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Daelorn
Perkone
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Posted - 2008.07.06 16:47:00 -
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 Originally by: Mebrithiel Ju'wien
Learn to skate.
Play guitar.
Join a band.
These three will get you anywhere.
wat! those were the weird kids in my high school! 
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Mebrithiel Ju'wien
Veto.
Veto Corp
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Posted - 2008.07.06 16:56:00 -
[32]
Originally by: Evanda Char
we were kissing on top of a hill and he started to roll away... The last I ever heard of him were the first chords of "Stairway to Heaven" as he flew over the edge of a cliff...
No stairway? Denied!
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Evanda Char
Minmatar
Re-Awakened Technologies Inc
Electus Matari
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Posted - 2008.07.06 16:59:00 -
[33]
Originally by: Mebrithiel Ju'wien
Originally by: Evanda Char
we were kissing on top of a hill and he started to roll away... The last I ever heard of him were the first chords of "Stairway to Heaven" as he flew over the edge of a cliff...
No stairway? Denied!
Gravity is srs business.
-Eva-
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Verone
Gallente
Veto Corp
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Posted - 2008.07.06 17:17:00 -
[34]
Originally by: Evanda Char
I went out with a guy like this once. It was brilliant. Then one day, we were kissing on top of a hill and he started to roll away... The last I ever heard of him were the first chords of "Stairway to Heaven" as he flew over the edge of a cliff...
omg... i just almost choked on a half pint of fresh orangejuice reading that... came outta my nose and everything... god damn it stings!
 <3 Eva
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2008.07.06 18:04:00 -
[35]
Originally by: Siberys
Namely, how do I get a girl to like me?
First question is, do YOU like yourself ?
What exactly do you like about yourself ? Do more of that, and talk with her about it.
What exactly DON'T you kile about yourself ? Stop doing it (or at least never do it in her presence).
The difference from hate to love is small, but the difference from either one to indiffeence is huge.
The worst think you can do is not do anything remarkable at all.
Like they say, bad publicity is better than no advertisment.
So, yeah, while you might not like getting noticed for something bad (well, "sort of" bad only, not catastrophic), it's better than not being noticed at all.
After you got her attention and you managed to not act like a jerk in her presence... well, do you have any common interests ?
It's not like there's much of a problem to get a girl to like you or at least like hanging out with you - you just need to not be a major jerk not act too weird.
Still, there's the "just friends" trap - it's no problem if you only want a friend too, but if you're not really looking for that (afterall, I suppose you do have enough male friends to hang out with), then getting categorized as "just a friend" in her mind is nasty. So, make her understand early on you're interested in her as a potential girlfriend, not just a girl who's your friend.
But after a while, you may realize you actually have not much in common at all, and then you could easily demote her yourself to "just a friend who's a girl" status.
Meh... this is all "old man talk" though, I suppose... at your age, I was probably just as desperate to get any kind of an actual girlfriend too.
Nowadays, if I'd be single, I'd be really, really picky about who I'd even consider as a potential girlfriend... and let me tell you, I no longer care that much at all about looks alone (not after a first date anyway).
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illusha
Hells Angels Inc.
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Posted - 2008.07.06 18:45:00 -
[36]
Tell her that you need sex education and that you want her to be your teacher.
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Tarminic
24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2008.07.06 19:01:00 -
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Most of anything I would say has already been said, to be honest. I'll just add in a few things
1. Don't Bullshit - Girls can tell when you're lying. Always just assume this and don't try and BS your way into a relationsip. It won't work. (NOTE: This does not mean to tell her yes when she asks if a dress makes her look fat unless you want to lose your nuts)
2. Be Confident - You don't have to be an ******* to get a girl's attention though it apparently helps with a lot of them, but **** THEM ANYWAY! No need to waste your time with stupid chicks, I'm looking at you Kirah! Wait, what were we talking about?. Believe in your own abilities and don't approach her from the perspective of asking out someone "above your level" even if that's actually true. Confidence will go a long way
3. Find out what you have in common and build on that. If that fails, just listen to what she has to say about herself. Not pretend to listen, actually listen. Be part of the conversation.
For an instant way to engage her in conversation like this, simply find out what her profession or hobby is and say something like "Actually, I've heard that _________ is really simple." Works every time. 
4. Don't do anything really dumb. Like staring at her boobs constantly, or making lots of perverted comments, generally the behavior that all males show by default. Fight the temptation! Girls will notice a guy that goes out of his way to be a gentleman.
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Wendat Huron
Stellar Solutions
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Posted - 2008.07.07 00:06:00 -
[38]
Originally by: Doc Extropy
... Only start hitting on her when she gives you three signs of interest (like she plays with her hair, starts touching you and asks for your name)
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Now c'mon this has got to be an urban legend, I've had my share and his share of women and none of them was playing with their hair. Honestly you've just read that somewhere right?
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Tarminic
24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2008.07.07 00:16:00 -
[39]
Originally by: Wendat Huron
Originally by: Doc Extropy
... Only start hitting on her when she gives you three signs of interest (like she plays with her hair, starts touching you and asks for your name)
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Now c'mon this has got to be an urban legend, I've had my share and his share of women and none of them was playing with their hair. Honestly you've just read that somewhere right?
Actually, this happened to a girl that had a crush on me. I was 12 at the time though, maybe it's only a pre-teen thing?
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Dheorl
The Scope
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Posted - 2008.07.07 00:23:00 -
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Edited by: Dheorl on 07/07/2008 00:24:16
Originally by: Jacob Mei
Tips for getting a girl:
Own a European castle
Possess supernatural charm
Have a transalvainian accent
Be from another country (makes you mysterious)
Only come out at night (makes you more mysterious)
Offer immortality in an erotic situation one night
Avoid Doctors and X boyfriends at all costs.
I'm hitting on 5/6 there  (well not really #3 but meh, I quite like the letter "w").
Maybe it's the bottom bit which I'm going wrong on.
To the OP just talk to her, act natural, don't be too over the top or nervous, the usual stuff really. When you get the same advice over and over it's generally becuase it's pretty good advice. Oh and make her giggle (making her gigle is hugely better than making her laugh, trust me)
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Siberys
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Posted - 2008.07.07 00:44:00 -
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Okay, just as a recap, this is what you all have told me:
-Just sorta talk to her, then ask her to lunch or something.
-Act like myself, at least the good stuff about me, as in excluding EVE online, or any video games for that matter.
-Don't look like crud.
-Figure out what she is interested in.
-Don't slouch or in other ways not seem in control.
-DON'T sleep with her friends (Not like I would, my mom would frakking kill me if I slept with a girl before I'm 17)
-Try and find things in common between us.
-Don't lie.
-Get to know her friends.
-Don't do stuff I would normally do with my friends (I.E. Perverted jokes)
-Make her giggle.
Thats about it.
Oh and I forgot this when I made the original post, but I had told her that if she ever wanted to say, come to the shore club my family is part of, she could just give me a call. For some reason I waited till the day of graduation to ask her this, so it was kinda... awkward. But what isn't in teen romance, or whatever you want to call it.
So, I kinda started something. I have been asking everyone I think has decent advice on the matter about this (In other words, everyone I know except my "friends" (The creepy perverted ones) and my loudmouthed little sister.)
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Tarminic
24th Imperial Crusade
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Posted - 2008.07.07 01:12:00 -
[42]
Originally by: Siberys
-DON'T sleep with her friends (Not like I would, my mom would frakking kill me if I slept with a girl before I'm 17)
A little piece of advice, regarding this.
There is no punishment on the planet that will keep you from having sex with a girl should the opportunity arise, to be honest. I tried to do the same thing and it failed miserably. You can think that now all you want, but if you're making out with a girl in the back of a car for half an hour and she tells you she's ready to go, all the rationality just leaks out of your ears. Trust me on this one.
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goodby4u
Logistic Technologies Incorporated
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Posted - 2008.07.07 01:37:00 -
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One last tip, if you do win her over, you will eventually get dumped, this is a given because of your age... Because of this I recommend you treat this more as a learning experience so next time it will be even better.
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Siberys
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Posted - 2008.07.07 02:20:00 -
[44]
Originally by: Tarminic
Originally by: Siberys
-DON'T sleep with her friends (Not like I would, my mom would frakking kill me if I slept with a girl before I'm 17)
A little piece of advice, regarding this.
There is no punishment on the planet that will keep you from having sex with a girl should the opportunity arise, to be honest. I tried to do the same thing and it failed miserably. You can think that now all you want, but if you're making out with a girl in the back of a car for half an hour and she tells you she's ready to go, all the rationality just leaks out of your ears. Trust me on this one.
Given how much I like this girl, I see absoloutly no reason not to believe you... except in new york you have to be 17 to get a drivers license...
Drat.
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Atomos Darksun
Infortunatus Eventus
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Posted - 2008.07.07 04:12:00 -
[45]
Jump through her window at night and go
OH HAI!
Originally by: Amoxin
My vent is talking to me in a devil voice...
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pwnedgato
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Posted - 2008.07.07 04:18:00 -
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Best way to meet a girl ever: Get into a car accident with her.
Originally by: Crumplecorn
These is a forum for this.
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Calvin Firenze
Minmatar
Thanos and Killjoy Productions
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Posted - 2008.07.07 04:33:00 -
[47]
Originally by: Buff Plankchest
All good info here! One thing to add... do not, under ANY circumstances, sleep with any of her friends
I did that once, when I was 18. Hard lesson learned, but at least I got a cool story to tell about how I ****ed a one legged girl. Trips my friends out when I tell them the story, which they ask me to do every time we're drinking it seems.
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Woodwraith
Prophets Of a Damned Universe
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Posted - 2008.07.07 05:13:00 -
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This may seem counter-intuitive and not very gentlemanly but it works,
have her do things for you,
it can be anything, start with the small stuff from grabbing you a soda while she gets one for herself, to bringing a cup of coffee on her way over the house.
it puts you on her mind and makes a different association in her brain than when you do things for her, which you should still do, dont turn her into a maid, as that will backfire,
also, if your out doing the mutual friends thing, it is VERY important to rig the situation in your favor,
you need to have, and ideally only have, one guy that she will perceive as LESS attractive than you, and one girl shell see as MORE attractive than herself, you dont even have to know these people, sitting near them will be enough.
shell see you as better than him, and associate you as someone who can have attractive women around, planting a small seed that she better grab you now before the other one does.
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Victor Valka
Caldari
Kissaki Corporation
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Posted - 2008.07.07 05:27:00 -
[49]
Originally by: Woodwraith
This may seem counter-intuitive and not very gentlemanly but it works,
have her do things for you,
it can be anything, start with the small stuff from grabbing you a soda while she gets one for herself, to bringing a cup of coffee on her way over the house.
(Sorry. I have no real advice to offer, so ,I figured, I'll at least post a somehow amusing picture with a relevant caption.)
Originally by: Roxanna Kell
You are insane.
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Amastat
Caldari
Omegatech
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Posted - 2008.07.07 06:19:00 -
[50]
Edited by: Amastat on 07/07/2008 06:25:12
Often times you screw up with women the most when you over-analyze and obsess over it. Just be relaxed and don't mind her and/or everything else around you, and be direct and straightforward (in a non perverted way), go with the flow - good luck to you if you can't do that.
If that doesn't work then she either has taste for big headed over-confident men who will flex for her, or she's not really looking and you have to get her attention somehow - you just have to find out what will. If she's more defensive, and even though she seems interested - don't go over the top, try to learn more about her before making your next move.
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Reven Cordelle
Caldari
School of Applied Knowledge
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Posted - 2008.07.07 07:07:00 -
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Victor speaks the truth.
Get her to make you pancakes and she's yours forever.
Failing that. Equip : Balls and ask her if she wants to hang out. If she says no.. chances are shes not going to like you without a lot of effort. This generally defeats the point of trying in the first place.
However, if she says yes, then you can begin building your foundations. Just don't tell her you play EVE.
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Liang Nuren
Perkone
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Posted - 2008.07.07 07:56:00 -
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I met my wife at an art museum. I asked her what she was doing the next day (Sunday), and suggested that we do something different. We settled on a picnic, and the rest is history. :)
My suggestion is not to be an ass, and to pay attention to the lady. Talk to her, find out her goals, desires, dreams. Share yours, and build a relationship.
-Liang
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Doc Extropy
Gallente
Kinda'Shujaa
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:18:00 -
[53]
Originally by: Wendat Huron
Originally by: Doc Extropy
... Only start hitting on her when she gives you three signs of interest (like she plays with her hair, starts touching you and asks for your name)
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Now c'mon this has got to be an urban legend, I've had my share and his share of women and none of them was playing with their hair. Honestly you've just read that somewhere right?
Strange. But it may depend on circumstances as well.
Did you get those girls from your social circle, in a very slow manner (over weeks, months, possibly years)?
This may explain it... but by default, this indicators of interest or flirt signals are hard coded into the female brain by genetics... you can also look out for them scratching their hands and wrists (resembles some kind of grooming), etc...
Definitively not an urban legend, I rely heavily on this kind of signals when flirting (and I do this a lot since I'm not into long term relationships at the moment) - of course, I avoid getting to know girls from my social circle (takes too long, most are in relationships with people I like, etc...), so I have no real, educated experience with that.
You can try out yourself, for a quick test you can try to make one bratty, call her on it and see what happens. In many cases they will start giving you this signals quickly when done right.
Of course, I only have experience with girls in Europe, but it should not be culture dependent.
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:21:00 -
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Edited by: pwnedgato on 07/07/2008 08:21:46
Edited by: pwnedgato on 07/07/2008 08:21:25
The hair thing usually proves true. I didn't know that until after high school though, and when I thought back I realized how many missed opportunities I had(and there I was feeling pathetic for being stuck single). Guess that just shows I had the emotional sensitivity of a brick.
Originally by: Crumplecorn
These is a forum for this.
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Doc Extropy
Gallente
Kinda'Shujaa
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:25:00 -
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Originally by: pwnedgato
Edited by: pwnedgato on 07/07/2008 08:21:46
Edited by: pwnedgato on 07/07/2008 08:21:25
The hair thing usually proves true. I didn't know that until after high school though, and when I thought back I realized how many missed opportunities I had(and there I was feeling pathetic for being stuck single). Guess that just shows I had the emotional sensitivity of a brick.
This has a lot to do with self - image as well. Our culture often tells us the lie that one has to be a superstar, rich and / or extremely handsome to have success with women, which is far from the truth.
All one needs is personal and sexual confidence, an interesting life with passion, friends, social savvyness and a masculine self image.
"I am enough" is one of those beliefs, because it usually holds true.
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Ethidium Bromide
ZEALOT WARRIORS AGAINST TERRORISTS
Curatores Veritatis Alliance
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:27:00 -
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you don't want any girl!
Originally by: George Petsch
Nochricht: Dei schwarer StroinlSser trifftn Karli[Baatzis] und ruiniert erm so richtig de Dosn, 1343.7 schhodn, oida.
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pwnedgato
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:29:00 -
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Originally by: Doc Extropy
This has a lot to do with self - image as well. Our culture often tells us the lie that one has to be a superstar, rich and / or extremely handsome to have success with women, which is far from the truth.
All one needs is personal and sexual confidence, an interesting life with passion, friends, social savvyness and a masculine self image.
"I am enough" is one of those beliefs, because it usually holds true.
Nail, head, it was hit. Then again in some cases poor self-esteem can trigger a nurturing response in some girls/
Originally by: Crumplecorn
These is a forum for this.
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Doc Extropy
Gallente
Kinda'Shujaa
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:32:00 -
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Originally by: pwnedgato
Originally by: Doc Extropy
This has a lot to do with self - image as well. Our culture often tells us the lie that one has to be a superstar, rich and / or extremely handsome to have success with women, which is far from the truth.
All one needs is personal and sexual confidence, an interesting life with passion, friends, social savvyness and a masculine self image.
"I am enough" is one of those beliefs, because it usually holds true.
Nail, head, it was hit. Then again in some cases poor self-esteem can trigger a nurturing response in some girls/
Yeah, but those are not the girls a man usually wants to have in his life.
Because poor self esteem attracts poor self esteem - and from personal experience I can tell you that low self esteem girls are giving you hell.
ONS with them or some kind of friendship with benefits may be ok (if you are into absolute control of the situation), but never ever CONSIDER a relationship with some "poor me" (or sociopath, eating disorder or self injuring) - girl.
Guy I learned a lot from in this regard said "a relationship with a low self esteem woman is like build a house on a frozen sea - it leads to your personal catastrophe".
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:35:00 -
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In my experience women with low self esteem tend to attract only a certain type of men with low self esteem. Namely those that abuse others in-order to feel in control. When I said nurturing I meant girls who already had a sort of motherly instinct. Y'know the same ones that enjoy baby sitting or want to be nurses.
Originally by: Crumplecorn
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Mark Lucius
Kinetic Vector
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Posted - 2008.07.07 08:41:00 -
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Both the hair thing and the 'serving thing' are true in my experience, but the serving thing can get out of hand quickly, so don't use this very often.
Flirt signals are easy to miss, but they are there and pretty universal. 
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