I would say 4mil is a little low bud, I would look at some Faction Warefare, get that experience and build the skill points up.

So what would be considered not "a little low?" It's not like I can suddenly put in a lot of effort and get more SP, lol. Everyone tells me that I should join a nullsec corp to play this game the way it's meant to be played / avoid losing interest, what's the point of spending months afk / PvE and training God-knows-if-they-will-be-useful-later skills in the meantime?

Also, word on the street is that FW is teh suck right now...

You are going to want to be at least 10mil for 0.0, and also around 10mil for most low sec corps. With your skills focus around one type of good pvp ship at this stage. Basically build up for armor or shield, weapons it uses then the ship itself.

As for really playing the game you don't need to be in 0.0. in my view, there are less skilled toons in 0.0 when compared to low sec as they can just bring qty over quality to a fight.

Plus me personally find large fleet fights boring when compared to fighting a 25+ man gang vs an organised 7 man gang.

FW does suck I agree, but what it does is gives you the basic understanding of PVP and roaming. There are many good FW corps out there that will help you train and gain the experience in pvp roaming