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Posted - 2009.10.18 19:19:00 -
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Originally by: Tryconton Edited by: Tryconton on 18/10/2009 14:41:04 I still want to hook up with other girls.
I mean I really do absolutely love her. She is the girl I want to marry (May seem crazy after only being together a year and being so young). We have been through thick and thin (outside of our relationship problems), and we never fight. She really is perfect, take my word for it.
We've been together for a year and I went off to college this year and I really just want to experience sex with different girls. I only had sex with a few other girls before her.
I want to ask her if we could have an open relationship where we can have sex with other people. I'm afraid this will make her leave me though by giving her the impression that I would cheat even if she did say no. I'm also afraid she won't understand that I can love her and still want sex with other girls. I mean I don't want anything permanent, I just want time to explore for awhile.
I can understand why she wouldn't be ok with just putting things on hold while I go get laid. I'm just worried I will feel like this for the rest of what I want to be my life with her if I don't get it out of my system now.
I'm telling you all this partly for advice, but mainly because I needed to tell someone how I feel and I don't feel like there is anyone I can trust.
Thanks for listening
If you feel the need to mess around and play with other women, then it's pretty clear that you don't love the one you're with and aren't satisfied with her.
An open relationship is not a relationship, it's fooling yourself and her into thinking you still have some form of mutual trust and respect for each other when clearly you wouldn't. You obviously have little to no respect for her, or her feelings if you're even CONSIDERING asking her what you've posted above.
Imagine her coming to you, and saying "Hey, I really love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you, but there's this guy I go to college with that has a 14" schlong that I want to mess around with for a while". I'm sure you wouldn't feel in any way happy with the situation. Regardless of what you post in response to this, you'd feel degraded, inadequate and humiliated.
Fact of the matter is it sounds like you're too immature for a serious relationship, and are not adult enough to settle down happily with someone.
To me it sounds like you want to hold on to her because you want the guarantee of something stable and don't want to be "the last one left on the shelf", yet you still want to mess around with other women. You're sadly mistaken if you think that just running around banging random women for the sake of messing around and racking up a score makes you a bigger man.
It's unfortunate, but at some point what little self respect and respect for her and her feelings you have is going to be shattered when you give in and eventually cheat on her. I kinda feel sorry for the poor girl if you've been telling her how much you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, but this is going through your mind. Deception is an ugly thing.
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