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Quaristice	Posted - 2009.04.09 02:38:00 - [61] If you are curious about how family life is gonna be like while being addicted to Eve...then its time to step away for a while and get outside and definately NOT have a family.
Turin Caldari Eternity INC.	Posted - 2009.04.09 03:06:00 - [62] Edited by: Turin on 09/04/2009 03:07:24 Wifes and children ruin everything. Avoid them at all costs. Just get a Friend with Benefits. Oh crap... wifes coming.... backspace backspace backspace!!!!! You can still play certainly, but if you are addicted to the big 0.0 arena, as I am, with all the fleetwar fare that comeswith it, this area of the game will most likely be denied to you. Or, you do what I do, and play anyways, and **** your wife off. I dont have kids yet. The wife is more than enough. She hates video games in general though, and thinks they are all pointless. So I call it a biased opinion on her part. :) Most other aspects of the game are quite family freindly. Just make sure you always travel with a cloaking device. :)
Prieith VersaTech Interstellar Ltd. Southern Cross Alliance	Posted - 2009.04.09 03:08:00 - [63] We got 2 kids, aged four and two. EVE is like a gift to us married men! Well I would say this entirely depends on what limits your wife has, and if you know those limits well enough. I had to stop playing other MMO's where the playtime is a huge factor in how you progress in the game, because of this, and was lucky i found EVE. You are in a better position, you have found EVE already. I also moved my computer to the living room, well this was actually my wife's call, and it really helped out a lot just being present in the room. I have mostly been in 0.0 and might have been lucky to be in a mature corp where most of my corpmates had family's, and if i had to drop out of a roam or gate camp, it was accepted with no worries. when i got back 15-30 mins later, i caught up again. In weekends we do all the shopping and visiting family/friends early on the day,and when we get home my kids usually nap so i can play for a few hours, and in the evening my wife usually takes them to bed, and i log in straight away. You got to be able to use voice comms in for 0.0 warfare, so i always have one ear to whats going on in the comms, and one ear on whats going on in the room. I try to keep a fine balance of what my wife tolerates so that i'm not going over the line, i have done that a few times, and it was not pleasant, now i have learned. 1 or 2 times a week i dont play eve at all or stop early, and spend quality time with the wife, maybe some good wine or a drink and some snacks and a movie or just talk. I do this during the times nothing much is going on in EVE, i would rather spend time with the wife that spinning ships in a station waiting for stuff to happen. Since this can happen any time during the week, it will be like a random thing, not just every wednesday and saturday 8 o'clock thing. Because those 'ok darling, thursday night 1015 we meet in the bedroom allright?' is not working so good for me, but truth be said, there has been, and surely will be times like that coming in the future as well. All in all i think i have managed to put in quite a few hours of playtime in EVE, and i think i am blessed with having such great wife who lets me play games, coming into the 8th year of being togheter now and hopefully many years to come. http://www.smash-alliance.com/kb/?a=pilot_detail&plt_id=39190
Super Whopper I can Has Cheeseburger	Posted - 2009.04.09 05:20:00 - [64] Originally by: Michelle Vega My almost 10 year old mines in one display and plays gta4 in the other. All I have to do is put food infront of him and ask him to take a 10 minute break every hour. Naturally he has to do his homework first and has to go to bed on time. Also he gets enough exercise at school and on weekends he has his friends over and do other stuff than play on computers, like playing on his ps3 and stuff like that. So it works out ok, and it does wonders for the marriage since you have more time to eachother and an electronic babysitter (so to speak). If only my 11 year old would mine for me. She loves computer games but EVE bores her to death. Anyway my wife sits close by and watches her series and I play EVE. I don't really see how it could be a big problem unless someone here is going to claim that there is a difference between wasting time watching TV and playing a computer game. So, my wife doesn't complain that I play too much, nor does the daughter because doing so will mean I will whine about their series. What is important, however, is an understanding wife and compromise. In my case I play EVE, they watch series. Everyone happy.
Mecinia Lua Galactic Express Burning Horizons	Posted - 2009.04.09 06:48:00 - [65] MMOs in general take a long time if you want the best toys, the most money etc. You can have fun in eve so long as you don't care about having 0.0 sov., don't care about not having the best ships, etc and still have a real life. You have to accept a lesser role in the game and plan your play time accordingly. That might mean not being in a major alliance etc if you can't meet their requirements for ops etc. You can still have fun though. Real life is always more important than a game. It is better to have children when you are younger and able to keep up with them. Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Thoughts expressed are mine and mine alone. They do not necessarily reflect my alliances thoughts. Your signature is too large. Please resize it to a maximum of 400 x 120 with the file size not exceeding 24000 bytes. If you would like further details please mail [email protected] - Mitnal
Julia Steaz	Posted - 2009.04.09 07:26:00 - [66] Edited by: Julia Steaz on 09/04/2009 07:26:47 Originally by: Mecinia Lua Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Don't give people bad ideas. The last thing this planet needs is more people. The population of earth is 6 billion. STOP REPRODUCING YOU IDIOTS! There's not enough water! Hasn't anyone watched the new James Bond movie? Keep up with the times. Bottled water costs more than gas!
Super Whopper I can Has Cheeseburger	Posted - 2009.04.09 07:47:00 - [67] Originally by: Mecinia Lua Real life is always more important than a game. It is better to have children when you are younger and able to keep up with them. Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Percect advice. Backpacking around the world at the age of 60 is an excellent idea. Imagine all the things you won't be able to do that you could have done at the age of 20-30! Or how about bungee jumping at 55? Fantastic, can't wait. And if you have kids at the ages of 10-15 you are still the same generation and might even like the same things as your child when you're 30. Excellent, thank you for making all those 10 year olds with babies feel so much better.
Mecinia Lua Galactic Express Burning Horizons	Posted - 2009.04.09 08:52:00 - [68] Originally by: Super Whopper Originally by: Mecinia Lua Real life is always more important than a game. It is better to have children when you are younger and able to keep up with them. Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Percect advice. Backpacking around the world at the age of 60 is an excellent idea. Imagine all the things you won't be able to do that you could have done at the age of 20-30! Or how about bungee jumping at 55? Fantastic, can't wait. And if you have kids at the ages of 10-15 you are still the same generation and might even like the same things as your child when you're 30. Excellent, thank you for making all those 10 year olds with babies feel so much better. By young I mean in their 20s. 100 years ago someone got married at 15 no one batted an eye. However our society has changed, it coddles people to much and really teenagers today are not ready for the burden. However if you wait til your mid 30s to early 40s to have your first child the chances are you will not be able to keep up with your children as they get older Take it from someone that knows :) Thoughts expressed are mine and mine alone. They do not necessarily reflect my alliances thoughts. Your signature is too large. Please resize it to a maximum of 400 x 120 with the file size not exceeding 24000 bytes. If you would like further details please mail [email protected] - Mitnal
Mecinia Lua Galactic Express Burning Horizons	Posted - 2009.04.09 08:54:00 - [69] Originally by: Julia Steaz Edited by: Julia Steaz on 09/04/2009 07:26:47 Originally by: Mecinia Lua Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Don't give people bad ideas. The last thing this planet needs is more people. The population of earth is 6 billion. STOP REPRODUCING YOU IDIOTS! There's not enough water! Hasn't anyone watched the new James Bond movie? Keep up with the times. Bottled water costs more than gas! lol Even by conservative estimates the planet can sustain many more people probably double to triple the current number. Most countries are in negative growth anyway meaning they lose more people each year than they gain. I mean seriously in the United States the government pays farmers not to grow food..... Thoughts expressed are mine and mine alone. They do not necessarily reflect my alliances thoughts. Your signature is too large. Please resize it to a maximum of 400 x 120 with the file size not exceeding 24000 bytes. If you would like further details please mail [email protected] - Mitnal
shoresy StarHunt Systematic-Chaos	Posted - 2009.04.09 09:04:00 - [70] Coming on 40 this year 1 kid at home new crop 3 older ones from first crop. yes rl interferes with EVE. But there is a solution I send the wife on holiday with her mother sh takes the little one . I book the week off work . Grab plenty of food and beer, set the pc up infront of the sofa and I Play eve all week till I fall asleep lol. then wake up and play some more . Only problem is I cant afford to send her every month lol. I usually find by the end of the week I am a little sick of sitting in front of a screen so my eve fix is done for a few months . Then i drop down to a couple of hours a day .usually after little one has gone to bed . My eldest son used to come and join me on this week of eve as he plays too. so we would set up at either end of the sofa ( its a big sofa )and just enjoy. Not that I am counting but the wife goes away on the 25th of this month lol thats only 16 days 1 hours 43 minutes and 29 seconds from now but who's counting :) S ............................ StarHunt Homepage

Trader20	Posted - 2009.04.09 09:33:00 - [71] Noone cares, move this thread.
Athena Tarsis	Posted - 2009.04.09 09:47:00 - [72] Originally by: Trader20 Noone cares, move this thread. 3 pages of decent comments suggests otherwise.
Spurty Caldari Amok. Minor Threat.	Posted - 2009.04.09 10:11:00 - [73] Originally by: Trader20 Noone cares, move this thread. Don't you have your 5 times table as homework? No games for you tonight sonny. I have 2 kids and thank god for 'leveling up while afk'. Without this feature, I would not be able to keep up at all. There are concessions1 you will HAVE to make, but the game is still perfectly accessible to you which is so crazy a concept for an MMO!! 1 No long unending roams through 0.0, faction loot drops are purely for sale not fitted, Plat insurance + self destruct = perfectly viable method to keep your precious game time used playing rather than logging off due to being camped in, much more time spent reading forums while feeding the baby thats my entire eve life so far. I often wonder what its like to care about things like the politics of eve, or to be 'attached' to my space pixels, but then I have to get up and change a diaper and forget about it. Originally by: Butter Dog I think you'll find that 10 seconds > 1 month
tradealt4tw	Posted - 2009.04.09 10:22:00 - [74] I manage to get on 1 to 2 nights a week max, it is possible but you downgrade yourself to a casual player. There are people who ignore their families for internet spaceships but these guys are going to die alone... in a fire
Gebher'el Amarr Ministry of War	Posted - 2009.04.09 12:02:00 - [75] Edited by: Gebher''el on 09/04/2009 12:02:10 First I think your perception of the EVE community is off. EVE has one of the more mature communities of any MMO. Of all the MANY playuers I have met over the years only a few did not have kids, I can count on my fingers the people not married and I tghink I have only actually known about 6 that where below the age of 25. Personally I have in the last 4 years of playing EVE: Raised and gotten out of the house three teenagers Ran a business I own Been active in my local churches Childrens Ministry Gone through a divorce Had an active dating life Started a new serious relationship Helping her raise a 4 year old At no time has my EVE game play gotten in the way of any of this. In EVE through various toons I have run two corporations, was head of a small alliance, been in faction war, various PVP wars and lots more... What I am trying to say is that ANY game can cause issues but EVE by the nature of the some of the game mechanics is actually pretty laid back and makes good allowances for RL.
Ji Sama	Posted - 2009.04.09 12:04:00 - [76] Eve works great with kids and family :D I am a stay at home dad, and the type of gameplay eve offers is just perfect for my idling semi afk play style.. im logged on 23/7 but im afk 60% of the time :p EDIT: ninja edit > ninja afk This is a signature not related to EVE
Tekutep	Posted - 2009.04.09 14:07:00 - [77] Originally by: Attrezzo Pox So, to those experienced eve players. Can one play eve, AND in fact, have a life and a family. This of course implies that you know the names of all your children, and you spend time with them not on the computer. IE they do their homework, or you play catch with them, etc. My child is only 3 but so far I can answer that: Yes, this is possible on some level. You'll never be able to spend as much time playing this game (or any other) as you did before having a family, however you can still play a fair amount. What I do is just log on after my kids go to bed and my wife sits down to watch some TV. We both like our "alone" time - she watches various shows and I play Eve. It boils down to about 2 to 4 hours a night, depending on how late I'm willing to stay up. I'm lucky because my wife goes to work very early in the morning and therefore goes to bed much earlier than I do, and that works for us. Sure if I didn't have a family I would probably play 5 or 6 hours a day, but that's one of the sacrifices you have to make when you have a family (the other option of course is doing both, however that means you don't pay attention to your family and your kids grow up with feeling you're distant and your wife ends up divorcing you, etc.) So yes you can still play some, but not as much as before.
Funtclaps	Posted - 2009.04.09 15:31:00 - [78] I suppose you have the choice of 23/7 Eve or 24/7 family. At least Eve gives you an hour to yourself so that would be my preference. Still, each to their own.
Attrezzo Pox Amarr Navy of Xoc Wildly Inappropriate.	Posted - 2009.04.09 15:32:00 - [79] Originally by: Trader20 Noone cares, also wrong forum dumass Originally by: Trader20 Noone cares, move this thread. You so hard you flame wit an alt. Big man! For those looking for the 20 somethings I described in the original post look no further. We all knew there'd be some of this. ------------------------- PoX IS Eve!!! BOOM!!!
Attrezzo Pox Amarr Navy of Xoc Wildly Inappropriate.	Posted - 2009.04.09 15:37:00 - [80] Originally by: Super Whopper Originally by: Mecinia Lua Real life is always more important than a game. It is better to have children when you are younger and able to keep up with them. Don't fall into the illusion that you need to wait til you have enough money....you never will. That you'll know how to better raise them when your older...you won't. Perfect advice. Backpacking around the world at the age of 60 is an excellent idea. Imagine all the things you won't be able to do that you could have done at the age of 20-30! Or how about bungee jumping at 55? Fantastic, can't wait. And if you have kids at the ages of 10-15 you are still the same generation and might even like the same things as your child when you're 30. Excellent, thank you for making all those 10 year olds with babies feel so much better. I'm 25 and I think it's good advice. But then again I don't plan on bungee jumping any time soon. If I do I'd want to wait until I've had a long happy life. I plan to become a skydiver at 70. We want to be able to relate to our children as younger adults. I don't want to be introduced as my child's grandparent. But that's me, to each their own. ------------------------- PoX IS Eve!!! BOOM!!!

Attrezzo Pox Amarr Navy of Xoc Wildly Inappropriate.	Posted - 2009.04.09 15:45:00 - [81] Originally by: Quaristice If you are curious about how family life is gonna be like while being addicted to Eve...then its time to step away for a while and get outside and definately NOT have a family. I've made it this far so I don't believe addiction would qualify as a good definition of my relationship with eve. The way I see it, some people watch tv, some read magazines, others do crosswords, I play eve. There are all people arguably "addicted" to those other forms of entertainment. The people who aren't addicted simply don't let it become so important that they suffer because of it. In my past eve took a whole lot of time. I just wanted some idea of how many people had found a way to work it in without it being invasive. I think I've found the answer that I'm looking for. PS. I get outside ALOT! I love the outdoors. ;) ------------------------- PoX IS Eve!!! BOOM!!!
hand fearless	Posted - 2009.04.09 15:55:00 - [82] Have a 3 year old and 5 month old twins and im also a teacher, I have one account with a perma tank hulk in a 0.6 system that i can forget about and a perma tanked domi on the second account, I can happily spend time with the wife and kids looking in on the game every 15mins or so to unload or change missions, Also keep the computer or laptop in the family space so your not shut away from them, Also wireless keyboards and mice are handy. But find a corp that understand your needs, i left a 0.0 corp with my 3rd account as they wanted me to play more that just aint going to happen with new born twins. talk to the wife/girlfriend and ask her when you can play, or ask her if she would like to do soemthing (game, hobby, etc). H.a.n.D


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