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Aram Thracius
Amarr SniggWaffe
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Posted - 2008.05.08 15:58:00 -
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you don't need to explain the game in its complexity, that'd take ages;
I have a better idea, just tell her it's a game that allows you a great deal of freedom and that you can be as bad or as good as you want; btw chicks love piracy because of the romantic element, so use that ------------------------------ We are all doomed! |
Dario Wall
Caldari Black Legion Industries
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Posted - 2008.05.08 16:01:00 -
[152]
Originally by: Aram Thracius you don't need to explain the game in its complexity, that'd take ages;
I have a better idea, just tell her it's a game that allows you a great deal of freedom and that you can be as bad or as good as you want; btw chicks love piracy because of the romantic element, so use that
Fiance wants to end up doing piracy later on, but I'm a bit hesitant to take her on a run. I know that I'll end up having to grind out missions or something just to keep a large stock of ships ready for her.
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Gealbhan
Caldari Deep Core Mining Inc.
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Posted - 2008.05.08 16:17:00 -
[153]
I've said it before - Gamer Guys should only date Gamer Girls. (yes they do exist). My gf likes to play RuneScape & I like to play eve-o. As long as you still make time to do things together and talk a "dual gamer" relationship works very well.
"Concentrate all your fire on one target, when it is destroyed, move on to the next. That is how you secure victory". - Tactica Imperium. |
Dosgar
Caldari Panic DHH
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Posted - 2008.05.08 17:32:00 -
[154]
I tend to keep business and pleasure separate...
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The Tzar
Malicious Intentions
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Posted - 2008.05.09 11:35:00 -
[155]
Hmmm this bit about relationships pertaining to EVE players being 50:50 is BS imo.
Blokes are designed genetics upwards to be independant and sow the seed, girls are designed to seek security/family etc.
All I've heard is 'when my g/f needs my help with something'.
Is there ever an occassion that you need her help? (apart from the obvious)
Seems very one-sided to me. Is anyone in such a relationship that they can demand your girls immediate attention and gets it? __________________________________________
'Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear intelligent until they speak' __________________________________________ |
Jovoich
Towers Inc.
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Posted - 2008.05.09 12:01:00 -
[156]
All corps should vet there members GF if said member is wanting to share a home. Otherwise it might effect the corps efficency.
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SkyLordUK
Amarr Redemption EnterpriseS DeStInY.
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Posted - 2008.05.09 12:03:00 -
[157]
ive been going out with my gf for 2weeks and our convo ended up on the subject of games. (half her family play games) and i just told her straight out and she agreed ive always abandoned the game for RL (even in fleet battles on rare occasions) but i always make up for it in being online for quite awhile.
ive also played eve for 2years before i met up with her so i had a head start.
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Zirketch Kruug
Minmatar Ta'liq
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Posted - 2008.05.09 12:07:00 -
[158]
After a long time of dating my girl friend I moved in, in the same breath that I used to tell her I was moving in with her I told her that I had a mistress and she would be moving in with me as well. This caused some concern, even after I said her name was EVE. But she was kinda ok with it putting on brave face etc, but not quite knowing what to expect when her fiancee moves in with a mistress. Now after some time (3 yrs) she is toatlly cool with my mistress called EVE, hell she has got an account as well.
Just break it too her like that..... you come complete with your own mistress.
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Matting
NQX Innovations
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Posted - 2008.05.09 13:00:00 -
[159]
Hi, just noticed that there were no comments by EVE GF's here (my BF suggested i read this). Firstly quite funny, really enjoyed some of it.
My BF started playing EVE after we got together, so i grew to know the 'mistress' as he did, not that i understand too much, but i try!
A few of you have it right, giving time to the SO is vital! As long as i feel loved and appretiated its ok!
The worst thing was having my BF come home and go strait on EVE without talking to me (only happened on a few occasions), I need to know EVE isn't his first thought! Laptops are great, we can still spend time together doing our own stuff.
When telling her about EVE just be honnest, she will appreciate it. Compromise always helps as well!
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Aram Thracius
Amarr SniggWaffe
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Posted - 2008.05.09 14:14:00 -
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Originally by: Matting giving time to the SO is vital! As long as i feel loved and appretiated its ok!
SO? what's that, you're the corp's science officer ? ------------------------------ We are all doomed! |
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ThaMa Gebir
Gallente Raddick Explorations Friend or Enemy
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Posted - 2008.05.09 14:43:00 -
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Originally by: Aram Thracius
Originally by: Matting giving time to the SO is vital! As long as i feel loved and appretiated its ok!
SO? what's that, you're the corp's science officer ?
Real answer; Significant other.
Fun answer; Yeah, that's the type that particular player likes, as opposed to the Bev Crusher or Deanna Troi char. ----------------------------
Confirmed heaviest member of RDEX........
Hah, no more hijacks here!!!!
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Alassra Eventide
Veldspar Industries
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Posted - 2008.05.09 16:27:00 -
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Originally by: Grec Eve though is not a game for her i think, but if she looks, she likes the Amarr ships alot, she finds 'em badass although i'm caldari..
Yeah, those golden ***** ships are entirely badass
We all know why she likes the amarrian ships :P
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Danton Marcellus
Nebula Rasa Holdings
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Posted - 2008.05.09 16:29:00 -
[163]
Just be sure to tell her that every woman on here is actually a man and every hour spent playing EVE is an hour you're not out cheating, that's all she'll want and need to know.
Should/would/could have, HAVE you chav!
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Deira Lenia
The Chaotic Order Fallout Project
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Posted - 2008.05.09 17:40:00 -
[164]
I can be pretty much anywhere in the house near a fixed computer or take the lappy with me to be with the missus and do some eve.
Usualy she's downstairs with her "lil friends club" of about 30 people >.>
Up here is my domain, got my "office", bedrooms, bathroom, storage room on the floor, my network backbone and fileservers are i the attic. It's usualy where im playing aswell. Great view with the glass wall :D
I play eve because she has her lil friends club. If they aint doing something, im usualy not found playing :( -- Real men corpse tank Fallout Project Forums The Chaotic Order Forums |
Tamia Clant
New Dawn Corp New Eden Research
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Posted - 2008.05.09 18:43:00 -
[165]
First of all, trying to explain EVE to her is probably not going to be helpful unless she is already familiar with MMOs. You can still try to explain the game to her if you feel the need to, but at best she'll probably just pretend to be interested.
The fact that she said it's not a problem (for now) is already a big step forward. She recognizes it's something you enjoy doing, and as long as EVE doesn't get in the way of anything, you most likely won't run into any problems.
Now, the trick is to maintain this 'status quo'. The most important thing to keep in mind is showing her she's more important to you than the game is. I'm sure that sounds quite obvious, but it won't be as obvious when you're getting chased relentlessly by a hostile gang and trying to get your ship safe when your girlfriend asks you for company. "Just a minute or two, honey" might sound like a reasonable answer to you, but to her it'll look like you're giving the game more attention, and this is where the EVE vs. GF competition starts. From here on, it only goes downhill, and you'll either end up not playing EVE, or looking for a new girlfriend.
You have 3 main ways to avoid getting in this situation:
1 - Explain the basics of the game to her. As I said above, this is not likely to work if she doesn't have much interest in video games, but if you just manage to explain to her that in EVE there's no Pause button and you can actually lose things (even if just virtual), then she might be slightly more tolerant when you take a bit to get off the game.
2 - Exit the game immediately whenever necessary. This solution is the most healthy one for your relationship, but it also screws the most with your EVE habits, and it won't work that well if your GF nags you constantly. It may also lead to your GF nagging you for the sole purpose of getting you off EVE. Choosing this option will require to change your in-game activities to things you can abruptly stop doing. (such as high-sec mission-running or mining) If you're a low-sec/0.0 person, there's a few problems here, as most activities require you to stay online for long periods of time, in which case the solution is to take up non-essential roles. For example, if you're in a pvp gang, choose a fast, light ship that you can move away from hostile territory by yourself in case you have to log off in a hurry, and refrain from taking roles such as fleet commanding or scouting. Having your corp members know you may have to log off at any given time might reduce the damage caused from you vanishing from the game. (though it might also result in you getting kicked from the corp!)
3 - Set specific times for playing EVE. Basically, just designate a few hours every day/weekend/whatever in which you'll be playing EVE and you don't want your GF to disturb you. This works best if you match these playing times to when she's already doing other things by herself. (whether that be watching TV, going shopping, be at work, etc) Obviously, you don't want to go overboard, so no 12-hour EVE weekend marathons. As long as you're reasonable with what times you choose to play EVE, you shouldn't find problems getting her to agree.
All in all, it'll require some degree of sacrifice, but then again, you should have seen it coming when you decided to move in.
TL;DR Version: Don't neglect your GF, play EVE moderately, and all should be well.
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Feazy
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Posted - 2008.05.10 00:52:00 -
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LOL read all the comments:), i never had this issue cause i started playin the game when we were together. the only thing i had to make sure was tht she knows tht all the ppl i am talkin to are male(few corp mates with female char really put me in trouble, laylord u ***hole), let here hear ur TS(sorry guys i nerver told u about tht), washing dishes is a must plus cooking dinner for her give extra playtime credit( btw read this thread while doin tht). now after one and a half year of playin eve she is still ok with it, sometimes she listens to me talk about eve. when she sees me ****ed off cause of somethin in the game she comes to me and calms me down( after reading all the horror stories i was soo happy to have a gf who is soo cool plus extremely HOT), calls my corp mate my bf as a joke( raytruz thts u, bend over now). the only tips i can give u is to tell her when she is in a good mood plus dont tell her in a way tht she will think eve is more important then her, bring out the subject of hobbies( as lot of others have suggested) and then tell her u prefer to play mmog cause u enjoy games plus they cost less then other hobbies. then tell her u r playin eve nowadays in ur SPARE time and a lil bit about it, not too much( top 30 secs). see her reaction and then see wht to do next.i think its better if u let her digest this info first before u give out anymore. anyways best of luck.
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Drizit
Amarr
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Posted - 2008.05.10 01:06:00 -
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I used to have a stressful job, Security in a shopping mall. Trying not to kick the sh*t out of those gobby little kids meant I was often wound up tighter than a coiled spring when I got home. I told my wife that Eve was a way to relieve the stress by taking it out on a few pixels on screen rather than blow up in an all-out row with her.
I've since divorced her and my new gf is fine with me playing Eve. She understands that having my own space now and then is important.
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Tommy TenKreds
Animal Mercantile Executive
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Posted - 2008.05.13 17:58:00 -
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Edited by: Tommy TenKreds on 13/05/2008 18:00:00
Pointless past argument (one of many):-
GF > Computers are so anti-social... Me > (over shoulder) Computers aren't nearly as anti-social as watching the telly, babe... GF > What? How? TV is much more sociable; you sit and watch it together.. Me > Yeah, but you don't actually speak to each other. At least I'm talking to people... GF > ...
Pointless past proposal:-
Me > Babe, you should just try Eve! It really is cool, you'd like it... GF > Nah! You're always just flying around and looking at lists and stuff. That's boring. I want to just jump in and kill things. Me > Well there is shooting stuff as well. Really.. try it and see.. GF > Nah! Spaceships are definitely a boy thing..
(Possible/Desperate) Solution to growing tension:-
Me > Hey babe, you enjoyed dungeon siege...? GF > Yeah that was fun.. Me > And Morrowind...? GF > Yeah? Me > Well why don't you try out WoW, it seems really similar to those? GF > Urrm. Yeah maybe I could.
Emergence of new problem:-
Me > So hmm... babe, when can I get online...? I think I need to change skills...? GF > Oh... in a minute (ffs); it's AB honor weekend ya'know... Me > ....
Moral:-
Gamer girls sound cool in principle but be careful what you wish for, you might create a monster.
Bandures > tommy you like a cowboy harry ) |
Kalius Prime
Mining Bytes Inc. Insurgency
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Posted - 2008.05.13 19:25:00 -
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Originally by: callisthenes excelsior I have lots of accounts, play eve like an addict, and have a wife and family.
Some key things for bliss:
1) I can read stories to the kids while playing eve and even pvping.
2) I've taught my smallest kids how to type. I open a chat window to an alt in windowed mode, and they practice keyboarding while I rat or mine.
3) Always break for sex...always
4) keep a clean keyboard and wash those sweaty hands alot!
5) keep your hands warm in the winter ... I find that using a mouse a lot can give you cold fingers, and no gf wife likes a cold hug
6) my son loves legos and builds eve ships with them as I show him all the ships! His lego deimos is the talk of the kindergarten! All his friends love his lego ships!
7) now I shop online... I've never missed one of my wife's holiday gifts of bdays!
8) learn to do at home or office work while playing eve and mining or light pvp
9) do research for your wife or gf while playing eve... "Hey, you were talking about pergo floors? I just checked the website!"
10) always break for sex... did I mention that one?
11) plan eve off nites at random to surprise her that you are NOT playing
12) do housework while mining or moving a freighter... between one double cargo rigged hulk with cargo expanders I can do a load of laundry, the dishes, pay bills, etc...
13) read a book SHE loves! If your elite at playing eve and multitaksing, read one of her books for a change. Imagine the discussion with, "So what about that latest Maeve Binchy novel? Or what did you think of the main character in the Bridges of Madison County?"
Anyway, I get to live the dream of nice job, loving wife who lets me play eve whenever, and having a great family! I hope these tips help!
This^^
and also, let her read this thread.
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Inverc
Minmatar Republic Military School
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Posted - 2008.05.14 10:03:00 -
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Quote:
Moral:-
Gamer girls sound cool in principle but be careful what you wish for, you might create a monster.
Indeed. My ex-gf was a gamer. We never had excatly this same problem because I always fixed a PC for her. She even was really understanding when I was struggling with nasty MMo addiction, twice. She never played EVE but I introduced her to SWG, ATITD and WOW. Playing together was lots of fun, but most of the other aspects of relationship didnt really work. To name few things: housework and sex life really suffered because of this. And in long run it was just too much.
My new gf is not interested in computers at all but she understands that I need my own time and as long as I dont play too much and still do stuff with her this is not a problem. This limits quite much ofc, I get to play hour or two on weekdays, more on weekends of course. But I dont really see myself joing a corp again. Well its better that way, in the end this is still just a game. MMO addction == bad Although I am slowly introducing her to EVE. She sits on my lap quite often while I massage her when doing semi-afk mining/salvaging/missioning. She also gets to name my ships if she is nearby. Biggest accomplish so far is that I got her to move the ore from barge to a jettisoned can while I was doing the dishes.
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Franga
NQX Innovations
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Posted - 2008.05.14 11:45:00 -
[171]
Originally by: Franco Caruso Edited by: Franco Caruso on 06/05/2008 16:42:13
Originally by: Able Maldonado tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other?
My wife is totally computer illiterate ( the bliss ). I do not need to defend or explain EVE-Online anymore ... we have hacked out an agreement. 2 evenings a week, I don't play but go out with her, I go shopping on saturdays and can play the rest of the time.
She's quite happy about EVE, I don't surf p0rn ( much ), I don't spend cash on stupid hobbies and/or a new game every month ( apart EVE-Store stuff ) and she knows where to find me. Convenient for her and me.
Jerk.
Originally by: Rachel Vend ... with 100% reliability in most cases ...
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Solasta Kovacs
Reikoku Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2008.05.14 11:57:00 -
[172]
Originally by: Tommy TenKreds Edited by: Tommy TenKreds on 13/05/2008 18:00:00
Pointless past argument (one of many):-
GF > Computers are so anti-social... Me > (over shoulder) Computers aren't nearly as anti-social as watching the telly, babe... GF > What? How? TV is much more sociable; you sit and watch it together.. Me > Yeah, but you don't actually speak to each other. At least I'm talking to people... GF > ...
This.
If you work out the time your mrs spends watching soaps, "lifestyle" programmes etc, it will probably be more than youe eve play time anway. Of course, she wont accept the logic of that, but it is likely to be true or thereabouts!
TBH you just have to set days / times when she doesnt object- I play and babysit whilst she goes to the gym- we're both winners on those days. She still throws irrational fits occasionally though and I fear thats unavoidable.
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Ava Baby
Morsus Mihi
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Posted - 2008.05.14 13:32:00 -
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Edited by: Ava Baby on 14/05/2008 13:33:20
Originally by: Random Elite I'll be honest, my girl thinks it's pretty weird. Then I get made fun of when my roommates see me with my headset on. I tell them it's no different than them being on their Xbox with a headset.
It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back!
I'm glad I'm not the only that's had those experiences.
But I usually say "play with yourself for a minute baby, I'll be right back."
Oh, also I tell her that's how I keep in touch with my friends back home. Usually she fine with that.
Originally by: Loyal Servant Fail.
Whining about whiners.
Epic fail.
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Sorted
Low Sec Liberators
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Posted - 2008.05.14 13:41:00 -
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Edited by: Sorted on 14/05/2008 13:45:49 mine complains, alot, about everything. so she isnt a fan of eve as you can imagine.
Was considering trading her in for a cheaper and quieter model http://www.realdoll.com/
:)
But admittedly, past the "I get to shoot stuff with my space ship" I havent tried to explain it.
I do say, "sshhhhhh.." and "whats for T?", "do we have any booze left?" quiet alot.
And like most folk I try and justifiy EvE with "it doesnt cost alot" (beside the money for the new shiney PC) and "least you know where I am and that arent messing ya about" The equivalent response to getting caught my your parents with weed: "hey, at least its not *****" Not the best arguments, damned effective tho.
But its about comprimise, I dont play as much as I'd like, and she doesnt complain "as much" as if I did lol
Sorted
Edit: If i sound like a shovanist its cause I am. (well traditionalist if you want to romanticse it. I do the bread winning thing and go to work, she does the house wife thing so that I dont have any more "work" to do when I get home: Works for me.)
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Huurtney Gurdsen
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Posted - 2008.05.14 14:03:00 -
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Edited by: Huurtney Gurdsen on 14/05/2008 14:07:28 My wife has been pretty awful about it. She called computer gaming 'silly and pointless', so I looked her in the eye and told her she could live with it or not live with it, it was her choice.
I've been playing computer games since they invented them, been through several cars, relationships, houses, governments one burglary and a fire and I'm still playing them, why would I suddenly stop ???
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Solasta Kovacs
Reikoku Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2008.05.14 14:22:00 -
[176]
Point out that soap operas are pointless- and arent even sociable...
She wont like that.
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NightCrawler 85
Phoibe Enterprises The Fifth Race
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Posted - 2008.05.14 15:00:00 -
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me and my boyfriend used to play eve together but he more or less quit about..gah 1 year+ ago. im hocked,he hates;)
days go more like this: he comes home from work:logg off eve,i need a break from that **** boring game.and dont dare talking about it! me: loggs off fast as hell appologising to corp members and in varius convos. he sits down infront of teh computer and start playing flash games or read news or go to iambored while i sitt next to him watching/reading/trying to waste time until he is done and needs me to find something we both can do to entertain him;) before i knock him to sleep,and sneak back up to play:) weekends or when he is home/awake there is NO eve or anything related:(
someone in her made a comment about jelousy..and atleast thats the case in my situation. when i first started playing about 3 years ago i couldent speak/write any english exept "hello" and "bye",so i didente xactly talk to anyone,played alone when the rest of the corp (at that time everyone was us exept me and bf).but when he left for teh army for a year and i was alone all day i started to learn english (with a lot of help from corp members;) ) and by the time he was back...well...
him:you know all these people are just talking to you because your a girl and they want to **** you right?you so navie that think they are actually friends
good for him that he has a cute ass;)
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Vigilant
Gallente Vigilant's Vigilante's
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Posted - 2008.05.14 16:27:00 -
[178]
Originally by: Franco Caruso Edited by: Franco Caruso on 06/05/2008 16:42:13
Originally by: Able Maldonado tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other?
My wife is totally computer illiterate ( the bliss ). I do not need to defend or explain EVE-Online anymore ... we have hacked out an agreement. 2 evenings a week, I don't play but go out with her, I go shopping on saturdays and can play the rest of the time.
She's quite happy about EVE, I don't surf p0rn ( much ), I don't spend cash on stupid hobbies and/or a new game every month ( apart EVE-Store stuff ) and she knows where to find me. Convenient for her and me.
Same, my wife rather have me play games and be throwing "insert item here" then out at bar. Its good to be king!
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Archon T'orn
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Posted - 2008.05.14 17:39:00 -
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Originally by: NightCrawler 85 me and my boyfriend used to play eve together but he more or less quit about..gah 1 year+ ago. im hocked,he hates;)
days go more like this: he comes home from work:logg off eve,i need a break from that **** boring game.and dont dare talking about it! me: loggs off fast as hell appologising to corp members and in varius convos. he sits down infront of teh computer and start playing flash games or read news or go to iambored while i sitt next to him watching/reading/trying to waste time until he is done and needs me to find something we both can do to entertain him;) before i knock him to sleep,and sneak back up to play:) weekends or when he is home/awake there is NO eve or anything related:(
someone in her made a comment about jelousy..and atleast thats the case in my situation. when i first started playing about 3 years ago i couldent speak/write any english exept "hello" and "bye",so i didente xactly talk to anyone,played alone when the rest of the corp (at that time everyone was us exept me and bf).but when he left for teh army for a year and i was alone all day i started to learn english (with a lot of help from corp members;) ) and by the time he was back...well...
him:you know all these people are just talking to you because your a girl and they want to **** you right?you so navie that think they are actually friends
good for him that he has a cute ass;)
This is for you and all the others who have to 'ask' for Eve time...
Get out of the relationship... just go. Find someone who shares your interests (for the ladies, you need but take your pick from about a bazillion gamer geeks, for the guys... gl) and go from there.
A relationship is give-give. Each of you gives the other what they need in exchange for your needs being fulfilled.
The problem comes when a spouse/significant other has an issue with an interest of yours that you feel passionately about. That issue will eventually become loathing, and at some point they will give an ultimatum, 'either that game goes, or I do'. A spouse/significant other should care about what you care about, or care enough about you to let you do what you like without shaming you/putting you down/guilting you.
If you are in a relationship like this... get the **** out before it becomes more dysfunctional.
I personally don't have a gf because I enjoy the things I do and am rather picky when it comes to the opposite sex, which makes my relationships few and far between but allows me piece of mind and happiness.
PS I was once married to one of these over-protective, selfish, low-self-esteem-havin turds. That was more than 3 years wasted. |
Tyler Rainez
Gallente Ravenclaw Manufacturing
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Posted - 2008.05.14 19:31:00 -
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Love the post....quite funny some of the stories/explaintions to significant others
I only have two things in this world, my word and my balls and I don't break'em for nobody! -- Tony Montana |
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