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William Alex Viscosity space weaponry and trade	Posted - 2008.05.07 12:33:00 - [121] Originally by: Franco Caruso My wife is totally computer illiterate ( the bliss ). I do not need to defend or explain EVE-Online anymore ... we have hacked out an agreement. 2 evenings a week, I don't play but go out with her, I go shopping on saturdays and can play the rest of the time. She's quite happy about EVE, I don't surf p0rn ( much ), I don't spend cash on stupid hobbies and/or a new game every month ( apart EVE-Store stuff ) and she knows where to find me. Convenient for her and me. This.
nastea	Posted - 2008.05.07 12:34:00 - [122] Luckily my wife is a gamer...She plays that craft game though. She says this game is too nerdy for her. My suggestion....Find a gamer chick :)
The Slayer Caldari GoonFleet GoonSwarm	Posted - 2008.05.07 12:37:00 - [123] One of my ex's parents were convinced I was seeing some girl called "eve" behind their daughters back.
Larg Kellein Caldari Agony Unleashed Agony Empire	Posted - 2008.05.07 12:44:00 - [124] Originally by: Fivel Ve I started playing this game shortly after my boyfriend. The reason was it looked beautiful and i'm a very visual person. The interface was a bit difficult to figure out, but after the trial I really fell for EVE. So we played together for a little while, me and my boyfriend, were in the same corp and played apart as well. Now a year passes and he quits the game because he's bored and says it is no longer interesting for him. Me, I keep on playing. Now he's bugging me why i am playing this boring game. "Dont spent too many hours on it", "You know you can do better things with your time", it has gotten to the point where i would just be browsing the net and clicking a lot and he would be asking me from another room "Are you playing that stupid game again?" Is he not getting enough attention or is he jealous or something? I mean WTF?! I assume you asked for his stuff before he quit, right?
Bado Sten Minmatar Sten Industries	Posted - 2008.05.07 13:53:00 - [125] Just do what a friend of mine did - get her an account and start her on mining ice for you! -- Do you need research services for your blueprints? We have available slots in Metropolis region. Look up my bio for info!
4IROW Aliastra	Posted - 2008.05.07 14:33:00 - [126] great reading when I tried to show my ex-gf EvE (because she asked what I did on the comp) she was like: "mhm, nice, ok let's go now..." she never understod how I could sit in front of the comp gaming instead of going out for a walk... (during winter... )
Rev Fernie The Elusive Shadows Club	Posted - 2008.05.07 15:08:00 - [127] I've managed to mantain a long term relationship whilst playing EVE daily since 2005. Alot of this has been said in the thread already but here are my tips: 1.) Tell her Girls Don't play EVE. Especially not in your Corp/Alliance. I have muted Girls on TS/Vent as she once overheard a female voice from my earphones! 2.) Have a 'Log Off' time. Mine is 9pm, afterwhich I spend time with her. Sounds a bit under the thumb but it does work. Single guys out there won't understand the benefit of this. 3.) Explain you need to dock up to be able to come help her with something Which may take time. 4.) Explain the average age of an EVE player is 28. So it's not a bunch of kids your are talking to in chat rooms. 5.) There will be inevitable bad times ahead with her as she adjusts to something she will refuse to understand. At the darkest times, log off early if you can. RL really is more important than EVE Life. 6.) Remember no Girls play EVE....even if they do. 7.) Even if she is not interested talk to her (a little! Dont bore her) about what you do in EVE and what your friends are like. Silence and secwacy will make her suspect you are hiding something even though you are not. 8.) On Weekends make her breakfast in bed every now and again, instead of logging into EVE before she has even woken up. 9.) Never do middle of the night Skill Changes, time your skills accordingly so you change them during your 'game time'. 10.) Remember an Economic, Industrialist, Sci Fi internet Spaceship shooty pew pew video game is far less geeky than Dwarfs, Wizards and dragons. She will understand this. That is all.
tartrus Filthy Scum	Posted - 2008.05.07 17:09:00 - [128] I screw and play eve at the same time does that make me really sad or my wife really understanding
AizenSousuke Gallente Gear Ratio Black-Out	Posted - 2008.05.07 17:34:00 - [129] First of all, excellent topic, funny stuff mixed with good advice, lol.. Well I'll add a little bit of my personal experience too. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 5 months now, and I've been playing EVE for almost a year, so we met while I was in my obsession. I'm very lucky that she is understanding that I need "me" time and that EVE does require almost full attention at most times. It's all about compromise. We do have plans on moving in together next year and we both have agreed that there are times that are for her, and there are times that are for me. If your girl doesn't give you that free time or gives you crap every time you're online, then I think its time to find a better person, because that's sad. Relationships are 50/50. If you respect her time, then she should damn well respect yours. It's also pretty important to say that EVE is NOT a priority. It's only a game. I understand that perfectly and if my girl needs me to help her with something or she needs to talk, I'm logging off without a second thought (although she would have to wait for me to dock up ). Hopefully I can get her into the game as well. I would love for her to play with me, would be a dream come true. If she doesn't though, it's okay. Oh yeah, also.. seriously.. if she wants action from you, log off.. (I say this but I pray that she will never want to mess around when I have a Moros in siege mode on a POS....) -------------------------------------------------- "With hard work and focus ye shall achieve." Unless stated otherwise, the opinions above do not reflect those of my corp or my alliance. Thx. >.>
MiuChen	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:31:00 - [130] Originally by: Lardarz B'stard Girls are too thick to play eve generally speaking What for a thick answer!

Stazzmo Gallente The Grind	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:37:00 - [131] Each person has a hobby/activity they love to do and there is no reason you have to share it with anyone. Just like a buddy of mine will never get his girlfriend to understand/play/like Warhammer 40k, I have NO chance of getting my wife to play EVE. She has an aversion to video games that I can only compare to my own hate of Ugly Betty and Grey's Anatomy. I have on some occasions tried to explain what I do in EVE to her, or i'll tell her stories about EVE, and she'll listen politely but eventually i get a glassy eyed look. Just like how I must look when she tries to explain to me the complexities of the relationship between Dr. Grey and Dr. McDreamy. There are times i sit and watch with her but secretly i'm DYING to go to the computer and launch some probes or kill some rats or create some mayhem. Although i've found that sometimes I have to in a way "ask permission" to play EVE. Otherwise i'll be sitting there playing and she will subtly mention that trash needs to be taken out or a dog needs to be washed or something needs to be fixed. Maybe i'm not explaining this right. Just know you might be guilt tripped if it seems to her that you play EVE way too much. If you haven't already, watch "Fever Pitch" (or better yet read the book.) I dream of electric sheep.
XFranc Caldari Lucian Alliance Arcane Alliance	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:39:00 - [132] Im lucky - I met my wife in EQOA, and we both did EQ2 for 2 years, running a successful and busy guild, so she understands all about gaming. Shes mildly intrested in Eve and tried it briefly, but it hasnt really gotten her - shes waiting for Ambulation - and the chance to design her own character :D Follow some of the tips on here and you wont go far wrong.
Raem Civrie Firma Civrie	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:44:00 - [133] I like all the people giving recommendations that the OP compare EVE to all the other stuff she does in an attempt to trivialize her life. Yes. That's going to go swimmingly. ---
Raffi derWucherkater	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:54:00 - [134] Originally by: J'Mkarr Soban See, this is where being *** is fantastic. I showed Eve to my boyfriend and he went "woo! Shiny" and started playing with me Hehe, grats! Gives you something to think about what to do when you¦re looking for a change. ;)
hedfunk Caldari Low Sec Liberators	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:55:00 - [135] Quality thread - basicaly. Get her to play an MMO/FPS - anything you can't pause. Then she'll understand =D
Kolwrath Amarr Imperial Shipment	Posted - 2008.05.07 18:59:00 - [136] Edited by: Kolwrath on 07/05/2008 19:01:07 Originally by: Raem Civrie I like all the people giving recommendations that the OP compare EVE to all the other stuff she does in an attempt to trivialize her life. Yes. That's going to go swimmingly. Uhhhh Like which ones? All the ones I have read are either: 1. compromise. 2. try and compare it to another "guy" activity and then explain how much cheaper and safer it is. 3. try and get her into EVE or gaming in general. Did I miss something? Originally by: Chaos Space Marines Do you hear the voices, too?!?!
Jali Prince Minmatar	Posted - 2008.05.07 19:00:00 - [137] You cannot explain eve... I have read thispost and all of the above applies, the good, the bad and the UGLY. I am trying to explain Eve to my husband, he wont have his own account and mines on my account! When I first started two years ago, I hid it for about 6 weeks (he works shifts). So I have had all the nasty comments, now he asks if I am off to play or not. I play it as I find it more interesting than watching the TV. I would recommend you get her to watch you for a bit, if she is not sci fi happy, then, try to point out the shopping and all the shiny ships you have, Premium Graphics FTW! And then make her an Amarr character (even shinier ships) and let her shoot you for a bit. LOL! Under no circumstances should you pod her. And if she likes it beware... You will end up doing the housework! As Jali Prince looks at her Ironing pile again.... Life is chocolate
Kherie Kali Amarr Hello KItty Entrepreneurs	Posted - 2008.05.07 19:41:00 - [138] I play FPS's and EvE, with the ex I never really had to 'explain' myself playing the games. If at all possible I scheduled it around any activities she had - but not in a hiding cloak and dagger way. When she says "I'm going shopping with my sister and mother." just say back "I'll be playing EvE, call me if you need anything." Little things like "if you need anything" or "let me know", also "I can meet up with you if you get bored" go a LOOOOONNNNNNGGGGG way. Unfortunately it didn't work out - but at least it wasn't because of a game Play whenever you have time and if she wants to spend time (you already live together, how much more time can you spend [rhetorical]) as long as it isn't an absorbinent amount - go for it and make her happy. Once the whole "I constantly need to be with you and by you and around you" phase is over, you'll have plenty of time to play EvE (Minus any children you may have as they are the great killer of all things personal [though funny as hell and worth it ]) tl;dr - Make her happy for a while, play in spare time, the touchy feely need to be there 100% of the time phase will pass then play to you pass out in your chair/couch/bed.
Apoctasy The Python Cartel	Posted - 2008.05.07 19:57:00 - [139] Eve Online: Internet Spaceship Pewpew
Lithalnas Amarr Headcrabs	Posted - 2008.05.07 21:38:00 - [140] forward her some of the hatemail in your inbox with a messaged attached to it. "I play eve because of the unconditional love of the playerbase. Yarrr" ------------- fixed for greater eve content

Malcanis R.E.C.O.N. Insurgency	Posted - 2008.05.07 22:19:00 - [141] Originally by: MiuChen Originally by: Lardarz B'stard Girls are too thick to play eve generally speaking What for a thick answer! Generally speaking, guys are too thick to play it too. CONCORD provide consequences, not safety; only you can do that.
Kiran Jiyuu Caldari Sanctuary Aegis Consortium	Posted - 2008.05.07 23:25:00 - [142] I gots it easy. My gf totally understands. I don't have to explain anything. Must say however that when 'Skill training completed' sang out once right after I'd gotten a verra nice BJ we both fell over laughing.
Arbitrus Caldari Sacred Templars DeStInY.	Posted - 2008.05.07 23:58:00 - [143] well, having just turned 18 and not exactly living with my gf, you gotta throw it like this: 1. tell her that eve is a game, not much else. 2. talk to her while playing, unless your in TS, even then, nod your head at the right moments :P 3. let her know eve aint all thats important, for me, letting her know she's important is right on teh spot. that and deathmetal, since she's an avid fan of that and trance :P i seem to get my results just fine ----------------------------------------------- Come Home with your shield, or come home on it. Signature dimensions exceeds max 400x120 dimensions allowed. Mail us if you have any questions -Targoviste
nastea	Posted - 2008.05.08 00:00:00 - [144] Originally by: Kiran Jiyuu I gots it easy. My gf totally understands. I don't have to explain anything. Must say however that when 'Skill training completed' sang out once right after I'd gotten a verra nice BJ we both fell over laughing. I have my wife trained and educated on which skills to train next should I be alseep or away at the time "Skill Training Completed" rings out over my computer :)
Dario Wall Caldari Black Legion Industries	Posted - 2008.05.08 00:14:00 - [145] Originally by: nastea Originally by: Kiran Jiyuu I gots it easy. My gf totally understands. I don't have to explain anything. Must say however that when 'Skill training completed' sang out once right after I'd gotten a verra nice BJ we both fell over laughing. I have my wife trained and educated on which skills to train next should I be alseep or away at the time "Skill Training Completed" rings out over my computer :) I got my fiance trained to fly a Raven on her account she just got. Now she can do my missions for me.
Monkey Saturday SAS Elite Ops Chaos Incarnate.	Posted - 2008.05.08 00:36:00 - [146] I didn't really have to explain it to my wife. She'd been nagging me for a long time saying I work too much and don't get any time to relax. That was the truth really. I'd either be working at work, working at home, or working her (yes, yes), so she told me to get a hobby. Well, a year on and I'm happier for playing Eve, and she's happier too (yes, yes). So in conclusion : my wife!=fail Or...my wife==best girl evah There, I said it, now give me back my beer, woman!
Xtreem Gallente Knockaround Guys Inc. Exxxotic	Posted - 2008.05.08 00:55:00 - [147] my girlfriends name is eve, well evelyn and gets called eve, she is a non complicated lass, likes to watch soaps and the likes, i give her the tv remote, say go ahead, so she is fine most of the time. When she does show interest in my game (remembers types of ships and the likes, gets really confused when she says is that your thorax, and its like no its my vigilant, or phobes etc) all i do when she is watching is name a ship after her, or somthing she would like, makes her most happy and even tracks there progress! so far i have smelly shuttle eves ranger - shuttle eves lightning - ares eves chariot - carrier she asks what the ships do, like this one goes fast, she gives them names, if i follow and agree she is most happy and leaves me alone, been with her for 4 years now, so iv been playing longer than iv been with her, so she knew about it in advance :)
Anjo Ryker	Posted - 2008.05.08 01:13:00 - [148] Edited by: Anjo Ryker on 08/05/2008 01:13:30 Wish you the best bud. If it doesn't work out, then it's time to peruse Geek 2 Geek, with a search string on EVE.
Tortun Nahme Minmatar Umbra Synergy Final Retribution Alliance	Posted - 2008.05.08 01:29:00 - [149] I'd be more worried about explaining my girlfriend to EvE Originally by: Cecil Montague They should change that warning on entering low sec to: "Go read Crime and Punishment for a few days then come back."
Lewis Atreides Caldari House Atreides trade	Posted - 2008.05.08 01:36:00 - [150] My wife does not mind me playing EVE at all, She likes the music and she knows that if she needs me for ANYTHING I will dock and leave the game, that last thing more then anything else helps her approve of the game. Besides she has to know that you will pick her over the game at ANY time for ANY reason. ----------------------** While blood, carnage, and distruction may be my "happy place" that is nothing like the feeling I get while hauling 2 mill isk in goods thru low sec.



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