care about that though, it was a nice ride (forests and stuff) and I got to listen to my new subwoofers for almost 4 whole hours (lots of AC/DC).
Two of them are old enough to be responsible for themselves but they aren't. One has started smoking and the other maxed out her mothers credit cards and doesn't think that it is bad.
About pictures, 1. their my cousins so no, and 2. only one of them is over 18 so no again. Sorry.
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mercyonman
Caldari Cryogenic Consultancy Black Sun Alliance
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Posted - 2009.07.22 17:51:00 -
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im the 2nd to youngest. but i am responsible for my little bros actions but he learned not to disobey me after i slapped him around for a bit. but ussually my role is to keep everything together and ease tension between everyone lol
When you crash your car, then jump out running down the street to save your pod.
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