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Bacon Slapper
Minmatar Red Federation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:16:00 -
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Edited by: Bacon Slapper on 11/08/2010 16:16:47 My ex called my car's GPS system my other girlfriend because it had a female voice and I listened to it over her when she was blabbing on about something. So it can get worse.
...god she was ****ing annoying, what a waste of money...can't believe I dated her for over a year.... ****
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Ralnik
Mutineers
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:20:00 -
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Edited by: Ralnik on 11/08/2010 16:21:54 It has nothing to do with EVE, you could insert any random hobby or thing you do a lot for fun. The problem is you are having fun doing something that doesn't interest or involve her.
This is of course assuming you aren't playing 24/7 giving her a "real" reason to complain. Other wise it's likely just her and it will never change until you trade her in.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:23:00 -
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I'm trying to figure out the best time to play... I'd like it to be evenings after dinner and such...just play for a few hours before bed. But then if I check EVE the following morning, I'm "obsessed".
Women.
WTF.
You're right... whatever it is... women will be jealous of it.
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Krxon Blade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:24:00 -
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Edited by: Krxon Blade on 11/08/2010 16:25:25 Mine used to hate EVE too, but only during my 1st year here when I was seriously hooked.
Lessons learned: - Do not neglect the "duties" of male (or female) - Buy her shiny stuff every so (or gadgets if male) - Don't EVER mention: cr*p, my skill is about to expire during together time (especially not during humpin ) - Try to hook her into something similar (warning, you might become hater too)
- Play smart: Announce that you'll have important fight tomorrow night. Tomorrow suddenly take her out (or jump her) and tell her that she is more important to you than some shi**y game or "virtual" friends
- Use long patchdays for something romantic. But be sure not to tell her that.
- There is plenty more, just be creative
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:29:00 -
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Originally by: Krxon Blade Edited by: Krxon Blade on 11/08/2010 16:25:25 Mine used to hate EVE too, but only during my 1st year here when I was seriously hooked.
Lessons learned: - Do not neglect the "duties" of male (or female) - Buy her shiny stuff every so (or gadgets if male) - Don't EVER mention: cr*p, my skill is about to expire during together time (especially not during humpin ) - Try to hook her into something similar (warning, you might become hater too)
- Play smart: Announce that you'll have important fight tomorrow night. Tomorrow suddenly take her out (or jump her) and tell her that she is more important to you than some shi**y game or "virtual" friends
- Use long patchdays for something romantic. But be sure not to tell her that.
- There is plenty more, just be creative
Great suggestions!
I'm watching Cold Case Files and 48 Hours to get some other ideas, too!
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Matthias Howe
Amarr 24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:32:00 -
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An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:45:00 -
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Originally by: Matthias Howe An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
I'm not REALLY getting divorced. This mostly in jest. It's jsut nice to hear that I'm not the only one.
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Liang Nuren
Parsec Flux War.Pigs.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:46:00 -
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I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
-Liang -- Eve Forum ***** Extraordinaire On Twitter Blog
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:50:00 -
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Originally by: Liang Nuren I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
-Liang
You all have it easy! I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
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Xurelle
Glass Cannons
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:59:00 -
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Okay, I usually keep to myself but this thread is just sad, lol.
As a gaming female, when I see women giving their men a hard time about gaming, I always say the same thing:
"It could be worse; he could be out clubbing with other women behind your back." And you'd be amazed how many times this simple statement really makes them stop and think. But if you say that to them as their guy, it's probably not going to go over as well.
If you aren't spending an inordinate amount of time "hiding away" in a game and ignoring your significant other then gaming shouldn't really be a big deal. (When you see those Guiness Book of Records statements about the #1 reason for divorce as being Everquest and the #2 reason as being WoW, etc., I tend to think that those gamers either have a gaming addiction to deal with or that they are intentionally avoiding their spouses due to marital conflicts.)
I can understand the concern of females in general over this whole "hitting on women online" thing, though; it does happen to an extent in every MMO. However, you men whose women are concerned about this need to explain to them not only are you remaining faithful to them online, but that most women gamers find it really annoying and immersion-breaking to be hit on in a game anyway. I have met a fair amount of female gamers over the years and they all say the same thing. Many will roll male characters or avoid voice chat like the plague just to avoid harassment (my personal copout is "sorry, broken mic," lol). Personally, I usually picture this type of male as a teenage boy out from under his parents' thumb online for the first time, but you can insert whatever desperate, pimply-faced, fat, smelly stereotype* you'd like in place of that. ;)
*I can hear the female gamer stereotypes coming already, so I got my version in there first, ha.
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EyeCeeYou
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:01:00 -
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The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:01:00 -
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Originally by: Xurelle Okay, I usually keep to myself but this thread is just sad, lol.
As a gaming female, when I see women giving their men a hard time about gaming, I always say the same thing:
"It could be worse; he could be out clubbing with other women behind your back." And you'd be amazed how many times this simple statement really makes them stop and think. But if you say that to them as their guy, it's probably not going to go over as well.
If you aren't spending an inordinate amount of time "hiding away" in a game and ignoring your significant other then gaming shouldn't really be a big deal. (When you see those Guiness Book of Records statements about the #1 reason for divorce as being Everquest and the #2 reason as being WoW, etc., I tend to think that those gamers either have a gaming addiction to deal with or that they are intentionally avoiding their spouses due to marital conflicts.)
I can understand the concern of females in general over this whole "hitting on women online" thing, though; it does happen to an extent in every MMO. However, you men whose women are concerned about this need to explain to them not only are you remaining faithful to them online, but that most women gamers find it really annoying and immersion-breaking to be hit on in a game anyway. I have met a fair amount of female gamers over the years and they all say the same thing. Many will roll male characters or avoid voice chat like the plague just to avoid harassment (my personal copout is "sorry, broken mic," lol). Personally, I usually picture this type of male as a teenage boy out from under his parents' thumb online for the first time, but you can insert whatever desperate, pimply-faced, fat, smelly stereotype* you'd like in place of that. ;)
*I can hear the female gamer stereotypes coming already, so I got my version in there first, ha.
So.. what are you wearing?
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Xurelle
Glass Cannons
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:13:00 -
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An Abaddon.
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CCP Adida
C C P C C P Alliance
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:15:00 -
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It's all about balance IMO. As a girl gamer I can never get upset with my boyfriend about spending too much time in EVE. Because I've done the same thing and know the feeling when you need that extra hour or two. But it's also good to unplug and spend some time together.
You can make a "date night" and coordinate it with your corp and your significant other. Just taking the 1 day a week where you unplug goes a long way with women. Whether it's to catch up with all of your shows or watch a movie. Date night doesn't mean spending money. Another thing I've seen my friends do is play when she goes to bed. That's a win/win for both. She gets to sprawl in bed while you get your time in EVE
Adida Community Rep CCP Hf, EVE Online
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Liang Nuren
Parsec Flux War.Pigs.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:20:00 -
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Edited by: Liang Nuren on 11/08/2010 17:22:51
Originally by: Cindjin
You all have it easy! I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
I tell her that she won't get any sleep with me close to her. I figure I've got a 100% success rate no matter what she answers to this. ;-) But more seriously, I have in fact heard this and it just doesn't take that long for her to go to sleep. Really.
-Liang
Ed: I forgot a word. Underlined. :( -- Eve Forum ***** Extraordinaire On Twitter Blog
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Daesis Wrack
The Kairos Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:27:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin My wife HATES EVE. Why? Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem? I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
You are hoping your wife's distaste for you playing EVE is just a phase. Your wife is hoping you playing EVE is just a phase.
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Amy Aimia
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:42:00 -
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Originally by: EyeCeeYou The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
This is likely the best tactic.. pretend to give in.. Then pester the hell out of her til she decides it's better your off playing your video game.
That or get your wife a hobby..
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:47:00 -
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Originally by: Amy Aimia
Originally by: EyeCeeYou The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
This is likely the best tactic.. pretend to give in.. Then pester the hell out of her til she decides it's better your off playing your video game.
That or get your wife a hobby..
My wife doesn't seem to want a hobby unless it involves me, the kids or both. So, I will definitely "give in" and pester her a bit... nicely of course!
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Genya Arikaido
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:57:00 -
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My story is one of imprisonment.
My ex-wife was so possessive, that she kept reducing and cutting off my access to social outlets. When I turned to MMOs to fill that social need we all have, she turned on it as well.
My advice is, GTFO as fast as you can, m8. Then keep looking for the right woman that doesn't mind your MMO playing or likes to play it herself. They're not as rare as you think they are, just quiet and harder to find than the flashy, social, and possessive ones.
Originally by: CCP Tuxford my bad.
Rest assured I'm being ridiculed by my co-workers.
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Ran Khanon
Amarr Swords Horses and Heavy Metal
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:26:00 -
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Edited by: Ran Khanon on 11/08/2010 18:27:43
Originally by: Genya Arikaido My story is one of imprisonment.
My ex-wife was so possessive, that she kept reducing and cutting off my access to social outlets. When I turned to MMOs to fill that social need we all have, she turned on it as well.
My advice is, GTFO as fast as you can, m8. Then keep looking for the right woman that doesn't mind your MMO playing or likes to play it herself. They're not as rare as you think they are, just quiet and harder to find than the flashy, social, and possessive ones.
Well done bailing from that situation. It's about being honest to yourself and having the guts to make the right decision.
I also realized my ex-gf really wasn't the right one for me eventually and she was expecting more and more out of the relationship. I broke up to save her and me any more investing into a relationship that couldn't work in the long run anyway and before anything 'major' would happen (read: kid). A year later she married with (hopefully) the right guy and I was there, being really happy for her (and myself). I agree with everything Barakkus posts. |
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ChronoSphere
Sturmgrenadier Inc Sturmgrenadier Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:34:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
Originally by: Liang Nuren I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
-Liang
You all have it easy! I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
God, this. I hate hearing this. -------------- ~Admiral, Commanding Officer Sturmgrenadier, Inc. Join Sturmgrenadier today! |
NotHereReally
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:39:00 -
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+1 Eve divorce, though tbh EVE was really the final symptom of the failed marriage, not the cause.
Been much happier since, especially after finding a gamer chick instead. I'd bet plenty of divorces from EVE players are the same. It's not really EVE, but it sure looks like it to non-gamers.
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De'Veldrin
Minmatar Special Projects Executive The Obsidian Legion
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:53:00 -
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Originally by: Winters Chill Edited by: Winters Chill on 11/08/2010 16:10:33
Originally by: De'Veldrin Edited by: De''Veldrin on 11/08/2010 15:28:05 Speaking as a girl that plays Eve, if my husband: A)Ever said "put out more or STFU" to me, they would never find his body. Ever. B)Got all bent out of shape over me playing a damned game, he'd find his ****, neatly boxed, on the back porch with a note explaining the difference between "me" time and "us" time.
Speaking as a man, speaking to a little girl that plays eve.
The only thing worse than male posturing about women, is women posturing about men.
If you're speaking to a little girl, you're obviously not speaking to me. Are you sure you quoted the right post?
Assbag. --Vel
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Emperor Cheney
Celebrity Sex Tape
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:54:00 -
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Originally by: Makko Gray My wife used to dislike me playing EVE - then I suggested I'd give it up and take up historical warfare reenactment instead... she doesn't mind me playing EVE so much anymore.
You, sir, are a genius.
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Securitas Protector
Yaoi Corp Ethereal Dawn
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:58:00 -
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As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great. Proud to be shaych |
Cebraio
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:07:00 -
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Originally by: Securitas Protector As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great.
Totally convinced me. I'm gay now.\o/ Just need to explain it to my flat mate.
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Genya Arikaido
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:15:00 -
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Originally by: Securitas Protector As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great.
..and with one post, gay rights activism for minority rights go out the door as vast numbers of guys come out of the closet with no warning.
+1 Internets for your self-confidence, sir.
Originally by: CCP Tuxford my bad.
Rest assured I'm being ridiculed by my co-workers.
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Krennel Darius
Caldari Nova Security Systems The Laughing Men
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:20:00 -
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My fiancTe has an EVE account. She doesn't play it too much anymore, but she's got one. That, and she can't get enough of RPG's like Oblivion and Fable. Think I'm good on the EVE game time thing.
I do have a friend who recently started playing EVE after his divorce, and the reason 'the nag wouldn't let me play EVE' was sited as one of the reasons for divorce on his papers.
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Cleatus Ukken
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:21:00 -
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"I just don't understand... wtf is up with you and that game?!?!?" "Honey?" "What?!?" "Twilight."
Usually after I say that my ex would make incoherent sounds of frustration for about a minute or so before sulking off (she was obsessed with Twilight). I'd log off about a minute later to comfort her and say she had greater priority over "the game." Didn't really help in the end though. She was a "princess" and felt that she deserved my complete and undivided attention. Oh well. More time for EvE.
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Matthias Howe
Amarr 24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:33:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
Originally by: Matthias Howe An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
I'm not REALLY getting divorced. This mostly in jest. It's jsut nice to hear that I'm not the only one.
Oh you'll divorce. You Hhave said the divorce demon's name. Say it two more times and it will come for your marriage!!!!!!
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