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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:04:00 -
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My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
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Elegbara
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:08:00 -
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My wife hates Eve, but can stand it since most time I can leave my PC - either when I'm autopiloting or mining or trading. Anything else - only when she's not at home.
I also had to turn off UI speech at all. No Aura for me 8(
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trite boon
Caldari
Pastry Productions Inc.
Advocated Destruction
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:08:00 -
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No it will never end and its going to get worse trust me
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namron 7
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:09:00 -
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There are a hell of a lot of sad stories over MMOs in general. My advise is to treat this game as a distraction and nothing else.
Just dont play to much, although the problem with EVE is that to be truly immersive it has to be a time sink.
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Chribba
Otherworld Enterprises
Otherworld Empire
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:10:00 -
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 Originally by: trite boon
No it will never end and its going to get worse trust me
This. So make sure you feed your relationship as well or it will end bad.
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WarPonyDestroyer
Minmatar
The Golden Knights
LEGIO ASTARTES ARCANUM
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:11:00 -
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The horror stories are true.
http://www.wowaholics.org/
http://www.wowdetox.com/
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Xtreem
Gallente
DEATHFUNK
Atlas Alliance
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:12:00 -
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my mrs is called eve in rl (well evelyn but called eve)
so i name a few ships after her, or let her choose and she then actually shows an interest, as i dont play as much as i used to this keeps her interest as she wants "her ship" not to die in battle :)
although on a serious note... don't lose a partner over eve.. its a game.. RL should ALWAYS come first, if not its best to look into why you prefer a fake universe than your real one and spend your time fixing it, not playing another.
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Lunachan
Minmatar
One of These Days
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:12:00 -
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"You feel I should spent more time with you than my game? Then put out more often or STFU woman!"
Worked for me.
'If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.'
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:12:00 -
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Originally by: namron 7
There are a hell of a lot of sad stories over MMOs in general. My advise is to treat this game as a distraction and nothing else.
Just dont play to much, although the problem with EVE is that to be truly immersive it has to be a time sink.
You are SO right. If I had that "immersive" time it would be SO much more satisfying. Instead, I am constantly on pins and needles trying click through.
Being married feels like being grounded.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:15:00 -
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Just for the record...
I realize its just a game and will ALWAYS put RL before a game.
I like the idea of naming a ship after her. Hmmmmm....
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Atticus Fynch
Gallente
The Scope
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:15:00 -
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While I EVE, wife Farmvilles. She's hooked on it.
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Nexo92
Method of Destruction
The 0rphanage
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:16:00 -
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Originally by: Lunachan
"You feel I should spent more time with you than my game? Then put out more often or STFU woman!"
Worked for me.
^^^^^^^
This 
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BuckStrider
Fleem Co
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:16:00 -
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My wife doesn't mind that I play EVE, because I don't play EVE 23/7. 
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clixoras
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:17:00 -
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Originally by: trite boon
No it will never end and its going to get worse trust me
:(
Even the argument that i have/had interest in MMO's (MUDS) from a scientific / sociological point of view doesn't help. I dvr all programs about MMO's and FORCE her (oops. 'convince') her to watch this as it might give her some insight about deeper meaning or at least understanding what it is what makes MMO's fun.
btw my GF is also absolutely sure that i'm meeting other women in EVE 
In that regards, i propose to change the Name EVE to .. HANK (maybe that'll lead to other conclusions but let's take it one step at a time).
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Dr Fighter
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:19:00 -
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Originally by: Chribba
Originally by: trite boon
No it will never end and its going to get worse trust me
This. So make sure you feed your relationship as well or it will end bad.
if it ends theres more time for eve, so thats good
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Atticus Fynch
Gallente
The Scope
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:19:00 -
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Originally by: clixoras
btw my GF is also absolutely sure that i'm meeting other women in EVE
In that regards, i propose to change the Name EVE to .. HANK (maybe that'll lead to other conclusions but let's take it one step at a time).
HANK? ROFLMAO!!!
Yeah, I'm hooked on HANK.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:24:00 -
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Originally by: Atticus Fynch
Originally by: clixoras
btw my GF is also absolutely sure that i'm meeting other women in EVE
In that regards, i propose to change the Name EVE to .. HANK (maybe that'll lead to other conclusions but let's take it one step at a time).
HANK? ROFLMAO!!!
Yeah, I'm hooked on HANK.
HANK! I love it!
My wife too is convinced I'm meeting women.
I made the mistake of telling her I had to email 2 people (in-game)
and she FLIPPED!
"SEE??? I KNEW IT!"
It was funny. Sad but funny. I only emailed them to thank them for their
business efforts...but she wasn't convinced. Not until I ended up giving her a baby oil massage.
Do you know the old analogy of the cave man going out, clubbing a woman in the head and dragging her back to the cave by the hair?? Well... he was REALLY dragging her ass out!
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okst666
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:27:00 -
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Originally by: Atticus Fynch
While I EVE, wife Farmvilles. She's hooked on it.
hehe..Same here!
FARMVILLE - designed by Chronos himself..
But she plays ryzom, fallen earth and some other games too.
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TriadSte
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:35:00 -
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I've lost a 4 year relationship not due to eve but to a FPS called Deus Ex some of you may know it, It is however a 8-9 year old game thats pure genius.
My fiance yes she hates EVE and hates me being engrossed in it. Women read girly books and mags watch crappy soaps on the TV or chick flicks.
Real men play Eve
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:36:00 -
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I'm sorry, but I don't want to be strapped to her hip watching Grey's Anatomy.
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The Geoman
Gallente
Anarchos Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:36:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
I can't imagine losing a relationship over Eve. That said, my S.O. has never given me a hard time over the game. It is probably because my attention is not focused on it in such a way that I cannot interact with her.
The case is different for my friends who play games like WoW, where they are fully-immersed in Vent, raiding every evening. This is guaranteed to cause problems with their girlfriends/wives, because it means you aren't giving her attention...and giving them attention is a big, big deal. If they have the impression that anything comes before them (and face it, for some gamers this would be true), you're going to encounter jealousy issues. Moderation, gentlemen.
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Syn Callibri
Blacklight Incorporated
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:42:00 -
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Edited by: Syn Callibri on 11/08/2010 13:45:15
Edited by: Syn Callibri on 11/08/2010 13:42:19
I eVe...she Runescapes and we RPG together on Saturday nights with our friends, no problems FTW!
...seriously, I got very lucky. I knew a guy who got so hooked on Ever-crack (aka. Ever-Quest) that he took so many sick days off to play that he got fired...he lost his house (he spent everything to pay for Ever-crack), and his wife left him...sad, but totally true story. 
Syn Callibri
Ilharess to the Scorpion Tribe
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Ana Vyr
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:45:00 -
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Edited by: Ana Vyr on 11/08/2010 13:46:57
Moderation is the key to happiness. I've been playing MMO's for a very long time, so it was part of the package when my wife met me. Just never go overboard with your playtime, and make sure all your responsibilities are handled before you sit down to play. Make sure you spend as much time with her, and go out on dates and all that fun stuff.
EvE is actually pretty forgiving about getting up from the computer. Try doing that while healing a raid in WoW...doesn't work out so well.
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Berzerkergang
Caldari
Starwinders
Mortal Destruction
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:50:00 -
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I got lucky as well, since the chick i am dating also enjoy's playing MMO's (she played the 3 cylabul game that does not excist!) and is interested in EVE. You don't find much of these girls nowaday's, but the group grows by the month.
My opinion, you should never let a game ruin your life. EVE is an awesome game and i love doing the things i do in it. But if i have the choice of being with a girl thats more awesome than this game and i risk losing a love that is unique, i personaly choose for her rather than this game.
Look at it this way, what do all achievements in EVE acount to when you can have something awesome for the rest of your life :).
"He who knows he knows nothing, is a wise man..." -- Socrates
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Cebraio
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Posted - 2010.08.11 13:59:00 -
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I have lost a 7 year relationship over EVE.
Well not solely due to EVE, but spending more time with a game than with your girlfriend surely takes its toll.
So if you like your girl but she doesn't like MMOs, you are probably better off not playing them at all.
Cindjin, leave while you still can.
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WhiteGhostBear
Furs of New Eden
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:00:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
My wife too is convinced I'm meeting women.
I made the mistake of telling her I had to email 2 people (in-game)
and she FLIPPED!
"SEE??? I KNEW IT!"
A jealous, selfish spouse is the worst kind you can have. This has nothing to do with Eve. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and find someone who has some self confidence and feels secure in your relationship.
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Dr Sheepbringer
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:07:00 -
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Yeah, she does whine about it sometimes. Then I switch on autopilot and give her a good humping.
(and yes, i will be dead if she reads this thread).
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The Geoman
Gallente
Anarchos Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:07:00 -
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Originally by: WhiteGhostBear
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife too is convinced I'm meeting women.
I made the mistake of telling her I had to email 2 people (in-game)
and she FLIPPED!
"SEE??? I KNEW IT!"
A jealous, selfish spouse is the worst kind you can have. This has nothing to do with Eve. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and find someone who has some self confidence and feels secure in your relationship.
I agree completely, in the case of this person. Dealing with insecure people gets old very quickly.
That said, you and I both know that there are some people who "can't hold their gaming", so to speak. Their excesses will often damage far more than just their relationships, of course.
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Eelis Kiy
Gallente
Shadows Of The Federation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:08:00 -
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My boyfriend plays Eve all the time, I am pretty sure he's having at least 3 online affairs with married men 
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Makko Gray
Gallente
Nexus Aerospace Corporation
The Volition Cult
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:14:00 -
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My wife used to dislike me playing EVE - then I suggested I'd give it up and take up historical warfare reenactment instead... she doesn't mind me playing EVE so much anymore.
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Whiny McEmokid
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:15:00 -
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**** women, seriously. Even if you have 90% of your time free, the 10% when you're busy is when they'll demand attention.
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KaarBaak
Minmatar
Hell's Librarians
Imperium Directive
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:16:00 -
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Originally by: Cebraio
I have lost a 7 year relationship over EVE.
Well not solely due to EVE, but spending more time with a game than with your girlfriend surely takes its toll.
So if you like your girl but she doesn't like MMOs, you are probably better off not playing them at all.
Cindjin, leave while you still can.
There are plenty of women out there who enjoy gaming. Wasting your time with one who doesn't "approve" of your hobby is setting your self up for failure.
Seriously, if your SO is going to get so bent out of shape because you're OMG playing a video game...he/she needs to move on. Are you getting drunk and knocking him/her around? Are you shooting up ****** or doing meth? Are you neglecting personal hygiene?
There are a lot worse things you could be doing. If she's going to cry herself to sleep because you're playing a game instead of sitting on the couch with her cat watching Grey's Anatomy...you both need to move on.
KB
=vinur allra manna
MetaGaming |
Ressiv
Cooperative Freelance Navigators Association
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:17:00 -
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Some of you have very interesting relations I must say
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Exploding Tukey
Gallente
Capital Construction Research
Pioneer Alliance
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:19:00 -
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It's good being single.
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Dr Sheepbringer
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:19:00 -
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Originally by: WhiteGhostBear
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife too is convinced I'm meeting women.
I made the mistake of telling her I had to email 2 people (in-game)
and she FLIPPED!
"SEE??? I KNEW IT!"
A jealous, selfish spouse is the worst kind you can have. This has nothing to do with Eve. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and find someone who has some self confidence and feels secure in your relationship.
I once got asked the same question (well not due to eve), and I did this:
"are seeing someone else?!?!!?!?!?!?"
"yes. Two nights ago I slept with a amazing woman who rocked my world! Then yesterday I had a lovely night watching a movie with someone I love and enjoyed it. Today I'm seeing a ****ed off woman who can't think back two days and consider asking that question again".
"AHA!!! But...i watched a movie with you last night...oh! OH!"
Then in the morning I got coffee and breakfast already done when i woke up.
Lesson of it all? There is no rationality when "ze personality" takes over. It's not about WHAT you answer it's HOW you answer.
Also the "are you playing eve again?!" "well i could be in the pub making the girls giggle..." "oh...this is better" :)
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Krecian
Gallente
Essence of Decay
Black Cartel.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:19:00 -
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Just make sure your spousal unit gets his or her time with you on a daily basis, calmly reassure them when they get insecure. Anger can only make it look like you have something to hide.
Been on this merri-go-round for 10 years now. *laughs* I still have the MMO's and the other half, so I must be doing something right.
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Dr Fighter
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:20:00 -
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Originally by: Whiny McEmokid
**** women, seriously.
Thats the general idea i think mate... lol
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Minchurra
Caldari
Feudum Chalybis
The Spire Collective
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:22:00 -
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When she understands why you need to be at that POS siege at 3 am, you'll know she's the one.
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Shocker Steg
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:25:00 -
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Well I got a GF that works 2 evenings a week and on average 1 day in the weekends.. and she has no problem if I use those times to fully dive into eve and let the rest slip (on household stuff besides the bare necesaties) As long as we have good times and do things on the days that she is free. It works for me :)
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Kiritsubo
Ritual Suicide
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:25:00 -
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Marriage is the leading cause of divorce.
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Dr Sheepbringer
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:26:00 -
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Originally by: Minchurra
When she understands why you need to be at that POS siege at 3 am, you'll know she's the one.
Tricky part comes when you need to explain WHY you also need to be drunk and have beer/whiskey at hand when it happens 
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Monistat Seven
Caldari
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:30:00 -
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In system Sol Planet 3, there are some countries where a husband would cut off her nose.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:30:00 -
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My wife and I have been together for 5 years, married almost 4.
She's hot, sexy and a perfect match for me OTHER than being jealous of things that "take me away from her".
I actually moved the PC into the bedroom so now, she can be in bed, watching TV and I can play EVE along with watching whatever she puts on.
But she's too smart for that. Now she has to "share me" with EVE.
Perhaps we DO need to change the name of the game to HANK.
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sue AGPlant
Minmatar
Rionnag Alba
Against ALL Authorities
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:34:00 -
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My wife refers to my ingame char (this one) as "the other woman" but she gets the fact that if i have had a stressfull day at work i can come in and blow something up (If i get past loading/load grid)* and feel better. She watches tv. Cant stand what passes for tv these days or mucks around with farmvile too. at weekends Its no long ass op time and we do rl together or whatever together.
I think as other women get she lucked out 
CCP: destroying the game we love 1 nerf at a time.
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Cebraio
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:36:00 -
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Originally by: KaarBaak
... words of wisdom ...
Yeah moving on is what we currently do. Your words actually raised my mood a bit and made me look forward again. Thank you.
Tomorrow will be all the same depression, but ... oh well, I'll still have EVE and a lot of time for myself.
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Zaribeth
Amarr
GK inc.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:45:00 -
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As others have said moderation is the key. We both work 9 - 5 so make sure we eat together then I game for a couple hours then time for a couple of hours couple time before bed. Anytime she questions a grown man pewpewing I just explain it's my version of celebrity news or greys anatomy and we're good.
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GavinGoodrich
Important Internet Spaceship League
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Posted - 2010.08.11 14:51:00 -
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My Fiance HATES EVE 
We make it work, though. She keeps trying to steal my attention in the middle of an OP on a regular basis, though
Every time she goes "ho-neeeeeey" when i'm trying to move a fleet around I want to bash my head into the monitor, though.
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De'Veldrin
Minmatar
Special Projects Executive
The Obsidian Legion
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:03:00 -
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Speaking as a girl that plays Eve, if my husband:
A)Ever said "put out more of the STFU" to me, they would never find his body. Ever.
B)Got all bent out of shape over me playing a damned game, he'd find his ****, neatly boxed, on the back porch with a note explaining the difference between "me" time and "us" time.
--Vel
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Rikius Perin
Caldari
School of Applied Knowledge
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:16:00 -
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I play EVE...
Wifey Farmvilles and a few other Facebook games too...
We both look at the others game and say "How can you play THAT. It's not even fun."
To each his/her own.
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Marcias Rex
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:20:00 -
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My ex hated eve and called it "my other woman". I actually told her "well, when EVE starts *****ing at me, ill ignore her too".. I did mention she is my EX-wife right :) . Eve didn't kill the marriage (my Ex's boyfreind saw to that ! :) ), but it didn't help
My current wife doesn't like it much more, so I'm a bit more strategic about it. It helps that she sometimes works nights. I sometimes shower her with attention..then when I've gotten on her nerves enough I get to go play eve without interuption lol.
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Debby Dallas
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:21:00 -
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I have been with my wife 7 years. Everything is great...but she hated eve.
I told her ISK was real money. Showed her how much I had. Told her I would buy her something nice. Now I have to pony up some crappy trinket once a month. She stopped *****ing.
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Medarr
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:24:00 -
[52]
Originally by: Dr Sheepbringer
Originally by: Minchurra
When she understands why you need to be at that POS siege at 3 am, you'll know she's the one.
Tricky part comes when you need to explain WHY you also need to be drunk and have beer/whiskey at hand when it happens
Hahahahah Epic this...
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Aganazer
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:39:00 -
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Originally by: Atticus Fynch
While I EVE, wife Farmvilles. She's hooked on it.
Same! Between Farmville, Cafeworld, Frontierville, and Lords of Ultima she stays just as busy as I do. As long as she has a fun game she doesn't mind if I have a fun game. But when she gets bored of her games then I pretty much have to stop playing until she is having fun again.
A happy wife
is a happy life
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Eternum Praetorian
True Creation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:40:00 -
[54]
Edited by: Eternum Praetorian on 11/08/2010 15:41:33
I have met some people in game who are married as an MMO Playing Pair. Often the guy plays EVE and the woman plays WOW. These people seem to be happy because they share "game immersion" in common.
Alternatively there have been one or two cases of "I am sitting here at home, I could otherwise be out getting into trouble you don't like?" which also seemed to work for said individual.
As for me:
I am still just young enough to know, and at the same time old enough to realize, that the universe of EVE online will be here long after my present girlfriend gets kicked out onto the curb. Women don't like anything that takes your attention from what they want to do, where they want to go, want they want you to do, and whatever it is that they are yapping about that particular moment ex.) ex.) ex.)
EVE is designed to completely take your attention away from the realworld. That immersion is one of the main reasons why we come here to play in this persistent game universe. The women that we can't seem to live with or live without, unfortunately also occupy the real world, and so they will learn to hate anything in your life that immerses you that is not "Them"
Fast Forward 50 Years
CCP when will EVE have fully artificially generated, 3D, perfectly buoyant virtual reality women that posses next generation AI making them appear to be totally human!!!!!
Who says Technology can't solve all of man's problems...
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:43:00 -
[55]
I'll say it again...
Being married is like being grounded for life.
For the man, anyway.
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Malicious Manifesto
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Posted - 2010.08.11 15:54:00 -
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u need to find her a game - and u definitely need to have wife nights..... yes all g/f and wives compete with eve- if u are careless, your little tower will go offline due to inactivity
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Barakkus
Caelestis Iudicium
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:03:00 -
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Been with my wife for 7 years, she WANTS me to play video games often, so I'm not constantly chasing her around :P
Originally by: CCP Dropbear
rofl
edit: ah crap, dev account. Oh well, official rofl at you sir.
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Derus Grobb
Minmatar
Selectus Pravus Lupus
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:06:00 -
[58]
Originally by: Ana Vyr
Edited by: Ana Vyr on 11/08/2010 13:46:57
Moderation is the key to happiness. I've been playing MMO's for a very long time, so it was part of the package when my wife met me. Just never go overboard with your playtime, and make sure all your responsibilities are handled before you sit down to play. Make sure you spend as much time with her, and go out on dates and all that fun stuff.
EvE is actually pretty forgiving about getting up from the computer. Try doing that while healing a raid in WoW...doesn't work out so well.
Please do not discuss moderation on the forums.
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Winters Chill
Amarr
The Die Sect
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:10:00 -
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Edited by: Winters Chill on 11/08/2010 16:10:33
Originally by: De'Veldrin
Edited by: De''Veldrin on 11/08/2010 15:28:05
Speaking as a girl that plays Eve, if my husband:
A)Ever said "put out more or STFU" to me, they would never find his body. Ever.
B)Got all bent out of shape over me playing a damned game, he'd find his ****, neatly boxed, on the back porch with a note explaining the difference between "me" time and "us" time.
Speaking as a man, speaking to a little girl that plays eve.
The only thing worse than male posturing about women, is women posturing about men.
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Ryhss
Caldari
Ominous Corp
Circle-Of-Two
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:11:00 -
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Get your wife to play Eve, that'll keep her from yelping.
Originally by: aratillion
LEGEN....
Wait for it
DARY!
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Bacon Slapper
Minmatar
Red Federation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:16:00 -
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Edited by: Bacon Slapper on 11/08/2010 16:16:47
My ex called my car's GPS system my other girlfriend because it had a female voice and I listened to it over her when she was blabbing on about something. So it can get worse.
...god she was ****ing annoying, what a waste of money...can't believe I dated her for over a year.... ****
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Ralnik
Mutineers
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:20:00 -
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Edited by: Ralnik on 11/08/2010 16:21:54
It has nothing to do with EVE, you could insert any random hobby or thing you do a lot for fun. The problem is you are having fun doing something that doesn't interest or involve her.
This is of course assuming you aren't playing 24/7 giving her a "real" reason to complain. Other wise it's likely just her and it will never change until you trade her in.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:23:00 -
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I'm trying to figure out the best time to play... I'd like it to be evenings after dinner and such...just play for a few hours before bed. But then if I check EVE the following morning, I'm "obsessed".
Women.
WTF.
You're right... whatever it is... women will be jealous of it.
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Krxon Blade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:24:00 -
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Edited by: Krxon Blade on 11/08/2010 16:25:25
Mine used to hate EVE too, but only during my 1st year here when I was seriously hooked.
Lessons learned:
- Do not neglect the "duties" of male (or female)
- Buy her shiny stuff every so (or gadgets if male)
- Don't EVER mention: cr*p, my skill is about to expire during together time
(especially not during humpin )
- Try to hook her into something similar (warning, you might become hater too)
- Play smart:
Announce that you'll have important fight tomorrow night.
Tomorrow suddenly take her out (or jump her)
and tell her that she is more important to you than some shi**y game
or "virtual" friends 
- Use long patchdays for something romantic. But be sure not to tell her that.
- There is plenty more, just be creative 
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:29:00 -
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Originally by: Krxon Blade
Edited by: Krxon Blade on 11/08/2010 16:25:25
Mine used to hate EVE too, but only during my 1st year here when I was seriously hooked.
Lessons learned:
- Do not neglect the "duties" of male (or female)
- Buy her shiny stuff every so (or gadgets if male)
- Don't EVER mention: cr*p, my skill is about to expire during together time
(especially not during humpin )
- Try to hook her into something similar (warning, you might become hater too)
- Play smart:
Announce that you'll have important fight tomorrow night.
Tomorrow suddenly take her out (or jump her)
and tell her that she is more important to you than some shi**y game
or "virtual" friends
- Use long patchdays for something romantic. But be sure not to tell her that.
- There is plenty more, just be creative
Great suggestions!
I'm watching Cold Case Files and 48 Hours to get some other ideas, too!
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Matthias Howe
Amarr
24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:32:00 -
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An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:45:00 -
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Originally by: Matthias Howe
An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
I'm not REALLY getting divorced. This mostly in jest. It's jsut nice to hear that I'm not the only one.
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Liang Nuren
Parsec Flux
War.Pigs.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:46:00 -
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I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:50:00 -
[69]
Originally by: Liang Nuren
I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
-Liang
You all have it easy!
I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
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Xurelle
Glass Cannons
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Posted - 2010.08.11 16:59:00 -
[70]
Okay, I usually keep to myself but this thread is just sad, lol.
As a gaming female, when I see women giving their men a hard time about gaming, I always say the same thing:
"It could be worse; he could be out clubbing with other women behind your back." And you'd be amazed how many times this simple statement really makes them stop and think. But if you say that to them as their guy, it's probably not going to go over as well.
If you aren't spending an inordinate amount of time "hiding away" in a game and ignoring your significant other then gaming shouldn't really be a big deal. (When you see those Guiness Book of Records statements about the #1 reason for divorce as being Everquest and the #2 reason as being WoW, etc., I tend to think that those gamers either have a gaming addiction to deal with or that they are intentionally avoiding their spouses due to marital conflicts.)
I can understand the concern of females in general over this whole "hitting on women online" thing, though; it does happen to an extent in every MMO. However, you men whose women are concerned about this need to explain to them not only are you remaining faithful to them online, but that most women gamers find it really annoying and immersion-breaking to be hit on in a game anyway. I have met a fair amount of female gamers over the years and they all say the same thing. Many will roll male characters or avoid voice chat like the plague just to avoid harassment (my personal copout is "sorry, broken mic," lol). Personally, I usually picture this type of male as a teenage boy out from under his parents' thumb online for the first time, but you can insert whatever desperate, pimply-faced, fat, smelly stereotype* you'd like in place of that. ;)
*I can hear the female gamer stereotypes coming already, so I got my version in there first, ha.
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EyeCeeYou
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:01:00 -
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The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:01:00 -
[72]
Originally by: Xurelle
Okay, I usually keep to myself but this thread is just sad, lol.
As a gaming female, when I see women giving their men a hard time about gaming, I always say the same thing:
"It could be worse; he could be out clubbing with other women behind your back." And you'd be amazed how many times this simple statement really makes them stop and think. But if you say that to them as their guy, it's probably not going to go over as well.
If you aren't spending an inordinate amount of time "hiding away" in a game and ignoring your significant other then gaming shouldn't really be a big deal. (When you see those Guiness Book of Records statements about the #1 reason for divorce as being Everquest and the #2 reason as being WoW, etc., I tend to think that those gamers either have a gaming addiction to deal with or that they are intentionally avoiding their spouses due to marital conflicts.)
I can understand the concern of females in general over this whole "hitting on women online" thing, though; it does happen to an extent in every MMO. However, you men whose women are concerned about this need to explain to them not only are you remaining faithful to them online, but that most women gamers find it really annoying and immersion-breaking to be hit on in a game anyway. I have met a fair amount of female gamers over the years and they all say the same thing. Many will roll male characters or avoid voice chat like the plague just to avoid harassment (my personal copout is "sorry, broken mic," lol). Personally, I usually picture this type of male as a teenage boy out from under his parents' thumb online for the first time, but you can insert whatever desperate, pimply-faced, fat, smelly stereotype* you'd like in place of that. ;)
*I can hear the female gamer stereotypes coming already, so I got my version in there first, ha.
So.. what are you wearing?
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Xurelle
Glass Cannons
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:13:00 -
[73]
An Abaddon.
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CCP Adida
C C P
C C P Alliance
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:15:00 -
[74]
It's all about balance IMO. As a girl gamer I can never get upset with my boyfriend about spending too much time in EVE. Because I've done the same thing and know the feeling when you need that extra hour or two. But it's also good to unplug and spend some time together.
You can make a "date night" and coordinate it with your corp and your significant other. Just taking the 1 day a week where you unplug goes a long way with women. Whether it's to catch up with all of your shows or watch a movie. Date night doesn't mean spending money. Another thing I've seen my friends do is play when she goes to bed. That's a win/win for both. She gets to sprawl in bed while you get your time in EVE
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CCP Hf, EVE Online
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Liang Nuren
Parsec Flux
War.Pigs.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:20:00 -
[75]
Edited by: Liang Nuren on 11/08/2010 17:22:51
Originally by: Cindjin
You all have it easy!
I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
I tell her that she won't get any sleep with me close to her. I figure I've got a 100% success rate no matter what she answers to this. ;-) But more seriously, I have in fact heard this and it just doesn't take that long for her to go to sleep. Really.
-Liang
Ed: I forgot a word. Underlined. :(
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Daesis Wrack
The Kairos Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:27:00 -
[76]
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
You are hoping your wife's distaste for you playing EVE is just a phase. Your wife is hoping you playing EVE is just a phase.
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Amy Aimia
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:42:00 -
[77]
Originally by: EyeCeeYou
The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
This is likely the best tactic.. pretend to give in.. Then pester the hell out of her til she decides it's better your off playing your video game.
That or get your wife a hobby..
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:47:00 -
[78]
Originally by: Amy Aimia
Originally by: EyeCeeYou
The kids are the ones who REALLY want attention. So I play after they're asleep.
The wife - she feigns offense, but for a week I just stopped playing games and hung out with her. It totally threw her routine - she couldn't read, couldn't watch TV/movies uninterrupted, couldn't IM her friends/talk on phone - because I kept asking questions, trying to get some, etc.
Now, she begrudgingly admits that she likes me downstairs on the computer on weeknights. We have plenty of time on weekends, etc.
This is likely the best tactic.. pretend to give in.. Then pester the hell out of her til she decides it's better your off playing your video game.
That or get your wife a hobby..
My wife doesn't seem to want a hobby unless it involves me, the kids or both.
So, I will definitely "give in" and pester her a bit... nicely of course!
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Genya Arikaido
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Posted - 2010.08.11 17:57:00 -
[79]
My story is one of imprisonment.
My ex-wife was so possessive, that she kept reducing and cutting off my access to social outlets. When I turned to MMOs to fill that social need we all have, she turned on it as well.
My advice is, GTFO as fast as you can, m8. Then keep looking for the right woman that doesn't mind your MMO playing or likes to play it herself. They're not as rare as you think they are, just quiet and harder to find than the flashy, social, and possessive ones.
Originally by: CCP Tuxford
my bad.
Rest assured I'm being ridiculed by my co-workers.
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Ran Khanon
Amarr
Swords Horses and Heavy Metal
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:26:00 -
[80]
Edited by: Ran Khanon on 11/08/2010 18:27:43
Originally by: Genya Arikaido
My story is one of imprisonment.
My ex-wife was so possessive, that she kept reducing and cutting off my access to social outlets. When I turned to MMOs to fill that social need we all have, she turned on it as well.
My advice is, GTFO as fast as you can, m8. Then keep looking for the right woman that doesn't mind your MMO playing or likes to play it herself. They're not as rare as you think they are, just quiet and harder to find than the flashy, social, and possessive ones.
Well done bailing from that situation. It's about being honest to yourself and having the guts to make the right decision.
I also realized my ex-gf really wasn't the right one for me eventually and she was expecting more and more out of the relationship. I broke up to save her and me any more investing into a relationship that couldn't work in the long run anyway and before anything 'major' would happen (read: kid). A year later she married with (hopefully) the right guy and I was there, being really happy for her (and myself).
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ChronoSphere
Sturmgrenadier Inc
Sturmgrenadier Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:34:00 -
[81]
Originally by: Cindjin
Originally by: Liang Nuren
I'm able to successfully multiplex Eve, a wife, and a rather large family. The trick is to structure your days in such a way that Eve and your wife/family don't really compete for your time. For me, that's because I play Eve after my wife (and children) goto bed. She also appreciates that there aren't half clothed women dancing across my screen like in Fantasy MMOs. Can't wait to see what she makes of Incarna.
-Liang
You all have it easy!
I've tried the old "play it after she goes to bed" routine but she then gives me the old "I can't fall asleep with out you close to me" thing.
God, this. I hate hearing this.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:39:00 -
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+1 Eve divorce, though tbh EVE was really the final symptom of the failed marriage, not the cause.
Been much happier since, especially after finding a gamer chick instead. I'd bet plenty of divorces from EVE players are the same. It's not really EVE, but it sure looks like it to non-gamers.
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De'Veldrin
Minmatar
Special Projects Executive
The Obsidian Legion
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:53:00 -
[83]
Originally by: Winters Chill
Edited by: Winters Chill on 11/08/2010 16:10:33
Originally by: De'Veldrin
Edited by: De''Veldrin on 11/08/2010 15:28:05
Speaking as a girl that plays Eve, if my husband:
A)Ever said "put out more or STFU" to me, they would never find his body. Ever.
B)Got all bent out of shape over me playing a damned game, he'd find his ****, neatly boxed, on the back porch with a note explaining the difference between "me" time and "us" time.
Speaking as a man, speaking to a little girl that plays eve.
The only thing worse than male posturing about women, is women posturing about men.
If you're speaking to a little girl, you're obviously not speaking to me. Are you sure you quoted the right post?
Assbag.
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Emperor Cheney
Celebrity Sex Tape
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:54:00 -
[84]
Originally by: Makko Gray
My wife used to dislike me playing EVE - then I suggested I'd give it up and take up historical warfare reenactment instead... she doesn't mind me playing EVE so much anymore.
You, sir, are a genius.
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Securitas Protector
Yaoi Corp
Ethereal Dawn
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Posted - 2010.08.11 18:58:00 -
[85]
As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great.
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Cebraio
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:07:00 -
[86]
Originally by: Securitas Protector
As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great.
Totally convinced me. I'm gay now.\o/ Just need to explain it to my flat mate.
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Genya Arikaido
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:15:00 -
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Originally by: Securitas Protector
As a gay gamer I can say that it's waaayyy easier to have a boyfriend in regards to EVE. :) Even if he doesn't play, he can respect the fun in what you're doing, and as long as you're not actually addicted to it, it works just great.
..and with one post, gay rights activism for minority rights go out the door as vast numbers of guys come out of the closet with no warning.
+1 Internets for your self-confidence, sir.
Originally by: CCP Tuxford
my bad.
Rest assured I'm being ridiculed by my co-workers.
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Krennel Darius
Caldari
Nova Security Systems
The Laughing Men
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:20:00 -
[88]
My fiancTe has an EVE account. She doesn't play it too much anymore, but she's got one. That, and she can't get enough of RPG's like Oblivion and Fable. Think I'm good on the EVE game time thing.
I do have a friend who recently started playing EVE after his divorce, and the reason 'the nag wouldn't let me play EVE' was sited as one of the reasons for divorce on his papers.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:21:00 -
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"I just don't understand... wtf is up with you and that game?!?!?"
"Honey?"
"What?!?"
"Twilight."
Usually after I say that my ex would make incoherent sounds of frustration for about a minute or so before sulking off (she was obsessed with Twilight). I'd log off about a minute later to comfort her and say she had greater priority over "the game."
Didn't really help in the end though. She was a "princess" and felt that she deserved my complete and undivided attention. Oh well. More time for EvE.
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Matthias Howe
Amarr
24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:33:00 -
[90]
Originally by: Cindjin
Originally by: Matthias Howe
An hour or two a day, no more, and it's always last priority. Ever so often, I set aside a full day on special occasions to play a marathon, but this game, nor any other, will ever be a major part of my life. I'm a recovering EQaholic.
I chose Eve specifically because you can be afk while your skill queue runs...which gives me satisfaction that I am advancing in the game without being online. I don't believe in grinding and I'll never do it again for any game.
I supplement my money by Plex and avoid mining altogether. I run missions for extra dough. If you can't afford Plex...well, my advise, however unsolicited, is that you focus on your real life and get a job that pays enough to afford $100.00 every so often. If you're in school (I work and go to school full time), you're just going to have to reap it and deal with not being the l33test guy in town. If you're getting divorced over a game, and I know how easy it is to fool yourself that this game is important, then you're doing it wrong...life I mean.
I'm not REALLY getting divorced. This mostly in jest. It's jsut nice to hear that I'm not the only one.
Oh you'll divorce. You Hhave said the divorce demon's name. Say it two more times and it will come for your marriage!!!!!!
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ceaon
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Posted - 2010.08.11 19:36:00 -
[91]
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
EvE is turned ON 23/7
just saying
Originally by: CCP Adida
The male thread was locked because the discussion turned into transsexuals and man boobs.
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Sharon Tate
Amarr
Cutting Edge Incorporated
RAZOR Alliance
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Posted - 2010.08.11 20:33:00 -
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Married with four (young) kids, but I work at home, which gives me the flexibility to play after the wife and kids go to bed.
The wife doesn't mind that I play though, which is nice. I remember buying some new shiny ship and saying "Hey honey, look at this new ship I bought!" and getting the "Oh that's nice dear" response...
Make no mistake, though, kids are first... and yes, I've had the baby on my lap many times during fleet fights... :)
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Breaker77
Gallente
Reclamation Industries
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Posted - 2010.08.11 20:43:00 -
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Originally by: Sharon Tate
and yes, I've had the baby on my lap many times during fleet fights... :)
Teach him/her well!!
Fortunately for me, my GF doesn't care too much about when I play. Of course she's usually busy with her shows on TV or facebook so it works out good.
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Dangerous Daswe
Gallente
Telsa inc
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Posted - 2010.08.11 20:50:00 -
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My missus hated eve at the start if us living together as it took me away from her nook, ie her lying on me and huddling in to the spot between side and arm.
We almost broke up over it until I asked why she could have everything but I couldn't have a game in anger I said "well you try it and you'll understand"
Best words I ever said, now she's hooked on mining and I get play eve. All the time, she goes on from morning to night last night was 3am when she came bed.
Couldn't be happier now
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Caldari
Body Count Inc.
Against ALL Authorities
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Posted - 2010.08.11 20:59:00 -
[95]
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
Bottom line. If you have a g/f who doesnt like video games, she will NEVER approve of ANY game that takes up your time. Ever.
My G/F hates and despises my computer. She doesnt complain too much. but once in a while it comes through. I told her to give me something better to do besides sit on the couch and watch Glee with her, cause I hate that crap.
She hasnt come up with anything better to do. So until she does, im not worried. Cause shes glued to the couch / TV. Her expectation is that I will also be glued to the couch / tv, and thats just not happening.
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xeno1008
Children of the Mercurial Consortium
Nostradamus Effect
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Posted - 2010.08.11 21:22:00 -
[96]
Originally by: Xtreem
my mrs is called eve in rl (well evelyn but called eve)
so i name a few ships after her, or let her choose and she then actually shows an interest, as i dont play as much as i used to this keeps her interest as she wants "her ship" not to die in battle :)
although on a serious note... don't lose a partner over eve.. its a game.. RL should ALWAYS come first, if not its best to look into why you prefer a fake universe than your real one and spend your time fixing it, not playing another.
this is true, but if said person does not like your hobbies, then maybe shes not for you, relationships is all about compatibility and its not her right to change what you enjoy doing. Unless its sex with other woman, then thats a changeable cause.
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Posted - 2010.08.11 21:38:00 -
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Edited by: Jaw Long on 11/08/2010 21:42:33
Just a quick word of advice... if you have a wife/gf that really doesn't approve of your gaming... make sure she doesn't know your account password(s)... and that your computer is either too heavy for her to move or somehow secure...
Having an angry woman trash your stuff / throw your computer in the garbage isn't fun. And don't try to stop her, she'll go crying about domestic abuse. Bat**** crazy *****.
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Kesper North
Caldari
Reliables Inc
Majesta Empire
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Posted - 2010.08.11 21:47:00 -
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My wife has come to accept that I have a mistress named EVE, and says it is better than the other kind. ;)
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Eternum Praetorian
True Creation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 21:50:00 -
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Edited by: Eternum Praetorian on 11/08/2010 21:50:31
Originally by: Jaw Long
Having an angry woman trash your stuff / throw your computer in the garbage isn't fun. And don't try to stop her, she'll go crying about domestic abuse. Bat**** crazy *****.
Mmmmm.... Bat**** crazy *****es.
Oh wait...
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Stu Pendisdick
Caldari
School of Applied Knowledge
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Posted - 2010.08.11 21:59:00 -
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The wife and I have three accounds each.
Yes. Three. Each. With all slots loaded. Each.
And she's better skilled on her main than I am.
It pays to marry a geekess.
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Alara IonStorm
Agent-Orange
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Posted - 2010.08.11 22:03:00 -
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My love got me into EVE. She mines and is trying the impossible task of fitting an Omen for PVP with engineering IV.
Come on CCP give give the Omen a bit more Grid and CPU please.
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McBrite
Gallente
Blackwater Forceful Aquisitions
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Posted - 2010.08.11 22:22:00 -
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Edited by: McBrite on 11/08/2010 22:23:09
If you prefer playing EVE to your wife and/or kids company your a
****ing tool of such epic proportions I can't even begin to express
it in words...
I hope she divorces you, takes your kids, the dogs, the house, your
balls and half of your money.
Maybe that will teach you not to be a complete looser...
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Eternum Praetorian
True Creation
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Posted - 2010.08.11 22:31:00 -
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Edited by: Eternum Praetorian on 11/08/2010 22:32:04
Originally by: McBrite
Edited by: McBrite on 11/08/2010 22:23:09
I hope she divorces you, takes your kids, the dogs, the house, your
balls and half of your money.
Maybe that will teach you not to be a complete looser...
[^^Girl in real life playing a dude in EVE spotted^^]
I suspect that is most likely "her" long term plan anyway, EVE or no EVE
At the very least it is her plan B when she realizes that Twilight isn't "Real Life" just like to us guys "EVE isn't real life" Lets hear it for prenuptial agreements
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McBrite
Gallente
Blackwater Forceful Aquisitions
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Posted - 2010.08.11 22:39:00 -
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Edited by: McBrite on 11/08/2010 22:40:28
Edited by: McBrite on 11/08/2010 22:40:02
Originally by: Eternum Praetorian
Edited by: Eternum Praetorian on 11/08/2010 22:32:04
Originally by: McBrite
Edited by: McBrite on 11/08/2010 22:23:09
I hope she divorces you, takes your kids, the dogs, the house, your
balls and half of your money.
Maybe that will teach you not to be a complete looser...
[^^Girl in real life playing a dude in EVE spotted^^]
I suspect that is most likely "her" long term plan anyway, EVE or no EVE
At the very least it is her plan B when she realizes that Twilight isn't "Real Life" just like to us guys "EVE isn't real life" Lets hear it for prenuptial agreements
Naw, I'm not... Maybe that was worded a bit to strong, but seriously:
If you prefer EVE to your women and/or kids, why have a women and/or kids? Just to conform with society? You're not doing her or your kids any favors, are you?
Playing a bit of EVE is alright of course... But then playing a bit of EVE doesn't ever lead to divorce, does it? Being an EVE-fiend that plays 23/7 on the weekends and tells his women to take a hike (you wouldn't BELIEVE what I heard on Teamspeak over the years) DOES lead to divorce...
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Slapchop Gonnalovemynuts
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Posted - 2010.08.11 22:39:00 -
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In my 5 years of playing EVE, my wife has gone from mild curiosity, to ambivalence, then extreme dislike, a small spate of pure hatred, but now has come to accept the fact that I am not going to stop playing, and has come back around to mild curiosity. She wont play the game (she 'cant get into space' she says, pffft), but she does actually ask me how things are going in the game, and likes to follow whatever shenanigans are going on with my and my spacefriends. She likes the concept of the free for all sandbox with all of its nefarious reprecussions, and she likes the skill system, the things she does not like are the fact she is a spaceship all the time, and that the combat, in her opinion, is BOOOORRINNNGG. I try to explain to her the awesomeness of explosions and laserbeans, but she seems incapable of 'getting it' :(
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Icebok
Caldari
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Posted - 2010.08.11 23:50:00 -
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My girlfriend is a huge Starcraft nerd, so me playing games doesn't ever bother her. I think she'd be worried if I stopped playing EVE.
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Jonathan Yeah
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:10:00 -
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My Mrs gave me grief over the amount of time I play Eve...so I flipped her can. Yeah!
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Raeza
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:14:00 -
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Originally by: Slapchop Gonnalovemynuts
In my 5 years of playing EVE, my wife has gone from mild curiosity, to ambivalence, then extreme dislike, a small spate of pure hatred, but now has come to accept the fact that I am not going to stop playing, and has come back around to mild curiosity. She wont play the game (she 'cant get into space' she says, pffft), but she does actually ask me how things are going in the game, and likes to follow whatever shenanigans are going on with my and my spacefriends. She likes the concept of the free for all sandbox with all of its nefarious reprecussions, and she likes the skill system, the things she does not like are the fact she is a spaceship all the time, and that the combat, in her opinion, is BOOOORRINNNGG. I try to explain to her the awesomeness of explosions and laserbeans, but she seems incapable of 'getting it' :(
Snap!
I have played EvE for about 4 years now, currently living with my partner who I have been with for 2.5 years+ I am pretty certain if I met my partner maybe as little as a month sooner it wouldn't of worked out. For the first couple of years I played EvE I was pretty damn addicted, fortunately, for me anyway, I think after you have played the game for a couple of years it becomes easier to manage your time spent on the game.
as others have said above, my parter also went through the phases of hating EvE; now she has become to accept it... I think
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Hugh Munguss
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:29:00 -
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Just ask your wife/girlfriend/whatever, to give you a list of things that they want you to do and a list of things they do not want you to do! Make sure they accompany the list with with a reward and penalty system
EX: I approve of you doing dishes. Reward: BJ
EX: I do NOT approve of you playing EvE. Penalty: Cook your own dinner
etc...
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Brannor McThife
Caldari
Brotherhood of the Ancients
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:32:00 -
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I'm sending a link to this thread to my wife to show her how good I am in comparison. :D
But seriously. You need to be dynamic. In the (recent) past, I had set gaming time, but you need to be able to step away from EvE and focus on RL every now and then. EvE can never replace human contact - you lie to yourself if you think it does.
Currently I happily play for about 1.5 hours after DT each night... and maybe a few minutes before DT. Wife's DT is between 30 and 0 minutes before EvE's DT.
And it's not just EvE...it's any gaming or hobby. You should have gotten married to share your life with someone...not share a house and bed... what did your wedding vows say?
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Vauxim
Minmatar
Just Us Guys In Space
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:42:00 -
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You married a control freak.
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Brian Ballsack
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Posted - 2010.08.12 00:47:00 -
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I bet she stinks :P
no offence meant, i just had to say that.
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Cipher Jones
Minmatar
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Posted - 2010.08.12 01:00:00 -
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the first person I did missions with way back in the day was a husband/wife ship duo where they got divorced and the husband ended up dual boxing. Or no box, depending on your perspective... But I digest...
I tried to get my wife to play eve but she didn't like it. But then she doesn't try to make me watch true blood or do other chick **** more than once either if I don't like it. She's gonna try it again after Incarna, hopefully there will be poker in EvE instead of the crap client that's out now.
Anyway, we've only ever played the same games a couple of times since we've been together. The first thing I got her was Half life platinum pack, I didn't like it much (I already had it, needed 2 keys). After that It was WC3 and then Guild Wars.
Up until guild Wars I was the provider with a great job in the tech sector making computer chips. When robots started making computers and I got perma laid off it was rough. I got enough severance to take a year off and boy did that **** her off. That's when I learned how to make a woman happy, and thats what you have to do. you better be able to have dinner ready, the kid's homework better be done, and you better be ready to rub some feet (when I was younger I obtained a stripper for a g/f b/c her man wouldn't #truestory).
Anyway, you do all that stuff before you play and you will be golden. You blow any woman off too much and she'll go find someone who doesn't.
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Polly Lops
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Posted - 2010.08.12 01:05:00 -
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My (ex)husband got me into the game then proceeded to get jealous of every male friend I talked to in the game. As you can imagine, that was a lot of male friends... even the ones that were his friends. He called a few on the phone and threatened them even. Yes, we are now divorced. There were other issues but his jealousy over the game were a large part of what caused our demise.
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Merin Ryskin
Peregrine Industries
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Posted - 2010.08.12 01:22:00 -
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EVE and Relationships 101:
1) Dump the possessive girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever who, as De'Veldrin said, doesn't know the difference between "me time" and "us time" and why a healthy relationship involves some of both. If this person is really that controlling (seriously, getting jealous because the autopilot has a female voice?), you're better off without them.
2) Find a new girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever who has interests of their own. Even if they do not enjoy games, a person who has more in their life than "spend time with my girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever", they will be happy to let you play EVE so they can spend some time on their own interests.
Thankfully I found a sane girlfriend, and I can't imagine her getting upset about me spending a reasonable amount of time playing EVE. Just like I have no problem if she wants to spend a few hours reading a book or whatever. And you know, I'm sure if we put a little effort into talking about our interests and how much time we want to invest in them, we could even arrange it so that these two events overlap!
Likewise for the people complaining about the same old cliche about having to manipulate your girlfriend into giving you sex. Maybe you should find a girl who's honest about enjoying it and/or stop sucking so much in bed that she'd rather watch paint dry?
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Catherine Frasier
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Posted - 2010.08.12 01:40:00 -
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Originally by: Lunachan
"You feel I should spent more time with you than my game? Then put out more often or STFU woman!"
Worked for me.
Worked for you in the sense that now you're single (so problem solved) or in the sense that now that you've imagined saying that to your imaginary girlfriend she understands that you are the King of your Castle Parent's Basement and knows not to mess with you?
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Cipher Jones
Minmatar
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Posted - 2010.08.12 01:55:00 -
[117]
Originally by: Catherine Frasier
Originally by: Lunachan
"You feel I should spent more time with you than my game? Then put out more often or STFU woman!"
Worked for me.
Worked for you in the sense that now you're single (so problem solved) or in the sense that now that you've imagined saying that to your imaginary girlfriend she understands that you are the King of your Castle Parent's Basement and knows not to mess with you?
Neither.
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Mr Kidd
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Posted - 2010.08.12 04:08:00 -
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For me Eve is a filler for an empty life. My life can be nothing more than what it already is. If you have a life then I suggest you forget about Eve and attend to yours. Otherwise, you will have an empty life and it will be noone's fault but your own.
Eve cannot be played casually. Sorry. I know people say they do. I don't believe them and I think they are deluding themselves. Nothing in this game takes less than 1 hour to accomplish without the highest of skills and noone got those skills playing Eve less than an hour at a time. And so much more requires several hours at a time. What? You setup all of your planets in PI in less than an hour? Yeah right. You bought commodities, found a place to trade them, then traveled +30 jumps to sell them for a profit in less than an hour? Sure. Did you setup that POS in < an hour? Uh huh. How about that group of thugs who entered your system and harassed you and yours? You spent less than an hour fending them off and then making sure noone was lurking around your system waiting for an opportune moment to spring a surprise on you? Yeah, keep telling me you play this game casually. Better yet, tell yourself. That's the one that needs the most convincing.
All you people with wives and kids need to be thankful of that and not take it for granted. If you want video game entertainment find a good FPS that you can get on and off and still have real fun.
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Dominatus Crispus
Nation of Muppets
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Posted - 2010.08.12 04:12:00 -
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my wife plays eve too...
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Mathay Exi
ExiCo Labor and Industry
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Posted - 2010.08.12 04:26:00 -
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It took me 3 different attempts and a whole LOT of question answering, but I finally got my wife into EvE!
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Brannor McThife
Caldari
Brotherhood of the Ancients
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Posted - 2010.08.12 04:29:00 -
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Originally by: Mr Kidd
Nothing in this game takes less than 1 hour to accomplish without the highest of skills and noone got those skills playing Eve less than an hour at a time.
I think it is possible to have some fun in an hour. It's why I've shifted to doing high-sec exploration. You can scan down quite a few sites in an hour, and if you hit the jackpot, you can score an implant at over 200mil, or get an escalation that can lead to shield booster at over 500mil... or a combo of both and really rake it in.
You don't have to do all the escalations in one night... you get 24 hours to move from one to the other, and 24 hours after you start the next one...
Sure, combat PvP takes a lot of time, but care bearing can be done in hour-long stints. With decent skills and the right ship, you can finish most L4's in 30-60 minutes. (with my Golem I can (could) clear WC completely in under an hour).
But your point definitely holds water when it comes to some activities. But that is no different to other MMOs which also require vast amounts of time to do high-end content.
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Herzog Wolfhammer
Gallente
Aliastra
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Posted - 2010.08.12 05:12:00 -
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The way I see it:
I am home.
It's cheap.
I am in the same room.
It's safe.
I could be out having beers at the local pub instead, spending money on drinks, risking trouble. Or perhaps have a more expensive hobby, like boating or something costing more than 15 bucks a month. I already shoot a lot, but she does that with me.
Any woman who cannot see that an MMO is a better alternative than being out, and being home, present, and on hand is STILL not enough, is a control freak.
And she should be dumped like a burning bag of crap.
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Ashira Twilight
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Posted - 2010.08.12 05:57:00 -
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I split up with my ex-wife a few years ago. I'd be a liar if I didn't say eve had something to do with it...
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Yrielle Vandis
The Black Rabbits Academy
The Gurlstas Associates
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Posted - 2010.08.12 06:07:00 -
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Well, it seems I'm one of the lucky few where the wife actually likes EVE Online :)
Wife was always nagging when I played WoW back in the days, but now I play EVE, I often hear the following:
Honey, are you docked up? I'd like to use the computer for a few minutes.
How's trading going?
What's THAT ship? It's butt-ugly! (About the Blackbird)
Who's that? And that? And that? (When performing fleet warps)
Mining? AGAIN? (When I was carebearing it up)
An extra fun fact is that she really likes the EVE music, and also massively enjoys listening to Rettic's Sounds for Flying :)
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Sma da'Marenhide
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Posted - 2010.08.12 06:29:00 -
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I remember my ex Wife(eve didnt end it btw) seeing EVE on the CC bill for the first time.
She was totally convinced i was subscibing to a, err gentlemans website
When she got to know the game a little better, she probably wished i was!
Rly though, its just a case of striking a balance, i do plenty of cool things with my partner(walks, restaurants,weekends away)
and i find time to play when she decides she wants to watch some chick flick on TV or some crappy drama show.Ergo we are both happy!
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NinJonny
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Posted - 2010.08.12 06:44:00 -
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my wife reads those crappy love story paperbooks whenever shes got time, she can finish one in a few days.
i just tell her my paperbook is never ending and i control the storyline.
oh, and our two boys have left COD for eve as well, so shes got a family of space pilots.
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Folen Death
Caldari
Pegasus Reborn Research Corp
Fidelas Constans
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Posted - 2010.08.12 06:54:00 -
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Originally by: Atticus Fynch
While I EVE, wife Farmvilles. She's hooked on it.
OMG same here
p.s be carfull of here computer breaking up, she takes my computer for hours a time (get a 3rd backup computer ASAP)
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And one pill makes you small
And the ones that mother gives you
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Unspoken Autonomy.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 07:14:00 -
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Edited by: Stick Cult on 12/08/2010 07:16:18
Originally by: NinJonny
oh, and our two boys have left COD for eve as well, so shes got a family of space pilots.
This is awesome... Family fleet time? Dad can I have some isk? Dad he blew up my badger! ... Dad I just undocked with your 74 plex in a kestrel and was blown up. :(
I have a guy in my corp who used to have his kids empty his hulk and take it back out to mine more while he was cooking or otherwise occupied. Ah, child labor.
edit: I had a guy in my corp who's wife HATED Eve, so he eventually quit it, but apparently things still weren't going well. Now it's ex-wife and we have him back. I think her argument was "why don't you go out and make some real friends." She hated vent most, because he'd say "these are real friends!" which of course prompted "then wtf kind of name is stick?! he's the one you keep talking to! that's not a real name!"
Originally by: CCP Tuxford
my bad. Rest assured I'm being ridiculed by my co-workers.
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Tido Maliyu
Cobalt Dragon Exploration Company
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Posted - 2010.08.12 07:16:00 -
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Originally by: Kiritsubo
Marriage is the leading cause of divorce.
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don't you love those commercials? And on boring news channels of all things?
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Merc101
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:02:00 -
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Originally by: Herzog Wolfhammer
The way I see it:
I am home.
It's cheap.
I am in the same room.
It's safe.
I could be out having beers at the local pub instead, spending money on drinks, risking trouble. Or perhaps have a more expensive hobby, like boating or something costing more than 15 bucks a month. I already shoot a lot, but she does that with me.
Any woman who cannot see that an MMO is a better alternative than being out, and being home, present, and on hand is STILL not enough, is a control freak.
And she should be dumped like a burning bag of crap.
Agreed. My other half will complain occasionally but shuts up real quick when I remind her what I would or could be out doing. It saves us money because I am a busy body and the game keeps me occupied.
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Deltronious
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:23:00 -
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My wife does not mind eve, she wants me to have time to spend on things that I enjoy.
I want to be clear on this. My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me and I put a lot of effort into making my marriage work well for the both of us. I want her to always be with me so I want her to feel loved at all times.
If she ever even hints at needing attention I will happily give it to her.
Its not my goal to die with 50k hours of eve under my belt.
It is a goal to die knowing I loved my wife to the best of my ability. She always comes first even if I get zero hours per week on eve. Realistically I get about 20.
I know which investment I will be happy with in the end.
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Lt Angus
Caldari
the united
Negative Ten.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:29:00 -
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My GF prefers FPS so have to play those with her a lot of the time, she dont mind I play eve though.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:44:00 -
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I got my girlfriend to play eve :)
Just got to prioritise though,
She had a go at me because i was putting up poses for like 10 hours straight :(
I play about 2-3 hours a day when i'm with her.
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Dan O'Connor
Cerberus Network
Dignitas.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:53:00 -
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Edited by: Dan O''Connor on 12/08/2010 11:53:26
Edited by: Dan O''Connor on 12/08/2010 11:52:52
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
If my girlfriend asks me why I play EVE, I'll show her this list:
1) At least Im not out getting drunk every night (no offense).
2) At least you know where I am, so you know Im not having an affair or something
3) It's no different from reading a book - even if you might think so.
4) Well, you watch TV/movies just as much, don't you?
5) At least im not a drug addict.
6) It's actually very educational (you might not agree, but well, it is).
7) It's actually a great way to save money (this includes point 1)
8) If it's been a hard day at work (provided I get a job soon), I need to chill on the PC for a bit.
9) It's my hobby.
<My tools>
CCP Zymurgist > lol thats great Dan O'connor
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ZenSun
Total Mayhem.
Cry Havoc.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 11:58:00 -
[135]
Originally by: Dan O'Connor
Edited by: Dan O''Connor on 12/08/2010 11:53:26
Edited by: Dan O''Connor on 12/08/2010 11:52:52
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
If my girlfriend asks me why I play EVE, I'll show her this list:
1) At least Im not out getting drunk every night (no offense).
2) At least you know where I am, so you know Im not having an affair or something
3) It's no different from reading a book - even if you might think so.
4) Well, you watch TV/movies just as much, don't you?
5) At least im not a drug addict.
6) It's actually very educational (you might not agree, but well, it is).
7) It's actually a great way to save money (this includes point 1)
8) If it's been a hard day at work (provided I get a job soon), I need to chill on the PC for a bit.
9) It's my hobby.
Does your girlfriend live in Hackney by any chance?
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Deltronious
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.08.12 12:06:00 -
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I see these replies lots:
- Any woman who is so possessive that she won't let you play 23/7 is a ***** that you should dump.(Are you sure you're such a great catch yourself? Whats your qualifications? You play EVE 23/7? Oh Ok.)
- I just point out to her that I'm not out shagging someone else/beating her/getting drunk so she should be happy (That makes lots of sense. (Im not the worst person in the world therefore you should stick with me, you're unlikely to do better) - Doesn't this just imply that she's not that flash either and you're both just putting up with each other rather than actually enjoying each other?)
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Professor Tarantula
Hedion University
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Posted - 2010.08.12 12:10:00 -
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Originally by: Deltronious
Doesn't this just imply that she's not that flash either and you're both just putting up with each other rather than actually enjoying each other?)
That's par for the course in most long term relationships. Familiarity breeds contempt.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 12:21:00 -
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a former GF gave out about it out of an irrational sense that it was a childish pursuit. I countered that her fascination with shoes was mentally unhealthy. Got dumped. ha!
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Artemis Rose
Clandestine Vector
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Posted - 2010.08.12 12:41:00 -
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I had an ex who didn't mind EVE until she found I'd wake up twice (!) in the middle of the night to change my skills, but I couldn't be bothered to wake up and answer her phone calls.
Almost a shame that relationship ended about 2-3 weeks before the skill que came into EVE
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Doctor Mustaka
Caldari
Firebird Squadron
Terra-Incognita
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Posted - 2010.08.12 13:03:00 -
[140]
Originally by: CCP Adida
.....As a girl gamer I can never get upset with my boyfriend EVER.
More blatant Dev lies from CCP. When will this madness end.
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minerboob
Gallente
LG Industries
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Posted - 2010.08.12 13:23:00 -
[141]
WIFE AGGRO!!! AHHHH!!!!
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Posted - 2010.08.12 13:43:00 -
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Originally by: CCP Adida
You can make a "date night" and coordinate it with your corp and your significant other. Just taking the 1 day a week where you unplug goes a long way with women. Whether it's to catch up with all of your shows or watch a movie. Date night doesn't mean spending money. Another thing I've seen my friends do is play when she goes to bed. That's a win/win for both. She gets to sprawl in bed while you get your time in EVE
Confirming that both the above tactics work to mix EVE playing & partner happiness.
In my case we call it "Internet Free Night" - all the digital stuff gets turned off. Sometimes we watch "Charmed", sometimes we cook a new dish we haven't tried before, sometimes we get a movie and cook some popcorn.
Sometimes we'll go to bed together, chat/read a bedtime story/whatever, then when she's comfy I'll kiss her goodnight and go play quietly.
Getting to bed before 11pm is also a useful tactic for keeping girlfriend and workmates happy ;)
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Ratmuss
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Posted - 2010.08.12 14:41:00 -
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I solved the issue by buying my wife an expensive laptop with an 18" screen and showing her facebook.
Now i play eve and she sits on the couch and chats (my PC is in the living room)
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Posted - 2010.08.12 14:47:00 -
[144]
Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Really it depends on a lot of factors.
How much are you playing it?
Do you spend time with her?
Does she go out or do things on her own?
I had a friend who's wife wouldn't allow him to do anything except sit there with her. Literally he wasn't allowed to do anything at all unless it was something she wanted to do.
If you are spending time with your wife and doing things with her and she just gets upset whenever you play Eve, there are some issues there and will most likely end up being a problem. It won't matter if you are playing Eve or sitting in a room by yourself staring at a wall.
If she doesn't have any hobbies of her own maybe the two of you should sit down and try to find an activity that she likes to do that won't require you to do it with her.
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Aelius
Caldari
Mnemonic Enterprises
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Posted - 2010.08.12 14:49:00 -
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For ones with wifes that have kids from another marriage.
1st. Hook the kid into any type of MMO out there (does not need to be EVE).
2nd. Watch the kid get hooked even more about that MMO and actually surpassing you with the time in front of the computer.
3rd. Watch your wife turning the attention to the kid about how much time he spends in the computer. (after all she cannot divorce him).
4th. Play EVE without interruptions from her, since she is more worried about nagging the kid.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 15:05:00 -
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The biggest difference between eve and other mmo's I've played is the minimum time requirement. A friday night raid into molten core sucked 7 hours out of my life. I missed family dinner and I didn't get to put my kids to bed because my guild needed the dps. I quit shortly thereafter.
Eve, I've found can be better compartmentalized. If you're a carebear, you dock and if you're a PvPer, you decide at the outset how much time, if any, you can give. There's never a slow, structured progression to a final drawn out battle.
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Istvann
Minmatar
Order Reliance and Belonging
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Posted - 2010.08.12 16:53:00 -
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My wife is tolerant of my Eve playing. She better be...she is playing three Everquest accounts including mine that I retired!
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Cindjin
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Posted - 2010.08.12 16:57:00 -
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Originally by: Istvann
My wife is tolerant of my Eve playing. She better be...she is playing three Everquest accounts including mine that I retired!
LUCKY!
I WISH my wife would get into games. She DOES love Facebook and plays the games on there... but for some reason, since I started playing EVE, she won't touch the Laptop while I'm playing on the Desktop. Instead, she sulks.
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Guilliman R
Gallente
Northstar Cabal
R.A.G.E
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Posted - 2010.08.12 17:33:00 -
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I must be the only guy in eve that's alone
My best friend is a gamer though, but she moved to Tokyo last month. Haven't heard from her since :/
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Cebraio
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Posted - 2010.08.12 18:18:00 -
[150]
Originally by: Guilliman R
I must be the only guy in eve that's alone
No, I'm alone too and yesterday I decided to become gay ... *hugs*
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Guilliman R
Gallente
Northstar Cabal
R.A.G.E
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Posted - 2010.08.12 18:28:00 -
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Originally by: Cebraio
Originally by: Guilliman R
I must be the only guy in eve that's alone
No, I'm alone too and yesterday I decided to become gay ... *hugs*
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Malcanis
Caldari
Vanishing Point.
The Initiative.
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Posted - 2010.08.12 18:47:00 -
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Originally by: Guilliman R
Originally by: Cebraio
Originally by: Guilliman R
I must be the only guy in eve that's alone
No, I'm alone too and yesterday I decided to become gay ... *hugs*
Well at least he wont cut in to your EVE time...
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Necrosmith
Gallente
Chunder Corp
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Posted - 2010.08.12 19:38:00 -
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My wife watches TV. I play mmo's.
Everyone is happy.
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un1c0rn1
Caldari
Caldari Provisions
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Posted - 2010.08.13 08:12:00 -
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Myself and hubby play eve, him from 2003, got me playing in 2006. He has quit eve numerous times and went back.
I play WAY more than he does and he cant complain cos it was him that got me playing in the first place.
I too have also played in fleet battles while youngest kids are running around wrecking the place or pressing buttons on my keyboard
Eve is part of my social life.
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Lord Arrakis
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Posted - 2010.08.13 08:14:00 -
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Respect for each other is the key and if you take the other person for what he/she is/likes, it's all peachy.
If she dictates that you cannot play games, you have an issue on your hands you need sorting out.
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Shocker Steg
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.08.13 09:29:00 -
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Originally by: Malcanis
Originally by: Guilliman R
Originally by: Cebraio
Originally by: Guilliman R
I must be the only guy in eve that's alone
No, I'm alone too and yesterday I decided to become gay ... *hugs*
Well at least he wont cut in to your EVE time...
Damn.. there goes my coffee again...
Still seems alot of people here have relationships... I think Eve is one of the most forgiving MMO's out there to have a social life beside :)
Try WoW in a high end raiding guild... 3 nights raiding, 2 nights and a weekend supplying for raids.. and then left over time to do actually fun stuff in the game like completing your quests... bye bye social life (hence why I quit and never regretted it) I even quit eve once for a few months but I can still say that this game is way better for me as I can step a way from it at nearly every moment to pick up something else to do.
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Posted - 2010.08.13 09:56:00 -
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A jealous, selfish spouse is the worst kind you can have. This has nothing to do with Eve. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and find someone who has some self confidence and feels secure in your relationship.
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My wife, while she may ***** about my 22/7 play, won't demean herself by demanding I quit playing, she has FB (ugh) and her music/crosswords etc...I have my EvE. We all have our drug
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My Postman
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Posted - 2010.08.13 10:03:00 -
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GF hates EVE, seriously. One reason might be the name aswell, a girls name, so as eve might be a hooker with a website where you can fly spaceships, before doing indicent things.
She does¦nt want to understand, she does¦nt care. What doubles the problem is that every secand char in eve has "girliename" - and i did¦nt hear any girls voices in teamspeak/vent (even i¦ve heard there should be at least some in eve).
I gave her my headset for several times. Just male voices, but she¦s suspicious. One time, i¦ve been to toilet, she took the headset, and tried to chat to find the obvious girl in german, where everybody else spoke english in the gang, confusing the whole roaming gang.
Did i mention she pulled the power from my pc while i was in a 1v1 in my ishtar, defending our wormhole against a single catalyst? Epic lossmail.
My vote goes for HANK too.
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Mecinia Lua
Galactic Express
The Spire Collective
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Posted - 2010.08.13 10:10:00 -
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Gotta put things into perspective, if you play EVE more than you pay attention to your wife/girlfriend then obviously its going to create a problem.
I've had some good friends leave EVE due to strain on the marriage and I applaud them for choosing their wives over the game even though I miss em.
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Br41n
Amarr
Pinky and the Brain corp
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Posted - 2010.08.13 10:11:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
I'm sorry, but I don't want to be strapped to her hip watching Grey's Anatomy.
Could be worse being forced to watch crap like Oprah or Dr. ****e.. uh Phil
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Posted - 2010.08.13 11:01:00 -
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I know at least one guy in EVE whose wife divorced him over his gaming. There were other factors as well, but gaming was the main one.
There might have been more guys that I've met just that people keep private about such things.
The bigger picture of things is not even relationships. But that if you spend countless hours every week on gaming, you're just not doing anything productive or meaningful with that time. Life is short. And you are spending it pushing around non-existent pixels, achieving virtual goals. I get especially amazed at married guys who run multiple EVE accounts, play a ton of other games, and then complain that they are having problems with their kids, that their kids are not doing well in school, that their kids have no manners. Well yeah, if their parent is glued to the computer screen all evening long then no wonder. Same goes for the whiners who seemingly can't pay for their 6-7 accounts because they are in debt that run 40 POSes but it doesn't occur to them to get a second job, or learn some new skills to get a better job.
So while you deserve some time spent on personal entertainment, make sure that your personal entertainment doesn't become more important to you than your responsibilities and achieving some goals in your life.
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Chronos Chi
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Posted - 2010.08.13 11:57:00 -
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My wife has now come to terms with the fact that there are 2 women in my life, her and Eve.
As long as I dock with her every now and again she's happy with the setup
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Jhagiti Tyran
Invicta.
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Posted - 2010.08.13 12:57:00 -
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Best way out of getting hassled about gaming I ever heard was to say stuff like "yeah your right maybe I am spending to much time at the PC I should go and spend some more time with the lads, go get some drinks or play some pool and get out of the house a bit"
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Reklan
Amarr
The Photon Raiders
The Five
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Posted - 2010.08.13 12:58:00 -
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the wife's ok to a point..
My Wifes usually ok with it.
I'm at home, not out spending ú40 a night on booze..
If it starts to bug her.. she lets me know.
Usually something along the lines off.. If I don't dock up and log off.. I'll be loosing "My Docking rights" for more than 15mins...
That usually does the trick..
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kicka
Amarr
FIRESTORM INC
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Posted - 2010.08.13 14:53:00 -
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i have wife skill to adv lvl 5, making her an eve widow thus saving my ears from a verbal bashing (also constant ventrillo n headset works wonders)
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Caldari
Rule of Five
Lucky Starbase Syndicate
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Posted - 2010.08.13 15:53:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
I'm sorry, but I don't want to be strapped to her hip watching Grey's Anatomy.
LOL my girl calls Eve - Nerds Online - but I do watch Grey's Anatomy and a few other girly shows with her. Thankfully I can play Eve on my macbook and still hang with her
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Super Whopper
I can Has Cheeseburger
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Posted - 2010.08.13 16:22:00 -
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When I married my wife I made it clear I was a gamer before I met her and I'll be a gamer till I die, if she doesn't like it she can get lost. I can say it's worked out really well. I play games and she watches films, series and other things. I don't go on TS/Vent often because my wife's PC is right next to mine and I like to listen to watch she's watching and comment.
There are things I hate, for example that utter **** Crossing Jordan. They just might as well rename it Crossing Harry Potter because the dog farting on the other side of town has something to do with this Jordan figure (I hate Harry Potter, it's so childish). But then there're things I love, The Wire, True Blood, Doll House, etc. For those things EVE goes off and I sit and watch with her and it does miracles because she's happy and so am I.
Also my wife is ill and can't do much. She goes to work but otherwise sits behind her screen and rests. I cook, do the shopping and help clean as well. And then there's the case of my wife not being entirely PC literate. Who's going to fix her PC when something goes wrong. She knows very well if she dares ***** I simply will refuse to fix her PC and she'll be without her TV for days
You little pansies need to sort yourselves out. I love my wife, I love my offspring but I will not give up gaming for them. I don't smoke, go out, drink that much (a glass of beer makes me tipsy) and EVE is my escape from life. We all have one and you're deluded if you think watching Bold and the Beautiful, reading ****ty magazines that make you feel bad about yourself and whatever else isn't an escape.
So, when she *****es threaten her back, if she dumps you good riddance. However, you shouldn't neglect your family at the expense of a game, that's the symptom of a problem that needs to be addressed.
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Ford Mersombre
Gallente
Federal Navy Academy
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Posted - 2010.08.13 16:30:00 -
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Originally by: Cindjin
My wife HATES EVE.
Why?
Because I play it and really enjoy it.
Is it just me? Do other married citizens have the same problem?
I have only been playing for a month or so so I am hoping it's just a phase.
Have you gotten divorced over EVE?
:)
Nah .. My wife knew I was a gamer geek before we got married. She spends time doing her thing and I spend time doing mine. So long as we still make time for each other and the important stuff is getting done, it doesn't really matter.
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PastaGuy
Caldari
State War Academy
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Posted - 2010.08.13 19:25:00 -
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Moderation is the key to happiness. I've been playing MMO's for a very long time, so it was part of the package when my wife met me. Just never go overboard with your playtime, and make sure all your responsibilities are handled before you sit down to play. Make sure you spend as much time with her, and go out on dates and all that fun stuff.
Yup, what he said. Additionally some specifics....
- Make sure you clean the house before playing
- Make her food that she enjoys
- Call her on the telephone during the day ( She likes to know you are thinking about her )
- Give her a foot massage at bed time
- Empty the dishwasher in the evening.
- After she is asleep you should get some play for a few hours.
Foreplay can mean many things, but these are the general things that work for me û before playing.
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