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halokitty1
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Posted - 2011.01.19 18:58:00 -
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Jean CurPictat
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Posted - 2011.01.19 19:29:00 -
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Sorry to hear that, man.
This is probably why I play absolutely solo: have a family to take care of and all the "good" alliances/corps out there ask you to marry them. Simply not worth it.
It's like life: don't set your goals too high or the fall will be harsh.
Wish you all the luck in getting your life back on track!
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Sidus Isaacs
Gallente
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Posted - 2011.01.19 20:59:00 -
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 Originally by: halokitty1
Edited by: halokitty1 on 19/01/2011 19:06:16
If you are married and have had issues with the spouse regarding your stupid internet game:
1) Give away all of your "stuff"
2) Liquidate your toons. Cancel subscription.
3) ??
4) Hug your kids, sit by your fireplace and get some.
Another marriage (15 years) reduced to name calling and visitation rights. Guess I'll be mining solo from now on.
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EVE is just a game. Treat it as such.
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Astenion
Blame The Bunny
Reverberation Project
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Posted - 2011.01.19 21:35:00 -
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Edited by: Astenion on 19/01/2011 21:36:19
If your spouse can't handle your playing an internet game, it's for the best. It has much more to do with boundaries and mutual respect than a video game, actually.
I'll break it down for you: women get ****ed off when they're bored and they want you to suffer with them. Therefore, it ****es them off even more when you have something to do and they don't. Fortunately, my wife is a gamer as well so I don't have that problem, although in the past it has been an issue in past relationships, albeit an issue rectified rather quickly by putting my foot down. A quick, "This is who I am. If you don't like it, GTFO" will suffice.
This is who we are. It's not just gaming, it's everything. I also play music in two different bands and have to juggle different things. Your wife SHOULD support you and respect you as long as you respect her as well, but respect doesn't mean caving in to be what she wants you to be.
You'll see. Everything will be alright.
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Captain Die
Suicide by Cop
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Posted - 2011.01.19 21:59:00 -
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Originally by: Astenion
Edited by: Astenion on 19/01/2011 21:36:19
If your spouse can't handle your playing an internet game, it's for the best. It has much more to do with boundaries and mutual respect than a video game, actually.
I'll break it down for you: women get ****ed off when they're bored and they want you to suffer with them. Therefore, it ****es them off even more when you have something to do and they don't. Fortunately, my wife is a gamer as well so I don't have that problem, although in the past it has been an issue in past relationships, albeit an issue rectified rather quickly by putting my foot down. A quick, "This is who I am. If you don't like it, GTFO" will suffice.
This is who we are. It's not just gaming, it's everything. I also play music in two different bands and have to juggle different things. Your wife SHOULD support you and respect you as long as you respect her as well, but respect doesn't mean caving in to be what she wants you to be.
You'll see. Everything will be alright.
This. Be who you are and don't cater to those who wish to control you. Keep your eye on the prize, your kids man.
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Istvaan Shogaatsu
Caldari
Guiding Hand Social Club
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Posted - 2011.01.19 22:30:00 -
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Sounds like you're better off.
Eve Online: Gets Rid of Horrible Wives.
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Captain Die
Suicide by Cop
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Posted - 2011.01.19 23:08:00 -
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Originally by: Istvaan Shogaatsu
Sounds like you're better off.
Eve Online: Gets Rid of Horrible Wives.
I can see that being the next expansion after walking in stations.
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Star NL
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Posted - 2011.01.19 23:54:00 -
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I must admit that I am lucky to enjoy gaming and sports. Has saved me a lot of heartache.
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Gangus
Minmatar
Matari BackBone
Fate Weavers
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Posted - 2011.01.20 07:00:00 -
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My fiancee refers to EVE as "The Other Woman" and asks me if I'd rather be having sex with my PC.
I really do have to say that I doubt that EVE would be the sole reason you guys broke up, but it's often easiest to pull something really visible and time consuming, such as EVE, out as a reason, when in all honesty it was simply one of many contributing factors.
That said, I hope you can pull things together with your wife (I guess you're a guy, sorry if I'm mistaken), and find a way to make it work in future. However if she's immature enough to feel like she needs to be calling you names maybe you're better off without her, and you can make better use of your time by focusing on your kids and trying not to have a poisonous personality grow in them due to the type of parental guidance that feels it appropriate to be calling their ex by all sorts of nasty names, and would also br quite likely to be doing their best to poison and corrupt their relationship and feelings about you.
Also, can I have your stuff? (It had to be said, sorry if it's in bad humour)
I hate it when it's not clear when someone's sig begins.
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Alotta Baggage
Amarr
Imperial Manufactorum
Armada Assail
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Posted - 2011.01.20 07:36:00 -
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Originally by: Gangus
My fiancee refers to EVE as "The Other Woman" and asks me if I'd rather be having sex with my PC.
I have an understanding with mine 
Originally by: Magnus Andronicus
ur character looks like a f***ing clown dude.
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ivar R'dhak
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Posted - 2011.01.20 08:42:00 -
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@OP hit the good ole Chateau to find out what you really did wrong.
Beta Valentine
Originally by: Istvaan Shogaatsu
Sounds like you're better off.
Eve Online: Gets Rid of Horrible Wives.
/thread
Also, Istavaan. You accidentally you hair? 
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Florio
Miniature Giant Space Hamsters
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Posted - 2011.01.20 11:18:00 -
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Originally by: halokitty1
Edited by: halokitty1 on 19/01/2011 19:06:16
If you are married and have had issues with the spouse regarding your stupid internet game:
1) Give away all of your "stuff"
2) Liquidate your toons. Cancel subscription.
3) ??
4) Hug your kids, sit by your fireplace and get some.
or
1) Find a way to play for only a few hours per week, say 7 to 10 hours, whilst your better half watches her 5h1t telly.
2) Hug your kids, sit by your fireplace and get some.
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dr doooo
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Posted - 2011.01.20 15:47:00 -
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Originally by: Captain Die
Originally by: Astenion
Edited by: Astenion on 19/01/2011 21:36:19
If your spouse can't handle your playing an internet game, it's for the best. It has much more to do with boundaries and mutual respect than a video game, actually.
I'll break it down for you: women get ****ed off when they're bored and they want you to suffer with them. Therefore, it ****es them off even more when you have something to do and they don't. Fortunately, my wife is a gamer as well so I don't have that problem, although in the past it has been an issue in past relationships, albeit an issue rectified rather quickly by putting my foot down. A quick, "This is who I am. If you don't like it, GTFO" will suffice.
This is who we are. It's not just gaming, it's everything. I also play music in two different bands and have to juggle different things. Your wife SHOULD support you and respect you as long as you respect her as well, but respect doesn't mean caving in to be what she wants you to be.
You'll see. Everything will be alright.
This. Be who you are and don't cater to those who wish to control you. Keep your eye on the prize, your kids man.
I agree. Thoughtless lack of respect seems to be all too common amongst these women's libber types these days. Of coarse everything is fine and dandy in those early loved up years, but 15 years down the line, when they've trapped you with kids and a mortgage, they get all emotional just because you forgot to talk to them for a year or two. No respect.
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Astenion
Blame The Bunny
Reverberation Project
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Posted - 2011.01.21 00:09:00 -
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I'm betting she was American. (I'm American btw, not starting some cultural war or anything.)
American women are typically riddled with an overinflated sense of self-worth, tons of baggage, and bring drama with them everywhere they go. If they travel abroad, they simply do it to brag to their friends. Their life partners tend to either be held up as trophies among their friends or extremely passive males who let their wives walk all over them. American women want everything and want you to have nothing and be happy about it.
There are women like this all over the world, but in the US it's a staple. In a country where competition exists in every part of life and society, marriage is no exception.
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Malcanis
Caldari
Vanishing Point.
The Initiative.
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Posted - 2011.01.21 00:54:00 -
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Originally by: Captain Die
Originally by: Istvaan Shogaatsu
Sounds like you're better off.
Eve Online: Gets Rid of Horrible Wives.
I can see that being the next expansion after walking in stations.
Malcanis' Law: Whenever a mechanics change is proposed on behalf of "new players", that change is always to the overwhelming advantage of richer, older players. |
Kelkam
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Posted - 2011.01.21 04:17:00 -
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Eve is a family game your supposed to sub your family to mine/rr for you. A family that flys together stays together.
It's like closet alcoholism, your supposed to get drunk with friends not by yourself.
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Florio
Miniature Giant Space Hamsters
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Posted - 2011.01.21 06:29:00 -
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Originally by: Astenion
I'm betting she was American. (I'm American btw, not starting some cultural war or anything.)
American women are typically riddled with an overinflated sense of self-worth, tons of baggage, and bring drama with them everywhere they go. If they travel abroad, they simply do it to brag to their friends. Their life partners tend to either be held up as trophies among their friends or extremely passive males who let their wives walk all over them. American women want everything and want you to have nothing and be happy about it.
There are women like this all over the world, but in the US it's a staple. In a country where competition exists in every part of life and society, marriage is no exception.
woah! Harsh but funny.
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Shameless Avenger
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Posted - 2011.01.21 08:29:00 -
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Edited by: Shameless Avenger on 21/01/2011 08:29:15
People don't get divorced because of a game. People use the game as an excuse. As in:
"I'm an evil witch. I wanna divorce my perfectly good husband so I could dedicate myself to witchery. I don't wanna admit that I'm an evil witch so I'll blame his spaceships game."
I leaved the game, closed acct and all... marriage lasted maybe another 16 months and ended anyway. Thanks God I didn't deleted the toons and was able to reactivate again and pew pew.
My current GF plays facebook games. It makes her happy. I love her so I let her play. If you love somebody, you let them play. |
ivar R'dhak
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Posted - 2011.01.21 14:28:00 -
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Originally by: Shameless Avenger
Edited by: Shameless Avenger on 21/01/2011 08:29:15"I'm an evil witch. I wanna divorce my perfectly good husband so I could dedicate myself to witchery. I don't wanna admit that I'm an evil witch so I'll blame his spaceships game."
Ah, the school of life¦s hard knocks.
Sound similar to this gal: How women view their husbands
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Selinate
Amarr
Red Water Syndicate
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Posted - 2011.01.21 16:04:00 -
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<-- Full time student with 2 jobs and ongoing research, and a special lady.
You know what I do when one of these things requires my time?
I turn the game off.
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Zemme Le
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Posted - 2011.01.21 18:40:00 -
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Originally by: Astenion
I'm betting she was American. (I'm American btw, not starting some cultural war or anything.)
American women are typically riddled with an overinflated sense of self-worth, tons of baggage, and bring drama with them everywhere they go. If they travel abroad, they simply do it to brag to their friends. Their life partners tend to either be held up as trophies among their friends or extremely passive males who let their wives walk all over them. American women want everything and want you to have nothing and be happy about it.
There are women like this all over the world, but in the US it's a staple. In a country where competition exists in every part of life and society, marriage is no exception.
Somebody hasn't been laid in a looooonnnng time (without paying for it). Or was recently dumped?
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Caello Yazri
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Posted - 2011.01.22 09:02:00 -
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Edited by: Caello Yazri on 22/01/2011 09:03:07
Same happened to an old corpmate of mine. After 9 years of marriage she handed him the divorce papers, took the kids and moved out. He panicked and quit at first. Then returned back and kept telling everyone in corp how happy he is to be single and in control of his own free time. Came winter holidays he started looking for a new woman. Being in your 40s and spending holiday time alone in some bar when everybody else is celebrating at home with their families is just crap.
Originally by: Captain Die
This. Be who you are and don't cater to those who wish to control you. Keep your eye on the prize, your kids man.
If you don't cater to your spouse, why should they cater to you? Don't give in about anything and you shall receive nothing in return.
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Astenion
Blame The Bunny
Reverberation Project
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Posted - 2011.01.22 13:20:00 -
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Originally by: Zemme Le
Originally by: Astenion
I'm betting she was American. (I'm American btw, not starting some cultural war or anything.)
American women are typically riddled with an overinflated sense of self-worth, tons of baggage, and bring drama with them everywhere they go. If they travel abroad, they simply do it to brag to their friends. Their life partners tend to either be held up as trophies among their friends or extremely passive males who let their wives walk all over them. American women want everything and want you to have nothing and be happy about it.
There are women like this all over the world, but in the US it's a staple. In a country where competition exists in every part of life and society, marriage is no exception.
Somebody hasn't been laid in a looooonnnng time (without paying for it). Or was recently dumped?
I'm happily married, you idiot. I just got laid a few hours ago. My wife isn't American, however...hence, the getting laid part combined with the happy marriage.
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Captain Die
Suicide by Cop
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Posted - 2011.01.22 14:28:00 -
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Originally by: Caello Yazri
Edited by: Caello Yazri on 22/01/2011 09:03:07
Same happened to an old corpmate of mine. After 9 years of marriage she handed him the divorce papers, took the kids and moved out. He panicked and quit at first. Then returned back and kept telling everyone in corp how happy he is to be single and in control of his own free time. Came winter holidays he started looking for a new woman. Being in your 40s and spending holiday time alone in some bar when everybody else is celebrating at home with their families is just crap.
Originally by: Captain Die
This. Be who you are and don't cater to those who wish to control you. Keep your eye on the prize, your kids man.
If you don't cater to your spouse, why should they cater to you? Don't give in about anything and you shall receive nothing in return.
There is catering then there is mutual love and understanding. Know the difference.
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Caello Yazri
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Posted - 2011.01.22 15:48:00 -
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Edited by: Caello Yazri on 22/01/2011 15:49:13
Originally by: Captain Die
Originally by: Caello Yazri
Originally by: Captain Die
This. Be who you are and don't cater to those who wish to control you. Keep your eye on the prize, your kids man.
If you don't cater to your spouse, why should they cater to you? Don't give in about anything and you shall receive nothing in return.
There is catering then there is mutual love and understanding. Know the difference.
You said "catering". If you meant something else learn to express yourself clearly before clicking the reply button.
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Herzog Wolfhammer
Gallente
Sigma Special Tactics Group
Fleet Coordination Coalition
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Posted - 2011.01.22 18:13:00 -
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My GF one waited 3 hours for me while I was fighting Sansha in an incursion. No complaints.
There is a kind of mentality you see where in order to "prove" your devotion, you have to be ready to sit there and do nothing with a do-nothing woman. My GF prefers I have something to do because she has a lot to do otherwise. She even gets irritated if I don't play enough as she has a front row view of how hard I work both at my job and in various tasks I do for her.
Now of course if you want to be married and play EvE 16 hours a day, then it's really not about a game, isn't it? The same can be said for any game.
At a certain point the abnormality transcends everything else. You could just as easily have the same problem being a gearhead in the garage all of the time, or a HAM radio addict sitting at your station every waking minute.
My chief problem with women who would have a problem with a man who might play a video game for a while here and there, is that it's likely the cheapest and safest entertainment that a woman could hope her man is into. I had this problem years ago with a former GF who felt that I was not spending enough time with her as I WENT TO NIGHT SCHOOL AND STUDIED FOR EXAMS ON MY SPARE TIME WHILE HOLDING A 12 HOUR A DAY JOB IN THE MILITARY.
So while it may be freakish that a fellow could play too much video game and neglect a good relationship in the outcome, there are a host of spoiled women out there who think that anything other they being at their beck and call is a lack of fidelity at best, or failure to pay homage to their existence at worst.
My argument was "there are guys out there who hang out at the local pub on their spare time, and they get less crap for it than I do when I am trying to have a future". Now of course my argument is that I play EvE for a few hours at most, and log in daily for 20-30 minutes at the end of my day, but there are no complaints about that.
And some spouses, no matter what you do, will think whatever you are doing is stupid if it was not something she thought of in the first place. A lot of women are conditioned by television to think of men in this light. These women deserve to end up alone in an apartment full of cats, just as much a a man who never shaves and wants to drink beer all of the time should expect to be alone too.
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Selinate
Amarr
Red Water Syndicate
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Posted - 2011.01.22 18:39:00 -
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Edited by: Selinate on 22/01/2011 18:40:49
EDIT: thought I was in a different thread.
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The Hag
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Posted - 2011.01.23 16:44:00 -
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Originally by: Herzog Wolfhammer
My GF one waited 3 hours for me while I was fighting Sansha in an incursion. No complaints.
There is a kind of mentality you see where in order to "prove" your devotion, you have to be ready to sit there and do nothing with a do-nothing woman. My GF prefers I have something to do because she has a lot to do otherwise. She even gets irritated if I don't play enough as she has a front row view of how hard I work both at my job and in various tasks I do for her.
Now of course if you want to be married and play EvE 16 hours a day, then it's really not about a game, isn't it? The same can be said for any game.
At a certain point the abnormality transcends everything else. You could just as easily have the same problem being a gearhead in the garage all of the time, or a HAM radio addict sitting at your station every waking minute.
My chief problem with women who would have a problem with a man who might play a video game for a while here and there, is that it's likely the cheapest and safest entertainment that a woman could hope her man is into. I had this problem years ago with a former GF who felt that I was not spending enough time with her as I WENT TO NIGHT SCHOOL AND STUDIED FOR EXAMS ON MY SPARE TIME WHILE HOLDING A 12 HOUR A DAY JOB IN THE MILITARY.
So while it may be freakish that a fellow could play too much video game and neglect a good relationship in the outcome, there are a host of spoiled women out there who think that anything other they being at their beck and call is a lack of fidelity at best, or failure to pay homage to their existence at worst.
My argument was "there are guys out there who hang out at the local pub on their spare time, and they get less crap for it than I do when I am trying to have a future". Now of course my argument is that I play EvE for a few hours at most, and log in daily for 20-30 minutes at the end of my day, but there are no complaints about that.
And some spouses, no matter what you do, will think whatever you are doing is stupid if it was not something she thought of in the first place. A lot of women are conditioned by television to think of men in this light. These women deserve to end up alone in an apartment full of cats, just as much a a man who never shaves and wants to drink beer all of the time should expect to be alone too.
A lot of women have princess complexes, if the complex isn't fed and satisfied they become rabid bears. When women say they want 'equality' they mean they want control and dominance. Fortunately for me my wife just wants to watch whatever she can get her hands on and I just want to play. We sit side by side and do whatever we do, so, we are and we're not spending time together. Sometimes we just watch a film or read books. Then we cook together (her watching and me cooking, as she's terrible) and we have dinner with the kids.
Before we got married I told her I don't drink much, I don't smoke, I don't even drive a car, I play games. If you don't like it tough luck and no marriage. She agreed and we've been happy since. Even when I haven't shaved in over a week  |
The Hag
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Posted - 2011.01.23 16:49:00 -
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Originally by: Caello Yazri
You said "catering". If you meant something else [list][*]learn to express yourself clearly before clicking the reply button.
Learn the English language before clicking the reply |
northwesten
Amarr
Trinity Corporate Services
Novus Ordo Mundi
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Posted - 2011.01.23 21:51:00 -
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get your wife to play wow! what I have done.
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