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Karno
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Posted - 2006.09.07 23:56:00 -
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Hi.. I don't know where else to put this for help.. though this goes against me.
I am an alt of a known character, I'm using this alt because i've got some truths to speak because I am tired.
I am terrified of people, I can handle a short bus journey (I just huddle up and stare straight ahead) but trains/planes terrify me because there are so many people.
I can't answer the phone incase it's someone I don't know.
The problem is... nobody knows i'm scared like this, the people I do know think i'm outgoing and lively but that's fake. i've even managed to fool my family.
It even extends over the internet (You REALLY don't know how hard it is for me to write this) I hate talking to people I don't know in channels and forums but I do so in order to save face (with whom I havn't a clue) and nobody knows how scared I am when I post, I often end my posts with apologies when none are needed.
I installed Second life so that I could play it with a friend but within moments of me starting several people I didn't know all began asking me questions and I freaked out, I was litterally shaking and I had to un-install it.
I'm feeling really.. alone. I don't want to be scared anymore, what can I do?
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Neon Genesis
Gallente
Hooligans Of War
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:16:00 -
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Edited by: Neon Genesis on 08/09/2006 00:16:48
This is a cliche but truthful answer, but i'd recommend some kind of professional help.
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Digitalfox
Central Defiance
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:24:00 -
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My friend I share your pain, I am the same way, though not quite as far as un-installing a game. I hate and dread everything that has to do with people. The only thing that has ever helped me is that fact that my job forces me to deal with people I dont know all the time, fortunaly I can hide behind scripted greatting and instuction manuals that tell me how to deal with everyone. Infact they are sending me to a school on the other side of the country in a month where I have to share a room with two other people for 2 weeks strait, and I'm absolutly dreading it.
Like I said though the only thing that helps is confronting it daily. And of all my years with this afliction one thing I have learned is that anyone who does not suffer from it has absolutly no consept of how hard it is to deal with people. And they never ever understand it.
Just know your not the only one out there like this.
-The Fox
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meafy
Caldari
Reikoku
Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:26:00 -
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my friend, i say if this true then you are brave in your admission. I often think at times that this community is more than a gaming community and more of a group of people that grow with time and help each other if we are asked.
i agree with the poster above you need to speak about this and inform people who can help first of all your family.
I hope you find the courge needed to break this unfortunate cycle
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Sergeant Spot
Black Eclipse Corp
Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:29:00 -
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As stated, professional help is what you want.
You have NOTHING to be ashamed of. You have not made an ethical lapse.
While my education only touched on pychology, I know enough to know that you are not alone.
Simply being aware of the issue and seeking help is a major step. If anything, with some good help, I think success is near certain for you. Patience and persistance will pay off.
Good luck.
*snip*
This type of comment has no place in a signature, please remain courteous - Pirlouit
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torebka
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:33:00 -
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what can i say ... ill hide behind an alt too ... why u will ask
it looks like a new age psychical illness
just answer these questions to your self (its all yes for me)
- do you spend (now and before) alot of time in front of monitor?
- did you use drugs?
- are you afraid of this "fear attack"? (well i categorize it as attacks becose it happens to me at certain events
- did you try to face it?
in my case im in this state for 3 years it started with pains in upper part of stomach wich i took as heart problems and this created my paranoia
you can help your self with prozac like pills but thats only 30% of it ... rest is up to you ... you will need to face each of your fears and try to think positive in these moments
things like secound life etc just drive you away from doing this
first off go to doctor
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0Virtu0
Amarr
Reikoku
Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:40:00 -
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Edited by: 0Virtu0 on 08/09/2006 00:39:58
Simple answer.
Seek assistance from a psychologist immediately, wether you make the appointment yourself or your family members arrange it.
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Karno
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:47:00 -
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I didn't realise that it was so common..
i'm glad i've done this, i can fix it.
I used to have a psychologist.. she would take me into town and help me in shops, we'd go for tea and she'd give me her order and i'd have to go to the counter and pay.. I wish I still had her but she moved and I was assigned another person.. I never even went to meet my new one..
should I tell who my main is? perhaps you'd see how much of a mask I wear.
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torebka
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:57:00 -
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Edited by: torebka on 08/09/2006 00:59:41
 Originally by: Karno
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should I tell who my main is? perhaps you'd see how much of a mask I wear.
Never say about your fears to ppl you do not trust .. tell it to your in game friends ... it should help with cominication ... but never ppl you dont know ...
im sure that 80% of ppl reading this topic are laughting wich is sad .. but thats how world looks
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PsyMan
Amarr Navy Runners
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Posted - 2006.09.08 00:59:00 -
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Edited by: PsyMan on 08/09/2006 01:01:22
good luck, professional help is definately the way forward |
Karno
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Posted - 2006.09.08 01:39:00 -
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I've decided.. that i'm going to sleep on it, I may tell everyone who my main is tomorrow after i've slept and thought about it.
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Sergeant Spot
Black Eclipse Corp
Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2006.09.08 02:25:00 -
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Originally by: Karno
I've decided.. that i'm going to sleep on it, I may tell everyone who my main is tomorrow after i've slept and thought about it.
No need to tell everyone. Actively being "public" is not the same thing as being being calm and relaxed about strangers.
If any of the folks you know in game are level headed and helpful types, they would be good folks to mention it to.
The key thing is make that appointment to see a professional, and then show up. The most important thing that an in game friend could do is to simply ask you "did you make that appointment and show up to it?"
*snip*
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Xrak
Black Nova Corp
Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2006.09.08 03:04:00 -
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Your identity is of no real concern, it doesnt matter who you are, only that you get can get some help and move on with your life.
GL
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Child Minder
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Posted - 2006.09.08 08:38:00 -
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Karno,
They say the first step is the hardest and it's true.
Whilst you may find it difficult to interract within the community, you still do it. You can actually talk to people and communicate in a meaningful way that others understand. You don't have a problem communicating, you have a problem with how you feel within yourself whilst communicating. That may require professional assistance to get to the bottom of it, but go for it.
Don't post your main unless you feel it will help you along the road.
It's good to see this type of honesty and openess, believe me mate, there are a lot of people who 'appear' to be extrovert who would never have the balls to speak up as you have.
Keep it up and let us know how it goes. we are a community and we do care.
Childminder
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Caethes Adain
Minmatar
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Posted - 2006.09.08 11:42:00 -
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Try and go to your doctors and see what they can do, hopefully you'll have a good one who will actually be able to help you.
If you're in the UK, getting to see a therapist on the NHS is a pain in the arse, the waiting lists can be months. If you have the available cash then seeing a therapist is a lot easier, try and find someone who has a good reputation though.
I started having evil panic attacks a few months ago and ended up seeing a hypnotherapist who helped in getting rid of them. As with any therapist, it's a good idea to find someone with some refferences in order to make sure they are trustworthy, good at their job.
Also, what you're going through is normal and it will pass with help and time. Hope you get better soon.
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Benco97
Gallente
Cosmic Odyssey
Chorus of Dawn
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Posted - 2006.09.08 21:56:00 -
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Edited by: Benco97 on 08/09/2006 21:56:57
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sugark
Caldari
SOTI Inc.
Combined Planetary Union
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Posted - 2006.09.08 22:06:00 -
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Lardarz B'stard
Amarr
Out Of Exile
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Posted - 2006.09.09 08:48:00 -
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My brother had a form of this.
Started off as panic attacks and progressed to near-agoraphobia.
A combination of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and antidepressants helped him a lot.
There are lots of people in your situation.
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