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Ombey
Neh'bu Kau Beh'Hude
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Posted - 2010.03.10 13:36:00 -
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 Originally by: mercyonman
the guy asked her to prom. she said yes. and she didn't want to go with me cause she wants to be driven there. and i don't have my driver's license till may.
I stopped reading at this point. You have your answer. If she feels the fact you don't have a car is a big enough reason not to go with you to the Prom, then have nothing more to do with her.
It will be hard, but there will be someone else out there for you. As someone said above, if you stay with her, you'll feel paranoid all the time as there'll be something/someone else after this to cause you to feel bad.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.
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Tallaran Kouros
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Posted - 2010.03.10 13:38:00 -
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Originally by: Ombey
If she feels the fact you don't have a car is a big enough reason not to go with you to the Prom, then have nothing more to do with her.
Listen to the man, then listen to me and get a motorcycle.
Chicks dig motorcycles. Fact.
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hired goon
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Posted - 2010.03.10 13:40:00 -
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Think about it like a dog. If you had a dog who constantly bit your kids and mauled your guests, would you just give it treats and pamper it while trying to justify its behavior as "oh he's just very friendly lol"? Or would you bloody well discipline it and train it to behave itself?
Then get another dog if it didn't comply?
Because at the mo it seems to us that you're very much doing the former. Don't do this whatever happens. Watch a few episodes of The Dog Whisperer - being serious here.
note: I am not advocating treating women like dogs. You should always respect women and they'll respect you. At the moment however it sounds like you don't even respect yourself.
-omg-
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Reldor Silverheart
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Posted - 2010.03.10 13:46:00 -
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Been in a similar relationship myself, and i'd have to say nuke, i mean there is the chance that it does get better. But the issue is, it probably won't. My experiences from when my ex wanted to keep our relationship hidden was so she could flirt with other guys. Wanting to keep it hidden can many times be a warning sign meaning she isn't ready to commit herself to a relationship.
Regarding the car thats outright silly, you could have rented a limo or similar and had that drive you there. So that is a bad excuse from her, not the first one i am guessin. But i also agree with many of the other posters here, you're 17 you still got a long life ahead of you and there far better girls for you out there.
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hired goon
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Posted - 2010.03.10 13:48:00 -
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Originally by: Ombey
Originally by: mercyonman
the guy asked her to prom. she said yes. and she didn't want to go with me cause she wants to be driven there. and i don't have my driver's license till may.
I stopped reading at this point. You have your answer. If she feels the fact you don't have a car is a big enough reason not to go with you to the Prom, then have nothing more to do with her.
It will be hard, but there will be someone else out there for you. As someone said above, if you stay with her, you'll feel paranoid all the time as there'll be something/someone else after this to cause you to feel bad.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.
Originally by: Tallaran Kouros
Originally by: Ombey
If she feels the fact you don't have a car is a big enough reason not to go with you to the Prom, then have nothing more to do with her.
Listen to the man, then listen to me and get a motorcycle.
Chicks dig motorcycles. Fact.
Guys, the OP and his girl are children. They are going to be this immature. You can't expect them to be adult and grown up about it, not yet. That's why my course of action should be followed, because OP needs to learn respect for himself as a man, and needs to teach this girl she can't be so flippant.
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Shrewmy
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Posted - 2010.03.10 15:00:00 -
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Edited by: Shrewmy on 10/03/2010 15:01:11
Three words.
Be a man.
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Tallaran Kouros
Caldari
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Posted - 2010.03.10 15:39:00 -
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Originally by: hired goon
Guys, the OP and his girl are children. They are going to be this immature. You can't expect them to be adult and grown up about it, not yet. That's why my course of action should be followed, because OP needs to learn respect for himself as a man, and needs to teach this girl she can't be so flippant.
But chicks still dig motorcycles, and the OP should still get one.
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FunzzeR
Death of Virtue
MeatSausage EXPRESS
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Posted - 2010.03.10 15:41:00 -
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Ahh young love, so innocent but yet inevitably doomed to fail.
PRAISE THE SCOTTISH FOLD!!
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Shanter
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Posted - 2010.03.10 16:23:00 -
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Edited by: Shanter on 10/03/2010 16:24:56
Honestly? She's going to, at the very least, give oral sex to the guy taking her to promùthat is if they aren't having sex already. She's probably using you for emotional intimacy and using him for physical intimacy.
Or, she's just inexperienced and doesn't really like you that much and can't find a reason or the courage to say 'no' to you. If this is the case, she's going to flirt and associate with others guys until you get the point and leave, because she doesn't have the ******* to tell you straight up that she doesn't want you. If you DON'T get the point, which it seems like you won't, then you're just going to torture yourself and it's going to completely color and pervert any real, happy relationship you might have in the next few years.
Or, the third option, she's been sexually abused in the past and is damaged goods. (In my experience, the 'artsy' and 'theater' type chicks have a much higher incidence of this, or at least claim to, than the general population.) You're way too young to deal with someone else's problems, and she's probably going to self-destruct anyway. Hell, there's no way I would ever date a theater chick. Anyone in theater, yourself included, is either there because they somehow fell into that clique or they possess a deep, sick desire to constantly be the center of attention on stage. From the way you described her, it sounds like the latter.
Fourth option, you're not giving us the true story, she's not at all interested in you, and you're borderline stalking her at this point.
Ditch her. Absolutely ditch her, but screw her first if you can. You play EVE for ****'s sake; you should know how these brutal, callous kinds of situations pan out.
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Praesentius
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Posted - 2010.03.10 18:50:00 -
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Originally by: soldieroffortune 258
Dude, just whoop his ass.
^^^^^^^^^^^
Dude... This.
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Umega
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Posted - 2010.03.10 20:23:00 -
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Edited by: Umega on 10/03/2010 20:23:39
She is an 'attention wh***'. Quite common trait among women. Here is how you should handle the situation..
You cut off emotional ties with her to an extent. Listen but be blunt, continue to be her friend, and most important.. Keep being Yourself. Do NOT chase her.. tsk tsk, not this type of girl to be chasing. If she ends up keep coming to you as you two are friends, and more developes.. well then you are gold with neutral control.
Otherwise, you are giving her all the control. You're going to grow confused and frustrated and angry at yourself in the end. You lose sight of who you are, you won't act yourself around her and even if she allows you 'in'.. you'll be her b**** til you snap out of your trance she has you under and it'll ultimately fall apart reguardless and be a waste of time other than the learning experince.
And hell.. as you remain friends with her, you might see more of her true self that you don't care for and will realize she isn't the girl for you. Allowing you to focus your attention elsewhere. Stay yourself and stay confident.. otherwise you'll end up someones b****.
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UVPhoenix2
Gallente
Brotherhood of Heart and Steel
Iron Heart Brotherhood
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Posted - 2010.03.10 20:35:00 -
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Challenge him to a duel.
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Posted - 2010.03.10 20:55:00 -
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Originally by: FunzzeR
Ahh young love, so innocent but yet inevitably doomed to fail.
Innocent? She's already a gold digger.
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Mary Makepeace
Caldari
Neh'bu Kau Beh'Hude
Ushra'Khan
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Posted - 2010.03.10 22:30:00 -
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maybe she is an experimental kind of girl?
fingercuffs
it is simple, she is using you as emotional comfort, non threatening, a guy that is interested that won't stand up to a guilt trip. Blaming you for her problems with insecurity.
as others have said, you are young and learning about relationships, it is a tempestuous time, good luck.
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mercyonman
Caldari
Perkone
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Posted - 2010.03.10 23:22:00 -
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i chose the nuclear option. as many said. it wasn't worth the trouble and i have many things more important to worry about. thank you again OOP. for helping me with my decicion 
When you crash your car, then jump out running down the street to save your pod.
Then you're playing way too much eve
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Gariuys
Evil Strangers Inc.
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Posted - 2010.03.11 07:12:00 -
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Edited by: Gariuys on 11/03/2010 07:16:48
Originally by: hired goon
You have two options.
1. Nuke. If you do this, make sure you are FIRM with her in your breakup speech. Make her understand she is wrong, and don't let her bullcrap words dissuade you - if she feels like she has the upper hand and can see your doubt it will strengthen her position and she'll be able to persuade herself she is right.
2. This is a similar option, where you are very firm and put your foot down with her. STAND YOUR GROUND AND BE A MAN, don't p*ssy out to her. You have to be ready to walk and she has to be able to sense this. If she really likes you she will come running after you, like above when she phoned you afterward to apologize. The fact she did this shows she doesn't want to lose you. Use that fact to push harder and get her in line. The crap she's trying to pull is completely unacceptable.
And going with a guy who isn't you just because he has a car? Alarm bells are ringing mate. Realistically you should ditch her just for this.
What you ABSOLUTELY DO NOT WANT TO DO is carry on being a p*ssy in this relationship, letting her walk all over you and do **** with other guys while you chase after her and apologize for existing. If you go down that road you will become obsessed, become stuck, and at your age will change your outlook on women for the rest of your life. Putting yourself in such a position will actually damage your ability to competently deal with women later on. Trust me, I've been through all this, and had to re-learn being a man after I was turned into a complete p*ssy.
This is some very good advice, listen to it. I had pretty much the same thing happen to me, and after she realised she could actually lose me, she turned around and we¦re happily together ever since, and she¦s even the mother of my beautiful son.
Should have read page 2, anyway, good choice IMO.
Oh and btw, she might come back for you, after the prom and giving him a very good night, then you¦ve got another interesting choice on your hands, if you can deal with the jealousy it¦s actually a good thing for the realationship cause it puts you in the position of control. Although you might be a bid young to be willing to deal with this kinda ****, when there¦s a good change the relationship won¦t even last that long anyway.
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TimMc
Gallente
Trans-Solar Works
Rooks and Kings
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Posted - 2010.03.11 09:03:00 -
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Originally by: Sidewayzracer
Did AI Alice get banned and is this his new alt...
We shall know as this progresses.
My thought aswell.
OP dump the spoiled *****. Nothing good will come of her.
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Shameless Avenger
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Posted - 2010.03.11 12:41:00 -
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OP,
Girlie no that into u? run! Please don't do what I've done for the last 20+ years. It never ends well. Learn to run now. Once you grow older and have kids is not that easy... nor cheap. Trust me, more girls will appear in ur life. |
Daelorn
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Posted - 2010.03.11 19:28:00 -
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Edited by: Daelorn on 11/03/2010 19:29:01
Originally by: mercyonman
she doesn't want to be in a "relationship" or be "official" so to speak
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she did NOTHING about it even though i was sitting RIGHT THERE
I don't see the problem, shes not yours because you went on a few dates. If she wanted to be with you she would get into a relationship and make it official.
Anyways, high school crushes are cute.
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CCP Shadow
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Posted - 2010.03.11 20:18:00 -
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Originally by: mercyonman
i chose the nuclear option. as many said. it wasn't worth the trouble and i have many things more important to worry about. thank you again OOP. for helping me with my decicion
mercyonman, it sounds like you made the right decision. I hope things start looking up for you.
Since you've made your choice, this thread has run its course. Best of luck with things moving forward from here.
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