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Crumplecorn
Gallente
Eve Cluster Explorations
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Posted - 2007.02.14 03:04:00 -
[31]
Dates are an arbitrary social construct, which seem to be more trouble than they are worth.
I got to know my gf through skipping lots of college to play absurd amounts of tekken.
Somewhere in there we went from friends to something more.
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Zezman
Murder of Crows
E N I G M A
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Posted - 2007.02.14 07:33:00 -
[32]
Edited by: Zezman on 14/02/2007 07:30:21
Everyone here is giving advice on where to go and what to do etc...
My advice is more to the core: DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES BE A WUSSY
I'll clarify. It doesn't matter what you do with her. As long as you set the pace for the encounter, and you do not try to bend over backwards to please her.
Remember, she WILL be testing you, for that wussy factor. All women do. Since you accepted the first dance, she figured you were worth checking out further. You are not in the clear with her yet. In fact, that never really happens. So don't change your behavior drastically from the day you first met to the day you date.
DONT BE A WUSSY!
If you go to a cafe to pick out a table to sit down at, and she indicates a particular table she wants, tell her no, and direct her to a different table. Be the man, and take control, but in a gentle, guiding way. Under no circumstances be a jerk. Simply be the one who guides and directs the date, and make sure you don't tell her what she wants to hear, instead, turn the situation around and act the aloof one, and make her vie for your affections instead.
Push off those touchy feely hands she might have for you and say, "woa babe, you seem really into me, aren't you?" Make her feel like she's the aggressor (if she does indeed do this).
But do it in a joking yet c=cky way.
Guaranteed, if you come off slightly arrogant, but with good dry humor, or something your funny at, without being a jerk, and controlling, but rather someone that can help guide the date the way you want it to take place, she will be the one asking for that second date.
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Rusgar
The Syndicate Inc
INVICTUS.
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Posted - 2007.02.14 07:50:00 -
[33]
I agree with Zez there for the most part. Cool and confident is the way to go.
I was at a Mardi Gras celebration near my home town last weekend. I had lost my buddies in the crowd and my knee was hurting a bit after some dumb ***** crashed into me chasing beads. So, I was sitting on the corner of a 3 foot curb sippin my rum and watchin people pass by.
A pair of cuties are walking by and one of em eyes me and flashes a smile. I just say, "Hows it goin?" and smile. They come over and start chatting with me. I dont get up or anything cuz Im busy chillin on the curb. After a couple minutes talkin I notice shes been glancing for a spot to sit, but theres not really room unless I scoot over some. I just keep talking with her for about another minute or so, then offer her a seat and moved over.
Thats kinda a RL example of what Zez was saying. I wasnt a wussy by giving her what she wanted (a seat) when she wanted it. She did get a seat, but on my timing. Its all games at first. 
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Malicious Afterthought
Suffoco Noctis
Ethereal Dawn
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Posted - 2007.02.14 08:47:00 -
[34]
Go to a pottery making workshop thing. Where you make pots and stuffs.
If that works out, try out ballroom dancing classes together.
failing that, Monster Trucks and the UFC.
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XrayZ
Tears of Redemption
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Posted - 2007.02.14 10:51:00 -
[35]
getting really really drunk works when u get abit older thou =) can be really fun 
i would suggest talking alittle, find out what u both like to do and do it...
cinema isnt that good option imo, cuz u just sitt there without talking, and the first date is for learning to know eachother mostly (if ur not really atracted to eachother and wanna do it right away  )
anyh0o, and try to make her feel special, just not too much or she might feel intimidated... tell her she has nice eyes, hair, skin or whatever. be charmy and nice to her... and most important; be ur self and be calm by her side... u will have time to get nervous when ur alone
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Tomsudy
Minmatar
BloodThirsters Corp
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Posted - 2007.02.14 11:08:00 -
[36]
 Originally by: XrayZ
getting really really drunk works when u get abit older thou =) can be really fun
i would suggest talking alittle, find out what u both like to do and do it...
cinema isnt that good option imo, cuz u just sitt there without talking, and the first date is for learning to know eachother mostly (if ur not really atracted to eachother and wanna do it right away )
anyh0o, and try to make her feel special, just not too much or she might feel intimidated... tell her she has nice eyes, hair, skin or whatever. be charmy and nice to her... and most important; be ur self and be calm by her side... u will have time to get nervous when ur alone
lol im 16 age dont stop u getting drunk, but be sure to out drink her tho :) Get her drunk enough could be ur lucky night
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Ginger.
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Posted - 2007.02.14 11:12:00 -
[37]
Dude, the first thing you should do is not post on the forums asking for date advice :)
And dude, dont take it so seriously. Just relax and have a good time, and just do something nice that aint going to put you under pressure.
Oh, and dont listen to any advice on these forums, including mine :)
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XrayZ
Tears of Redemption
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Posted - 2007.02.14 11:17:00 -
[38]
Originally by: Tomsudy
Originally by: XrayZ
getting really really drunk works when u get abit older thou =) can be really fun
i would suggest talking alittle, find out what u both like to do and do it...
cinema isnt that good option imo, cuz u just sitt there without talking, and the first date is for learning to know eachother mostly (if ur not really atracted to eachother and wanna do it right away )
anyh0o, and try to make her feel special, just not too much or she might feel intimidated... tell her she has nice eyes, hair, skin or whatever. be charmy and nice to her... and most important; be ur self and be calm by her side... u will have time to get nervous when ur alone
lol im 16 age dont stop u getting drunk, but be sure to out drink her tho :) Get her drunk enough could be ur lucky night
but not good for a first date m8  its ok if ur at a party or whatever, but if ur going to go out with a nice little lady for the first time alone...meh.
if u wanna do it, go ahead... but if ur gonna do it, do it after everything else. just my 2 cents
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XrayZ
Tears of Redemption
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Posted - 2007.02.14 11:19:00 -
[39]
Originally by: Ginger.
Dude, the first thing you should do is not post on the forums asking for date advice :)
And dude, dont take it so seriously. Just relax and have a good time, and just do something nice that aint going to put you under pressure.
Oh, and dont listen to any advice on these forums, including mine :)
this man speaks the truth!
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MrTriggerHappy
Caldari
Interstellar eXodus
R0ADKILL
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Posted - 2007.02.14 11:29:00 -
[40]
Originally by: Ginger.
Dude, the first thing you should do is not post on the forums asking for date advice :)
And dude, dont take it so seriously. Just relax and have a good time, and just do something nice that aint going to put you under pressure.
Oh, and dont listen to any advice on these forums, including mine :)
Yeah so you can ignore him and listen to us heh 
Be confident, be yourself, if you don't there's a chance you'll put your foot in it later down the line!
Dont lie to make yourself appear as something your not, and be upfront if things go well, you might want to tell her about eve, prob best to fish around for info and see what she thinks of "Games" and "People who play online games".
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super canard
Gallente
United System's Commonwealth
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Posted - 2007.02.14 13:01:00 -
[41]
hiya...
allright first of all.. what kind of girl is she?
If she's the kind that plays games... go for the eve showdown ^_^.
If not, the ice skatting is quite nice - but can get boring quickly - movies are ok, but if you plan on talking and get to know each others... movies are def not the best places to go (personally, I want to beat the hell out from whoever talks in a cinema :P ).
17 , at day time ... Wait.. shouldn't you be at SCHOOL the both of you??? *wiggle finger* -
My Advice, don't go anywhere TOO noisy , or packed with people - unless you have troubles bringing up new conversation subjects, then an amusement park is a good idea, nobody chats while they're screaming! ^_^ *rollercoaster FTW!* - It is ALSO great if you want to be just the two of you for a while, the wheel thingies... they're slow... boring as hell... but there's nobody around... and you can just chat :) - can be a kiss opportunity too :P -
There's the good old option of just watching a movie at home :) - might be a bit too intimate for the first date though :P -
Or a mix of everything... start off with a movie, then the ice skatting (talking about the movie etc should get you thru it easily enough), then the amusement park, and then back to your place to watch a movie - :P
p.s: As far as i know, you don't need to impress a girl - be yourself - make her laugh - If you manage this, you're usually on date #2 quickly :)
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Wild Rho
Amarr
Sharks With Frickin' Laser Beams
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Posted - 2007.02.14 13:03:00 -
[42]
What NOT to do...
Come to the Eve o forums asking for dating advice.
I have the body of a supermodel. I just can't remember where I left it.
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Helferin
Gallente
Bookmarkers on weed
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Posted - 2007.02.14 13:21:00 -
[43]
Originally by: Wild Rho
What NOT to do...
Come to the Eve o forums asking for dating advice.
i think it was a good idea 
thx to all the good and great reply's guys and girls!!!
a bounch of nice ideas!! i like ice skating, then cafT the most atm!
/helf
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Helferin
Gallente
Bookmarkers on weed
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Posted - 2007.02.14 13:23:00 -
[44]
Originally by: Ginger.
Dude, the first thing you should do is not post on the forums asking for date advice :)
And dude, dont take it so seriously. Just relax and have a good time, and just do something nice that aint going to put you under pressure.
Oh, and dont listen to any advice on these forums, including mine :)
1st GM i see!!! WEEE!!!
well i like the community, maybe except the "clorphorm" or "alkohol" people but the others have really great ideas! And then i thought OOP would be about this, like dating, parties, getting some other ideas and stuff, correct me if im wrong :)
/helf
... but you could aswell take a banana, a parking place and some random jewellery and put the thing in da mixer! .. |
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Posted - 2007.02.14 21:30:00 -
[45]
Edited by: Scoundrelus''s Alt on 14/02/2007 21:27:16
Take her home with you and show her EVE and introduce her to all your online friends over ventrilo!
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Scoundrelus's Alt
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Posted - 2007.02.14 21:34:00 -
[46]
On a more serious note, most of the people posting are idiots. Just be yourself, if you go to dinner, be a gentleman and pay. The thing is, if you act unlike you're normal self and she is attracted then she is attracted to someone that isn't you. Be yourself so you attract someone who is attracted to YOU not someone you TRY to be.
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FireFoxx80
Caldari
E X O D U S
Imperial Republic Of the North
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Posted - 2007.02.14 22:32:00 -
[47]
Whatever you do, don't talk about onlint gaming. I met my wife through IRC and she still rolls here eyes at online gaming.
Listen to her, pay attention to what she says, but do offer input.
As for what to do, ask what film she wants to see, even if it ****.
Don't try underage drinking unless you are certain you both look old enough. Getting blown out of a pub/club/off licence, never says cool.
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Sir Dancealot
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:01:00 -
[48]
Look at it like this:
Do NOT make it clear to her that you want fx. sex with her - she probably knows that. If you tell her, then you'll come off as a needy wussbag.
I've only skimmed through the topic, but I've noticed someone saying that you should impress her.
Yes.
But do not impress her in the ordinary way many men think works with gifts, bragging about some huge car or your el-presidenta-size-***** or your manboobs which competes with hers (even though that last one actually works - lol) - impress her by being 1000% (lets say thousand) cool.
Beautiful women are used to guys who are either telling them all the time that she is beautiful, you're extremely lucky to be with her - or that you're just drooling over her.
Think a little about it, like if she was one of your female FRIENDS you wouldn't try to get in the pants of (even though the odds of having a female friend like that's somewhat low).
Make your own decisions, tell her what YOU think, dont obey orders - be YOU. Noones interested in hanging around with some little doll-tool whos just nodding all the damn time.
Obviously you can agree perfectly fine, but dont change your standings to stuff just because the wind is blowing in that direction - if you really had to do that then shes just not the right girl for you anyway.
I'd, for example, never be able to couple with a smoker. And I make that perfectly clear to the girl.
Theres so much to say about this topic, and what I've told you is my personal opinions. Obviously theres some girls who like a wuss, but that's no fun for YOU.
Btw, im 16.
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Sweet instigator
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:33:00 -
[49]
Originally by: Zezman
Edited by: Zezman on 14/02/2007 07:30:21
Everyone here is giving advice on where to go and what to do etc...
My advice is more to the core: DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES BE A WUSSY
I'll clarify. It doesn't matter what you do with her. As long as you set the pace for the encounter, and you do not try to bend over backwards to please her.
Remember, she WILL be testing you, for that wussy factor. All women do. Since you accepted the first dance, she figured you were worth checking out further. You are not in the clear with her yet. In fact, that never really happens. So don't change your behavior drastically from the day you first met to the day you date.
DONT BE A WUSSY!
If you go to a cafe to pick out a table to sit down at, and she indicates a particular table she wants, tell her no, and direct her to a different table. Be the man, and take control, but in a gentle, guiding way. Under no circumstances be a jerk. Simply be the one who guides and directs the date, and make sure you don't tell her what she wants to hear, instead, turn the situation around and act the aloof one, and make her vie for your affections instead.
Push off those touchy feely hands she might have for you and say, "woa babe, you seem really into me, aren't you?" Make her feel like she's the aggressor (if she does indeed do this).
But do it in a joking yet c=cky way.
Guaranteed, if you come off slightly arrogant, but with good dry humor, or something your funny at, without being a jerk, and controlling, but rather someone that can help guide the date the way you want it to take place, she will be the one asking for that second date.
Quoted for the truth on advanced dating chapter II !
Not just the wussy factor, that's one of the reasons. But women are like programmed not to accept love given on a plate, they have to go fetch the plate and hope there's love on it. It keeps them hungery (for love) for a man.
They've been created by a man with Ikea manuals imho. The man still wonders where to put the last few screws in.
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Constantine Arcanum
IMPERIAL SENATE
Pure.
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:39:00 -
[50]
Originally by: Helferin
well i like the community, maybe except the "clorphorm" people
get out
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Marcus TheMartin
Gallente
Tuxedo.
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:40:00 -
[51]
Assemble the tool kit you'll need.
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1. A Flower(makes you look sappy)
2. A razor (to shave all of your body hair off (trust me on this one))
3. A hankerchief
4. A Condom
5. A Bottle of Chloroform
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FooB2
Caldari
Northern Intelligence
SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:43:00 -
[52]
i havent read half this thread, but i believe the local rule is this...
Whip it out, and if she runs away it wasnt meant to be.
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Patch86
Di-Tron Heavy Industries
Freelancer Alliance
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:44:00 -
[53]
Originally by: Constantine Arcanum
Originally by: Helferin
well i like the community, maybe except the "clorphorm" people
get out
Sig me, baby 
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Originally by: Constantine Arcanum
most problems can be solved with chloroform.
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Sweet instigator
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Posted - 2007.02.14 23:44:00 -
[54]
Edited by: Sweet instigator on 14/02/2007 23:43:18
Edited by: Sweet instigator on 14/02/2007 23:42:27
Originally by: Sir Dancealot
I'd, for example, never be able to couple with a smoker. And I make that perfectly clear to the girl.
Btw, im 16.
Ready to be ladykillah heh. But ok, what if, she's the girl of your dreams blah blah, all pointing up perfectly. But ah yeh, that one detail, she smokes.... Would you really blow the relationship up, or never start one, talk her out of it?
You gotta be kidding? I bet alot of guys wouldn't..
Originally by: me
Real men use Rohypnol to solve their problems
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Constantine Arcanum
IMPERIAL SENATE
Pure.
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Posted - 2007.02.15 00:25:00 -
[55]
Originally by: Marcus TheMartin
Assemble the tool kit you'll need.
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1. A Flower(makes you look sappy)
2. A razor (to shave all of your body hair off (trust me on this one))
3. A hankerchief
4. A Condom
5. A Bottle of Chloroform
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YES
Only you forgot the rusty coat hanger and the bag of salt.
I give you 6 out of 7 stars.
You win.
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Suze'Rain
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Posted - 2007.02.15 02:25:00 -
[56]
Originally by: Constantine Arcanum
1 word:
chloroform.
well, that made me laugh. and was better than my advice of just saying "nice boots. wanna f***?" 
nah, overall, just be yourself. there's absolutely no point trying to present yourself as someone you're not.
pay attention to her, listen, share in finding who you both are, dont assume anything, and learn to laugh together at any foolish mistakes. learning to communicate works wonders.
and if that fails, then try the chroroform.
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Jonas O'Fall
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Posted - 2007.02.15 03:05:00 -
[57]
Find a copy of David DeAngelo's 'Double Your Dating' e-book. It'll give you some insight into how to deal with such situations.
And be yourself, dont worry about what she thinks.
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Rick Thwaites
A.W.M
Ka-Tet
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Posted - 2007.02.15 03:21:00 -
[58]
Go for her zipper ASAP!
Jokes.
Be natural. Try not to be too cool (don't watch Grease just before the date!), make sure your fly is done up and shoes tied. Then try not to stutter or spill on yourself!
Once that is done, you're set. She is like your buddy, except she probably won't appreciate the bodily noises you can perform - unlike your buddies. And computer game talk doesn't go so well.
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Copine Callmeknau
The Splinter Syndicate
SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.02.15 03:37:00 -
[59]
I'll give ya a hint
Dead girls don't say no
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Michayel Lyon
The Corporation
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Posted - 2007.02.15 09:49:00 -
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If there's one thing I've learned, it is to not play games. Don't try to be someone or something that you aren't, usually it will be very transparent and you will just look like a fool. The only exception to this would be to try to be self-confident - "don't be a wussy!" as someone put it. Other than that, just be yourself.
Oh, and don't go to the cinema on the first date. If you're interested in a serious relationship with this girl, or at least want to keep that option open, you have to TALK to her. Oh, and remember: Talking to a girl is about 90 % listening.
From the examples I've read here so far, I'd say ice-skating is a good option.
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