Locus Bey
Gallente
Qalandar
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Posted - 2007.05.20 15:37:00 -
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I hated parties when I was 20 and I hate them now I'm 40. Whole lot of people talking s***, and drinking themselves stupid. So don't feel like your alone, everyone has their way.
Your friends don't sound like friends. If they are blatantly lying to you, don't enjoy what you do, and aren't there for you, well... My advice is ditch them and start exploring. If it means having to do things on your own for a while, so be it. (If you can't be happy alone you will never be happy with others). Get to know yourself, and enjoy the fact that you are doing what you want. In my experience most people go along with the crowd for fear of being themselves, actually getting out and doing what they want for most people is as scary as hell.
It seems like drugs are not your cup of tea, if that's so just don't do it, simple. From what I read here, your 'friends' are doing more partying than they are studying. That's pretty normal for college, but not the life for all. If that's again not you, don't do it.
I personally would advise against psychiatry to treat depression. It's a stop gap that cuts off the lows and the highs, and never actually deals with the problem. There are those who can't live without the drugs, but they are in the minority. Get out and do what you want to do, be happy with living YOUR life, and be the person you want to be. If you are still finding it to difficult after a couple of months, research psychologists and find a good one. Clinical depression imo is mostly bull****, it stems from unhappiness with ones self, and an unwillingness to change to be the person you want to be. Its an amazing world, and at 20 the world is your oyster. Don't be ordinary!
As to the girls, yes they are brushing you off. More than likely you lack confidence due to not being happy with yourself or friends. Ditch the friends, do what you want to do, and you will meet the girls you dreamed off. They hang out at the places you should go. PS don't help girls with homework unless they are long term friends you don't want to sleep with 
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