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Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:23:00 - [1] Edited by: Able Maldonado on 06/05/2008 16:26:09 As a lot of payers do, I spend a lot of my free time playing EVE. I would say I try to log on for at least 3-4 hours a day when mixed in with RL duties/social activities. I have been playing since 2004 and have no intention of quiting or lowering my play time. I know there are people who play a lot more, but that is irrelevant here. I am trying to preface this with the understanding that to many of us, EVE is a little more than 'just a game'. More of a ritual, tradition or a comfort comes to mind. Really though, it's an awesome game created for people who want to be ensconced in it. So I am thinking of moving in with my gf. We've had the personal space conversation which followed by me saying: "Oh, there is just one more thing. I play EVE a lot." As she replied, "Oh you mean that video game? Thats not a problem." I knew she had no idea what I was talking about or how involved with this "video game" I actually was. Anyway, I realize there are a few choices here. I could just play to my hearts content, brushing off any distractions as feeble minded blather or I could attempt to explain the game and it's complexity in a short summary. tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other?
Ankhesentapemkah Gallente	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:26:00 - [2] Give her an account as a present
Random Elite Caldari Caldari Provisions	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:27:00 - [3] I'll be honest, my girl thinks it's pretty weird. Then I get made fun of when my roommates see me with my headset on. I tell them it's no different than them being on their Xbox with a headset. It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back!
Soporo Caldari	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:27:00 - [4] Tell her: There is a LOT of shopping. There are 4 trillion channels to talk in. Hooked.
Lisento Slaven Amarr The Drekla Consortium	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:28:00 - [5] I always introduce it as a game and then start comparing it to other MMO's out there. Sci-fi spaceship game where the players are in extremely large amounts of control of what happens in the game. If she knows anything about other MMO's/games in general you can make comparisons such as level-less system, 98% market controlled by players and their own manufacturing (all that stuff), "sand-box" play style (I like to point out the Pleasurehub as a form of making in-game money for an extreme =P), and the pvp is obviously a great aspect. Whenever I explain it to someone I systematically jump around in no systematic order of topics.
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:28:00 - [6] Originally by: Ankhesentapemkah Give her an account as a present Meh, there is absolutely no way she'd be into it.
Marcus TheMartin Gallente Tuxedo.	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:28:00 - [7] Blow up dolls don't have opinions on your online gaming habits silly
voogru Gallente Massive Damage United Corporations Against Macros	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:29:00 - [8] Originally by: Random Elite It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back! Oh common now. You should set long skills to train for those kinds of things.
Ace Frehley Minmatar Black Water.	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:29:00 - [9] They day it happens me, I gonna stop play eve and all other games likes these
Ankhesentapemkah Gallente	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:30:00 - [10] Originally by: Able Maldonado Originally by: Ankhesentapemkah Give her an account as a present Meh, there is absolutely no way she'd be into it. Wait for ambulation, THEN get her an account. ( )

Corduroy Rab Digital Fury Corporation Digital Renegades	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:31:00 - [11] I did it in steps over the course of about a month or so. She eventually joined herself a couple months later, gave us something fun to do together when I was out of town. Of course we were already living together when I stated playing so the situation is a bit different.
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:31:00 - [12] Originally by: Random Elite It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back! hehe. Spontaneous skill change not romantic? lol
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:32:00 - [13] Originally by: Lisento Slaven I always introduce it as a game and then start comparing it to other MMO's out there. Sci-fi spaceship game where the players are in extremely large amounts of control of what happens in the game. If she knows anything about other MMO's/games in general you can make comparisons such as level-less system, 98% market controlled by players and their own manufacturing (all that stuff), "sand-box" play style (I like to point out the Pleasurehub as a form of making in-game money for an extreme =P), and the pvp is obviously a great aspect. Whenever I explain it to someone I systematically jump around in no systematic order of topics. She's played Mario Kart. I'm pretty sure it will be hard to relate.
Smantha Dering Caldari Sam's Space Guys	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:32:00 - [14] Yeah, she won't think it's ok for long. Most girls hate eve, even when they don't understand what it is, or maybe because they don't understand it. Myself and a bud have wives that will let us play video games, watch tv or what ever with out time, but playing eve? No. I only play when the wife is not home cause she hates eve that much and suddenly every disagreement is about eve. So it's better if the two never mix.
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:36:00 - [15] Originally by: Smantha Dering Yeah, she won't think it's ok for long. Most girls hate eve, even when they don't understand what it is, or maybe because they don't understand it. Myself and a bud have wives that will let us play video games, watch tv or what ever with out time, but playing eve? No. I only play when the wife is not home cause she hates eve that much and suddenly every disagreement is about eve. So it's better if the two never mix. Yeah I predict it will be okay in the beginning, but then turn into some kind of competition between her and the game. Meh, you know women.(not trying to be sexist, I'm just a male heh)
Amastat Caldari Omegatech	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:36:00 - [16] Originally by: Smantha Dering Yeah, she won't think it's ok for long. Most girls hate eve, even when they don't understand what it is, or maybe because they don't understand it. Myself and a bud have wives that will let us play video games, watch tv or what ever with out time, but playing eve? No. I only play when the wife is not home cause she hates eve that much and suddenly every disagreement is about eve. So it's better if the two never mix. Why is it most girls that actually DO play video games play crap like Halo and World of Warcraft? ____________________ "All warfare is based on deception... we must seem unable...seem inactive...and crush him " - Sun Tzu, the
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:40:00 - [17] Originally by: Amastat Originally by: Smantha Dering Yeah, she won't think it's ok for long. Most girls hate eve, even when they don't understand what it is, or maybe because they don't understand it. Myself and a bud have wives that will let us play video games, watch tv or what ever with out time, but playing eve? No. I only play when the wife is not home cause she hates eve that much and suddenly every disagreement is about eve. So it's better if the two never mix. Why is it most girls that actually DO play video games play crap like Halo and World of Warcraft?
Xennith Neh'bu Kau Beh'Hude Ushra'Khan	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:41:00 - [18] It was quite simple for me: "Its a game where everyone flies spaceships and shoots each other. you cant pause it, and yes i do need this headset on. Yes i know i look silly. Ill do it in a minute, just let me dock up..." We come for our people
Franco Caruso	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:42:00 - [19] Edited by: Franco Caruso on 06/05/2008 16:42:13 Originally by: Able Maldonado tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other? My wife is totally computer illiterate ( the bliss ). I do not need to defend or explain EVE-Online anymore ... we have hacked out an agreement. 2 evenings a week, I don't play but go out with her, I go shopping on saturdays and can play the rest of the time. She's quite happy about EVE, I don't surf p0rn ( much ), I don't spend cash on stupid hobbies and/or a new game every month ( apart EVE-Store stuff ) and she knows where to find me. Convenient for her and me.
Xennith Neh'bu Kau Beh'Hude Ushra'Khan	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:44:00 - [20] Originally by: Able Maldonado Meh, you know women. no, i dont. and that is the problem. We come for our people

Amastat Caldari Omegatech	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:44:00 - [21] Originally by: Franco Caruso Edited by: Franco Caruso on 06/05/2008 16:42:13 Originally by: Able Maldonado tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other? My wife is totally computer illiterate ( the bliss ). I do not need to defend or explain EVE-Online anymore ... we have hacked out an agreement. 2 evenings a week, I don't play but go out with her, I go shopping on saturdays and can play the rest of the time. She's quite happy about EVE, I don't surf p0rn ( much ), I don't spend cash on stupid hobbies and/or a new game every month ( apart EVE-Store stuff ) and she knows where to find me. Convenient for her and me. living the dream, eh? ____________________ "All warfare is based on deception... we must seem unable...seem inactive...and crush him " - Sun Tzu, the
Franco Caruso	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:47:00 - [22] Originally by: Amastat living the dream, eh? Yessir, I do !
Able Maldonado	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:49:00 - [23] Well I suppose it'll just be a trial by fire.
Jacob Mei	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:50:00 - [24] Originally by: Random Elite I'll be honest, my girl thinks it's pretty weird. Then I get made fun of when my roommates see me with my headset on. I tell them it's no different than them being on their Xbox with a headset. It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back! Popup window: Random Elite has finished training intimacy to level 3. -------------------------------- There isn't a test around that a smart man cant find some way to get around it.
Bloody Rabbit Jita Miners	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:52:00 - [25] Originally by: Xennith It was quite simple for me: "Its a game where everyone flies spaceships and shoots each other. you cant pause it, and yes i do need this headset on. Yes i know i look silly. Ill do it in a minute, just let me dock up..." This ^ And make sure you compare it to her getting her nails and hair done and its a mute point. Nail = 50 every 2 week Hair = god knows Eve = only 12 per account per month Originally by: Radcjk PvP in eve can be sort of rough. It's closer to bad sex. Usually an hour of two of foreplay followed by 5 minutes of disappointment. And the surprise at the end.
Amastat Caldari Omegatech	Posted - 2008.05.06 16:54:00 - [26] Originally by: Jacob Mei Originally by: Random Elite I'll be honest, my girl thinks it's pretty weird. Then I get made fun of when my roommates see me with my headset on. I tell them it's no different than them being on their Xbox with a headset. It doesn't help that there's been a number of times that my girl and I have been getting intimate and a skill finishes training, causing the EVEMon voice to tell me a skill is done. That's just weird, it takes a second to get the mood back! Popup window: Random Elite has finished training intimacy to level 3. Well think of it this way - Aura's voice could be the voice of something else, like John Candy or something for example. It could've been a lot worse ____________________ "All warfare is based on deception... we must seem unable...seem inactive...and crush him " - Sun Tzu, the
Franco Caruso	Posted - 2008.05.06 17:00:00 - [27] Edited by: Franco Caruso on 06/05/2008 17:03:19 Nah ... what I have figured out is that if it doesn't interest her as long as it doesn't compete with her ( time and attention wise ) you are a-ok ! If you have idle time, bug her. Talk about non EVE-Online related stuff. If you afk travel, instead of surfing the net or the forums, give her some attention ( in whichever form you deem appropriate ) As long as she knows she is #1 on your priority list, things will go smooth. If you just move in with her and she does not know EVE-Online at all just show her around. She needs to know the enemy to evaluate for herself how much of a threat it/she is. I think that is very important. Our, male home sapiens, words are superflu and have no weight when it comes to explaining a potential threat to a relationship with the female counterpart. Let her figure out by herself that EVE-Online is just a game. FC Edit: I just plainly can't spell !
Tradesalotski	Posted - 2008.05.06 17:03:00 - [28] and a 30 day gtc never hurts. Always better to have a GF who understands your addiction (Even if they do spend all their time carebearing like my GF!)
Malcanis R.E.C.O.N. Insurgency	Posted - 2008.05.06 17:03:00 - [29] Edited by: Malcanis on 06/05/2008 17:04:14 Originally by: Able Maldonado Edited by: Able Maldonado on 06/05/2008 16:26:09 As a lot of payers do, I spend a lot of my free time playing EVE. I would say I try to log on for at least 3-4 hours a day when mixed in with RL duties/social activities. I have been playing since 2004 and have no intention of quiting or lowering my play time. I know there are people who play a lot more, but that is irrelevant here. I am trying to preface this with the understanding that to many of us, EVE is a little more than 'just a game'. More of a ritual, tradition or a comfort comes to mind. Really though, it's an awesome game created for people who want to be ensconced in it. So I am thinking of moving in with my gf. We've had the personal space conversation which followed by me saying: "Oh, there is just one more thing. I play EVE a lot." As she replied, "Oh you mean that video game? Thats not a problem." I knew she had no idea what I was talking about or how involved with this "video game" I actually was. Anyway, I realize there are a few choices here. I could just play to my hearts content, brushing off any distractions as feeble minded blather or I could attempt to explain the game and it's complexity in a short summary. tl;dr - How would/have you introduced EVE to a significant other? Don't introduce it as a game, introduce it as a hobby or even a sport. Make sure she understands that it requires significant blocks of time (it's hard to do much in less than an hour), and reassure her that she's not in competition with the game. You can compare playing it to playing in a team game like football or cricket - no, you won't always be willing to stop playing just whenever she wants: the rest of the team are depending on you. Offering to get her an account to play alongside with you is a good move. Even if she doesn't want to, she'll be encouraged that it's not something you're doing to get away from her.
Neermark JotunHeim Hird Aurora Borealis Foundation	Posted - 2008.05.06 17:07:00 - [30] I told her that i was a kind of social experiment, which she could understand was pretty exciting. But she still frowns when i sit and shout at my spaceships... Otherwise i just play when she wants to watch reality shows.... She has her thing and i have my things.... insert sig



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