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Shamis Orzoz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:08:00 -
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Its very simple, but it does require a little work on your part.
1. Invite Girly over
2. removed
3. Wait till she falls asleep
4. Grab some cofee
5. Fire up eve.
If she wakes up, repeat steps 2 through 5.
Shamis
keep it tasteful and dont bypass the swear filter please -zhuge
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Slaveabuser
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:08:00 -
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This is the worst "I have a life/girlfriend" post evar!
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SBO Braveloco
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:14:00 -
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The best advice I can give is something I learned from my marriage and family class at the U here. This has helped me out with my wife a TON with this game.
In any relationship BOTH parties are owed a certain amount of free-time to themselves each day TO DO WHAT THEY ENJOY! The amount of time is set apart by the couple...1 hour a day 2 hrs, etc. And that is YOUR time. This is a non-negotiable time frame where the individual is left to be who they want to be (within reason of course).
Your a gamer...for that hour or so be a gamer and your amiga has nothing to say about out. But she knows that she will have her time and attention payed in full to her later.
Relationships are not just about love and doing things together. They are about growing and learning who each other is. She needs to make concesions just as much as you. This is a small way to make sure she can understand that.
Hope the advice helps.
D-
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Hakera
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Posted - 2005.04.14 17:49:00 -
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Sounds very high maintainance to me this GF which is a big no no (ú500 handbag!!!). But yeah - looks like she has the stigma that computer games are for kids and you will be looked upon as a nerd.
Personally I would dump her, I dont like high maintainance at all and I like my space as well. Clingy women are equally bad but not on a par with the 'Legally Blonde' types.
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:02:00 -
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What are "legally blonde" types?
san.
Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Hakera
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:08:00 -
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 Originally by: 0seeker0
What are "legally blonde" types?
watch the movie 'legally blonde' to find out 
Dumbledore - Eve-I.com |
Rasta Rocketman
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:11:00 -
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Originally by: CEO Pyrex
Dear eve community
I need your help urgently!
Basically ive been playing eve for 20 months now and love it greatly, i have in that time seen and done much and am still amazed i find eve so compeling. Over the last 20 months i have had a very understanding girlfriend who did not mind me playing eve, coupled with my job that keeps me on the road Monday to Thursday i was onto a winner as i had decent evetime over the weekend and a girlfriend who if supplied with chocolate and wine would leave me alone.
But....
I have just traded my trusty old girlfriend in for a newer model....and the 'new' girl HATES eve. we have already had a blazing argument over it and she has told me to stop playing.....
I am on my knees here.... please tell me of situations you have experienced and how you managed to work it out?
I have tried buying stuff for her and agreeing times to play, but to no avial, she thinks it is a dumb thing to play games....ARGHH
(by the way, getting rid of her is not an option cos she is hotter than a steaming Mega Pulse (fnaar fnaar)
HELP!
If u love gaming, then she has to adjust....thats it. Compromises can be made such as dividing your time, but she has to accept what you like to do. It's that simple.
Now if its a full fledged addiction on your part and you're not willing to give up any time for her,...then maybe the prob is on your end.
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:17:00 -
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Originally by: Hakera
Originally by: 0seeker0
What are "legally blonde" types?
watch the movie 'legally blonde' to find out
It sounds like a bad idea to me. What, go on, a breif synopsis if your bored and have time, would be nice.
San.
Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Banisher
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Posted - 2005.04.14 18:19:00 -
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I wouldn't say all is lost, it's more of a case of putting your point across in a way she'll understand..unless of course she's that narrow minded.
If you get on most of the time, have mutual feelings for each other and all, it seems odd to have to sacrifice eve or your girlfriend for each other.
Surely there's something online about modern gamming and the social nature of online gamming, maybe nice cold logic will do the trick.
Fortunately my gf is quite accepting of eve as we chat whilst I play, which is kinda cool. As long as she gets attention all is well and it's kinda nice having her around whilst playing tbh.
Whatever happens, I hope you don't have to ditch anything and all turns out well. Good luck with it all :)
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:13:00 -
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Pyrex, can her. Get rid of her as soon as possible. There's a million fishes in the see, and most of them are pretty hot in one way or the other. Just make sure to get a picture of you two together so your buddies don't think your lying. The Only thing better than old [fish taco] is new [fish taco]!!!
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Verone
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:19:00 -
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Originally by: Shamis Orzoz
Its very simple, but it does require a little work on your part.
1. Invite Girly over
2. Bang the sh1t out of her
3. Wait till she falls asleep
4. Grab some cofee
5. Fire up eve.
If she wakes up, repeat steps 2 through 5.
Shamis
and to think this guy's my CEO...
Still... good plan... methink i'll try that one on my other half 
COME AND SOCIALISE WITH US NASTY SNIGG BASTARDS AT : WWW.SNIGG.CJB.NET |
Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:23:00 -
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Let me get this straight. You are debating as to whether you should spend time with a very attractive woman (in multiple ways I'm sure) in real life, which could mean going out on dates, movies, dinner, social life, and sexual expressions..... or to play an online game?
Pfft. Come on man, seriously. Choose real life.
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:25:00 -
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Originally by: Guardian Alpha
Let me get this straight. You are debating as to whether you should spend time with a very attractive woman (in multiple ways I'm sure) in real life, which could mean going out on dates, movies, dinner, social life, and sexual expressions..... or to play an online game?
Pfft. Come on man, seriously. Choose real life.
Thats not the point. Shes making him change from playing the game at times to not playing at all anymore just because she doesn't like it or understand why he plays.
You can have a RL and play games you know its not just a 1 way street.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:29:00 -
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Edited by: Guardian Alpha on 14/04/2005 19:30:11
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Thats not the point. Shes making him change from playing the game at times to not playing at all anymore just because she doesn't like it or understand why he plays.
And? So she is upset that he is spending time with the game (most likely a LOT) and less with her. That's typical and expected. This is also dating, not marriage. If you end up plugging games infront of a relationship then you are going to lose the girl and remain isolated. Get back in touch with the real world, enjoy the company, and play it during the times when you two can't be together (ie. nighttime, she's at work/college).
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You can have a RL and play games you know its not just a 1 way street.
I understand that. But when a woman who's company you greatly enjoy and find very attractive asks you to stop playing and come be with her, what mature guy is going to give her the finger and keep clicking on the mouse? Enjoy your game on your own time, but when you are dating someone the field of play drastically changes.
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:35:00 -
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Bah. Cutupz 4tw.
There'll be more.
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Elita
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:39:00 -
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Let's see now...
You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Don't get trapped in this psychologically abusive relationship. Follow the steps below as soon as you possibly can:
Step 1: Open front door.
Step 2: Place boot firmly on arse.
Step 3: Push.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:43:00 -
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Quote:
You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Don't get trapped in this psychologically abusive relationship. Follow the steps below as soon as you possibly can:
Not the brightest bulb in the box, eh? If you had read the entire thread, you would have seen that he replied and said that he was the bossy one in the relationship, they both really love one another, and she is hot as a side-coolness. He's also said that she requests and demands very little of him, but this was one of the things she asked for.
Is that so bad? Honestly? Is loving small compromises in a relationship abusive, or did you just not read the entire thread? Single people shouldn't give advice.
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 19:59:00 -
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Edited by: deviantC on 14/04/2005 19:59:27
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It doesn't matter how hot she is. She is a self-centered b-hatch who you should dump faster than yesterday's pizza crusts.
Dude, you can't throw away the crusts, that's not right, but the rest was pretty much dead on.
Don't listen to Guardian Angel, he's obviously been brainwashed by a harpy, peacefully living on some remote isle, waiting to be devoured.
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Guardian Alpha
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:07:00 -
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Don't listen to Guardian Angel, he's obviously been brainwashed by a harpy, peacefully living on some remote isle, waiting to be devoured.
I've been dating someone for three years straight now, and she started out similar to this situation. Not a demanding person or bossy by any means, but wanted me to spend less time on Morrowind and more time with her. Meh, it was simple. Spending time with her so she could be happy (because making the other person happy and not just yourself is important in a relationship) and so I could be happy in her company was important to the long run.
Now, she is a hard-core gamer. Loves EVE, loves Morrowind and Tenchu. Know how she turned around? I had patience with her. Those three years taught me that it's okay for me to grow up and put down the controller, because in the long-run of life, she's MUCH more important than a 500k NPC. So it isn't about a "rainbow romantic" lifestyle, it's about growing up and acting mature when in a relationship that involves the emotions and heart of someone else.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:23:00 -
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Update.....
Had dinner, wine, soft songs, nice food........
Told her if she wants me to stfu and not try to change me.......
its 9:20pm shes now sat watching tv (foot ballers wives i believe), and im about to log on........VICTORY!!!
Im moved by the fantastic comments on this post, i really believe with people with this much heart out in community land, eve is safe for a very long time. Beers on me at Impass refining station!
Be Agressive 4TW
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VonKaplanek III
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:32:00 -
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Great topic..
The mindset "games are for kids" is the real problem here. As soon as my GF realized that i was a leader of 40 guys(and gals), making decisions, interacting in a medium with gamers older than myself(32-- it was fine. If eve and MMORPG are a big part of your life and something you truly love to do then she should support you if she loves you. If she cant see the fact that it makes you happy and its something you love to do, dump her ass as fast as you can. Even if its the hottest piece of *BLEEP* you ever gotten-- DUMP it... As for my particular situation, i stop at Comp USA and pick up games that she loves and shes addicted too. She watches CSI all the time, so i got her the CSI games, The new Sims is another great one. Help her understand why you love to play :) MMORPG takes alot of time, you MUST make time for your girl. When my GF asks me "can you go do something" and i say sorry babe, im at a gate about to gang warp our fleet to combat, that ****es her off, other than that shes cool with it. The big key here is to help her understand why youy love it and that it makes you happy. If she still balks, kick her to the curb. There are many other fish in da sea.. Have you seen how hot those amarr chicks are!! Good Luck!
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:36:00 -
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Congrats, but that was just 1 battle won, the war still rages I bet 
Wait and see what tomorrow brings hehe.
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CEO Pyrex
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:40:00 -
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bloody tv better spawn some decent crap or im in trouble.
i am using the patented head nod every 30 seconds and "hmmmm" every 45 seconds
Working so far
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Red Six
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:40:00 -
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Standing up for yourself 4 teh w1n!!!!!!!
Seriously though if she counters in some manner someone posted three simple steps involving boot and door you should follow. I could care less if she is Angelina Jolie, I change the things I like for no one. I am who I am, take or leave it.
Also, I did the smart thing and found a girl geek and married her 11 years ago so this is a non-issue at our place. The bigger issue is whose turn it is to get the new computer with all the bells and whistles.
 Her turn this time.
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bignuttz
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:45:00 -
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Originally by: Red Six
Also, I did the smart thing and found a girl geek and married her 11 years ago so this is a non-issue at our place. The bigger issue is whose turn it is to get the new computer with all the bells and whistles.
Her turn this time.
Doh hate when that happens. Sounds like what happened to my dad, he got a computer and well my mom gets the kick ass one. He does have a decent one but her's is faster now.
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Bellicose
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:46:00 -
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real life is highly overrated
Who needs a shovel when you have a nice big cannon?
KittenArmy
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deviantC
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:47:00 -
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Yeah buddy, just wait a couple weeks until you hear the blood curtling; "I let you play that game all last week."
It's amazing how well the ol' nod & "uh huh/yep" method works.
In my experience, change is wonderful, especially for a new lover, but only if it's voluntary.
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John Blackthorn
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Posted - 2005.04.14 20:53:00 -
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You should do what I did. Find a good looking, smart, woman who likes to play eve.. and then marry her :P
-BT
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0seeker0
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Posted - 2005.04.14 21:22:00 -
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Originally by: Elita
Let's see now...
You just started seeing her, and she is making demands about things you have been doing for much longer than you have known her. She has gone so far as to demand that you remove EVE from your computer. It seems that the part of your EVE fix she has the biggest problem with is the fact that you are talking to people other than her.
Maybe other people that she cant vet? you know, it struck me, that maybe she is the nicest girl in the world :) we really are being horrendously judgmental. Still sounds a rolling pin short of a marriage though.
San.
Character "Widescreen" is a scammer; beware.
Check my bio for a list of known scammers.
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Hikaru Okuda
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Posted - 2005.04.14 21:25:00 -
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I generally look for a nymphomaniac who likes science fiction and computer games... :)
Seriously, when dating someone new that immediately starts making demands--they get the boot fast.
I would expect to get the boot if I became really bossy.
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