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Cat o'Ninetails
Caldari
Rancer Defence League
Eternal Ascension
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Posted - 2010.09.09 22:37:00 -
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Hi, Cat here
So, i met up with an old school friend a few months ago, and we're both pretty psyched that we're back in touch and such. We've had a few poker nights and it's all been nice. We were really good friends in our teenage years, shared everything. He's started revealing another side to himself lately.
He has an imaginary character called Dr. Finsborough who seems to be around most of the time (anyone wearing a tweed jacket and glasses is him) and I am seriously at a loss as how to deal with this. The guy is cracking, he even thought I was Dr. Finsborough once tonight.
I don't know, something is telling me something is wrong, and he's re-trusted me enough (since school) to tell me. He's not dangerous or anything, just really weird at times. Weird enough to the point I suspect at least a minor degree of mental illness, mind.
Ignorning it was a nice idea, but that doesn't really work in practice.
Does anybody have experience with this kind of thing?
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Lance Fighter
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.09.09 22:40:00 -
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I think hes trolling you. You should stop feeding him.
 Originally by: CCP Shadow
Have you ever wished you could have prevented a train wreck before it actually happened? I need to stop this one before the craziness begins.
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Barakkus
Caelestis Iudicium
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Posted - 2010.09.09 22:44:00 -
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You should probably visit your psychatrist and tell him about your imaginary highschool friend.
Originally by: CCP Dropbear
rofl
edit: ah crap, dev account. Oh well, official rofl at you sir.
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Slade Trillgon
Endless Possibilities Inc.
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Posted - 2010.09.09 22:45:00 -
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Edited by: Slade Trillgon on 09/09/2010 22:46:32
Originally by: Cat o'Ninetails
He's not dangerous or anything, just really weird at times.
That is what neighbors of serial killers usually thought before they found out their neighbor was a serial killer 
Seriously though, I have no experience with this type of situation; I will not weigh in on this one other then to say if it gets worse I would terminate the relationship for safetyÆs sake.
Originally by: Barakkus
You should probably visit your psychatrist and tell him about your imaginary highschool friend.
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Slade
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Istvaan Shogaatsu
Caldari
Guiding Hand Social Club
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Posted - 2010.09.09 22:46:00 -
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You mean you can't see Dr. Finsborough?
He's right there.
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King Gore
The Church of Sentcha
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Posted - 2010.09.09 23:21:00 -
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Must resist urge..to..troll..
Is he dead serious when he sees this character?
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Intense Thinker
Minmatar
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Posted - 2010.09.10 00:49:00 -
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Originally by: Barakkus
You should probably visit your psychatrist and tell him about your imaginary highschool friend.
An imaginary friend with an imaginary friend that has a PhD or went through medical school is very dangerous 
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Miriam Letisse
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Posted - 2010.09.10 01:01:00 -
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I'd like to think there's a little of Dr. Finsborough in all of us. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone had the qualities of Dr. Finsborough? I certainly do.
*Swings tweed jacket over her shoulder and leaves.*
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Herzog Wolfhammer
Gallente
Aliastra
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Posted - 2010.09.10 01:30:00 -
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Originally by: Cat o'Ninetails
Hi, Cat here
So, i met up with an old school friend a few months ago, and we're both pretty psyched that we're back in touch and such. We've had a few poker nights and it's all been nice. We were really good friends in our teenage years, shared everything. He's started revealing another side to himself lately.
He has an imaginary character called Dr. Finsborough who seems to be around most of the time (anyone wearing a tweed jacket and glasses is him) and I am seriously at a loss as how to deal with this. The guy is cracking, he even thought I was Dr. Finsborough once tonight.
I don't know, something is telling me something is wrong, and he's re-trusted me enough (since school) to tell me. He's not dangerous or anything, just really weird at times. Weird enough to the point I suspect at least a minor degree of mental illness, mind.
Ignorning it was a nice idea, but that doesn't really work in practice.
Does anybody have experience with this kind of thing?
ty
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He knows Dr. Finsborough too? COOL!!!!!
And here I thought I was the only one who saw him.
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yani dumyat
Minmatar
Black Storm Cartel
The Orca Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.09.10 02:34:00 -
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Edited by: yani dumyat on 10/09/2010 02:37:13
I don't have any psychology qualifications but was in the ambulance service for a few years and have various other experiences of mental illness. What you've described is not something that I've encountered before so the following are general tips on dealing with mental health issues rather than specific to the OP.
Mental illnesses tend to be as unique as the individuals themselves, most people who have strong delusions are either aware that they are delusional and can function enough to prevent any threat or they are sectioned (locked up).
Mental patients are far more likely to become a threat to themselves than a threat to others but in some ways the mental health system is the hardest obstacle of all. There is a huge stigma attached to mental illness which the patient must overcome and the everyday bureaucracy of appointments and medicines can be a huge challenge.
As an outsider the question becomes one of time. If you wish to enter their life as a friend then please realize that it is for the long haul, if you give your friend support then disappear when they really need you it will not go well. On the other hand if you are going to be their friend then it must be a two way thing, if you become too physically drained by them then it's time to step away or redefine your friendship.
There's no hard n fast rules when dealing with a friend who needs professional help other than ensuring they get the help they need (not a small challenge in itself). Something to be very wary of is the word 'problem'. Some doctors will fill people full of pills n potions rather than engage with the complexities of an individual patient and other mental health staff are simply worn out by the low pay and thankless work they do.
+100% respect to psychiatric nurses. One of the world's hardest jobs.
The nature of the OP's forum posts lead's me to believe Cat's got a good degree of emotional intelligence so really play it by ear and do what you know to be right =^_^=
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Daisuke Aoki
Gallente
Independent Coalition
OWN Alliance
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Posted - 2010.09.10 07:43:00 -
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Start acting like Cat O'Ninetails in person towards him whenever he starts acting like Dr. Finsberg.
You know, the whole 16-year-old girl demeanor, maybe even dress the part. Cat ears for extra points.
Should work nicely.
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Roboplegic
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.09.10 13:33:00 -
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becarefull when you tell him his imaginary freind isn't there, he might flip out and kill you
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oolk
Caldari
Caldari Provisions
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Posted - 2010.09.10 16:32:00 -
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Shakespearian...
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Something Random
Gallente
The Barrow Boys
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Posted - 2010.09.10 16:57:00 -
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Ill take a munch at this bit of cake.....
Mentally unsound people, and i class your friend as this, often do not get any help to confront their illness. Later you hear some sad story how they finally went way out there in some way.
Be a good friend. Talk with him about this Dr.Finsborough and try to see if you can make him see he is not real - he is not there. I dont know the situation but if there is a hint of agression in such a talk i would really suggest you get in touch with your doctor and see if he will attend with you in a talk with your friend. Psychiatric nurses/social workers are also good for this job.
Basically - make him see he is ill and help him through the process.
Be a true friend.
Originally by: CCP Fallout
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ceaon
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Posted - 2010.09.10 17:02:00 -
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Dr. Finsborough why a man i mean should be much better for him if had a imaginary nurse you can use Richard Bandler approach on this one if a man see looney toons around the house Richard Bandler suggested to the patient that he should have a fun time if see females from playboy channel
also listen this
Originally by: CCP Adida
The male thread was locked because the discussion turned into transsexuals and man boobs.
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Templar Dane
Amarrian Retribution
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Posted - 2010.09.11 00:56:00 -
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I bet it's a scam. You tell him Dr. Finsborough isn't real and then he goes all boohoo on you, agrees that you need help, then asks you for money so he can "get help".
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Herzog Wolfhammer
Gallente
Aliastra
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Posted - 2010.09.11 01:39:00 -
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This story reminds me of someone who got out of military service by pretending he was on a motorcycle whenever he had to walk somewhere. He would make very annoying motocross bike sounds.
Eventually the military doctors thought him just a nut, and he was discharged in such a manner that he would not have a marked record on leaving (attributed to stress and additional hardships I think).
When he left, before getting on the bus, he "parked" the bike right by the door and walked on the bus normally - and it was the first time anyone saw him walk normally. Yes he pretended he was actually parking the bike by the curb.
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Brujo Loco
Amarr
Brujeria Teologica
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Posted - 2010.09.12 02:36:00 -
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Bah, honestly I didn't want to post here but I must.
As a working Psychologist with a long term internship in a Psychiatric Hospital, what you describe can be many many things.
First of all make yourself sure he isnt trying to get your attention by "imagining" this character only to see your reactions in a vain attempt at getting/reaching to you anymore. This guy might be lacking certain social skills and is trying to bridge that gap by showing you this whole characterization only to "test" you for his own deranged neurotic game of asocial behavior. This if we are dealing with an ingrained Neurosis based pathological act (In this case a Psychologist could help you/him)
Second, make sure that whatever he imagines, contrary to what people say here, you either not disagree or agree plainly with him. If we are dealing with a slowly degrading Psychotic mind, rushing him "to reality" will do crap. It's a well known fact that Neurosis therapy/shock assimilation treatment on a Psychotic degrades him further. Fact is it is counterproductive to tell "crazy" people they are crazy and reality is different. This is like Psychology 101 in my School of Thought/College approved Discipline. (Other specialists are welcome to argue this point to death, but I stand by it)
Third, if you really care for this friend and are willing to endure the long road ahead then I'd reccomend you begin hinting him to see a specialist, and if he refuses then either contact proper authorities like relatives or people in charge or if that fails take it upon yourself to lead this person into proper care. If he's psychotic by virtue of a beggining schizophrenic act (which is the most common illness of today's world, cant really diagnose him using the DSM or CIE stats as I am just giving advice thru the net, then theoretically a couple of happy pills from a qualified psychiatrist will help him, then again I might be wrong but just going out of the blue into a common direction)
Fourth if you do not feel up to this then you better back away now as harsh as some people might think this will sound. Dealing with someone in a yet unidentified degree of mental psychotic breakdown (Assuming per se this person is indeed seeing this within the scope of his reality) is hazardous and don't want to sound like a *****, but it's simply the truth. I was splashed by blood and attacked upon by several "normal" looking people during my internship to realize I have a healthy respect for people and never assume anything at face value.
Not to scare you but to point the simple facts of MY experience in dealing with Bipolars/Borderline/Schizophrenics for quite a while. Once they are medicated they can resume normal activities, but someone without medication is a danger to others and itself, specially on progressive degrading illnesses.
Since my field of expertise is by the book neurotics can't give you more info on the matter atm but feel free to book an appointment with your local area psychiatrist or psychiatric hospital to learn about your community/state/country regulations when dealing with these type of cases, as they vary WILDLY between countries and if I am not mistaken it can be a misdemeanor not to report these cases (for me at least as a working Health Care specialist, dunno about civilians)
So to sum it up, keep doing what you do, be wary, and consult a specialist ASAP, can't really help much since I don't access or more info regarding this person and in the end this might just be a trolling attempt by him or by you Cat.
Seriously, consult an specialist and dont abide by Internet anons giving you tips and hints k?
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Archipelago Theory
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Zivoril
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Posted - 2010.09.12 02:57:00 -
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Edited by: Zivoril on 12/09/2010 02:57:46
I got as far as old school friend then skimmed your post Cat really know one gives a Cats arse. get over yourslef@!
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Joe Bonanno
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Posted - 2010.09.12 05:19:00 -
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Finally that rat bastard Dr. Finsborough shows up on the grid! I'll have you know he owes me a ****load of money and I'll be damned if he slips away from me again. Next time your friend sees Finsborough be sure to give me a shout because I really want that money.
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Intense Thinker
Minmatar
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Posted - 2010.09.12 05:47:00 -
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Originally by: Joe Bonanno
Finally that rat bastard Dr. Finsborough shows up on the grid! I'll have you know he owes me a ****load of money and I'll be damned if he slips away from me again. Next time your friend sees Finsborough be sure to give me a shout because I really want that money.
Dr. Finsborough touched me in a bad place 
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