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Gudrian Genesis	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:37:00 - [31] My hubby hates EvE. He doesn't want to listen to me talk about the complexity and interaction of the game. He hates my interest in fish and would like nothing better than me getting rid of the 6 different fishtanks I have around the house. His hobby is drinking beer and watching soccer on TV. what I do is I tell him if he has a problem he knows where the door is. We have this conversation regularly.
Halcyon Ingenium Caldari Bene Gesserit ChapterHouse Sanctuary Pact	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:38:00 - [32] Originally by: Astenion My wife's a gamer too but we both have our own lives as well. We respect each other's space and interests and support each other. That's what a marriage is about, not about criticizing someone for a harmless video game. Ditto. Your wife is playing dominance games with you, probably because for some irrational reason she feels the need to dominate you, or because she feels threatened. All in all there is a deeper issue within her mind than the game. If you left EVE and started doing something else, she would likely start hating that just as much I'd wager. By the way, real men biomass when they emoragequit.
Lucy Oreless Raptus-Regaliter PURgE Alliance	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:39:00 - [33] Well... We took out separation a week ago after 8 years together Big part of the problem was that i'm a gamer, she is not. I am not gonna say all women are alike, but it seems to me a lot of girls cant respect what they don't understand. She REALLY could not understand why i played at all.. I tried to tell her that playing a game is no different than watching TV (though it actually is since you interact, but i did not wanna go down that road). She did not buy that either, so in her mind laying on the coach watching "reality shows" is more rewarding than playing EVE where i actually speak with friends and live out my dream. Imagine that.. All the the sound knowledge i could have gotten watching Bachelor, Paradise Hotel or any other "reality"-show ^^ Thank god we have no children, so the divorce will be "easy".
Steve Seninard	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:41:00 - [34] Grow a set of balls FFS.
Katana Kitty Caldari Evil Monkey Asylum	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:43:00 - [35] Originally by: Sindjin Hawke I need to vent. My wife HATES me playing EVE at anytime of any day or night. Am I alone here? WTF!? Housework would be done, QT with family complete, and she could even be asleep in bed... and she still gets ****ed. My God Man! So how do you fellow institutionalized (married) Pilots handle Wife Aggro? Thanks My wife used to give me the same crap. I told her to shove it, we argued then i pointed out that i pay for everything in the house, her car, her fuel, her makeup, bascially her life n said if i want a hobby. Ill do what i damn well please Now i have three accounts n play daily Ofc she now watches every soap on TV
Lfod Shi	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:48:00 - [36] I can't give any advice to those who have already married the controlling types. As soon as I found a non-psycho chick I married her (it took a while to find her). She doesn't play games like I do, but she respects the fact that I enjoy them. I don't understand why she watches Teen Moms, but same thing. That's her call. We sit on the couch together, she watches her garbage and I play mine. It works nice. For those that ain't married. Don't settle for someone who gives you **** for doing the things you enjoy! ...end transmission...
Gwenywell Shumuku	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:51:00 - [37] Edited by: Gwenywell Shumuku on 07/04/2011 12:51:57 The price of marrying a btch i guess... Choosing with whom you spend your life shouldnt be left to your p**s.
Rysdan Phar	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:54:00 - [38] Originally by: Barakkus Does she have sex with you more than once a week? If so I'll trade you mine. Mine would rather I play video games than chase her around the house all the time :P maybe you are rubbish in bed or have not got enough girth to satisfy her needs you could just trade her in for a younger more energetic model
Prince Spiderman	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:56:00 - [39] Edited by: Prince Spiderman on 07/04/2011 12:57:25 That's typical women behaviour. Most women dream about Mr. Romantic and they want to have control while men want to be together with a great woman but they want to enjoy their selfish ego-life. If it's not EVE it's weekend sports, your car, motorbike or another woman-incompatible hobby. They are never happy. And if you do the mistake and downgrade yourself to a compliant pet THEN you get boring and they will replace you with Mr. Ashole and the best sex in life ever. For a couple of weeks or months. Period! The general issue is that men and women have total different interests. There are exceptions ofc. A former gf of mine was pssed off all the time because I was at my computer all the time doing and learning 3d animation - what is my profession today - and I tell you: she still is juggling around with her crap waitress jobs while I got into the profession I was dreaming about. Finally she had a big issue with the fact that I am not reading books - what is super-important for your life. Well, I even did not read the frakking manuals and evolved to a very good 3d animation artist. I also had not to read books to get knowledge about how to rule a corp, how to lead people, HOW TO deal with life. Finally: without books but due to Internet I have surprisingly a strong general knowledge. So: GTFO! She left me after a 4 hours phone call because a friend of mine living in London had time to visit me in Germany and she just said: "YOU ARE A SELFISH ASHOLE. YOU NEVER HAVE TIME FOR ME!" What was wrong, because girls like her want to have you around 24/7 but you have to be successful in your job earning money ofc in another parallel universe. What ***ed my off after this phone call was: A) I did not quit the relationship B) I smashed my Jeans at the floor in rage after this bull-call and the belt-buckle of my favorite belt broke into piece. THAT was a reason to whine. OK, today I am married with a great woman with a lot of patience and love. We have love and fights. That's perfect. She hates EVE because it takes the time she wants to spend with me but she let me play the game. We have some strong disputes time by time and honestly: I can understand so I try to change. It's not easy when you are addicted to a frakking second space life. But her major concern is that this game is unhealthy for me when she knows that I went to bed at 3:30AM again. After playing for a couple of years the problem seem to solve itself because the results of sleep-deprivation start to suck and the awareness that RL and family must be first or you will be frakked is a logical conclusion. Another problem is that I have no separate EVE room. So I can't TS/Vent while she's watching TV. She "hates" it when I talk loud in strange language to the other nerds.
GizzyBoy	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:57:00 - [40] Strangely a friend of mine couldn't get any where near his ps3 becuase his gf and her mother would gang up on him so they could play it, some chicks play compu games, not many, but some!
Tasha Baxter Amarr Imperial Shipment	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:58:00 - [41] This thread has been a great insight. My fiance plays EVE with me, aswell as a a few other games like CS:S etc. It's so much better to be able to do that, and not have to conform to the norm by watching crappy TV shows. I see the value in that much more now. ...And to everyone having issues with their GF/Fiance/Spouse etc, good luck to you and I hope you work it out/find someone more chill.
Lenore Leelu	Posted - 2011.04.07 12:59:00 - [42] Originally by: Sindjin Hawke Oh yeah... Our sex life is great. But heck, I'm to the point where I'd rather rub one out and be able to play EVE, lol!! My wife says "you're a catch!"
enterprisePSI Unimatrix 0.1	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:01:00 - [43] Ensure your alpha male ness ish, Break something displaying extreme rage. Example: WIFE: WTF still on eve YOU: WTF ARGH "grab computer and destroy it with your bare hands." OR: You could play fewer hours. She can't be mad because you play like 2 hours per day. My wife is ok with it, she even asks "hows the market today" and stuff. But she likes video games , so she understands. The Pod Log. \|\|\| I MADE TWEET Y U NO FOLLOW!?
De'Veldrin Minmatar Self Preservation Society the 2nd	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:01:00 - [44] Speaking as a woman, wife, and mother of three... GET THE WOMAN A HOBBY SO SHE'LL LEAVE YOU THE ** ALONE! Seriously, my husband and I have a decent balance between my/his time and our time - any successful relationship (married or not) needs that. I'm not spending all my time curled up in his lap like some damned pet - I have my own stuff I like to do none of which involves standing around in the kitchen waiting for him to need a new beer. Get used to the idea that I'm not focused on you 24/365 or pack your and move back home with your mom. --Vel Originally by:** Blacksquirrel This is EVE. PVE can happen anywhere at anytime. Be prepared.
Bodrul Caldari The Illuminatii Dirt Nap Squad.	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:03:00 - [45] be lucky your not in south Korea, she may end up hacking and bio massing your players :P ............ "you dont need a reason or a three piece suit to argue the truth" Game Reviews
Narisa Bithon Caldari	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:05:00 - [46] OP get your wife a trial account and let HER do the character creation (girlies like doing the whole dress them up thingy)...... tell her you want her to see why you like playing eve online... help her make freinds online through your corp or alliance... then pod her to get that fear of death out of the way... show her that ye can do stuff together and she has no need to feel threathened. or you could tell her its either eve online or your off to the pub everynight... see which option she chooses
ivar R'dhak Minmatar	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:09:00 - [47] Edited by: ivar R''dhak on 07/04/2011 13:09:51 Wifey / GF (or both ) hating on your games is not the problem but the symptom. The source usually is that you boys have become doormats and are too afraid to stand up for yourselves, thus fail all her sh!t-test. Here¦s a good blog with some excellent pointers. ______________ Mal-¦Appears we got here just in a nick of time. What does that make us?¦ Zoe-`Big damn heroes, sir.` Mal-¦Aint we just.¦
J Kunjeh Gallente	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:16:00 - [48] I can only imagine how impossible it must be to enjoy Eve when you have a partner who hates it. Talk about constant battles. As for me, I was lucky enough to find the perfect woman for me. We're very in synch with damn near everything in life. We enjoy the same music, the same hobbies, see life similarly, etc. We play Eve together regularly and she's as geeked out about it as I am (well, almost!). We're also reading Tony G's book together right now (we read together often, all sorts of books). "Opposites attract, until they repel" is my relationship motto. Go find yourself someone who loves who you are and enjoys all the things in life that you do. That's the true highway to relationship happiness! ~Gnosis~
Lfod Shi	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:18:00 - [49] Originally by: ivar R'dhak Edited by: ivar R''dhak on 07/04/2011 13:09:51 ...snip... The source usually is that you boys have become doormats and are too afraid to stand up for yourselves, thus fail all her sh!t-test. ...snip... There's a lot of truth to that! Ya gotsta stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to just walk away and find someone better.
Marija Vanszar Caldari State War Academy	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:23:00 - [50] Edited by: Marija Vanszar on 07/04/2011 13:25:26 I've told mine, You can choose, either gimme 2 - 3 hours a day for my hobby, my only hobby, or moan around and i'll find myself some other hobby where i have to deal with other woman. 2 Minutes WTF EMO RAGE and the, "OK, 3 hours a day, but no ****ing around" Just make your point clear, if she really does not wants to understand it, get rid of her. I got rid of her later on but doesn't matters Any female EVE-Gamers from vienna around?
Edward Monton	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:30:00 - [51] Give up EVE for a month or two. Spend every evening at the bar watching 'the game' or tucking the kids' college fund into thongs one dollar at a time. After a couple months, she'll beg you to start playing EVE again.
Gudrian Genesis	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:31:00 - [52] It bothers me a bit this "typical woman". I am not a typical woman I know that, my daughter plays too, she is not the typical woman. but is the typical woman constantly having her hair and nails done, watching reality shows and brainless soaps? Wanting you to give her constant attention and having her as your only interest? that is not a typical woman. that is a bimbo and you chose her all by yourself.
HeIIfire11	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:32:00 - [53] Why not try to involve her in what it is your doing?Maybe she just wants to spend time with you instead of living life alone. On the other hand you should be able to enjoy your hobby.It becomes a problem when you play too much.Then she starts to resent the game or the pc all together and will get mad when you even play for a short time. I like to look at things simple.Either talk it out with her or choose whats more important to you. I'm glad I don't have these problems lol.
Jon Marks	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:33:00 - [54] Luckily for me my wife plays EVE so I don't have this problem. My first wife though wasn't happy unless I was doing what she wanted me to do. I did whatever I wanted anyways and that is why she is my x-wife. Seriously if she can't even allow you time for a hobby when you're being a responsible adult when you're not playing with internet space ships then she is the one with the problem not you.
Prince Spiderman	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:45:00 - [55] Edited by: Prince Spiderman on 07/04/2011 13:51:35 Originally by: Gudrian Genesis It bothers me a bit this "typical woman". I am not a typical woman I know that, my daughter plays too, she is not the typical woman. but is the typical woman constantly having her hair and nails done, watching reality shows and brainless soaps? Wanting you to give her constant attention and having her as your only interest? that is not a typical woman. that is a bimbo and you chose her all by yourself. As I said there are exceptions. What I mean with "typical women" and also "typical men" are common behavior patterns you find all the time and some of them makes it really hard for men and women to life together. That's one point why we have this "100 reasons why it's great to be a guy" and when you read it you just think: so true. "Typical woman" can mean negative and positive things. Like beeing organized in a family with kids. Most men I know are specialized on their profession but they can't deal with simple homework, family management or just simply clothing their kids in 5 minutes because they have no clue what kind of clothes the kids have and where they'll find it. If you tell other mothers about the typical men-crap at home they will answer: "Men are all equal!" And it's still a problem that men believe that they have the harder job because of their PAID profession while the mother's are the real manager behind their career. Since my kids are in the kindergarten I have met so many families where some guys have high management positions in bigger corps and at home they badly fail. It's hilarious and appeasing.
Damiez Amarr Ascendancy. Atlas.	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:51:00 - [56] My wife hated it soooooooooo much that I eventually put eve on the back burner. Instead of spendig 15 euro a month on a game, I spent the same amount of time in bars and bookies and spent 400 euro in the first week and was hardly ever at home. Guess who's back on Eve.... ________________ Recruitment Open
Astenion Spiritus Draconis	Posted - 2011.04.07 13:59:00 - [57] Originally by: Gudrian Genesis It bothers me a bit this "typical woman". I am not a typical woman I know that, my daughter plays too, she is not the typical woman. but is the typical woman constantly having her hair and nails done, watching reality shows and brainless soaps? Wanting you to give her constant attention and having her as your only interest? that is not a typical woman. that is a bimbo and you chose her all by yourself. There are exceptions, of course, but the majority of women these days (especially American women) are so insecure and attention wh*res that they constantly need someone to stroke their ego and constantly need to be in the spotlight. They also have this problem with thinking they can change men when they can't. If he was a big gamer when you were dating, he's gonna be a big gamer for the rest of his life. If it's not gaming, it's sports. If it's not sports, it's music. If it's not music, it's tinkering on a car or other mechanical things. The biggest problem we have with it is it's DISRESPECTFUL. It's not the fact they're annoyed at us playing games, it's the fact that it's something we love to do and they are putting guilt trips on men and manipulating them in order to get what they want. It's pure selfishness and extremely childish. If you're doing something you love and it's not hurting anyone else and you're not neglecting your obligations, there's no problem. The fact they see it as a problem is the problem in itself. They are, in effect, keeping you from being happy. NO ONE is worth sacrificing your happiness. NO ONE. However, having fun does not equal happiness. Happiness comes from peace of mind and satisfaction with your life, and if someone is regularly keeping you from living a happy, healthy, satisfied life, you need to cut that person out of your life.
WisdomPanda Gallente Oberon Incorporated Morsus Mihi	Posted - 2011.04.07 14:01:00 - [58] Originally by: Gudrian Genesis My hubby hates EvE. He doesn't want to listen to me talk about the complexity and interaction of the game. He hates my interest in fish and would like nothing better than me getting rid of the 6 different fishtanks I have around the house. His hobby is drinking beer and watching soccer on TV. what I do is I tell him if he has a problem he knows where the door is. We have this conversation regularly. I've often wondered how the UK keeps it's birth rates up in places like Liverpool, let alone it's marriage rates. Finding a woman that likes soccer is like trying to find an female eve player; they're out there, but they're not enough to sustain a population. (I am not implying you are from the UK and/or Liverpool, your comments simply made me ponder.) I would of fed him to your fish by now. Hate soccer on TV, so very, very much. Think of all the awesome world movies they could be showing on SBS instead... ----- Cheesecake, Natures ultimate weapon.
Sindjin Hawke RaVeN Alliance	Posted - 2011.04.07 14:03:00 - [59] Wow, Thank you all for the advice and insight. I feel better knowing I am not a lone in this. Let me clarify a few things: #1 is that I am very active in our home life; cooking almost every dinner, picking up kids almost every day,etc... My wife is a nurse and works weird hours. Her and I also hang out with friends once or twice a month along with doing stuff with our kids. In the bedroom, I am a romantic regardless of my "rub one out" comment... I give her erotic messages etc... I honestly feel it's her own insecurity. For some reason she thinks that marriage means you are joined at the hip. Hecl, I bet she would even want his and her toilets so we could poop together... "ready honey? 1-2-3 PUSH!" I have tried getting her involved in games (Eve included) but she's not all that interested. I tried getting her into books and even Crochet... she just can't seem to keep interest in anything but keeping me attached to her hip. UUUUGH!
Astenion Spiritus Draconis	Posted - 2011.04.07 14:22:00 - [60] Originally by: Sindjin Hawke Wow, Thank you all for the advice and insight. I feel better knowing I am not a lone in this. Let me clarify a few things: #1 is that I am very active in our home life; cooking almost every dinner, picking up kids almost every day,etc... My wife is a nurse and works weird hours. Her and I also hang out with friends once or twice a month along with doing stuff with our kids. In the bedroom, I am a romantic regardless of my "rub one out" comment... I give her erotic messages etc... I honestly feel it's her own insecurity. For some reason she thinks that marriage means you are joined at the hip. Hecl, I bet she would even want his and her toilets so we could poop together... "ready honey? 1-2-3 PUSH!" I have tried getting her involved in games (Eve included) but she's not all that interested. I tried getting her into books and even Crochet... she just can't seem to keep interest in anything but keeping me attached to her hip. UUUUGH! It's boredom and jealousy. It sounds like you two have a very healthy relationship, and this doesn't sound like such a big problem. Nurses are very work-oriented and have very demanding jobs (my mom was an RN), so I know what kind of people they are. She probably wants to spend as much time with you as possible because she loves you and doesn't get to see you as much as she wants due to her work schedule. Try to be understanding to that. On the flip side, SHE NEEDS TO FIND SOMETHING TO DO ALL BY HERSELF...THIS IS OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE. Find something that she really, really likes to do and is something she wouldn't mind doing alone. Right now she feels a little jealous and bored because all she has to look forward to is work and kids and that gets old after a while. She needs to find something that will keep her interest for a long time, something that is more than just a hobby. Invest whatever money you need to invest in it (within reason) because this is for her emotional happiness. What does she love to do? What is something she has always wanted to do? If you approach it with this type of attitude, that money is not an object, she will love you for that and will jump at the chance to find something new. Women go shopping because they're bored and they break our balls because they're bored and they watch tv because they're bored. Don't throw things at her like "find some new friends" or "start going to a gym" or crap like that; that sounds forced and would make her feel like you were throwing a bone to a dog to chase after in order to leave you alone. Find out something that she loves to do more than anything else and that will allow her to escape normal, boring, everyday life. Got any ideas?

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