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Epegi Givo
Amarr Araja clan
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:27:00 -
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So, there is this girl I like, and she has dropped some subtle signs that the feeling is mutual. Now, I only pass her in the hallway about once a day. I am trying to ask her out, but every time I pass her I can make eye contact, but always get way to nervous to actually stop her.
What tricks do you guys know to not be very nervous. __________________________
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Jin Nib
Resplendent Knives
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:29:00 -
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Cut off your balls and you'll have nothing to worry about. -Jin Nib Trading on behalf of Opera Noir since: 2009.03.02 03:53:00
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Khors
Amtek Inc
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:30:00 -
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Disconnect from your senses, stop thinking, just do it. -
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Arvald
Caldari The Lumberjacks
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:34:00 -
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just do it, if she rejects you then you wont be nervous anymore, if she accepts then you will feel ****ing awesome
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AdmiralJohn
The Unknown Bar and Pub Elysium Alliance
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:42:00 -
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Think about how much time you're wasting by not asking her right now.
And that if she says no, it's only awkward about once a day in the hallway, so no biggie.
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Barakkus
Caelestis Iudicium
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Posted - 2010.04.08 21:52:00 -
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Do what a friend of mine did to break the ice with women.
He got a rooster in a chef's outfit hanging from a noose tatooed on his leg (he was a short order cook), he would walk up to chicks and say "Wanna see my ****? It hangs below my knees." Then he'd show them is tatoo...****ing hell if I know why it worked all the time...
Otherwise, just be like "hey ***** get on my horse" (j/k).
Don't worry about the rejection, just say hey, wanna go 'blah blah blah tomorrow' <insert place/day>. |
Merin Ryskin
Peregrine Industries
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Posted - 2010.04.08 23:12:00 -
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Let me put it this way: you can either:
1) Grow some balls, stop looking at girls as some mythical creatures that are totally different from you (a pretty creepy attitude, BTW), and talk to her just like you would talk to a guy. She might say yes, she might say no, but at least you can move on if you get rejected.
OR
2) Keep avoiding actually asking her out because it would risk destroying this wonderful fantasy of her that you have, meanwhile she is busy having wild furniture-breaking sex with her boyfriend and is completely oblivious to the fact that you exist. And since you are still obsessed with this girl (again, creepy), you miss out on all the other potential girls you could be with. Years later, still lost in fantasies about her, you see her with her boyfriend and are so heartbroken that you kill yourself after leaving an emo goodbye letter about how cruel the world is not to recognize the undeniable destiny that the two of you should be together.
Of course given that you "only pass her in the hallway about once a day", these "subtle signs" are most likely purely in your imagination, and she is busy having wild furniture-breaking sex with her boyfriend and barely even notices that you exist. -----------
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Sidus Isaacs
Gallente
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Posted - 2010.04.08 23:26:00 -
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Originally by: Epegi Givo So, there is this girl I like, and she has dropped some subtle signs that the feeling is mutual. Now, I only pass her in the hallway about once a day. I am trying to ask her out, but every time I pass her I can make eye contact, but always get way to nervous to actually stop her.
What tricks do you guys know to not be very nervous.
Talk to her, learn from the experience, be a wiser man afterwards. Bonus if she likes you. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
http://desusig.crumplecorn.com/sigs.html |
Skippermonkey
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Posted - 2010.04.08 23:36:00 -
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forget girls...study!
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Epegi Givo
Amarr Araja clan
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Posted - 2010.04.08 23:39:00 -
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I didn't mention that I also have 1 class with her. And i can talk to her just fine, its just the actual asking out part that gets me.
And i was thinking of trying to just ignore emotions, but i didn't know if it was likely to backfire completely.
I only pass her once a day where she isn't surrounded by her friends. __________________________
My other alt is A Ferrari |
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Tuellan Bach
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Posted - 2010.04.09 00:11:00 -
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Rule 1: Don't ask gamers advise about the opposite sex/dating/having sex/romance of any kind. There is a reason we are gamers.
Rule 2: See rule 1
Actually, there has been some pretty good advise presented to you. Don't let fear rule your life.
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Barakkus
Caelestis Iudicium
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Posted - 2010.04.09 00:13:00 -
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Originally by: Tuellan Bach Rule 1: Don't ask gamers advise about the opposite sex/dating/having sex/romance of any kind. There is a reason we are gamers.
Rule 2: See rule 1
Actually, there has been some pretty good advise presented to you. Don't let fear rule your life.
Speak for yourself lol.
First rule, don't approach it like you're trying to get a "date". If you come off as not trying to get a date and you don't tell yourself "I really wanna date this chick" you'll get her to go out with you. Easiest way to get rejected is to act like you're trying to get a date. Just look at it as hanging out with her.
Originally by: CCP Dropbear
rofl
edit: ah crap, dev account. Oh well, official rofl at you sir.
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Iva Posavec
Posavec Innovations Takhar Matari
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Posted - 2010.04.09 01:31:00 -
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I used to hate asking lasses out so on a number of occasions I would keep putting it off until they had a boyfriend or i would just never get round to asking them. One time though I worked with a lass who was totally out of my league and she was always getting hit on by others, I didn't think I had a chance but just asked her out anyway. The following 4 years proved that asking her out was a very good choice (apart from when we split and she kept the ****ing cat!).
Just ask her out, don't try to plan what you are going to say and don't complicate things and remember that if you keep putting it off then you are going to regret it.
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Tobias Xiaosen
Gallente TX Holdings Company
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Posted - 2010.04.09 01:40:00 -
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Instead of writing a long winded post about my personal experiences, go ahead and read this and stop being a freaking wussy!
Linkage
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Originally by: Cthulhu ftghan
Keyboards are destructible. Much more so when used as a projectile.
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0bvious Alt
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Posted - 2010.04.09 01:49:00 -
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.....chloroform ?
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Surfin's PlunderBunny
Minmatar Anti Fundie Patrol
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Posted - 2010.04.09 02:28:00 -
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Originally by: Arvald just do it, if she rejects you then you wont be nervous anymore, if she accepts then you will feel ****ing awesome
FYI: Arvy has never experienced the latter so that's all theory at this point
Originally by: Xen Gin
Originally by: FOl2TY8
I know that some people like to have voluntary periods of abstinence.
Yeah, I use that excuse too.
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Shameless Avenger
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Posted - 2010.04.09 03:20:00 -
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It doesn't matter what the girl answers... the adrenaline rush of asking is enough to make u feel good... even if rejected. |
Lance Fighter
Amarr
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Posted - 2010.04.09 03:57:00 -
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Originally by: Shameless Avenger It doesn't matter what the girl answers... the adrenaline rush of asking is enough to make u feel good... even if rejected.
Hrm, never thought of it that way. OP needs to grab his trusty ceptor and try to tackle that girl the first 'kill' is always the hardest
Originally by: CCP Shadow Have you ever wished you could have prevented a train wreck before it actually happened? I need to stop this one before the craziness begins.
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Epegi Givo
Amarr Araja clan
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Posted - 2010.04.09 04:09:00 -
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OK. Tomorrow there is a spot where I might pass her, but its not 100% guaranteed. As in, sometimes shes there and sometimes not. I'll try to accurately say what happens for future reference. __________________________
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Stitcher
Caldari ForgeTech Industries
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Posted - 2010.04.09 11:46:00 -
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Edited by: Stitcher on 09/04/2010 11:53:55 You're certainly not going to work up the courage by asking the Internet for its advice.
Although tbh, the advice here is exactly right. You've nothing to lose and everything to gain from asking. There's nothing to be nervous about.
Besides, anxiety is a state of mind. Try to cultivate a mindset that says "I am so awesome, she can't possibly say no!". Force yourself to have an ego. Look at yourself in the mirror and say "I rule" a few times until you're grinning. Put on an upbeat track you really like as you do it.
Confidence is something that you can learn and train yourself into. Some people are blessed with more natural confidence than others, but even that just means that it's a little less effort to get into the right frame of mind. if you're naturally nervous, you'll just need more time and effort and practice to be able to get yourself into a self-assured frame of mind.
Once you can manage it, though, you'll never need to start another thread like this.
Good luck - Verin "Stitcher" Hakatain. |
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Iva Posavec
Posavec Innovations Takhar Matari
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Posted - 2010.04.09 11:54:00 -
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Originally by: Stitcher There's nothing to be nervous about.
Well, she could eventually take you for everything you own,trap you into having a kid, give you the clap or even worse she could leave you for a woman, now that would suck (hey I turned her into a lesbian, what did I do wrong). But yeah apart for those things there is nothing to be nervous about.
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Stitcher
Caldari ForgeTech Industries
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Posted - 2010.04.09 12:05:00 -
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Originally by: Iva Posavec Well, she could eventually take you for everything you own,trap you into having a kid, give you the clap or even worse she could leave you for a woman, now that would suck (hey I turned her into a lesbian, what did I do wrong). But yeah apart for those things there is nothing to be nervous about.
Considering that A) I don't own much anyway B) I want to be a father, C) I make a point of practising safe sex and D) this has actually happened to me (she was gay all along, didn't want to admit it, finally came to accept it with my help) I think I can legitimately claim that none of those things are anything to be worried about. - Verin "Stitcher" Hakatain. |
Slade Trillgon
Endless Possibilities Inc. Ushra'Khan
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Posted - 2010.04.09 20:49:00 -
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If you have no problem talking with her then it shold be no problem asking and being able to handle the rejection if it occurs.
The next time you are talking with her and you are able to get her laughing. Ask her when she gets her breath back. If she is able to say no to you at that point then she is not worth your time, so move onto the next propesct.
Slade
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Sazkyen
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Posted - 2010.04.09 23:09:00 -
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You either gain a lover or a "friend".
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Serenity Frye
The Blue Suns
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Posted - 2010.04.10 08:04:00 -
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comon man, you play eve. fit some tackle and get her!
'Tis better to be a Lion for one day then be a sheep for a hundred years' |
Surfin's PlunderBunny
Minmatar Anti Fundie Patrol
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Posted - 2010.04.10 08:23:00 -
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Originally by: Serenity Frye fit some tackle
Gamma-Hydroxybutyric Acid?
Originally by: Xen Gin
Originally by: FOl2TY8
I know that some people like to have voluntary periods of abstinence.
Yeah, I use that excuse too.
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Stanford Tapp
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Posted - 2010.04.10 08:30:00 -
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I was taught at university GHB can be extracted easily out of wind shield cleaner - "Why would they sell 5 liter canisters on eBay?!" They didn't provide details, tho ;)
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Chribba
Otherworld Enterprises Otherworld Empire
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Posted - 2010.04.10 08:31:00 -
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/me contracts some mining lasers for the big night after she said yes
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Toshiro GreyHawk
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Posted - 2010.04.10 09:52:00 -
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First off - there isn't any way you are not going to be nervous the first few times you ask a girl out. It's just something you have to deal with.
Yes - you may make a complete ass of yourself. Accept that - and move on.
Look at it like PVP - you were probably nervous as hell the first time you PVP'd - and then you got blown up a few times - and after that it wasn't so bad.
That's a lie by the way ... it always hurts to get turned down ... but ... look at it this way ... if you don't keep trying - you'll end up some bitter old bastard stuck in his room playing EVE because you can't get a date.
Prepare for the worst, hope for the best and get on with it. All you have to lose is your pride and ... what the hell is that worth anyway? Your pride and a few dollars will get you a cup of coffee at Star Bucks.
Actually ... Coffee isn't a bad idea. Coffee doesn't mean a "date" date. It's just ... coffee. (Of course ... that's kind of an old gimic ... so ... if it's become as cliched as "Do you come here often?" or "What's your sign?" then ... you don't want to do that ...).
"Hey Traci (pretend her name is Traci) you wanna get a cup of coffee at Starbucks after school?"
But it could be anything else. It doesn't have to be "coffee".
Of course ... there are some logistical issues here ... you need to pick something that is practical for your age, your mobility and your wallet.
I mean ... you could be ten years old for all I know. (If that's the case - take my advice and stay away from girls for as long as you can (... that is - until you reach puberty) ... they're nothing but trouble).
Anyway - Good Luck And Remember - there are lots and lots of other girls out there. Regardless of whether or not she says yes or no - you probably are not going to marry this particular one.
Just try to enjoy each relationship for what it is - and don't worry about what it isn't. Orbiting vs. Kiting Faction Schools |
Whitehound
The Whitehound Corporation
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Posted - 2010.04.10 10:01:00 -
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Edited by: Whitehound on 10/04/2010 10:03:07 Be prepared, and I don't necessarily mean the one thing every teenager will now think about: a condom.
Instead, realize that she may already have a boyfriend, who you don't know about. Sometimes a friend may tell you that she hasn't got one, but when you think about it, only she can give you the true answer to that question.
Realize that she may not like your type (personality, attitude, etc.). You may find her attractive and very likeable, but this may not be mutual.
Or to put it in other words: don't let your feelings for her guide you, but use your head and be smart. A successful relation is not just all feelings ...
Back off when there is trouble. Just in case.
And don't forget about the condom. --
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