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DGTLC
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Posted - 2008.05.20 15:10:00 -
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but I need help with what to do.
I know this probably isn't the best comunity in the world to ask (I take pride in that tbh) but it's to do with a girl.
Basic outline is there is this girl who I dated a few years back and seriously fell in love with. We didn't speak for quite a while after we broke up but I'd started seeing her around and chatted to her once or twice recently and tbh just seeing her makes me feel happier than I ever have.
Now I wanted to see if there was actually anything there or just some childish fantasy reliving itself, either way I thought I'd ask her if she wanted to grab a bite to eat sometime but when I did she completely avoided answering me but was wondering why I wanted too. I didn't tell her because no matter how I worded it, it sounded completely stupid. When I pushed her a bit for an answer all she said was that it wasn't a no. We never really got past that and still chat (although admitadly rarely) but I still get that feeling, where whenever I see her my heart starts to feel like it's leaping out of my chest (half the time it looks like it is as well. I'm not particulary weighty and have a very strong heart) and I don't know what to do about it.
I've considered asking her again and telling her why but I a) rarely can build up enough guts to do it, and b) don't want to ruin what contact we do have (atm very little tbh).
Like I said at the start, this is probably about the worst community I could ask but any help is good. I just want nothing more then to at least see if there is anything solid between us or just a fantasy (you can't blame me if it's the second on... she is just soooo hot).
I'll be back in a few hours to see what damage I have caused/which trolls have had a good feed.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 15:10:00 -
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but I need help with what to do.
I know this probably isn't the best comunity in the world to ask (I take pride in that tbh) but it's to do with a girl.
Basic outline is there is this girl who I dated a few years back and seriously fell in love with. We didn't speak for quite a while after we broke up but I'd started seeing her around and chatted to her once or twice recently and tbh just seeing her makes me feel happier than I ever have.
Now I wanted to see if there was actually anything there or just some childish fantasy reliving itself, either way I thought I'd ask her if she wanted to grab a bite to eat sometime but when I did she completely avoided answering me but was wondering why I wanted too. I didn't tell her because no matter how I worded it, it sounded completely stupid. When I pushed her a bit for an answer all she said was that it wasn't a no. We never really got past that and still chat (although admitadly rarely) but I still get that feeling, where whenever I see her my heart starts to feel like it's leaping out of my chest (half the time it looks like it is as well. I'm not particulary weighty and have a very strong heart) and I don't know what to do about it.
I've considered asking her again and telling her why but I a) rarely can build up enough guts to do it, and b) don't want to ruin what contact we do have (atm very little tbh).
Like I said at the start, this is probably about the worst community I could ask but any help is good. I just want nothing more then to at least see if there is anything solid between us or just a fantasy (you can't blame me if it's the second on... she is just soooo hot).
I'll be back in a few hours to see what damage I have caused/which trolls have had a good feed.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 15:41:00 -
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 Originally by: Larice
Originally by: DGTLC
but when I did she completely avoided answering me but was wondering why I wanted too. I didn't tell her because no matter how I worded it, it sounded completely stupid. When I pushed her a bit for an answer all she said was that it wasn't a no.
I hate to break it to you, but when this happens it usually means that she doesn't want to disappoint you by saying 'no'
I was thinking this is probably the case but when I pushed her for an answer she did kinda say that it wasn't a no rather than just not giving an answer at all. Maybe I'm just clinging on here but meh.
So basically just go for it an pray for the best? Meh, I suppose I may as well give it a go, been considering it for a while but needed a bit of a push.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 19:53:00 -
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Originally by: Slade Trillgon
1) How old are the 2 of you?
2) Does this girl have a history of primarily haveing male friends?
3) Does she tend to be quit open with her sexuality?
4) Have you ever had any physical relations with her?
5) Have you ever told her your real feelings?
1) I make a general principle of not posting age online. It's a huge source of discrimination which I just don't think is nessicary.
2) Nah, her friends are about 50/50, maybe urging a bit towards the female side.
3) Meh.
4) Well, we haven't had sex.
5) Not since we stopped going out.
I know I should probably just get over her but it's a huge amount harder to do then it is to say. She was the girl of my dreams and I don't think I have enough willpower to force myself to let her go.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 20:04:00 -
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Edited by: DGTLC on 20/05/2008 20:04:04
Originally by: Ryysa
Great, fits into the "cuddle-*****" theory just right.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 20:13:00 -
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Originally by: Genghis Kitty
Originally by: DGTLC
1) I make a general principle of not posting age online. It's a huge source of discrimination which I just don't think is nessicary.
16 or 17 then. 
18.
Originally by: Genghis Kitty
You sound like you know you should move on, but maybe have posted this to see if people will reinforce your idea of staying around her.
There are plenty more women you'll meet in your life who will become the girl of your dreams. Don't lock yourself to this girl no matter how badly it's going for you, thinking she's the only one.
The problem is I've already gone though a few of those women and none of them even get close to comparing what it was like with her, or even just how knowing her and knowing that she is around makes me feel, which tbh just makes it even harder.
I know theres alot of time ahead of me but atm it's now that I'm thinking about.
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Posted - 2008.05.20 22:00:00 -
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I probably should have mentioned earlier that I'm probably joining the same class as her next year which could make forgetting about her quite a bit harder.
I think I'll go for the tell her how I feel and risk it solution. At least it will give me conformation either way.
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