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Ebil Piwate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 00:57:00 -
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Here is a thread from where they claim to be from which 90% of them aren't.
*I know these people do not use the forums, but I feel better changing all names of those involved.
On Saturday evening, my best friend had a party at her cottage. Her, her boyfriend, her boyfriend's best friend all had their birthdays close to each other and decided to throw a party with their closest friends. I was planning on going, however I had a final I had to prepare for and couldn't make it. I called my best friend the next day to ask her about the party, and she broke down in tears suddenly saying something awful had happened. Her best friend (our mutual friend) got date raped at the party. I literally wanted to throw up and started to cry as well. The thing is, everyone at that party who was a guest was a good and close friend of at least one of the hosts. The other thing that made me feel so sick was that in order to date *****someone, Mark* had to have sought out date *****drugs and brought them with him, which meant he had full intentions of doing this. The other problem is that it could have been anybody.
My best friend, Anne* was drunk and on drugs, as was everyone else at the party. Her boyfriend (and my good friend), Andrew* was on acid and said he had heard Sarah* calling his name but wasn't sure if it was just the acid or if it was really happening. Suddenly, Andrew had a really bad feeling about Sarah and he asked Anne to look for her, since she was in a better state of sobriety. She looked into the bathroom and found her unconscious on the floor, naked and bruised, in a puddle of her own (we assume) vomit. She was obviously distraught, and Mark was lurking around the doorway. They found out it was him when looking through time-stamped photos and seeing when and where he was. He also kept checking on Sarah's ex-boyfriend to make sure he was asleep. As a result, Anne's boyfriend Andrew proceeded to beat up Mark, but stopped when Anne forced him to. They wanted to kick Mark out, but our city had a huge snowstorm on Sunday and they were quite literally snowed in. As well, it'd be a bigger problem if he was kicked out in the middle of nowhere, drunk and on drugs, into 3 feet of snow.
What really upset me was that Sarah refused to go to the hospital. I begged her to go, telling her if she didn't get examined that she would have no evidence and even if she didn't want to prosecute him now, if she ever decided she did want to, she would require that evidence. Myself and Anne eventually convinced her to go, and she got tested and it was confirmed that she was, in fact, raped. The other big concern I have is that Sarah refuses to tell her parents. She has not told them what has happened despite the fact that this is a really horrible thing that she will need help to recover from. I have no idea how to help her, or what to do. She, Anne and Andrew came over on Monday to have dinner and relax, but she barely spoke a word all night and was very withdrawn. She is normally such an energetic and fun person, that seeing her so withdrawn made me want to cry.
She has been talking with the police and given statements and everything that is normally done, but unless she talks to people (especially her parents) I doubt very much she can ever begin to get over this. I want to know what I can do to help her, how I can get her to talk to her parents and get her counselling. She has refused to see anybody for therapy and I find that really upsetting because she will need therapy to heal. I have never in my life experienced *****or a friend getting raped, and I am so distraught over this because it could have been my best friend or any other girl there. My boyfriend was really upset as well, since he doesn't do drugs or drink very often, he said if he had been there maybe he would have noticed and been able to help, since he would have been sober. We all feel really guilty and upset that no one could do anything, that it happened right under everyone's noses and that it was such a good friend who did this. Obviously, he is no longer a friend and we're hoping she will press charges but until she feels ready, I am not sure we can make her.
Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
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Ebil Piwate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 00:57:00 -
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Here is a thread from where they claim to be from which 90% of them aren't.
*I know these people do not use the forums, but I feel better changing all names of those involved.
On Saturday evening, my best friend had a party at her cottage. Her, her boyfriend, her boyfriend's best friend all had their birthdays close to each other and decided to throw a party with their closest friends. I was planning on going, however I had a final I had to prepare for and couldn't make it. I called my best friend the next day to ask her about the party, and she broke down in tears suddenly saying something awful had happened. Her best friend (our mutual friend) got date raped at the party. I literally wanted to throw up and started to cry as well. The thing is, everyone at that party who was a guest was a good and close friend of at least one of the hosts. The other thing that made me feel so sick was that in order to date *****someone, Mark* had to have sought out date *****drugs and brought them with him, which meant he had full intentions of doing this. The other problem is that it could have been anybody.
My best friend, Anne* was drunk and on drugs, as was everyone else at the party. Her boyfriend (and my good friend), Andrew* was on acid and said he had heard Sarah* calling his name but wasn't sure if it was just the acid or if it was really happening. Suddenly, Andrew had a really bad feeling about Sarah and he asked Anne to look for her, since she was in a better state of sobriety. She looked into the bathroom and found her unconscious on the floor, naked and bruised, in a puddle of her own (we assume) vomit. She was obviously distraught, and Mark was lurking around the doorway. They found out it was him when looking through time-stamped photos and seeing when and where he was. He also kept checking on Sarah's ex-boyfriend to make sure he was asleep. As a result, Anne's boyfriend Andrew proceeded to beat up Mark, but stopped when Anne forced him to. They wanted to kick Mark out, but our city had a huge snowstorm on Sunday and they were quite literally snowed in. As well, it'd be a bigger problem if he was kicked out in the middle of nowhere, drunk and on drugs, into 3 feet of snow.
What really upset me was that Sarah refused to go to the hospital. I begged her to go, telling her if she didn't get examined that she would have no evidence and even if she didn't want to prosecute him now, if she ever decided she did want to, she would require that evidence. Myself and Anne eventually convinced her to go, and she got tested and it was confirmed that she was, in fact, raped. The other big concern I have is that Sarah refuses to tell her parents. She has not told them what has happened despite the fact that this is a really horrible thing that she will need help to recover from. I have no idea how to help her, or what to do. She, Anne and Andrew came over on Monday to have dinner and relax, but she barely spoke a word all night and was very withdrawn. She is normally such an energetic and fun person, that seeing her so withdrawn made me want to cry.
She has been talking with the police and given statements and everything that is normally done, but unless she talks to people (especially her parents) I doubt very much she can ever begin to get over this. I want to know what I can do to help her, how I can get her to talk to her parents and get her counselling. She has refused to see anybody for therapy and I find that really upsetting because she will need therapy to heal. I have never in my life experienced *****or a friend getting raped, and I am so distraught over this because it could have been my best friend or any other girl there. My boyfriend was really upset as well, since he doesn't do drugs or drink very often, he said if he had been there maybe he would have noticed and been able to help, since he would have been sober. We all feel really guilty and upset that no one could do anything, that it happened right under everyone's noses and that it was such a good friend who did this. Obviously, he is no longer a friend and we're hoping she will press charges but until she feels ready, I am not sure we can make her.
Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
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Kymlicka
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:01:00 -
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what.
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Kymlicka
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:01:00 -
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what.
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Nick Curso
Black Nova Corp Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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Horrible **** dud but y did u post this on an eve forum?
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Kenion
THE LEGION OF STEEL WARRIORS.... R0ADKILL
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words. ----------------------------------------------
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Nick Curso
Black Nova Corp Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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Horrible **** dud but y did u post this on an eve forum?
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Kenion
THE LEGION OF STEEL WARRIORS.... R0ADKILL
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:02:00 -
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I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words. ----------------------------------------------
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Waffle Hammer
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:04:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
around blacks never relax (3?)
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Waffle Hammer
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:04:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
around blacks never relax (3?)
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Sgt Napalm
Destructive Influence Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:05:00 -
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wat
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Sgt Napalm
Destructive Influence Band of Brothers
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:05:00 -
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wat
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Kweel Nakashyn
Minmatar Aeden Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:08:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
"read threadtitle please". Let's try this new button :) 2isk
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Kweel Nakashyn
Minmatar Aeden Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:08:00 -
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Originally by: Kenion I'm not reading that crap! Summarize it in three words.
"read threadtitle please". Let's try this new button :) 2isk
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:14:00 -
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That's Why They Call It Dope......DOPE
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:14:00 -
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That's Why They Call It Dope......DOPE
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NichoTBE
The JORG Corporation Terra Incognita.
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:19:00 -
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oooo***
no ticker
not caod material - even remotly.
Myspace is --->
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TAKEMEOVER
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:19:00 -
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Originally by: Waffle Hammer around blacks never relax (3?)
Can I go ahead and throw in a QFE here?
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Dragon Rose
Obsidian Inc. KIA Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:22:00 -
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Edited by: Dragon Rose on 21/12/2007 01:22:49 sorry Your signature exceeds the maximum allowed filesize of 24000 bytes -Valorem ([email protected]) |
Mama ISK
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:24:00 -
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She needs to send these people to jail, so they don't do this to anyone else. And you need to get better friends, dude, or one day you will go down with them.
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Jude Starlighter
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:25:00 -
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ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:25:00 -
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this is awful thing to happen.i think that first step to help that girl is that she admit the thing that hapend.
this world in which we live is horible and that people that do such awfule thing...i dont know what to say.but she must first admit to her self what hapend to her.
p.s.still i think that this isnt subject for CAOD maybe for out of po expirience.
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:27:00 -
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Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
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Rica Hudon
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:27:00 -
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So, goons are gonna get dateraped because IAC gets everyone else too drunk and stoned to realize it until it's too late?
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Jude Starlighter
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:32:00 -
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Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Hey m8 Weed isnt a drug, thats candy for your soul
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JONAS VEXXOR
Spartan Industrial Manufacturing SMASH Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:33:00 -
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Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Many great people in history brewed beer and smoked rope..... Cant we all just get along
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Rechal
Active Measures
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:42:00 -
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Drugs R bad, Mmkay.
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Zla Droljica
Minmatar Most Wanted INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:43:00 -
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Originally by: Jude Starlighter
Originally by: Zla Droljica
Originally by: Jude Starlighter ofc its horrible and i understand how ppl feel helpless, this is just not the right forums for this, not anywhere on eveo forums will you in a million years find the answer you are looking for.
allthough i would recommend you, your friends and her other friends who werent there to sit down and talk her through this, basically force her into talking about it even though she will not want to and even though she will be ****ed at you all for forcing her into talking about it. it needs to come out from her own mouth, you cant tell her that its wrong, what she should feel and so on.
also, drugs are bad, mmkay
Marihuana is better then alchocol IMO.but still everthing that hurts your body and minde is bad.
Hey m8 Weed isnt a drug, thats candy for your soul
hey m8 isnt for you and me but it is for police and justice system.so basicly beterto watch on rapers and leave us weed people to help ours soul get well.
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Flinx Evenstar
Minmatar Omniscient Order
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:53:00 -
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Is the OP like one of those logic problems where you have to work out who was where and when.
Or...is the op just a stoner with a bunch of **** head friends.
And...why is this relevant to CAOD.
Quote: Basically, I just need to hear something to feel better about this because I have no idea what to do to help her.
When you sober up tomorrow, you will feel a lot better. To help her would involve professional care and maybe getting her sectioned
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Jim Linger
Naughty 40 Triumvirate.
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:54:00 -
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all that typing and its just gonna get owned by isd, gg
i'm not an alt i just post like one |
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Mr Ninjaface
Minmatar Shurekin INC
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Posted - 2007.12.21 01:56:00 -
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can I have your friends stuff?
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hammyhamm
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 02:04:00 -
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Edited by: hammyhamm on 21/12/2007 02:05:49 The author of the OP and his family, and the OP and its topic line have the same thing in common: Unrelated (you are adopted*)
I dont understand what the OP is trying to achieve, perhaps he/she could clarify this?
*and your cat hates you
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Ebil Piwate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 02:06:00 -
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Originally by: hammyhamm The author of the OP and his family and the OP and its topic line have the same thing in common: Unrelated (you are adopted*)
I dont understand what the OP is trying to achieve, perhaps he/she could clarify this?
*and your cat hates you
erm don't pretend you don't know
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hammyhamm
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 02:10:00 -
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Originally by: Ebil Piwate
Originally by: hammyhamm The author of the OP and his family and the OP and its topic line have the same thing in common: Unrelated (you are adopted*)
I dont understand what the OP is trying to achieve, perhaps he/she could clarify this?
*and your cat hates you
erm don't pretend you don't know
You are right, I do know Adoption implies they wanted to take you in, but we both know this isnt the case
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Marko Zhang
Destructive Flatulence
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Posted - 2007.12.21 02:35:00 -
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oh oh oh! i figured it out (it was hard).. sarah = bob and mark = goons amirite?
--- [18:47:59] CCP Admiral Chamrajnagar > be safe.. enjoy killing some D2 |
Iasius
The Fated Interstellar Alcohol Conglomerate
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Posted - 2007.12.21 02:47:00 -
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Edited by: Iasius on 21/12/2007 02:48:36 And what has this to do with digital spaceships? . Full Spectrum Mercenary |
Incantare
Kernel of War Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 03:06:00 -
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Eve-o really isn't the place, and this is probably the worst forum to post this in.
If your post is true rather than an elaborate fabrication, which I have doubts on, you'd be better off trying to get her in touch with a support group, or at least a psychologist.
Amyway...
I have to agree with weed being better than alcohol, you don't wake up the next morning with a huge hangover (big plus for me) and no recollection of the night, you have more control too. Though the occasional paranoia is more than annoying, the sensation is amazing.
Nope, I've never done it.
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Impretinent
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 03:10:00 -
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Goons are clearly monsters for being girls who ask the internet advice when their friend get raped.
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The Hooch
Minmatar Privateers Privateer Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 03:28:00 -
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and were is the click?
Concord punishes people, it does not protect them |
3nkil
The Chocolate Factory
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Posted - 2007.12.21 03:34:00 -
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NO TAG MAKES MODS SOMETHING SOMETHING
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Frozen Fallout
Gallente Firing Squad Black-Out
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Posted - 2007.12.21 05:17:00 -
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Stoned + Eve = 10 hours of smiles and explosions :)
I love math :)
Smile Smile :) :) |
FOFOFOF
CRAPSTORM
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Posted - 2007.12.21 05:29:00 -
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CRC got disbanded... The old forum warriors vets unbanned... you asked for it, you got it, CAOD mayhem...
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Doktor Quick
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Posted - 2007.12.21 06:09:00 -
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Edited by: Doktor Quick on 21/12/2007 06:09:54
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Cybarite
Gallente Aristotle Enterprises
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Posted - 2007.12.21 06:10:00 -
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ummmmm... IBTL? ... Why do I PvP? Because I love the feeling I get when I see the pretty lights and know that someone somewhere is screaming incoherently at their computer screen. |
General Tsao
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 06:14:00 -
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Fakepost, goons dont use drugs
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Plutoinum
German Cyberdome Corp Cult of War
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Posted - 2007.12.21 06:56:00 -
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Edited by: Plutoinum on 21/12/2007 06:58:38 I've googled for a few words of this post to see, if this is just copy and pasted from somewhere for whatever reason and found the original thread on the SA forums and the story seems to be real. So yes, some people in the other thread advised you to look for some professional advice how to handle this situation and gave you some institutions to contact and that's imho the best thing to do. I wouldn't know how to deal with it on my own either.
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Value Added
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 07:51:00 -
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I voted that thread 1 on SA, why can't I do that here
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Scatim Helicon
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 08:02:00 -
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Originally by: General Tsao Fakepost, goons dont use drugs
That's winners you're thinking of
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Kyrie Elaison
GoonFleet
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Posted - 2007.12.21 08:32:00 -
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Originally by: General Tsao Fakepost, goons dont use drugs
Have you met Gamma?
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Incantare
Kernel of War Tau Ceti Federation
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Posted - 2007.12.21 08:55:00 -
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The original thread.
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Suez Newton
GoonFleet GoonSwarm
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Posted - 2007.12.21 09:34:00 -
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I have a strong feeling of deja vu.
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Hermosa Diosas
The-Secret-Service Retribution.
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Posted - 2007.12.21 09:40:00 -
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is this for real? this really is stooping the low of the low - and this proves just how bad these forums have got..
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clagnuts
Thundercats RAZOR Alliance
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Posted - 2007.12.21 10:45:00 -
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i didnt know riki lake played wow , can we get marks account of the nights events , it might be he just passed out the same time as your friend , fell on her and acidently penetrated her , or is this wishfull thinking from yyour friend who in rl is a 20stone bloater and was just laying there naked hoping some passer by would give her one
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