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Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:32:00 - [1] I love Eve, always have and if left alone in a room with my shiny pc and eve, can be stuck playing the game for hours on end..... .....this is what it was like 3 yrs ago....until i met a woman!!!! Eve playing continued and things were ok until she was getting a little bit jealous of my relationship with eve, arguments ensued and in the end the vile female one and my eve account was cancelled Anyway back to present day, i still have the eve bug and have started out again with a trial account, now i have managed to play about twice for a good few hours and have got the bug back so want to subscribe again but how do i run it passed the missus? How can i let her know that she comes first and eve comes a (very very close) 2nd? She doesnt believe me and hates/doesn't understand mmorpgs anyway. I want to continue playing and would like to dedicate at least an hour a night to my beloved eve without my partner overeacting and thinking im having a love affair with my computer!! Any help would be much appreciated!! Er.....SIGNATURE
Jaikar Isillia The Vinlanders Dark Matter Coalition	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:36:00 - [2] 2/10. Old and unoriginal. 2 point's for being addicted to eve though.
Patch86 Di-Tron Heavy Industries Atlas Alliance	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:36:00 - [3] Option 1: Get a girlfriend who isn't anally retentive about video games. Option 2: Make sure you only play in your FREE time, and not when she's after your attention. Option 3: Find something she spends an hour a day doing, and bring it up whenever she tries to yell. Option 4: Get her addicted to EVE (or another game) to level the playing field. Option 5: Eunuch. You know it makes sense. --------
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:37:00 - [4] It might be old and unoriginal but that doesn't detract from the fact that its still a common problem that has had no solution!! Er.....SIGNATURE
sableye principle of motion Interstellar Alcohol Conglomerate	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:39:00 - [5] tell her your studying mmorgs to write a book she might thinkyour doing something useful with your time. Join The Fight With Promo Today
The Rincewind Reign in Blood Hydra Alliance	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:41:00 - [6] Edited by: The Rincewind on 09/07/2007 13:42:31 Originally by: Ruddnic I love Eve, always have and if left alone in a room with my shiny pc and eve, can be stuck playing the game for hours on end..... .....this is what it was like 3 yrs ago....until i met a woman!!!! Eve playing continued and things were ok until she was getting a little bit jealous of my relationship with eve, arguments ensued and in the end the vile female one and my eve account was cancelled My condolence, it goes me exactly that way :((
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:42:00 - [7] what im trying to get across is: 1.hasn't anyone else out there had/dealt with this problem? 2.How did you deal with it/get around it? Er.....SIGNATURE
sableye principle of motion Interstellar Alcohol Conglomerate	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:44:00 - [8] Originally by: Ruddnic what im trying to get across is: 1.hasn't anyone else out there had/dealt with this problem? 2.How did you deal with it/get around it? I had the problem me and my GF broke up I'd like to say it was'nt due toeve but I know it was :/ Join The Fight With Promo Today
Death Kill Caldari direkte	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:45:00 - [9] Try slipping some drugs in her soda when you play EVE. Originally by: myself The Amarr templar joke is a joke stupid people can laugh at. Its the joke any dumb person can laugh at.
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:47:00 - [10] Originally by: sableye Originally by: Ruddnic what im trying to get across is: 1.hasn't anyone else out there had/dealt with this problem? 2.How did you deal with it/get around it? I had the problem me and my GF broke up I'd like to say it was'nt due toeve but I know it was :/ Thats what im trying to avoid Er.....SIGNATURE
sableye principle of motion Interstellar Alcohol Conglomerate	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:51:00 - [11] Originally by: Ruddnic Originally by: sableye Originally by: Ruddnic what im trying to get across is: 1.hasn't anyone else out there had/dealt with this problem? 2.How did you deal with it/get around it? I had the problem me and my GF broke up I'd like to say it was'nt due toeve but I know it was :/ Thats what im trying to avoid I don'nt think its really possible, she either does'nt care about youplaying or if she does it willslowly grind on her, of course you can get around this by only playing occasionally but thats hard eve is a very intensive mmorg. The only other way is to get them to play eve with you, but thats extremly tough as most women don'nt like sci-fi and spaceships in fact he momant you mention spaceships it seems to repulse them :) maybe ambulation will help with this ccp really need todo ambulaton right though. Join The Fight With Promo Today
Ringleader	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:53:00 - [12] Turn on the tv and select Operah.. then go sit in front of you computer. But seriously. You both have hobbies? do you tell her what hobbies she can have or not? So why should she decided your hobbies? Just make sure you are smooth about it and not play 24/7 and specially not when she wants attention.
Mallikanth	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:55:00 - [13] Edited by: Mallikanth on 09/07/2007 13:55:06 I play when the wife is getting her fix of TV soaps. Works for us (Mostly)
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:57:00 - [14] I think its that she doesn't understand that its a hobby. All she thinks is - Arrrgh computers oh no my partner is going to turn into a geek, wear glasses and **** himself in front of the pc as he cant be arsed to leave the game and use the loo. I have tried telling her otherwise but there doesnt seem to be any further clarity for her. Oh and just to add im not a 16 year old with a crush on a schoolgirl, im 24, have 3 kids and have lived with my partner for 2 and a half years now. Er.....SIGNATURE
Tarminic Black Flame Industries	Posted - 2007.07.09 13:59:00 - [15] Actions speak louder than words - if you want to show her that she's more important than EVE, well, show her. Spending time on EVE isn't the problem, it's when you do that at the expense of your job, chores, or relationships that will annoy the hell out of your lady (trust me ). 1. Do little things to remind her that she's still number one in your life. Send her an e-card on occasion for starters, even if it's something small with just a one-line message. Suprise her by doing some chore that is usually hers to take care of, things like that. 2. Realize that if you're going to do this the things you can do in eve are somewhat limited by the amount of time you will or will not be able to commit. Don't promise an alliance to show up to seige some POSes if you know your lady friend will not like you sitting at a computer for hours deconstructing a POS. 3. Try to orient your activities in EVE so that you can stop them fairly quickly if you need to. A.K.A. if you know that you and your lady friend are planning on going somewhere that night, don't delay your departure because you just wanted to clear one last belt in EVE, this will annoy the hell out of her. Keep those three things in mind and you should be fine. Link removed from signature - not appropriate for Eve Forums teen rating - Timmeh IBTL! IBDS/DC! IBTC! 1st in a BoB post! And other such forum tom-foolery.
ApaKaka Lone Starr Corporation	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:00:00 - [16] 1. Get her a job 2. Quit your job 3. Play Eve for the blissful 8 hours she's gone, then pay attention to her when she gets home. She pays bills, you play Eve. You win.
Needa3 Minmatar Templars of Space Sparta Alliance	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:01:00 - [17] Originally by: Patch86 Option 1: Get a girlfriend who isn't anally retentive about video games. Option 2: Make sure you only play in your FREE time, and not when she's after your attention. Option 3: Find something she spends an hour a day doing, and bring it up whenever she tries to yell. Option 4: Get her addicted to EVE (or another game) to level the playing field. Option 5: Eunuch. You know it makes sense. 1) rather difficult. Although i met some nice women in eve, computer games are generally a male dominated envirement 2) good point 3) will never work. Ever tried resoning against a woman? Especially with pointing out their weaknesses ... will get you instapopped 4) I tried, I failed... she just doesn't get it. Learning curve to steep, boring first month and generally doesn't see what we (eve players) like in the game Best is to make a deal in which you say that you want to play the game for like an hour/ day or so. She will understand. After that hour you can say you'll be hers for the rest of the evening/ day
Fog Render Mirage Industries	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:04:00 - [18] the answer is simple. Marry her. Then when she complains, remind her who is boss in the family. Getting a divorce is a hassle, maybe she'll put it off for a few years, by that time you'll have had enough of eve.
Tarminic Black Flame Industries	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:05:00 - [19] Originally by: Fog Render the answer is simple. Marry her. Then when she complains, remind her who is boss in the family. Getting a divorce is a hassle, maybe she'll put it off for a few years, by that time you'll have had enough of eve. Tried it, doesn't work. My wife can complain with her fists. Link removed from signature - not appropriate for Eve Forums teen rating - Timmeh IBTL! IBDS/DC! IBTC! 1st in a BoB post! And other such forum tom-foolery.
hUssmann Caldari Veto. Veto Corp	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:06:00 - [20] I'm very lucky in having a girlfriend that lets me play EVE. 'At least you're not out getting drunk, taking drugs or sleeping with other women' Yah, EVE is my only vice. Ginger Magician > You are merely an effective ganker of haulers who runs at the first sign of combat.
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:15:00 - [21] Originally by: Fog Render the answer is simple. Marry her. Then when she complains, remind her who is boss in the family. Getting a divorce is a hassle, maybe she'll put it off for a few years, by that time you'll have had enough of eve. She has already been divorced once so don't think that will help lol. Nice try though. Er.....SIGNATURE
Great Artista Caldari Purple Cloud	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:21:00 - [22] I have no social life. (Not because I play eve, but due to the fact that I have hard time giving a crap about other people) _______ Great Artista Co-CEO My opinions are mine and they are the right ones. Bye.
MrTriggerHappy Caldari Interstellar eXodus R0ADKILL	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:26:00 - [23] Originally by: Patch86 Option 1: Get a girlfriend who isn't anally retentive about video games. Option 2: Make sure you only play in your FREE time, and not when she's after your attention. Option 3: Find something she spends an hour a day doing, and bring it up whenever she tries to yell. Option 4: Get her addicted to EVE (or another game) to level the playing field. Option 5: Eunuch. You know it makes sense. You know i had one of these, emphasis the "HAD" it didn't work out too well and I haven't been playing eve properly since November! -------------------------------- My Comments in no way reflect my corp or alliance
Ealiom Infinitus Morti R0ADKILL	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:27:00 - [24] Comment on the fact that she enjoys watching those crap soaps and reads those soul destroying celeb magazines. Im pretty sure 1 hour of you & eve time is allowed if she can pour time & energy into that sort of hollow timesink. Im lucky enough to have a fiance who values the concept of having a little space to breathe now and then. Nowadays that times spent playing EVE and CS:S. She's has recently started playing CS:S with me after work. Try as i might though i cant interest her in EVE! Executioner Model Blackbird Model

GM Voodoo	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:39:00 - [25] You need to have a frank, honest conversation with her about the fact that you enjoy playing games (don't focus on just EVE) and that it is something which makes you happy and lets you relax. Ask her if she would have similar issues if you took up golf or tennis or model ship building or any other hobby which would also mean that you would be spending an hour a day away from her. Gaming is as valid a choice of hobby as any of those, albeit less healthy than the sports option. Obviously she thinks that the moment you start playing again you will while away all hours of the day in EVE, and given the first line of your post there is a risk that you will veer in that direction again. So you need to make sure that you really do show her, through your actions, that you are putting her first. So if you are playing, you need to stick to your promises and switch off EVE within a certain time period. Perhaps agree to play it while she's watching her soaps (watching TV together is hardly a relationship building experience imho) and have dinner or something once you're done. This is a problem with many MMO's...actually with gaming in general. While you may be socially active on the screen, the flesh and blood people around you will inevitably feel neglected. The responsible gamer makes sure that friends and family are given the time they need to keep the relationship going. And this includes not talking only about your gaming when you interact with them. Read some books, watch the news, go see movies just do something apart from gaming which will give you something to talk about with non-gamers. It's part of being a healthy, balanced individual.

Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:41:00 - [26] do i get a reduced subscription fee for only playing for an hour a day lmao Er.....SIGNATURE
Tarminic Black Flame Industries	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:42:00 - [27] Originally by: GM Voodoo You need to have a frank, honest conversation with her about the fact that you enjoy playing games (don't focus on just EVE) and that it is something which makes you happy and lets you relax. Ask her if she would have similar issues if you took up golf or tennis or model ship building or any other hobby which would also mean that you would be spending an hour a day away from her. Gaming is as valid a choice of hobby as any of those, albeit less healthy than the sports option. Obviously she thinks that the moment you start playing again you will while away all hours of the day in EVE, and given the first line of your post there is a risk that you will veer in that direction again. So you need to make sure that you really do show her, through your actions, that you are putting her first. So if you are playing, you need to stick to your promises and switch off EVE within a certain time period. Perhaps agree to play it while she's watching her soaps (watching TV together is hardly a relationship building experience imho) and have dinner or something once you're done. This is a problem with many MMO's...actually with gaming in general. While you may be socially active on the screen, the flesh and blood people around you will inevitably feel neglected. The responsible gamer makes sure that friends and family are given the time they need to keep the relationship going. And this includes not talking only about your gaming when you interact with them. Read some books, watch the news, go see movies just do something apart from gaming which will give you something to talk about with non-gamers. It's part of being a healthy, balanced individual. I think we're the only people taking this post seriously. ------------ LAG - Hopefully teen-appropriate now. IBTL! IBDS/DC! IBTC! 1st in a BoB post! And other such forum tom-foolery.
Ruddnic	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:48:00 - [28] Originally by: Tarminic Originally by: GM Voodoo You need to have a frank, honest conversation with her about the fact that you enjoy playing games (don't focus on just EVE) and that it is something which makes you happy and lets you relax. Ask her if she would have similar issues if you took up golf or tennis or model ship building or any other hobby which would also mean that you would be spending an hour a day away from her. Gaming is as valid a choice of hobby as any of those, albeit less healthy than the sports option. Obviously she thinks that the moment you start playing again you will while away all hours of the day in EVE, and given the first line of your post there is a risk that you will veer in that direction again. So you need to make sure that you really do show her, through your actions, that you are putting her first. So if you are playing, you need to stick to your promises and switch off EVE within a certain time period. Perhaps agree to play it while she's watching her soaps (watching TV together is hardly a relationship building experience imho) and have dinner or something once you're done. This is a problem with many MMO's...actually with gaming in general. While you may be socially active on the screen, the flesh and blood people around you will inevitably feel neglected. The responsible gamer makes sure that friends and family are given the time they need to keep the relationship going. And this includes not talking only about your gaming when you interact with them. Read some books, watch the news, go see movies just do something apart from gaming which will give you something to talk about with non-gamers. It's part of being a healthy, balanced individual. I think we're the only people taking this post seriously. Believe me im serious, just need to get the balance right by the looks of things. Its just difficult trying to talk to her about it because as soon as i mention PC Game or computer then she switches off. Will try though Er.....SIGNATURE
Guvnor RBM Welsh Commanders 3asy Company	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:50:00 - [29] Edited by: Guvnor RBM on 09/07/2007 14:54:14 I had the same problem... a) work from home, she can't be there 24/7 , but you can ! b) Does she drink, Smoke, go out, have friends, ect ect ? ? ? Then ask why she can have her "own" Thing and you can't ? c) Ask your self is EvE > Sex/love/Company , Then make your mind up... PS, if shes there just for the company, then ditch her now. But to be stright, ask your self, are you shunning her for EvE ? I've made that mistake once, got her back and very quickly found my self wanting back EvE. She could sit and watch TV, play lemmings or bull**** on myspace for hours, but I spent 30 secs checking e-mail and there was hell to pay. Just sit down and ask your self , What do you want ? , what do you need ? can you both come to a understanding ?
Fink Angel Caldari The Merry Men	Posted - 2007.07.09 14:54:00 - [30] Edited by: Fink Angel on 09/07/2007 14:53:54 I'm married and only play Eve really casually compared to most people. Some weeks I might play for 10 hours spread over the week, wome weeks barely log in to check training. If my wife ever has a problem with my gaming, I mention other male friends of ours who go rock climbing a lot or spend every Saturday while the football season is on going to home / away games. Generally that actually reminds her I'm a pretty reasonable guy. However I don't think she'd be too pleased with "I can't come out to dinner tonight as I'm signed up for a fleet war / gate camp etc." so I don't play at that "in deep" level. Swings and roundabouts. I enjoy Eve, and I enjoy my life outside of Eve. But given the choice, Eve would lose.

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