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Ebil Piwate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 00:57:00 -
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Here is a thread from where they claim to be from which 90% of them aren't.
*I know these people do not use the forums, but I feel better changing all names of those involved.
On Saturday evening, my best friend had a party at her cottage. Her, her boyfriend, her boyfriend's best friend all had their birthdays close to each other and decided to throw a party with their closest friends. I was planning on going, however I had a final I had to prepare for and couldn't make it. I called my best friend the next day to ask her about the party, and she broke down in tears suddenly saying something awful had happened. Her best friend (our mutual friend) got date raped at the party. I literally wanted to throw up and started to cry as well. The thing is, everyone at that party who was a guest was a good and close friend of at least one of the hosts. The other thing that made me feel so sick was that in order to date *****someone, Mark* had to have sought out date *****drugs and brought them with him, which meant he had full intentions of doing this. The other problem is that it could have been anybody.
My best friend, Anne* was drunk and on drugs, as was everyone else at the party. Her boyfriend (and my good friend), Andrew* was on acid and said he had heard Sarah* calling his name but wasn't sure if it was just the acid or if it was really happening. Suddenly, Andrew had a really bad feeling about Sarah and he asked Anne to look for her, since she was in a better state of sobriety. She looked into the bathroom and found her unconscious on the floor, naked and bruised, in a puddle of her own (we assume) vomit. She was obviously distraught, and Mark was lurking around the doorway. They found out it was him when looking through time-stamped photos and seeing when and where he was. He also kept checking on Sarah's ex-boyfriend to make sure he was asleep. As a result, Anne's boyfriend Andrew proceeded to beat up Mark, but stopped when Anne forced him to. They wanted to kick Mark out, but our city had a huge snowstorm on Sunday and they were quite literally snowed in. As well, it'd be a bigger problem if he was kicked out in the middle of nowhere, drunk and on drugs, into 3 feet of snow.
What really upset me was that Sarah refused to go to the hospital. I begged her to go, telling her if she didn't get examined that she would have no evidence and even if she didn't want to prosecute him now, if she ever decided she did want to, she would require that evidence. Myself and Anne eventually convinced her to go, and she got tested and it was confirmed that she was, in fact, raped. The other big concern I have is that Sarah refuses to tell her parents. She has not told them what has happened despite the fact that this is a really horrible thing that she will need help to recover from. I have no idea how to help her, or what to do. She, Anne and Andrew came over on Monday to have dinner and relax, but she barely spoke a word all night and was very withdrawn. She is normally such an energetic and fun person, that seeing her so withdrawn made me want to cry.
She has been talking with the police and given statements and everything that is normally done, but unless she talks to people (especially her parents) I doubt very much she can ever begin to get over this. I want to know what I can do to help her, how I can get her to talk to her parents and get her counselling. She has refused to see anybody for therapy and I find that really upsetting because she will need therapy to heal. I have never in my life experienced *****or a friend getting raped, and I am so distraught over this because it could have been my best friend or any other girl there. My boyfriend was really upset as well, since he doesn't do drugs or drink very often, he said if he had been there maybe he would have noticed and been able to help, since he would have been sober. We all feel really guilty and upset that no one could do anything, that it happened right under everyone's noses and that it was such a good friend who did this. Obviously, he is no longer a friend and we're hoping she will press charges but until she feels ready, I am not sure we can make her.
Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
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Ebil Piwate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 00:57:00 -
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Here is a thread from where they claim to be from which 90% of them aren't.
*I know these people do not use the forums, but I feel better changing all names of those involved.
On Saturday evening, my best friend had a party at her cottage. Her, her boyfriend, her boyfriend's best friend all had their birthdays close to each other and decided to throw a party with their closest friends. I was planning on going, however I had a final I had to prepare for and couldn't make it. I called my best friend the next day to ask her about the party, and she broke down in tears suddenly saying something awful had happened. Her best friend (our mutual friend) got date raped at the party. I literally wanted to throw up and started to cry as well. The thing is, everyone at that party who was a guest was a good and close friend of at least one of the hosts. The other thing that made me feel so sick was that in order to date *****someone, Mark* had to have sought out date *****drugs and brought them with him, which meant he had full intentions of doing this. The other problem is that it could have been anybody.
My best friend, Anne* was drunk and on drugs, as was everyone else at the party. Her boyfriend (and my good friend), Andrew* was on acid and said he had heard Sarah* calling his name but wasn't sure if it was just the acid or if it was really happening. Suddenly, Andrew had a really bad feeling about Sarah and he asked Anne to look for her, since she was in a better state of sobriety. She looked into the bathroom and found her unconscious on the floor, naked and bruised, in a puddle of her own (we assume) vomit. She was obviously distraught, and Mark was lurking around the doorway. They found out it was him when looking through time-stamped photos and seeing when and where he was. He also kept checking on Sarah's ex-boyfriend to make sure he was asleep. As a result, Anne's boyfriend Andrew proceeded to beat up Mark, but stopped when Anne forced him to. They wanted to kick Mark out, but our city had a huge snowstorm on Sunday and they were quite literally snowed in. As well, it'd be a bigger problem if he was kicked out in the middle of nowhere, drunk and on drugs, into 3 feet of snow.
What really upset me was that Sarah refused to go to the hospital. I begged her to go, telling her if she didn't get examined that she would have no evidence and even if she didn't want to prosecute him now, if she ever decided she did want to, she would require that evidence. Myself and Anne eventually convinced her to go, and she got tested and it was confirmed that she was, in fact, raped. The other big concern I have is that Sarah refuses to tell her parents. She has not told them what has happened despite the fact that this is a really horrible thing that she will need help to recover from. I have no idea how to help her, or what to do. She, Anne and Andrew came over on Monday to have dinner and relax, but she barely spoke a word all night and was very withdrawn. She is normally such an energetic and fun person, that seeing her so withdrawn made me want to cry.
She has been talking with the police and given statements and everything that is normally done, but unless she talks to people (especially her parents) I doubt very much she can ever begin to get over this. I want to know what I can do to help her, how I can get her to talk to her parents and get her counselling. She has refused to see anybody for therapy and I find that really upsetting because she will need therapy to heal. I have never in my life experienced *****or a friend getting raped, and I am so distraught over this because it could have been my best friend or any other girl there. My boyfriend was really upset as well, since he doesn't do drugs or drink very often, he said if he had been there maybe he would have noticed and been able to help, since he would have been sober. We all feel really guilty and upset that no one could do anything, that it happened right under everyone's noses and that it was such a good friend who did this. Obviously, he is no longer a friend and we're hoping she will press charges but until she feels ready, I am not sure we can make her.
Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
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Kymlicka
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:01:00 -
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what.
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Kymlicka
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:01:00 -
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what.
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Nick Curso
Black Nova Corp Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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Horrible **** dud but y did u post this on an eve forum?
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Kenion
THE LEGION OF STEEL WARRIORS.... R0ADKILL
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words. ----------------------------------------------
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Nick Curso
Black Nova Corp Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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Horrible **** dud but y did u post this on an eve forum?
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Kenion
THE LEGION OF STEEL WARRIORS.... R0ADKILL
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words. ----------------------------------------------
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Waffle Hammer
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:04:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
around blacks never relax (3?)
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Waffle Hammer
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:04:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
around blacks never relax (3?)
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Sgt Napalm
Destructive Influence Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:05:00 -
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wat
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Sgt Napalm
Destructive Influence Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:05:00 -
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wat
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Kweel Nakashyn
Minmatar Aeden Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:08:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
"read threadtitle please". Let's try this new button :) 2isk
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Kweel Nakashyn
Minmatar Aeden Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:08:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
"read threadtitle please". Let's try this new button :) 2isk
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:14:00 -
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That's Why They Call It Dope......DOPE
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:14:00 -
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That's Why They Call It Dope......DOPE
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NichoTBE
The JORG Corporation Terra Incognita.
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:19:00 -
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oooo***
no ticker
not caod material - even remotly.
Myspace is --->
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TAKEMEOVER
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:19:00 -
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Originally by: Waffle Hammer around blacks never relax (3?)
Can I go ahead and throw in a QFE here?
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Dragon Rose
Obsidian Inc. KIA Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:22:00 -
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Edited by: Dragon Rose on 21/12/2007 01:22:49 sorry Your signature exceeds the maximum allowed filesize of 24000 bytes -Valorem ([email protected]) |
Mama ISK
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:24:00 -
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She needs to send these people to jail, so they don't do this to anyone else. And you need to get better friends, dude, or one day you will go down with them.
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Jude Starlighter
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:25:00 -
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ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:25:00 -
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this is awful thing to happen.i think that first step to help that girl is that she admit the thing that hapend.
this world in which we live is horible and that people that do such awfule thing...i dont know what to say.but she must first admit to her self what hapend to her.
p.s.still i think that this isnt subject for CAOD maybe for out of po expirience.
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:27:00 -
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Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
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Rica Hudon
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:27:00 -
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So, goons are gonna get dateraped because IAC gets everyone else too drunk and stoned to realize it until it's too late?
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Jude Starlighter
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:32:00 -
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Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Hey m8 Weed isnt a drug, thats candy for your soul
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:33:00 -
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Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Many great people in history brewed beer and smoked rope..... Cant we all just get along
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Rechal
Active Measures
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:42:00 -
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Drugs R bad, Mmkay.
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:43:00 -
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Originally by: Jude Starlighter
Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Hey m8 Weed isnt a drug, thats candy for your soul
hey m8 isnt for you and me but it is for police and justice system.so basicly beterto watch on rapers and leave us weed people to help ours soul get well.
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Flinx Evenstar
Minmatar Omniscient Order
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:53:00 -
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Is the OP like one of those logic problems where you have to work out who was where and when.
Or...is the op just a stoner with a bunch of **** head friends.
And...why is this relevant to CAOD.
Quote: Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
When you sober up tomorrow, you will feel a lot better. To help her would involve professional care and maybe getting her sectioned
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Jim Linger
Naughty 40 Triumvirate.
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:54:00 -
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all that typing and its just gonna get owned by isd, gg
i'm not an alt i just post like one |
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