Originally by: Dantes Revenge

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From information I found some years ago, it seems that many women that have come from a violent relationship will themselves be violent in a future relationship. Not being female, I can never understand why a woman who leaves a violent partner after long term abuse, always choses to go to another violent partner. If they find someone who isn't violent, they will constantly provoke him even to the point where they use violence themselves to gain a violent response from him.

Whether this stems from personal vendetta gainst men in general or simply a desire to prove to themselves that all men are the same I have no idea. It would seem that there is some sort of mental effect of violence in a relationship and it creates an illusion that all men will be violent without exception. Therefore, in order to prove this point, she has to do something that will make him react violently, maybe not realising that she is acting in exactly the same way as the partner she fled from. On the other hand it could be a way for her to punish a man (any man) she knows will not be violent to her for the actions of her former partner.

So, personal vendetta or the desire to prove herself right, only she can know for sure. Chances are, in her damaged mental state, she probably doesn't know why she does it herself.

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