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Kalahari Wayrest
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Posted - 2006.01.04 13:43:00 -
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Truth is, woman need men, whatever they say
...unless they're l.e.s.b.i.a.n.s (oh come off it, why is that a naughty word) or have excellent sex toys.
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High Sierra
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Posted - 2006.01.04 13:49:00 -
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Having lived with a complete psycho (and no thats not my 'other' personality kids) my only advice to you can be: get the hell out whichever way you can.
My particular nutjob played a lot of mindgames with me and the relationship ended with her telling me I was going to dump her for three months until I'd had enough and finally said 'ok, if thats what you think then lets end it' At which point she screamed blue murder at me and threatened suicide.
My entire response was 'Theres the door. Get out.'
You have to be hard. If she is harming herself then she needs help. Right Now. And you are not the person to help her - Dont even try because you are emotionally involved so you will only dig yourself deeper.
You must look after number one - yourself. If she threatens you, dont react to it. dont give in. But dont call her bluff.
You must be strong. Do not allow her to dictate to you. And dont play her 'game'.
Think of it like this, was the fact that she self harms your problem before you got together? So why should it be now? Its her problem, let her deal with it.
Do not feel guilty. Cos that will be one of her games - to send you on a guilt trip so you do what she wants.
Now what I am saying is pretty harsh, but trust me. I've been there and done it. I came out of my relationship with deeply damaged emotions and it was quite some time before I plucked up the courage to get into another relationship.
Dig deep and do what esturary said - dump her and stay well away.
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DJ Xyliana
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Posted - 2006.01.04 14:02:00 -
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Aye there is a time and place for women and its called "late 30's". That may sound abit mean but hey there is no way a relationship it causing a blockage in the me me me mode at the moment < blushes >.
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High Sierra
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Posted - 2006.01.04 14:11:00 -
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Xyliana.....
are you drunk? cos no matter which way I read that I just cant work it out!
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d'hofren
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Posted - 2006.01.04 14:39:00 -
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High Sierra is right on this.
It is easy to get sucked into a relationship with a self harmer. It is very difficult to get back out again. It sounds like she is already using the threat of self harm to manipulate you. It is already becoming becoming an abusive realtionship.
I don't mean to sound callous but she needs professional help from people who are distant enough to offer objective counselling.
You have to put yourself first sometimes. Explain that you will not be held to ransom and then explain that you are really scared by the idea of her hurting herself and what it will do to your relationship.
If she can't appreciate your veiw point she isn't emotionally ready to enter into a relationship. You can't look after every waif and stray that crosses your path.
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Sakira LeCastantas
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:14:00 -
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Edited by: Sakira LeCastantas on 04/01/2006 15:14:47
Originally by: Kalahari Wayrest
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Truth is, woman need men, whatever they say
...unless they're l.e.s.b.i.a.n.s (oh come off it, why is that a naughty word) or have excellent sex toys.
l*sbians are cool 
g*ys too really, I couldn't care less 
But I ment the 'average' woman and men 
edit: censor 
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nahtoh
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:30:00 -
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Originally by: Layrex
i'm just scared i dont know what to do. she cuts herself. and im afraid what shell do if i just screw her over. and she just wants sex constantly and we've only known each other for a week!
ive never been in a position like this im used to such nice normal girls.
i'm hardly a tough kinda guy im usually like the girl in a relationship.
Run for the hills, don't think you can be the one to "save her" or her actions if you leave are gonna be "your fault".
Just leg it, change name, address, phone number if you have to but LEAVE NOW.
Been here done that increased my hat size due to mental scaring...
"I am not saying there should be capital punishment for stupidity, but
why can`t we just take the safety labels off everything and let the
problem solve itself" (credits to mcallister TCS)
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skullzer
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:34:00 -
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Get the hell out dude, she will drag you down. There is no saying where it could lead. A women scorned is bad enough, a nutty women scorned - /shiver I dread to think.
  
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Thomus
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:43:00 -
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women 4tw (my gf is sat next to me)
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Sakira LeCastantas
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:50:00 -
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Originally by: Thomus
women 4tw (my gf is sat next to me)
Lol, if you can't say what you want or feel free to express your feelings and opinions when your other half is around then its not good lol. Not saying it never happens or is not needed to do so though 
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maxsuicide1
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Posted - 2006.01.04 15:52:00 -
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Edited by: maxsuicide1 on 04/01/2006 15:54:21
Originally by: Trey Azagthoth
Turn ***! (No Im not ***  )
lies trey..lies.
back to the advice, help her through her problems, and dont leave sharp objects aroudn the house, and damn just give her the sex!
oh and make sure u dont give her ur credit card details etc etc...normal girls are bad enough, let alone one with some issues.
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Tony Fats
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Posted - 2006.01.04 16:30:00 -
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I know how it is when you young guys get your first scent of a woman and go nuts.
3 rules to live by :
1) If she start giving you drama, walk.
2) If she ask for access to your money or bank account, walk.
3) If she pressure you to marry her, walk.
The deal is love in exchange for love, not money.
You give her real love and affection, and she should do the same for you.
If you decide to be with her long-term, get a pre-nup, and make sure she works. Like at a job, not "work" at home doing nothing.
If you're a high paid person makin half a mil a year, and she happens to be a checkout girl at the local supermarket making 5 bucks an hour, know up front that you are going to be carrying her for the rest of your life. She's gonna be living a standard of living that she would never be able to afford otherwise, and she is going to take it for granted, you're gonna be working in the salt mines bringing home the bacon, and she's gonna be on yahoo chat flirting with other men, and talking schit about you with the women's conclave.
The conversation goes something like this :
Woman1 : Tom came home after work yesterday and he didn't even complement my hair.
Woman2 : Why, that beast, you should leave him.
Woman1: Well if he keeps it up, I will, and he won't see his children.
Woman2: You should do it, he needs to appreciate all the things you do for him.
Woman2: By the way, what you having for dinner?
Woman1: Oh I ordered a pizza, who has energy to cook.
This is what married women sound like with each other, a high standard of living is something they simply take for granted, they think money just falls out of the sky to provide a cushion for their fat a$$.
A simple solution is not to get married, and keep your finances seperate.
If you want to live with a checkout cashier from Walmart, she can work full time, you can pay all the house bills, and if she wants to buy shoes or clothes, she can buy them with her own money, this way she will actually understand the value of money, and what it takes to acquire it, instead of just taking your income for granted.
If you happen to fall in love with a high paid executive woman, that's even better, as you will both be contributing to a shared high standard of living.
The only thing you need to watch out for is unemployed women who want to get married, because in the event of divorce she has no means of supporting herself, she will become a weight around your neck for the rest of your life.
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HippoKing
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Posted - 2006.01.04 16:35:00 -
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Originally by: DJ Xyliana
Aye there is a time and place for women and its called "late 30's". That may sound abit mean but hey there is no way a relationship it causing a blockage in the me me me mode at the moment < blushes >.
i don't get it
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Bhaal
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Posted - 2006.01.04 16:37:00 -
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Originally by: Tony Fats
I know how it is when you young guys get your first scent of a woman and go nuts.
3 rules to live by :
1) If she start giving you drama, walk.
2) If she ask for access to your money or bank account, walk.
3) If she pressure you to marry her, walk.
The deal is love in exchange for love, not money.
You give her real love and affection, and she should do the same for you.
If you decide to be with her long-term, get a pre-nup, and make sure she works. Like at a job, not "work" at home doing nothing.
If you're a high paid person makin half a mil a year, and she happens to be a checkout girl at the local supermarket making 5 bucks an hour, know up front that you are going to be carrying her for the rest of your life. She's gonna be living a standard of living that she would never be able to afford otherwise, and she is going to take it for granted, you're gonna be working in the salt mines bringing home the bacon, and she's gonna be on yahoo chat flirting with other men, and talking schit about you with the women's conclave.
The conversation goes something like this :
Woman1 : Tom came home after work yesterday and he didn't even complement my hair.
Woman2 : Why, that beast, you should leave him.
Woman1: Well if he keeps it up, I will, and he won't see his children.
Woman2: You should do it, he needs to appreciate all the things you do for him.
Woman2: By the way, what you having for dinner?
Woman1: Oh I ordered a pizza, who has energy to cook.
This is what married women sound like with each other, a high standard of living is something they simply take for granted, they think money just falls out of the sky to provide a cushion for their fat a$$.
A simple solution is not to get married, and keep your finances seperate.
If you want to live with a checkout cashier from Walmart, she can work full time, you can pay all the house bills, and if she wants to buy shoes or clothes, she can buy them with her own money, this way she will actually understand the value of money, and what it takes to acquire it, instead of just taking your income for granted.
If you happen to fall in love with a high paid executive woman, that's even better, as you will both be contributing to a shared high standard of living.
The only thing you need to watch out for is unemployed women who want to get married, because in the event of divorce she has no means of supporting herself, she will become a weight around your neck for the rest of your life.
Very good advice!
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CelticKnight
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Posted - 2006.01.04 16:41:00 -
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*pats the OP* poor B*gr i know the feeling matey... :) its that time of the year for shattered relationships and where the females give the blokes a hard time....
Breakup myself only 2 weeks ago  right on Xmas at that 
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Khyleb
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Posted - 2006.01.04 16:59:00 -
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So, how was she surviving before you came along? Don't think you can save her...being the "hero" always ends up in tragedy. Move on. Take it from a former "hero."
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pshepherd
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Posted - 2006.01.04 17:24:00 -
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Originally by: HippoKing
Originally by: DJ Xyliana
Aye there is a time and place for women and its called "late 30's". That may sound abit mean but hey there is no way a relationship it causing a blockage in the me me me mode at the moment < blushes >.
i don't get it
how did women act in the 30's?
seriously, how can you not understand that?
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High Sierra
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Posted - 2006.01.04 17:50:00 -
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pshepherd, probably because I'm male.
I learned years ago that I will never NEVER understand women.
High Sierra's Theory on Women:
She decides that she wants me to do something.
Instead of just asking or telling me, she tries to drop the subtlest of subtle hints.
Me being male, I totally miss the hint because these things just don't appear on my radar.
SO
She gets annoyed with me because I havent done what she wanted me to do and she does it herself.
So to make amends, I do something else that I think she wants doing, and besides the first thing is already done so I cant do that anyway.
She sees what I've done to make amends.
Gets even more upset because thats not what she wanted me to do and I never did the thing she wanted me to do in the first place anyway.
Cue: Sulking on the sofa cuddling the worlds biggest cushion (probably with tassles) surrounded by chocolate wrappers and empty wine botles. Watching some naff romantic film on TV while on the phone to ALL her friends (how is it women have so many when they are upset.... why do they have to call them?), running up a phone bill that makes 3rd world debt seem mere pocket change in comparison. This however is offset by the fact that theres no need for the lights and heating because theres enough candles in the living room to power the national grid.
and in some way its ALL MY FAULT.
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Saeris Tal'Urduar
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Posted - 2006.01.04 18:05:00 -
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Edited by: Saeris Tal''Urduar on 04/01/2006 18:07:18
Originally by: Layrex
i'm just scared i dont know what to do. she cuts herself. and im afraid what shell do if i just screw her over. and she just wants sex constantly and we've only known each other for a week!
ive never been in a position like this im used to such nice normal girls.
i'm hardly a tough kinda guy im usually like the girl in a relationship.
I'll tell you right now, because I was with a "cutter". It will get worse...way worse.
For me it got so bad I had to take her razors away and hold her down while I called the paramedics. She finally got better (with help), and I got MY life back.
Someone said stick with her and help her thru it...and thats about the woest advice I've ever heard.
Its an addiction, like drugs or alcohol, and she will only stop when she decides to.
If shes as bad as you make it sound, the best thing you can do is try and convince her to get help.
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Verone
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Posted - 2006.01.04 18:44:00 -
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I read this somewhere once :
2006.01.04 02:32:00 (Relationship) Girlfriend Strikes you perfectly, Wrecking your life.
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nahtoh
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Posted - 2006.01.04 19:00:00 -
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Originally by: Verone
I read this somewhere once :
2006.01.04 02:32:00 (Relationship) Girlfriend Strikes you perfectly, Wrecking your life.
credit, ego, sense of selfworth and all your freinds good opinion of you...
"I am not saying there should be capital punishment for stupidity, but
why can`t we just take the safety labels off everything and let the
problem solve itself" (credits to mcallister TCS)
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Mercurye
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Posted - 2006.01.04 20:34:00 -
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Originally by: High Sierra
pshepherd, probably because I'm male.
I learned years ago that I will never NEVER understand women.
High Sierra's Theory on Women:
She decides that she wants me to do something.
Instead of just asking or telling me, she tries to drop the subtlest of subtle hints.
Me being male, I totally miss the hint because these things just don't appear on my radar.
SO
She gets annoyed with me because I havent done what she wanted me to do and she does it herself.
So to make amends, I do something else that I think she wants doing, and besides the first thing is already done so I cant do that anyway.
She sees what I've done to make amends.
Gets even more upset because thats not what she wanted me to do and I never did the thing she wanted me to do in the first place anyway.
Cue: Sulking on the sofa cuddling the worlds biggest cushion (probably with tassles) surrounded by chocolate wrappers and empty wine botles. Watching some naff romantic film on TV while on the phone to ALL her friends (how is it women have so many when they are upset.... why do they have to call them?), running up a phone bill that makes 3rd world debt seem mere pocket change in comparison. This however is offset by the fact that theres no need for the lights and heating because theres enough candles in the living room to power the national grid.
and in some way its ALL MY FAULT.
What a sad story..tissues
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DJ Xyliana
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Posted - 2006.01.04 20:50:00 -
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Edited by: DJ Xyliana on 04/01/2006 20:52:10
Originally by: High Sierra
Xyliana.....
are you drunk? cos no matter which way I read that I just cant work it out!
opps < smacks hand > Yes I should really turn off my pc if I am going to go out.. I meant, there is nothing wrong with reserving your 20's and 30's for yourself.. Relationships are time consuming and cause wrinkles
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High Sierra
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Posted - 2006.01.04 21:05:00 -
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ah... understanding.
oh and mercury, thats just a theory.
but you know I'm right about the cushion, chocolate and everything.
but then god only invented women cos he couldnt teach sheep to get the beer from the fridge........
*ducks*
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Metternich Stele
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Posted - 2006.01.04 21:47:00 -
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Originally by: DJ Xyliana
Edited by: DJ Xyliana on 04/01/2006 20:52:10
Originally by: High Sierra
Xyliana.....
are you drunk? cos no matter which way I read that I just cant work it out!
opps < smacks hand > Yes I should really turn off my pc if I am going to go out.. I meant, there is nothing wrong with reserving your 20's and 30's for yourself.. Relationships are time consuming and cause wrinkles
Tick tock goes the clock....
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Metternich Stele
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Posted - 2006.01.04 21:54:00 -
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Originally by: High Sierra
ah... understanding.
oh and mercury, thats just a theory.
but you know I'm right about the cushion, chocolate and everything.
but then god only invented women cos he couldnt teach sheep to get the beer from the fridge........
*ducks*
Common they have more uses than that, some of them are quite good at ironing and we all know how much they love cleaning.
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Dalieus Dakarn
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Posted - 2006.01.04 22:14:00 -
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Originally by: Metternich Stele
Originally by: High Sierra
ah... understanding.
oh and mercury, thats just a theory.
but you know I'm right about the cushion, chocolate and everything.
but then god only invented women cos he couldnt teach sheep to get the beer from the fridge........
*ducks*
Common they have more uses than that, some of them are quite good at ironing and we all know how much they love cleaning.
I'll play along.  Most women wouldn't be opposed to doing the ironing and the cleaning, as long as her husband/bf/whatever did the dishes and took out the trash.
As for the guy with the cutter...
I wouldn't cut and run, but I wouldn't stay with her. I'd make her sit down, stand back, and let her know how I feel about her situation. If she doesn't think she has a problem, leave. If she decides to get help, stay with her to help her through it if that's what you want to do.
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TauTut
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Posted - 2006.01.04 22:17:00 -
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Women .. *sigh*
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Halo Serenity
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Posted - 2006.01.04 22:19:00 -
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I hate cleaning, but ironing is ok long as I get to play my music
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Dalieus Dakarn
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Posted - 2006.01.04 22:32:00 -
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Originally by: Halo Serenity
I hate cleaning, but ironing is ok long as I get to play my music
So you wouldn't have a problem doing my ironing? Because.. typical male, I suck at it! hehe
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