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BeaconBeacon
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Posted - 2009.05.29 06:17:00 -
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only problem is, I'm what they would call an 'over achieving sell out' minority (they are those 'we are black and proud, but this really just means we hate everyone who does better then us and actually has nothing to do with our skin color' types of people)
In case your wondering how I sold out, its cause I go to college, double major math and physics (with the math having a computer science component), have started my own business with another physics major, and generally get good grades (4.0 up until this semester that just finished, I got 2 B's, but to be fair it was in particle physics and analytical mechanics). Also I happened to be half white half mexican, which is a double negative to them apparently.
They have already revealed their contempt for me to my girlfriend over the phone. I practiced martial arts (various, only ranked dan in aikido and got far along in kenpo) for several years and her dad is a karate instructor so he already has told her how he thinks I suck and wants to challenge me.
So basically... how do I survive this weekend? I was hoping someone has been in a similar position and could tell me. I originally though to approach it with gifts, win them over with good things, but I didn't want to appear weak. I cant try and intimidate them cause they likely are itching at a chance to engage in physical conflict (something I'm more then willing to do but my dad AND girlfriend said if I hurt anyone there I'm f'ed, besides, if a beat up one of her cousins I'm pretty sure her dad is going to strangle me with my own entrails[no I don't think I can take him in any fight, be it a karate match or a actual fight]). I figured I could just be quite but a lot of people take that as an insult.
any help would be fantastic at this point. If I don't make it back...someone can have my stuff.
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Super Whopper
I can Has Cheeseburger
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Posted - 2009.05.29 08:05:00 -
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Cyanide, shotgun or AK47 will solve all problems.
Please contract your stuff to me, thanks a lot.
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Achmed TheDead
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Posted - 2009.05.29 08:12:00 -
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Im a fat American white guy. it doesn't matter who or what you are when you have in-laws. all members of the masculine side of the human race face that same problem...
my way of dealing with a weekend like that is, either 1) go fishing. or 2) if you cant go fishing, just hang out, do everything your woman tells you to do, and don't speak, at all, unless spoken to.
so far, thats worked out fine for me.
sarcasm and humor aside, stick with number 2, srsly. it was really the only way for me to get any approval from my in-laws, was to show them i would do anything for my woman.
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F'nog
Amarr Celestial Horizon Corp.
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Posted - 2009.05.29 08:59:00 -
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I may be drunk, but I'm pretty sure you can sell the rights to your story to any anime house. Plus some live action houses could be awaiting your attention.
Originally by: Kazuma Saruwatari
F'nog for Amarr Emperor. Nuff said
Originally by: Chribba Go F'nog! You're a hero! Not a Zero! /me bows
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Alex Raptos
Caldari Phoenix Rising.
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Posted - 2009.05.29 09:02:00 -
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Originally by: F'nog I may be drunk, but I'm pretty sure you can sell the rights to your story to any anime house. Plus some live action houses could be awaiting your attention.
Bolded the most accurate part.
Originally by: Dirk Magnum I've become gay for Mark Harmon despite my initial reservations about the show NCIS but nobody will ever know
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Muad' Dib
Gallente Beyond Divinity Inc
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Posted - 2009.05.29 09:07:00 -
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Originally by: Alex Raptos
Originally by: F'nog I may be drunk, but I'm pretty sure you can sell the rights to your story to any anime house. Plus some live action houses could be awaiting your attention.
Bolded the most accurate part.
He may be drunk, but he's also right. --- I smack just for myself.
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The AEther
Caldari Agony Unleashed Agony Empire
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Posted - 2009.05.29 11:11:00 -
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Originally by: BeaconBeacon ... They have already revealed their contempt for me to my girlfriend over the phone. I practiced martial arts (various, only ranked dan in aikido and got far along in kenpo) for several years and her dad is a karate instructor so he already has told her how he thinks I suck and wants to challenge me ...
... I cant try and intimidate them cause they likely are itching at a chance to engage in physical conflict (something I'm more then willing to do but my dad AND girlfriend said if I hurt anyone there I'm f'ed, besides, if a beat up one of her cousins I'm pretty sure her dad is going to strangle me with my own entrails[no I don't think I can take him in any fight, be it a karate match or a actual fight])...
just remember that you're going out to meet inlaws, not beat anyone up or get beaten up yourself and you're set
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Reven Cordelle
Caldari Yamainu-Mirai Heavy Industries
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Posted - 2009.05.29 11:15:00 -
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Haha, beating up your girlfriend's father in a bout of martial art supremacy seems like a great way to break the ice.
And some shins.
You're describing them like a bunch of psychopaths anyway, which is unlikely. Just go there, don't expect a fight or anything - thats ridiculous.
If worst comes to worst, hide behind your woman. Flawless tactic. Either that, or on the instant that you detect negativity - Leave.
You know, be an adult about it. :3
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Jayka Kyer
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Posted - 2009.05.29 13:31:00 -
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if i was in your shoes i would fake a injury, maybe bandage up one of your arms. Theres no glory in fighting someone injured and if you do get into a fight and win you can brag about defeating them with one arm :)
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Wei Lea
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Posted - 2009.05.29 13:41:00 -
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you seem to respect the Dad's skills as a karate instructor. You tell him so. If he wants to challenge you say that you know you will loose but OK as you might learn something.
give as good as you can but then take that beating. If he takes it too far, he embarrasses himself. If you stand up to him without fear, he sees that you have the balls.
You have to trust his skill as an instructor and a father though. Hopefully, you get the both develop some respect for each other.
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Jacob Mei
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Posted - 2009.05.29 15:05:00 -
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Originally by: BeaconBeacon only problem is, I'm what they would call an 'over achieving sell out' minority (they are those 'we are black and proud, but this really just means we hate everyone who does better then us and actually has nothing to do with our skin color' types of people)
In case your wondering how I sold out, its cause I go to college, double major math and physics (with the math having a computer science component), have started my own business with another physics major, and generally get good grades (4.0 up until this semester that just finished, I got 2 B's, but to be fair it was in particle physics and analytical mechanics). Also I happened to be half white half mexican, which is a double negative to them apparently.
They have already revealed their contempt for me to my girlfriend over the phone. I practiced martial arts (various, only ranked dan in aikido and got far along in kenpo) for several years and her dad is a karate instructor so he already has told her how he thinks I suck and wants to challenge me.
So basically... how do I survive this weekend? I was hoping someone has been in a similar position and could tell me. I originally though to approach it with gifts, win them over with good things, but I didn't want to appear weak. I cant try and intimidate them cause they likely are itching at a chance to engage in physical conflict (something I'm more then willing to do but my dad AND girlfriend said if I hurt anyone there I'm f'ed, besides, if a beat up one of her cousins I'm pretty sure her dad is going to strangle me with my own entrails[no I don't think I can take him in any fight, be it a karate match or a actual fight]). I figured I could just be quite but a lot of people take that as an insult.
any help would be fantastic at this point. If I don't make it back...someone can have my stuff.
My father had a similar problem with my mothers parents and eventually won them over.
Unfortunitely it took about two grand children and at least a decade to do so. In short expect friction with your potental inlaws until you father them some grand children and prove to be a good husband for their daughter. -------------------------------- To borrow a phrase:
Players who post are like stars, there are bright ones and those who are dim.
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Gabrialle
Amarr Sanctuary Logistical Industries Inc
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Posted - 2009.05.29 15:17:00 -
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Whatever happens, don't tell them you've licked their daughters nipples!
If they don't like you, tough s**t, you're with their daughter not them.
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IVeige
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Posted - 2009.05.29 15:47:00 -
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book sick, tell them you got swine flu
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Micheal Dietrich
Caldari
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Posted - 2009.05.29 16:00:00 -
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They sound like my mother. Just yes sir, no sir and otherwise keep your mouth shut as nothing you do will be good enough in their eyes. If they have issue with their daughter being with an actual decent person then boohoo, that's their problem. I they want to strain relationships then that's their thing, not yours.
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BlackDragonShadow
Caldari
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Posted - 2009.05.29 17:41:00 -
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Originally by: BeaconBeacon only problem is, I'm what they would call an 'over achieving sell out' minority (they are those 'we are black and proud, but this really just means we hate everyone who does better then us and actually has nothing to do with our skin color' types of people)
In case your wondering how I sold out, its cause I go to college, double major math and physics (with the math having a computer science component), have started my own business with another physics major, and generally get good grades (4.0 up until this semester that just finished, I got 2 B's, but to be fair it was in particle physics and analytical mechanics). Also I happened to be half white half mexican, which is a double negative to them apparently.
They have already revealed their contempt for me to my girlfriend over the phone. I practiced martial arts (various, only ranked dan in aikido and got far along in kenpo) for several years and her dad is a karate instructor so he already has told her how he thinks I suck and wants to challenge me.
So basically... how do I survive this weekend? I was hoping someone has been in a similar position and could tell me. I originally though to approach it with gifts, win them over with good things, but I didn't want to appear weak. I cant try and intimidate them cause they likely are itching at a chance to engage in physical conflict (something I'm more then willing to do but my dad AND girlfriend said if I hurt anyone there I'm f'ed, besides, if a beat up one of her cousins I'm pretty sure her dad is going to strangle me with my own entrails[no I don't think I can take him in any fight, be it a karate match or a actual fight]). I figured I could just be quite but a lot of people take that as an insult.
any help would be fantastic at this point. If I don't make it back...someone can have my stuff.
You're like my hero. Double major in math and physics and starting your own company. Dude seriously that's awesome.
As far as advice goes just remember to be yourself. You don't need to prove anything to them. As they say let actions speak louder than words. Help clean up after dinner, don't paw your girlfriend but show that you care about her, have interesting things to talk about etc. If her dad challenges you say sure but to remember that you're no expert and to go easy on you. If the daughter likes you they have to like you for her sake. So just be a cool guy. The rest will work its self out in time.
This sig was awesome but needs more EvE related content. - Mitnal
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baltec1
Antares Shipyards Hoodlums Associates
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Posted - 2009.05.29 17:51:00 -
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Do it the british way. Pent up all the anger, take the insults on the chin and dont lose your cool. When its over watch a war film (A bridge too far or where eagles dare will do).
If you want to get your own back start talking about partical physics and string theory.
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Delvardious Kaesos
Caldari Guiding Hand Social Club Privateer Alliance
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Posted - 2009.05.29 17:54:00 -
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Just walk in naked.
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BlackDragonShadow
Caldari
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Posted - 2009.05.29 18:00:00 -
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Originally by: Delvardious Kaesos Just walk in naked.
This sig was awesome but needs more EvE related content. - Mitnal
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jason hill
Caldari Clan Shadow Wolf Sylph Alliance
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Posted - 2009.05.29 18:19:00 -
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Words of wisdom ... it should cut the ice ...say to the old man ...take me to your dealer
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BeaconBeacon
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Posted - 2009.05.29 18:27:00 -
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Edited by: BeaconBeacon on 29/05/2009 18:29:35 Edited by: BeaconBeacon on 29/05/2009 18:28:56
Originally by: baltec1 Do it the british way. Pent up all the anger, take the insults on the chin and dont lose your cool. When its over watch a war film (A bridge too far or where eagles dare will do).
If you want to get your own back start talking about partical physics and string theory.
lol the one I like is to start talking about kurasaki murskawa matrices. its just matrix multiplication with particle vectors but it makes people either stare in awe or feel incredably dumb. :P
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goodby4u
Valor Inc.
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Posted - 2009.05.29 18:53:00 -
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First wooing them is not your goal, so at first just take whatever they throw at you and act yourself.
If he does challenge you however, act with respect and dignity and fight him the best you can, if you lose then he sees that you at the very least have balls.
If all else fails talking about vectors and what have you is an option, but most people in his position shrug such things off as"well atleast I didnt sell out like you"in which case the only real good responses end in him telling you to get the hell out of his house.
Goodluck.
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FOl2TY8
Tribal Liberation Force
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Posted - 2009.05.29 19:33:00 -
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Dude your girl's dad wants to fight you. HE WANTS TO FIGHT YOU! If you don't fight him you will forever be a puss in his eyes. If you do fight him you better win or put up a hell of a fight or you will again forever be a puss.
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Kessiaan
Minmatar MicroFunks
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Posted - 2009.05.29 19:46:00 -
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Edited by: Kessiaan on 29/05/2009 19:47:40 I'm from way, way, way out in the country and I have relatives like that too.
If they have problems with me, I tell them it's my life, I'll live the way I want to, and if they have a problem with it they can feel free to kiss my ass, because I don't care. Most of them still talk to me so they must've gotten the message.
Also, RL fights are like fights in EvE, if you fight fair you're doing it wrong.
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Cyonidicus
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Posted - 2009.05.29 22:02:00 -
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1 Litre of JD + 1 Medium sized funnel.
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dr doooo
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Posted - 2009.05.30 01:45:00 -
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Edited by: dr doooo on 30/05/2009 01:55:03 Edited by: dr doooo on 30/05/2009 01:50:12
Sounds like there might be a bit of leg pulling going on here. Is your girlfriend easy to wind up buy any chance? or alternatively, likes to wind you up sometimes? If not, a certain amount of respect is owed all around for the sake of your girlfriend stuck in the middle. If you don't think it's being given, just leave. I'd still guess wind-up to some degree though
edit: my spelling sucks. wind, to wined, and back to wind. Too much wine.
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Marty MecFly
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Posted - 2009.05.30 03:17:00 -
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QUICK!! Break a bone and no one will touch you... make sure its a very painful one that hurts every move you make. (make sure it is veiwable with a cast or sling) Then watch in amazement as they all come to pitty you!
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Jhagiti Tyran
Mortis Angelus
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Posted - 2009.05.30 03:21:00 -
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Edited by: Jhagiti Tyran on 30/05/2009 03:21:46 If your that worried about the possibility of violence something is very very wrong, its not always easy to get along with a partners family but having to stress over some kind of middle ages duel of honour when you meet her dad is whacked.
If her family's that bad she will be no better your better off getting rid as soon as possible. -
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KingsGambit
Caldari Knights
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Posted - 2009.06.01 22:05:00 -
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Your question is: Originally by: BeaconBeacon So basically... how do I survive this weekend?
You have however already answered it. Originally by: BeaconBeacon her dad is a karate instructor
Originally by: BeaconBeacon I practiced martial arts (various, only ranked dan in aikido and got far along in kenpo) for several years
I believe you have to challenge him. Full contact, the only rules are, there are no rules. There can be only one. -------------
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rValdez5987
Amarr Imperial Guard.
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Posted - 2009.06.02 01:39:00 -
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You have 3 choices.
1. Break up with the girlfriend 2. Meet her parents and be an adult about it 3. Tell your girlfriend you dont want to meet her parents until they are less hostile.
I would do option 1 frankly, as I look at the whole package, and don't want crazy inlaws. You would be better off doing option 3. |
Cing Liberdanis
Abyss.
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Posted - 2009.06.02 07:41:00 -
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I say fight. But hide a claymore in your pocket in case you start to lose, then he loses his head!
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